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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 5/8/2008 8:21:12 AM | | I am a single parent that does it on her own. The ex in question is not a part of our lives and nor would I want him to be. I don't like to bash so let's just say it is a way to break the cycle to have him excluded from our lives. My mother lives near me but she has been ill for three years and I help her with her needs as well. With all that goes on, my life is pretty terrific. I have no complaints. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 5/8/2008 4:37:17 PM | | I have an almost 8 month old baby and his father doesn't bother. He doesn't really care if he sees the baby or not. I dont mind it, I love having my little guy all to myself :] Although I know from first hand experience that not having a dad can also affect you negatively. But who knows what the future holds. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 5/9/2008 1:43:19 AM | It seems to be pretty common from the responses :)
I am doing it on my own somewhat by choice. It requires a bit more work, but it is worth it by far :) It is not worth a few hundred dollars a month to have to put up with some of the stuff I hear about! There is a sense of accomplishment associated with knowing that you have done it on your own and are not depending on someone else to maintain what you have. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 5/9/2008 7:26:00 AM | I raise my Autistic son completely on my own at this time. But we do really well. His Father was involved at one point and for a few years, but in recent months has all but disappeared, and took his child support with him! LOL
But, as I've always said, it is easier to raise a child on your own, than to sit there fighting with some idiot everyday over how to do it. The child support is not worth the trouble his disappearing, causes my son. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 5/10/2008 4:25:56 AM | I am a single father of 4 girls ages 5/7/8 and 15. Mother lives appr. 2 miles away and only comes to see her kids once a week for about 30 mins and sometimes an hour tops.
The courts ordered her to pay 75 a week CS but I have told her I dont want her money but for her to just be a mother to her children.
She has every other weekend visitation from the courts, I have gave her open invitation to come anytime. She still only comes once a week.
But then wonders why the kids don't act like they want to see or talk to her.
They have litterially gotten used to never seeing her and really don't care if they do. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 5/11/2008 5:45:52 AM | | Im a single mother with a 3year old who is prone to picking up every virus that is going.i also work part time and have little free time to myself and when i do it normally entaisl sleeping as im so tired running after her 12 hours a day.My daughter sees her father once a fortnight which is supervised contact which adds even more stress to my life,as her father has no real intrest in her and only wants contact to annoy me.Lets hope the courts see sence when we go back again next month.No it not easy being a single parent and the finacial side is only half of it,it the time our darlings take up and tehn our time goes out the window.Well and least were blessed with them and love them dearly and one day i will find a new fish xxxx | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 5/11/2008 7:53:24 AM | I don't know how some of you single mom's do it.
Raise the kids, work and everything else that goes with it......all with little or no help from the children's father.
I don't respect men that think there getting away with something if they can somehow avoid paying child support and their responsibilties as a father.
I finished raising my kids when my ex could'nt handle them any more (she was'nt easy to live with) .........could'nt believe it though when she wanted me to keep making child support payments to her.......while they were living with me.
But I have nothing but admiration for women that have to do this on their own, I prefer to be with a woman like that.
Just wondering, how many single mothers had support from the community when they had a tough time getting by ?
It's something that I want to do, help single mothers where I live | |
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| How many single parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 5/16/2008 7:08:25 PM | I have 5 kids, but I don't have help from my ex-for almost 6 years, I raise them with the help of our almighty God, second with the help of my parents, without my parents I can't work, they took good care my babies, while I was away from them, it is very hard, but I did it.
God bless | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 5/17/2008 7:21:27 AM | | I am a single mum of a 2year old boy have been since day dot. my son was conceived by a one night stand. as soon as i told the 'father' he changed his number and i have never heard from him since. his loss really my son is so good and it doesnt matter if his father isnt their coz i have such a big family he has enough love | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 5/17/2008 6:04:30 PM | | I have two kiddos who are 2 and 3 from the marriage. I've been divorced 2 years and he has no contact whatsoever, no rights by choice and of course considering I've never gotten a dime of CS. It sounds like a mess but it works out well in comparison to having the kiddos around someone like that. So, yes I do it all on my own. I don't mind. | |
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| How many single parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 6/4/2008 9:32:03 PM | | My wife disppeared about 7 months after our daughter was born, post partum depression. Never saw her again though grandma gets a phone call once in a blue moon. Raised my daughter since and she's 11 now. Got divorced and the judge gave me CS, but I told him to keep it, I didn't want the bother of them finder her to get her to pay it. These are the best 11 years of my life. Notings stranger han a big guy like me running into the men's room with her and my diaper bag telling everyone to clear out...its a stinky one here. She went with me to business meetings, conventions and where ever I was, she was. They get older, they get friends now. But I know how single moms feel in the dating world. Once a woman knew I had a child, its "I'll call you, don't call me". So ladies, men also get the short end of the stick from their ex's, but I would nevehad it any other way. | |
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| How many single parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 6/4/2008 9:53:55 PM | I am a proud single mom of miracle child 9 yr girl. My sons are grown and my exhusband was/is incredible dad, not my girls dad but he is really good with her anyway as we are fairly good friends due to our sons.
Her biofather has not been around since I was four months preg, she's never known him. NEVER wanted a dime from him, and wouldn't take one anyway. My daughter is precious to me. I won't go into details but she truly is a miracle child in so many ways. Her big brothers are huge in her life, they are quite the male role models for her so tho she doesn't have a father, she does have great influences.
It's very hard being a single parent (male or female), I have some very good single dad friends and I admire them, it isn't just single moms who struggle and work hard to balance life and make sacrifices for their children. And there are just as many deadbeat moms as dads, who knows, maybe more. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 6/4/2008 10:34:15 PM | well, i know that a lot of people on here wish the absent parent would be more involved. but, i'm the opposite. i'm working through the legal system to make sure my soon to be ex husband cannot see our 9 mo old son. we've been on our own throughout...numerous times while the sperm donor was in jail or on a drug binge. and, i was isolated from allmy family and friends. but, thank the lord, i am back in their lives and they all adore my son. i couldn't ask for more wonderful male role models than my papa, dad and brother-in-law! i'm happy to struggle on my own....i'm a fighter because of him.  he's changed my world! | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 6/4/2008 11:08:47 PM | | I am one of those moms! I have three kids... the STBX, when he lived with us, was seldom around... when he wasn't working, hunting, fishing and so forth, he was here physically, but was disconnected emotionally and not very pleasant to be around. After we grew tired of the chaos, the ax finally fell, and I decided we were better off with out him. I never had his help much when he was "a part of our lives" and now that he is out of the house, it really hasn't changed at all. I mow the lawn, take out the trash, do the laundry, (all those wonderful endless household chores) and take care of my kids... they are my world... I live for them... I love them with a fierceness that yet remains undefined. It seems he only comes around when it is convenient for him and helps out if he feels like it. (narcisistic personality at it's best) I don't expect anything more than I ever got from him to begin with... But the kids and I are happier than we've ever been. The struggle is worth the effort! I'll try not to break my arm as I pat myself on the back, but I can't help it... A big hug to all the moms and dads out there that are making the ultimate sacrifice for their little angels!!! Those kids know they are LOVED!!! (and by whom!) | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 6/5/2008 6:56:51 PM | | I have been a single parent for over 3 years now. My ex doesn't pay child support and rarely see's his children. When he does call its usually just to call me names or tell me I'm a bad mom. But after 3 years it makes me to happy to know I have done this all on my own,. That i am independant and do not need a man to survive. Someday when he looks back and he is all alone, he will realize that he missed the most amazing thing and he will never be able to get this back. My children are a blessing and I love them more than life. So to all those single mom's and dads out there that are doing it on your own, you deserve an award. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 6/5/2008 7:23:47 PM | I am a single parent who doesn't get help either. My daughter's father was in an accident when I was pregnant with her and died. Shortly after she was born, I got custody of my brother and sister. I didn't think I would ever find a guy who could handle my situation, but I did. We dated for 3 years and he asked me to marry him and have a kid with him. I thought he was crazy, but he kept pushing for it. Well, I got prgnant and he got deployed for his 2nd tour in Iraq. I had our son when he was over seas. He was so excited, then when he came home, he was different. He just walked away.
He has called twice in 2 years to ask how his son is. That's it.
But, I get the best end out of the whole thing. I have an awesome little shithead, my little princess and my brother and sister. I have a full time job and am working towards my BS degree in law. So, it all works out in the end. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 6/6/2008 12:49:30 AM | I am also a single parent who is doing it alone. I find it incredibly hard to find someone who will accept that my kids need me more because they only have me. Consequently I have been single for 10 yrs - sad or what??
Don't get me wrong - I love my life and my kids but I need adult company and affection adn companionship too | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 6/6/2008 5:05:32 PM | 4 years is a long time...believe me its not uncommon,, i haven't been a single mother that long its only been 7 months for me and he hasnt helped me one bit.. my kids are 1 year old and 4 month old and ive been on my own since dec 07... you just accept it i guess and think of it as their loss really...  | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 6/7/2008 4:13:49 PM | there are many including me no help no see no calls but thats ok cause my child is getting older (10) and knows what the deal is and who is always there for them no matter what. yes its hard very hard but its also a reward WE NEED TO PAT OURSELVES ON THE BACK EVERY SO OFTEN!!!! KEEP UP THE GREAT JOB OF BEING A PARENT AND THIS WILL REWARD YOU AS THEY GROW OLDER!!!!
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 6/7/2008 4:21:15 PM | have been raising my daughter alone for about 10 years . her mother chose alcohol over her daughter and it eventually killed her . that was 2 years ago. but her grand ma and aunts get to see her once and a while ( her moms side) luckily they are wonderful people.
My little girl is my life I dont know where I would be with out her .lol probably dead or in prison . she has really has made me plant my feet on the ground and pulled me out of my destructive life style. | |
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