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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 6/29/2008 3:51:30 PM | | I have 2 kids and have done it all alone since the day they were both born. Both their dads left while i was still pregnant. I have family, but they all have their own families so while i have the emotional support i have very little in the way of physical support ie babysitters or financial (except when i really need it) | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 9/1/2008 6:28:06 AM | | Hey Mike I just joined this site...saw your post.....I just want to say great job to you and you are right!!! Your kids will always respect you.......I know how it feels I have had both my kids by myself for several years now..they dont see their mother very often......you cant do anything about her absence..all you can do is try your best.............good luck......Sean | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 9/1/2008 7:47:42 AM | I have a little boy and iv never seen a penny since the day he was born, but i aint complaining because i dont have to share him. The minute they start showing there paying there way to the child means they have right to see them, Iv never brought my son up not to know who his dad is yet his still a little to young to understand, but my son will know whats for the best for him when he gets older. As for my little girl, shes not born yet and i dont plan to get any help for her either, i enjoy doing it by myself and i will continue to raise my children by myself until they no longer need me and depend on me. Im 21 with a little boy and a child on the way and i dont regret anything, Seperate dads yes but that dont change nothin and aslong as im bringing them up well whats they problem? People judge when your a single parent with 2 different dads but dont know your past aswell as you do for yourself, and for the name 'slag' 'slut' or whatever they plan to call you, what makes your one of them if you raise your child up well?
thats off my chest but if anyone agree's or disagree then leave your comments  cause its not asif iv not heard it myself before. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 9/1/2008 8:03:00 AM | I have a 5 year old autistic boy and a 2 year old little girl. Both fathers abandoned their children. My son's father wanted us back, but I had found my husband. My husband was crazy abandonded the family. Took a holidayto Canada. Sent me pictures of him having sex with another woman. She wishes my daughter dead. I am taking paternal rights in one month, which means that he is no longer her father and am taking his name off of my daughter's birth certificate! I have had NO HELP. With sperm donors that never grew up, I don't want them with my children. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 9/1/2008 5:19:24 PM | I am a 25 year old single dad here with 4 year old daughter and a 3 year old son and a 18 month old baby Doing alright right now but what girl would go out with a man with three young kids..? The same ones that had a bunch of kids when they were young as well. Why wouldn't they? | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 9/2/2008 8:04:33 PM | Realdealiowa
I have had both of my kids for over a year and no help from their mother. I dont ask her for any help and dont want any from her. When I got my kids I did not worry about getting help from her. I was just happy that I got the kids. You all know how hard it is for the father to get them. So dont worry about getting help just take care of them the best you can and keep going. Everything happens for a reason and carma will come to bit her in the ass as it always does to everyone. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 9/2/2008 9:11:05 PM | My son receives not quite what he should in support money...I THINK his father changed 2 of his diapers ever..and he was with him for almost 8 mths...NO HELP HERE 'REALDEALIOWA'...no hands on till I got him in daycare last yr ...I have not had one weekend off in 3 1/2 yrs..NOT ONE...I have had 3 evenings off...5..if u count funerals..again in 3 1/2 yrs...my son was ill most of the time for 8mths before it was recommended he have some surgeries (ear tubes & adenoid removal)he was 18 mths by the time he had his surgery & I had kicked his Dad out when my son was about 8mths old (for the second time!first required an F.R.O yes I was a jack-ass 2 drop it)
He' s lucky if he sees his Dad once a week for approx an hr( that's on his Dad) ..
It's too common.....I think pple who display that they are incapable of being parents after leaving 2 children...should be required to be neutered...or! SOMEHOW PROVE THAT THEY CAN BE responsible enough to care for a third child.....It's sickening to me there there are animals that treat their offspring and family with more respect.....
ALL THAT HAVING BEEN SAID..I have known no greater love than that of my son
(except for when my granny raised me)
Iowa i have been unable to walk for more than 10 mins at a pop one time for 3 weeks..AT XMAS TIME! and! NOBODY HELPED ME...and I didn't ask...i just wriggled around and did what I had ta do...THEY,OUR KIDS, ARE AFTER ALL ? OUR RESPONSIBILITY..we made them right?....MAYBE because I have had 'MAN-UP' so much....I have a difficult time just being ..the 'lil' woman'...BUT my son needs a strong parent..AND THAT'S WHAT HE GETS..sure I have had a time..where I felt down,where I cried for a week & 1/2 and couldn't help letting him see me(my son)but in the scheme of 3 1/2 yrs and tons of other sh!t that is too lengthy & unbelievable, that one lil break down really wasn't crap..I AM BETTER & STRONGER FOR IT ALL..AND MY SON IS THE BEST REWARD
FOR A JOB (under great adversity) WELL DONE.... YEAH ME & YEAH 2 ALL OF US 'STAND-UP' SINGLE PARENTS!!!!! | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 9/2/2008 9:33:53 PM | Are you f-ing kidding? It doesn't matter??? Did you really say that? Obviously you were raised by two parents and do not have children of your own or else you would not be making such uninformed statements. Coming from a broken home myself, with my father off remarried to someone else the very night of the divorce from my mom - it DID matter! My mom struggled like hell to raise my sister and me with no help from him, financially or otherwise. Then, when my ex did the exact same thing to me - you better believe it mattered! I KNEW what they were going to go through, and what I was going to go through, raising my daughter and son on my own.
So before you go spouting off at the mouth that it doesn't matter - BE TOTALLY GRATEFUL IT HASN'T HAPPENED TO YOU- BELIEVE ME, IT WILL MATTER THEN | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 9/3/2008 7:49:16 PM | I can't say I don't have any help because my parents are wonderful. I can say that their father has decided that his new wife is more important than anyone else and he doesn't help. I attempted to call him today to discuss our oldest with her hanging up on me. I then called his parents to discuss the problem with his father, and my ex called to berate me for calling his father. When I attempted to discuss our son I got yelled at for not respecting his new wife. THey called about 4 times and hung up on me when I would not engage in discussing anything but our son.The entire time the only thing he said about our son was he could not make him attend school. I in turn told him he could encourage him to go and stay in touch. He hung up again.
SO I have made all the choices about these children for the last year without his help at all. By choice he only sees them for a few hours every other Saturday if he is not busy. He will not attend any functions they are in because I will be there. So I have no help from my ex. He is a terrible father! | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 9/3/2008 9:03:18 PM | I have a 16 year old daughtet that I have sole custody of, and I feel lucky if I get my 59 bucks a month from her "birth mother"
But I also have my 2 children from divorce, with split custody...this situation is totally different and is a good one. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 9/4/2008 12:44:30 PM | I have no help from my daughter's father and he is not in the picture at all. No phone calls, no visits, no baby papa drama. Thank God!  I do get child support but so very sporadically its practically non-existant and not a reliable source of income. I also dont have any family that help me either. My mum lives nearby and visits on rare occassions but thats the extent of it. All my other family members live very far away.
But knowing how much I struggle, I created a single parents support group in my community to gain friendship and exchange support. If more people tried to help others, maybe the single parent struggles wouldnt seem so overwhelming.  | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 9/5/2008 6:37:26 PM | Well i was a single mother who brought up her four children by herself without help from there dad, he was just a waste of space but now they can take care of themselfs he wants to know them wat a surprise !!!
Well to be honest i can honestly say i did it on my own and im proud of it at least i dont have to thank him for anything...I DID IT MYSELF YAY!!!
its very common infact its like the common cold nowadays hun    | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 9/5/2008 8:46:50 PM | | I am taking care of my children with no help from their dad. He just so happened to lose his job the day he found out how much child support he was to pay. Well my boys at least know that I love them, but they don't ask for their father anymore. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 9/5/2008 11:45:08 PM | ya no doubt i have been raising my son since he was three monthes old like she even gives a shit what happens to him hes almost three this month and no child support ever oh well thats why we are on this site to find a real person so lets all be happy we are still not with them smile keep are heads up and keep on fishing | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 9/6/2008 3:16:22 AM | You are an amizing and loving mum....and nuff repesct to you girl!
When my son was born I bought a house in spain....an old wreck that didnt cost much money and needed (and still needs) alot of work, but with both me and my partner working in england we just couldnt afford to buy a house there, and this was my way of knowing that I might be able to give my son a little bit of security in his life and a roof over his head should anything ever happen to me ( us!..at the time). My partner let me walk out the front door over a year and a half ago with our son, so I could settle him into his first year in school. The plan was he would be out in two months after handing in his notice at work and tieing up some loose ends. Its the last I ever saw or heard from him. He contributes nothing to his son financially, emotionally or otherwise, if only it was 2008 and there were at least telephones in the world...oh sh*t it is and there are!! ( but they never work...obviously) He is not the man I thought I had spent the last 10 years of my life in a relationship with, infact he is not a man at all, a coward, a copout in life and much more that I probably cant write on here. Yet saying all that, he has done me the biggest favour ever, something that I should have done years ago. My son is young enough to not notice the difference and it normal now for it to just be the two of us ( and in fact not much has changed anyway as his dad, looking back, was always a waste of space and never really done his bit anyway even when we were together) hindsight is a great attribute that we all realise one day we have lacked at some point!! and best of luck to the women in his life now that hasnt discovered that yet!!
It is hard, I am in a different country, with no financial help or support here and none from england because we now live abroad, there is no work here and life financially is a struggle and very scary at times with drips and drabs of work as it comes, but I am a strong girl, intelligent and am now in my second year of being here and have survived this long. I have a beautiful little boy and I am proud that I am doing my best to give him a better childhood and life than I had, he is growing up into a lovely little man and my very best friend, we have a great relationship (give or take the odd moments of confrontation!!...normal) and I am releived that he doesnt have such an unstable insecure dissapointingly and disgusting self centered influence in his life as his waste of space father. Too long I stayed with him for the wrong reasons ( because I beleived that kids need both parents, a mum and a dad and that love was enough to get through the rough times!), now I realise that the world hasnt collapsed for my little boy , he is doing just fine with me and will turn out a better man for it than ever his father could even dream of being. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 9/6/2008 11:54:56 AM | Haven't had any help in three years and she lives close by and want s him in her life.
Asked her ths year if she was going to help with school supplies she said yes. What a joke. Said she'd get pencils and crayons. I spent $60 on supplies and she bought a case of water($4.25).
That's ok, because in the long run our child will know.
I didn't expect any more than what she got. | |
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