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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 8/22/2006 2:44:16 PM | I am a single happy mother who has been single since pregnancy. My son is 2 1/2 years and I'm happy has hell. I have help from my family and friends and my son gets ALL the love in the world so I'm not too worried. His dad will pop in once in awhile and pretend he is this and that but I don't let him take him out of the house or nothing. I let him come visit him on my terms and my supervision and even then he is useless and doesn't play or really talk to my son. I don't even tell my son that is his daddy because really he truly doesn't even act as a daddy. So I don't need help even though its hard sometimes its SOOOO WORTH IT.
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 8/22/2006 3:39:06 PM | | I am a single mom of 2 girls ages 6 and 4 yrs old. Neither of their dads are around. They come and go when its convenoent for them. Its rough but i support them both financailly and emotionally by mysself and they are doing just fine. Their dads dont realize what it is (them not being around) is doing to them emotionally. But it is thier lose and my gain. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 8/22/2006 6:31:27 PM | really sometimes it's better not to have the other parent around, and trust me it's a growing thing here in Canada and the US for parents to just get up and walk. i have a son who is 9 and his dad finally came back around after the first 5 yrs of not being there. what really sucks, is that now i'm doing it all over again. i now have a 6 mth old daughter and her dad has been gone since i was 2 mths pregnant.
ya for sure it's the hardest thing you will do in your life but the most rewarding.
good luck, your not alone. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 8/22/2006 10:03:01 PM | | Right here! I actually prefer it that way... I can afford both of us to live in total comfort, I get to see all her firsts and not miss one, I can raise her and teach her good things that he can't because of his lifestyle (he would only corrupt her), and I have alot of good family and friends that step in and help if we really need it. But on the other hand I don't make him miss things, he knows how to do that on his own so two thumbs up to him for not getting in my way!!!!! | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 8/24/2006 7:19:24 PM | | I have an almost 2 year old daugther, with no help at all, hes been in prison since she's been born and was sentenced to 16 years last aug. so 15 more to go, good for him. But since he's serving so long the support order was dropped. Eventhough I was only supposed to get 125 a month. He owes 6 months in back. From apr. to aug. But it's not a big deal, there's not a chance in hell that I would let him see her anyway. And I'm also 6 months along now, and he took off and I have no idea where he is so I'm doubting I'm gonna get any help with him either. I'm just very greatful that I have a wonderful and supportive family and friends. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 9/6/2006 7:43:48 AM | | My ex does pay support...i had to take him to court ...but he lied about his income and is not paying what he is supposed to be paying.He makes $30,000 more than what he said but with the new ruling he cant hide his income anymore.But as for emotionally, he is a deadbeat dad.He lives 5 minutes away and never sees our 3 children. I have been both mom and dad to my kids for 12 years now.It is not easy, but i do what i have to do, as for getting breaks here and there ..if it were not for my great family i would have none.I personally think a deadbeat parent can be one both financally and emtionally, my 18 year old daughter has mental health issues from what had gone on before her dad left and when he kidnapped them a few months after he left,she was 4 at the time and ripped out of her bed while i was t work and they were with the sitter. she has been in counselling and seeing a psychiatrist ever since. It has been an uphill battle with her for the last 12 years and i will still keep on being there for her as always. I just still will never get how a parent can just forget they had children and get on with their lives as if nothing ever happened and no concern over how their children are even doing and the custodial parent is left there to pick up the pieces. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 9/6/2006 11:37:36 AM | I'm a single parent to, I've been one since my first child was born. Yeah me and the dad was married at the time but after my daughter was born he would come home when he wanted to. Three years later we had another one his a boy, then a year and a half after that we had another boy.Now that my children are 18, 14,and 12 he wants to act like he was thier all there lives. I really get a good laugh about it. Because he does not remember there birthdays, holidays and to even say when they get awards that was to go into our local newspaper. His just one of those dead beat dads who think they know about raising children, But again I have to Because the one that need to grow up his him. It's hard being a single parent, but the best thing you get out of it, is all the love and prais from your children. Thier all the loves of my life and I would not change it for the world. At least we know at the end we don't have to deal with these fine words (WHERE WERE YOU ALL MY LIFE) | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 9/6/2006 11:55:31 AM | yeap..i know wat u mean..me and my ex were engaged and then when i was 4 months pregnant he upped and left, and now im struggling just getting child-support. so ive raised my daugter all alone since before she was born and now she 9 months old.....and there is never a day that goes by that i regret keeping her..i just think that its his loss that he's missing out on a child which has brought me so much joy.. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 9/6/2006 12:00:03 PM | | goof for you, i left an abusive relationship as well...and it so good to hear that im not alone in this world, bc no one i talk to understands what a women goes through mentally and physically when ur beaten by the man that u love...and hes a dead beat father as well..hasn't seen his daughter..only once since she's been born and doesn't pay child-support and still loves to make my life a living hell.... | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 9/6/2006 4:19:26 PM | | I HAVE BEEN A SINGLE PARENT FOR 6 YEARS MY HUSBAND DIED OF CIRRORIS THREE DAYS BEFORE AMERICA WAS ATTACKED I WANT TO SAY THAT I HAVE LEARNED SO MUCH ABOUT RELYING ON MYSELF AND COPING WITH THE STRESSES OF BEING ALL ALONE IT HAS NOT BEEN EASY I HAVE TWO ONE GRADUATED THIS YEAR AND ITS SO HARD TO BELIEVE I DID IT ALONE AS TIME GOES ON TI GETS EASIER SOMETIMES I DONT EVEN KNOW IF I COULD LET SOMEONE ELSE IN. MY HATS OFF TO ALL SINGLE PARENTS ITS NEVER EASY! I WONDER SOMETIMES IF I WILL ALWAYS BE SINGLE. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 9/6/2006 5:12:38 PM | | I have lots of help and support from my wonderful family. I have main custody of my 6yr old girl. The birth mother only takes her for a few afternoons during the week, and once overnight on the weekend. The mother is paying me, but it is another case of not declaring all her income. In reality, the mother is getting off pretty cheap. Now, the mother has changed some of her hours at her work, and wants to have my daughter stay a few more nights. But, the mother wants to stop paying me money, since she feels that since my daughter is going to stay with her a day or two extra, that she is doing enough to "support" her financially (eg having to make her dinner twice, and lunch for school twice). I offered to let her mother take my daughter to school for the first day (she started Grade 1), but the mother wanted to have her day off to "herself". But she had enough money for Bingo the night before (I guess not enough for a sitter though). The mother just feels like participating whenever it's convienant for her. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 9/7/2006 3:48:28 AM | | I've had my daughter going on5.5 yrs when her mom didn't want to raise her. I asked the judge for her not to have to pay. I don't need it from a POS like her, I'd starve first.(you'ld have to know my story to esplane the harsh words) | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 9/7/2006 4:00:51 AM | | My daughter's father walked away when she was 3 months old, and I am not sure where he is at. I have no problem with that, I am raising my 5 year old on my own quite fine. She has a solid system of uncles, grandpa etc, to give her a male role model, and she is a sharp little cookie. The fact is, sometimes it happens when one parent chooses to leave - that is life. I refuse to be bitter or angry, I have a child to focus on, and she needs a mom who is not dwelling on bitterness or hurts. I refuse to trash her father to anybody, and will not allow anyone else to do so either. Not because I have any feelings for him, but becuase it is not right to do that. Financially, it is hard, no doubt about it - however, things always work out - and look at the payback - I have a wonderful gift from god, a beautiful little girl I cherish! | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 9/7/2006 6:32:38 AM | Hey there people
I am a single father of 6 yera old girl and a 7 year old boy , absolutely amazing kids strength in them beyond belief...
There mother has not even seen them in about 5 years and there is no support from her whatsoever not even a phone call or child support or anything
It is becoming more common then everyone thinks that this is happening
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 9/7/2006 9:23:45 AM | | you know it is common because i'm a single mother. i have one son and his father has never been in the picture. he knows about him but still wants to ignore the fact that he fathered a child. He got married and everything and his wife doesn't even know. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 9/7/2006 10:07:49 AM | | My daughter is going to be 3 in december I have my family and my daughter still sees her father whenever he has time, but his idea of help is to spend 400$ on toys that she never can play with. Or plays with for 5 mins and then forgets about. Oh well life goes on. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 9/7/2006 2:59:18 PM | My sons dad used to be in my sons life a bit but over the last yr he has pretty much disapeared with his new gf.
We saw him once last yr and most of the time he was on his cell phone text msging her. He trys to buy my sons love because every time he does see my son he showers him with gifts buying him a shit load of toys and junk food Its nice that he does do this but if he can afford to buy this stuff why cant he pay child support lol!!
Im not upset or bitter about my situation I love my son to dealth and would do anything for him and im glad i dont have to share lol  but for my sons sake i wish he would decide if he was a parent or not!! | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 9/7/2006 7:07:26 PM | | at least the fathers try to be dads even though they don't deserve medals or anything but at least they have that %10 of help..i would give anything for my ex to give a damn for my little gurl...he hasn't done anything for her..hasn't given one cent towards her and has seen her once since shes been born and that was for only an hour and he thinks that hes the best dad...i wish i could have that %10, i wish that she could have two loving parents..what im afraid of is when she's older and shes gonna ask why she doesn't have a daddy?? what im i to say.. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 9/7/2006 8:02:54 PM | | I've been divorced from the boys' dad for 12 years. He hasn't even seen them in 2 years. They try to call him with my encouragement at least 3 times a week and are lucky if they actually get him to answer the phone every two to three weeks. To be fair, he does live several states away, but no child support, no interest in their lives and lots of broken promises. It's a lot easier on all when we don't try and just try to forget he exists. Don't get me wrong, we get along fine. But with each broken promise, they get harder towards him and it breaks my heart to see it. | |
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