| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 8/8/2007 2:48:49 AM | | i am a single father of an 8 year old girl. the mother up and left us 4 years back, she moved to a new state and i havent gotten anything from her, no bday presents, no xmas cards, nothing. i know of at least 3 other dad's like me. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 8/8/2007 7:34:48 PM | To all the single fathers out there, and all those who support their children I have to say wow, you're amazing people. After hearing so many 'single' guys out there state that they stay away from single mom's I often wonder how many of them created the single moms and aren't fessing up to it. The single mom phenomena didn't create itself, and I somehow doubt that one or two guys created hundreds of single mothers... I know my ex partner would state that he was single, and make fun of the single mom's and now here I am a single mom of his child (I left him after 4 years and when our daughter was 1, as he couldn't possibly love either of us as much as he did himself and his own needs/addictions). He does not pay support (he's made it very difficult to locate him) or bother to visit our daughter (as much as I don't like him, I wouldn't take that aspect away from my daughter - it's been his choice not to see him). But he would not admit to any current partner that he has a child, or that he's a deadbeat father. Just talks about the disgust of how many single moms there are out there...
I personally would look for fathers who do the 'right' thing to date, because it would tell me that they are capable of taking responsibility for themselves. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 8/9/2007 9:36:05 AM | | I've had no help from the 5th week of my pregnancy or asked for/ received a penny, my son is 9. You can do it- it will be okay. Find a network of family and friends to give you and your kid/kids the love and support you need. You and the kid/kids CAN be happy and HEALTHY- trust me! | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 8/9/2007 1:56:57 PM | | I have a seven year and a three year and no help from "so called" dad for years...he hasn't even seen the kids since the divorce.. not one birthday card, penny of child support nothing. To tell you the truth I think it makes it easier on my children, they don't have to bounce back and forth between houses or deal with the ex's temper. Dad usually isn't even mentioned unless it is brought up by someone else or it's father's day. There are several single pareants out there and I don't know about you, but I would rather be a single parent with no help then a single parent with an ex that drops in and out at will and just causes trouble. Usually when there is no help there is no drama either. If my ex really cared about his kids, he would spend time with them. I think it is much better that his lack of caring be expressed away from the kids and not through constant disappointment of at will visits and promises, don't you? | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 8/9/2007 9:45:07 PM | I have a 5 year old son and as a single parent it' s not the non-existant financial support, or lack of time to myself that I find a struggle. It's the fact that my ex played "father of the year" to our son when we were together, and has totally mutated since our seperation.
No matter what our issues were when we were together, I was always amazed at what a great dad he was, in his eyes the sun rose and set on our boy. How could I be so wrong?
The only time he calls is when he wants to tourment our son by telling him all the supposed "fun"," exciting" things he is doing.My ex hasnt even seen our child in 7 months! I have practically pleaded with him, for our son's sake because he misses him so much. Believe me, after leaving him I dont really feel like doing that!! I would love nothing more than to never have to deal with him again, I have many reasons and our lives together are certainly over, but I put that aside for the sake of our son. Am I wrong?
Unlike a lot of mom's/dad's who would sooner have their ex out of their hair, I understand the importance of having the other parent a consistant part of a childs life. I want our son to grow up and have the security that even though we cant be together as a family, we can come together for him, when needed. Is the give and take between seperated parents for the sake of their children only a pipe dream? Our son is #1 to me, I just can't understand how he's not #1 to his Father. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 8/10/2007 4:31:15 AM | | Iam a single father of twin 5 year old boys l also took in there half sisters teenagers with no support shes an addict so has no visitation rights till she gets helpmy X went to the exent to claiming commonlaw on her income tax so she could tecieve the chid tax again had to get that staighten out so this is how much help she is she sees the kids mybe once a month supervised visits only she says she waints to visit them then dont show told her jus dont even bother calling them anymore cause it is jus screwing there little minds up | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 8/10/2007 2:44:23 PM | My respects to all the single father's and mother's who are forced to make it day by day on their own.
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 8/10/2007 10:37:09 PM | My daughter is five
We have done just fine on our own
Mr.Deadbeat kicked me out when I got pregnat
Just heard from him last year still no help he just wants to be part of her life
Friendly visits and presents, Makes me want to scream
Well he can eat his heart out cause i just finished my college course and now have my dream job makin big bucks | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 8/11/2007 1:48:48 PM | enuf respect to u...............how hard it must be to of lost ur sons dad let alone raise your son alone.im a single mother of two kids under 2 yrs old so i no how hard it can be even though i wouldnt change them for the world! i dont get any support from there fathers financialy or emotionaly etc..........im only 21 myself so i no how u feel.luv cat x respect to ya hun | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 8/11/2007 1:52:42 PM | | hey i no exactly how u feel hun im s ingle mother of 2 young kids under 2......im only 21 myslef so find it hard at times.i get neither financial support or physical either n its disgraceful hun.........lowlife wasters is what they are.luv cat x | |
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| How many single parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 8/11/2007 7:16:29 PM | i myself have been raising my 13yo daughter alone. my family helps out by babysitting while i work. just last year she was diagnosed with leukemia..but she is doing well. i am married an her stepfather cancelled the health insurance on her leaving me with hugh medical bills..yea i have ins on her and jus barely qualified for medicade, but his was a big help. i even offered to pay the difference, but the jerk still cancelled it...her sperm donor left us before she was born, which in itself was a blessing, and has recently came back to town..thank god he has enuff sense no to bother us....  | |
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| How many single parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 8/11/2007 7:40:56 PM | I am raising my 3 children on my own. It's not easy that's for sure. Especially when you have to tell explain to you children why there father isn't living with you. My oldest sons father and I are divorced; he has never once set eyes on him. I met my 2 younger childrens father and thought wow what a great guy he took my oldest on as if he were his real father; Was I ever wrong!!!!!!!!!!!!! He left us a week before my daugther was born for some well I'll just say other women he met and had been cheating on me with for 5 months or more. I have never said another bad about either one of them to my children and never will. When they are old enough I will explain my side and let them go and talk to their fathers and make up their own minds. To the OP and the other single parents on here I would like to applaud you for doing the best you can.  | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 8/11/2007 11:14:21 PM | | i'm single dad 2 girls 15 &14 no help 7 yrs. no child sup. their mom hasn't seen them in 4 yrs she lives 20 miles away now she's in jail for 6 months or pay $500 she'll do the time what a butt hole but my girls r doing great i just don't have any adult social life i feel pathetic sometimes but i wouldn't change a thing i love them | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 8/12/2007 1:55:33 AM | i have twi boys 3 and 6 with no help ,i leftt there dad 18mth ago as he was a bully and the only way to get at me was to hurt me by taking me to court to try and get my kids off me he lost so then decided he did not want to see them again .since then he has a nother child a few weeks old hmmm
so yes i do it all on my own and am picking up the peices of what he has done to my children emotionly esp my youngist who is going through an assesment for possible autistic spectrem disorder ,doing it on my own is hard but thats parenting its what we chose to do and i love every moment of it might be hard work but i wouldnt change it for the world | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 8/12/2007 1:11:39 PM | | Another single parent - I have gone through alot of what everyone else has and in the end it is soooooo worth it. I have raised my daughter on my own - her father has never played a big part in her life, the last time he saw her she was 3 yrs old, my daughter turned 22 this past May. Though she dosen't know him (I have never said a bad thing about him it is not my place nor is it her business to hear what he and I went through) she has had a hard time, kids wonder so many things as they grow up - they wonder why others have both parents but they don't. She went from blaming me to wondering if she wasn't good enough and thinking that was the reason for his leaving and never seeing her. I have seen her struggle about this and I just sat there and told her that she was loved and that she was a great person and held her close. Now she feels anger and this anger is what motivates her to excel at school (she is in her 3 yr of college). In her mind she would like to knock on his door (she knows where he lives she looked him up) and let him know what she has accomplished and she did it without him. I do believe the anger is a motivational tool and I am sure she will never go through with the other portion. I tell you all this story because it isn't easier not having the other parent in their life a child still struggles and never has an answer as to why. Yes there are circumstances where it maybe better that a parent is not around, but in the end they will still feel the pain. All I can say to the parents that choose not to be in their child's life - give your head a shake and remember who the adult is - it is not about you or the other parent, it is about the child....they are what is important.... | |
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Posted: 8/12/2007 6:25:02 PM | i have a 14 yr old son who has been living with me full time. now dont get me wrong i love it and am actually 1 too brag of it! as we all know that 96% of divorced parent's the kid/s usually live with the mother!
but yet at the same time i find that when a mother is'nt doing thier part of the bringin up of a child(spending weekend's, buying the things they need for scool monthly support/food clothes ect ect) as i dont get at all from his mother.. all i get in feedback is>>> well it's great he has his dad!
but yet when the women are talking about the dad not doing the same thing's as i listed ect ect.. they pull them to the ground take them for every thing they have make thier life's miserable..which i can under stand he she deserves to be made a example of... but it just seem's it is ok for women to get away with thing's which in return we get stomp on i dunno?? maybe it all just dont make any sence??? just one of those battles wich will never be resovled!anyway i am a proud full time single father and am raisin him fine on my own!
soo in the long run i guess i have won the battle.. and am proud to brag of it!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 8/12/2007 11:26:27 PM | | It may matter to them though.....some people just need to feel they are not alone.....they may be deeply hurt and need to vent their anger or frustration....I know you stated in the end it doesn't matter, but at the present...it may to them.....I can't understand why you opened the thread if you were going to be so judgemental | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 8/13/2007 5:24:42 AM | | My kids are 15 and 19 now.I have been a single parent since they were 2 and 6.I think the hardest time was when they were daycare age and the cost of daycare was eating me alive .Other that that it has been easier being a single mom then being married to my Ex.I never received any help from anyone and I don`t have family in this country.Hard work and lots of overtime.I remember working 80-90 hours a week at one time for 6 month.No days off at all ,double shifts 7 days a week.Somehow I still managed to keep the house clean and the laundry done. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 8/17/2007 11:25:17 AM | to my mind it will only get worse. until men regrow a set of balls between their ears again as their grandfathers were wont to do.
There is no honour anymore, no justice to speak of not really. I is still posited as sound thinking to exaserbate the life out of any pretence at prudence or even decorum we have, all out hilarity in the Halls of Jurisprudence and medicine, two diciplines akin to the Priesthood in in automatic altitude We as a people grant to those of our fellows who are prepare to serve the rest of so deeeply that they spend 7 years in deep learning, prior to being unleashed upon the unsuspecting public. The hope we have is there is some ethical indoctrination some sacred brotherhood joining maintaining minimum standards of Practice to all and sundry.
This is simple fautious nieave, conjecture on my part. That is how it used to be but it went out of fashion around the same time the Womens Liberation Movement came to the fore. Was viewed as a Macho thing, and as a consequence the new manderins Female ones now in power souht to rather than tansform the concisnessous of man what was the "Crier' Du Lune" Simple: revenge.
The ladies decided in their wisdom that they would much preferr to Usurp the Crown of Creations' prerogaties whith out doing the work necessary to effect Power with Prudence or forebarence, Backbone, integrity, things ure grandpaw, if u are lucky taught u about.
These things work. What we are doing now is debatable at best. Like why not stop poisioning ourselves for health, for starters. We whine at politicions that it is their fault that i am sick, and even if not, it is thier job to pay for me to get all the medical interrvention in the universe to keep me alive LIE IS SACRED. Well then why not trying living like that is true, BEFORE u get sick. Like morons we Buy Life insurance and feel a little better. I promise u, u will never die of an under dose of life insurnce.
The issue is not more money the issue is lifesyle change we want the cure for cancr MY way. like babies: i want it in a Pill that doesn't cost oo much, and has no side-effects, and works while i sleep, and takes no time out of my busy life to deal with.
oh an yess make that a double. and while your at it i would like life Herself to make it her busines to devote all her resources to see to it that i am completely happy. Immeditely if, not sooner if you please. and so on etc. i could go on for hours on this topic. any man that has a child and does not show interest in same - forefits all help both human and devine for all time by said action the fact that he is too stupid to see it is of no consequence. spiritual Law applies immediately 100% of the ime to 100% of the poeple of god. dont matter a phukk whehter i be jewish republican, demopcrrat esquimoe, or nerd.
I insult Truth, i insult honour i pay first. My electromagnetic field, which: for most of u, it is about the size of half this galixey, like a nuclear spearhead, it is torpedoed into your Hara center, some call it soul some illusion, the fact is it is. I have seen many individual not rcoer from such efforts. it is a fierce negatively impacted forcefield it can bee seen an felt it has no weifght of its own it is like a catqlyst of enzyme it exacerbates all phenomena arround it no matter the origin. Each and every time you defraud your own personal genius your own god given perfect integrity, whammo it is appearent to even the first year adepts in any monsastry. Born to lose from that moment hence: why do it. Particulaily he ladies it will wrinkle your eyes and mouth more thn tobacco it is ugly and it allwagys will be uly. Why is it samrt?
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