| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 1/26/2009 9:17:47 PM | I did and no family and absolutely not one penny in support.
It was very hard in many ways but I made it work and when she was young (under15) it was the best time of my life in many ways - although I mourned for a family for my daughter.
If I'd had more children it may have been harder for me but she would have more family and I think not having extended family hurt her. Unfortunately that was not to be.
I tried to make up for it but of course I'm only one person and I could never make a bustling family home for her all by myself. Her friends and my friends helped but it was not enough.
I always had money and that doesn't compensate either. There's no substitute for a father, grandmother, grandfather. There are substitute people but they don't have the depth of commitment that provides true security.
It's too late now. She had gone down the wrong path and nobody seems able to bring her back or fill that void inside her. I only hope she can find her own way back. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 1/27/2009 4:32:19 AM | i get no help from the father.
ive been single since my daughter was born, shes 4 this year
the father gets intouch when he wants too, not on my terms.. via email
he moans about having no money becos he pays child maintanance BUT ive not recieved a penny from him,
my daughter hasnt seeen him since she was 8month old and now shes at nursery shes wondering why her daddy isnt around etc and wants to see him
i phoned where he is staying but he was at work and i left my number but he hasnt been intouch | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 1/28/2009 8:59:46 AM | I too recieve no help from my ex...
I got custody of my daughter when she was 5 weeks old and shortly after we found out she has a life threatening lung defect which requires alot of maintenance and hospital visits..not to mention alot of doctors visits..Even though my ex is 50% responsible for the defective gene she has accepted no responsibility and and made herself unable to be contacted..I have never asked for anything from her and nor has she ever offered.
I could have never imagined that people could be that cruel.. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 1/29/2009 8:43:02 AM | | I'm a single father of 3 boys age 15yrs, 13yrs and 10yrs old and get no help from there mother either. She calls when she wants, never on a regular base. She doesn't even know when her son graduates from middle school. She fought me in court over 2yrs ago and lost. I just don't understand how you can give birth to 3 beautiful kids and don't play any part of there lives. Please help me to understand? | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 1/29/2009 9:57:07 AM | I'm a single father raising my two sons 13/16 and although it's tough, it's rewarding work. I guess the hardest thing for me is no net, i.e., no family nearby to hang the boys with. It's me and them most of the time. I have been out, but let's face it....we come as a trio. Any woman who doesn't want the three of us...can keep on dancing. Their mother is in rehab. I think the boys and I have a better relationship now than ever before.
J | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 2/1/2009 5:48:19 AM | I'm raising four kids on my own (8, 6,5, 2). I've never received a dime of child support, and their father completely bailed on them emotionally/physically, which is probably a good thing given he's not a very good person (that's politically correct for "he's actually quite horrible").
My family provides support when they can, but it' s not terribly often. They have their own lives, plus they all live an hour from us. Every few months my sis swings by and rescues me for a day of shopping, and I pay her teen to watch my crew (not that I can always afford to do that, but I'd feel too guilty not to). My parents have been wonderful the past few months in watching my sick kids so I can go to work. Were it not for them I'd likely be fired ten times over already.
I work a F/T job and make decent money, but it's not enough to completely kick us off welfare. These days I spend most of my free time plotting how the hell I'm ever going to get us off of welfare completely. Going back to school is becoming a rather logistical nightmare as I try to schedule and budget work, school, and daycare.
But I'm smart, determined, and I'll figure it out. Eventually. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 2/1/2009 6:04:56 AM | I'm a single mum and receive no help from my ex....I have two daughters 5 and 6 and a son 4...their father just comes in and out of their lives when he pleases....and can be absent for months on end...whilst I'm left to pick up the pieces....
I've never received a penny Child Support and I almost feel like I'm a recluse, because it's hard to manage 3 mischievious youngsters , if I take them out anywhere....whilst he's free to do whatever he pleases and hasn't got the stress or worry over them....just seems unfair
But on the other hand....I'm the lucky one for being able to kiss my kids goodnight...watch them grow...nurture them and be there for them....I just really cannot understand parents that don't seem to give a damn about their kids; It's so damn selfish | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 7/4/2009 7:36:04 AM | I am a single mom of 4, I filed for divorce in 2003, kids are now 31, 26, 21, and 14, three sons and 1 daughter. The 2 youngest still live at home with me. Actually I feel like I have been single even while I was married for 22 years, he did not do much with the kids while they were growing up and still doesn't, he used to tell us we were a burden and he wasn't there to entertain any of us. And I guess he still feels the same way, he pays child support but does nothing at all with the kids and he moved into a home about 1 mile from me. He once told me that paying child support is enough and that is good enough. The thing is...my kids all turned out to be very respectful, successful,honest,loving, stable, warm hearted, caring, and funny as hell individuals. He forgets their birthdays, but wants them there for his birthday and fathers day.
I really admire men who take on the hard work of being a single parent, it is not easy when the kids wonder why the other parent does not want to have anything to do with them, sometimes you run out of words to say. I could not imagine not being with my kids for even a day, and still can' t understand how a parent could be so selfish. It is very hard but now that my kids are grown it still hurts them but they are so happy they don't have to deal with him anymore. Just got to do what you have to do for your kids and ask God to guide you, they are his children too, and HE will help you take care of them. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 7/4/2009 8:18:57 AM | your not the only single parent out there! The whole of us single parents know how hard it is but we also have learned that there is nothing more rewarding than having our children to raise, love and care for regardless of the other parent. I know this first hand because the first time around with my oldest his father was not in his life for 10 years and then decided to pop back in, after I remarried.... he finally thought it was time to check out who was raising his son.... I had another child by the current ex and when I left I took both of my boys and am now raising them on my own.
I wouldnt change my life for anything because I realize that no matter how hard I have to work to make ends meet these two boys give me more joy, laughter and excitement than either of their fathers ever did.... my children will be there for me to love and cherish till the end of my days. Just as being a parent is rewarding its also hard and painful at times. Its hard to see my boys growing up with out their fathers since there are things I can not teach them, but that is where the support of male family comes in and the love and support that they can give when I am not able to.
So to all of you other single DADS and MOMS out there its not easy but it sure is worth what we have to do to raise our children, and we are better people for doing what we do, not only for our children but for ourselves and whomever we bring into our lives. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 7/5/2009 4:17:26 PM | | Count me in here too. I have full custody and get zero help (or even interest) from her dad. This is why I feel I simply do not have the time to commit to a relationship to put "long-term" on my profile. No regrets, though. She and I have a whole lot of fun and we are just fine, thank you very much. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 7/5/2009 7:10:43 PM |
Single Dad nuff said there. But to add insult to injury I pay her, yet Im the primary custodial parent. Figure that one out ladies. And yes I have my son everday.
How much of the time does your ex have your son? | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 7/5/2009 10:39:47 PM | I am a single parent of three daughters. The first two daughters are from my first ex. During one of the many court dates, the judge order him to pay $40 a month in child support b/c I made more than he did. That SOB only paid me for one month and I haven't received a dime from him since then; that was the Fall of '94. My third daughter is from my second ex who not only divorced me but also his daughter, who is now 13. He cut off all communication and stopped the child support when the divorce papers were finalized; that was over 2 years ago.
Both of my ex's are Retired Navy and both are jackasses when it comes to their committement to their children; however, I honestly do believe in Karma. They get it every day they wake up. I know they have to reach for a few bottles of pain pills just to get outta bed and pee; I call that sweet justice! As for me, my health is better now than it was when I was with them. All of my girls are with me right now and I couldn't be happier.
Karma comes around, eventually. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 7/6/2009 2:19:20 PM |
Wow, so you two each have custody part of every day?
It works like this Monday through Thursday I get our son from 4pm when I leave work until our exchange at 8pm which is his bed-time. He wakes up at her house about 7am and goes to daycare around 9am. Friday through Sunday it works like this:
Friday 4pm until Sunday on a agreed upon time; after 3pm usally around the normal 8pm. Mostly because of her work.
Thanksgiving I get odd years
Christmas I get even years
Fathers day and my birthday he stay's with me. I'm usally off, I was born on Veterans day.
And whenever both parents can agree.
She gets the maximum amount of support out of me. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 7/6/2009 8:07:42 PM |
It works like this Monday through Thursday I get our son from 4pm when I leave work until our exchange at 8pm which is his bed-time. He wakes up at her house about 7am and goes to daycare around 9am. Friday through Sunday it works like this:
Friday 4pm until Sunday on a agreed upon time; after 3pm usally around the normal 8pm. Mostly because of her work.
Thanksgiving I get odd years
Christmas I get even years
Fathers day and my birthday he stay's with me. I'm usally off, I was born on Veterans day.
And whenever both parents can agree.
She gets the maximum amount of support out of me.
It's great that he gets to be with both of you everyday. It does seem unfair that you have to pay so much money when you have him, too. Does your ex have to pay for all of that daycare? | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 7/6/2009 8:34:24 PM | Long/ old thread, so I certainly didnt read it all.
I have full custody of my two daughters. Their mom has supervised visitaion only, and just started to pay child support after six years.
I am excited about this...now, what should I do with the $9.62 check I got??? | |
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