| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 12/15/2006 4:49:51 PM | Been doing it on my own since the day he was born and I have no regrets about it..
I have a great network of family and friends that help out when I am in need but that's rare these days.
Even if I could go back and do it all over again, I don't think I'd change a thing. | |
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KRISSI
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Joined: 9/13/2005
Msg: 153 | |
| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 12/15/2006 6:02:21 PM | i have had mine on my own since i broke up with their dad shortly after my daughter was born in 2000. he dont pay child suport hardly, im putting myself through college so if it werent for my parents my kids and i would not have anything. he even moved to oklahoma supposedly to work but that isnt at all what hes down there doing. i had a miscarriage before i had my son and all he told me was oh well just keep trying youll get pregnant again talk about an ass hole who dont care about anyonebut him self. he told my 6 year old that he wasnt coming back here for christmas and that she wasnt supposed to be mad that she dont get to see her dad for christmas. what he dont realize is that she used to be a huge daddys girl and by what he has done she dont want anything to do with him, my son is 4 but is autistic so he dont understand but he will one day and their dad will be the one in the end alone. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 12/15/2006 8:43:11 PM | I have a 12 year old son and in his lifetime I have received $0.00 in child support and very little in the way of parenting support until the last few years. It is very common. I resented his father until my son was about 3 and then realized that I was doing just fine without his financial or parental support and so was my son. Think of the positives...there are many positives to being a true single parent.
I just never realized until coming to POF just how many single dads there are out there.
It is a sad statement of society. Relationships are disposable, many people cannot committ to their own children! At least single fathers aren't judged as harshly as us single moms are judged....or are they? | |
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jean32
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Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 156 | |
| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 12/26/2006 8:14:50 PM | I am a single mother, of two kids, a girl 5 and a boy 3 and my ex has had no physical contact with the kids for over three years, my son was a month old when there dad walked out on them. So if anyone would like to chat sometime just contact me.
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jean32
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Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 157 | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 12/26/2006 11:38:45 PM | I have been raising four kids alone for over ten years. It sounds woerd but it was harder to be a good parent and take care of them when we were married than it was to take care of them alone. He did not help at all when he was there so ...not much difference when he was gone.  | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 12/27/2006 5:23:40 AM | | my 1st wife left me for a cracksmoker after 10 yrs of marriage i havent gotten help or even a visit in 5yrs my recent wife left me to return to her mennonite church we were married 1 year i dont really expect any help ever but maybe if the roles of custody were reversed then i would be paying thousands a month its actually no maybe my 1st wife and i had 5 children and 3 are in heaven 2 died very young and my 1st daughter just died in jan 2006 at age 15 after many medical troubles i now reside in a surreal country setting in a house built in 1860 in the peaceful country its like one speed here just right | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 12/27/2006 4:28:57 PM | | i have three 8,6,4. mom has been in and out of there life for the last 3 years. i get some money but the thing they are missing the most is there mom. she shows up once or twice a month and in there eyes she can do know wrong. she only lives 15 miles away and ive told her she could see them when ever. out of site out of mind i guess | |
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| How many single parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 12/27/2006 4:40:08 PM | | Trust me if their mother has not cared enough to be around for the last 4 years your life has been enhanced without her as well as your sons. I tried for the last two years to involve my sons deadbeat dad to no avail. He never cared and always tried to make himself look like the victim. He finally took off (hopefully forever) and my son as well as myself are both better off for it. Trying to parent with an irresponsable person is much more difficult than being a single parent. I call all the shots and I make all the decisions. As for the money...there are a lot of supplements, subsidies and daycare stuff that you probably qualify for. I am lucky enough that i have a good job and I don't need it but I even qualify for most of it with only one and, as I said, a good job. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 12/27/2006 6:26:37 PM | | My ex didnt send a gift either, his mother did.. I wish he would have just even called and said I hope the baby has a good christmas or something.. its not the gifts that count it is the thought and I doubt he even crossed his mind....... | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 12/27/2006 8:04:44 PM | | I have raised three daughters alone for over twelve years went through bra's boyfriends and everything in between wouldn't change it for the world best experience I have ever had love them unconditionally oldest just got marriedat twenty and will have her B.S. in two quarters. my 16 year old is a top notch athlete and A student and my 9 yr old just loves being 9 lolI applaud all single parents for the extreme sacrifices that are so rewarding we don't even know were sacrificing hahaha good luck to all | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 12/28/2006 9:53:23 AM | My sons father has been gone since my son was three months. He is now almost two. He hasn't tried to contact him in any way. I get sad for my son because someday he is going to ask what happened to his father. What am I supposed to tell him? He abandoned him? That would crush my son. But I don't want to lie to him either.
It is hard raising a boy on my own. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 12/28/2006 10:00:02 AM | We all deserve a great big pat on the back...I have raised my girls by my self since they were 7 and 3. They are now 16 and 12. Their father is a dead-beat who owes me a lot of money. But I don't care. I have my girls and that is more important. Yes, sometimes the extra income would be nice, but I have gone so many years without is that it doesn't matter anymore. He moved to FL to avoid paying his support. He calls the girls about once a month. I look at it this way. He lost out on an incredible, lifelong experience. He does love his girls, he just doesn't know how to be a father.
To the single fathers...I applaude you Too many times you guys get shafted by the court system, and that is a shame. There really are fathers out there who are better suited to raising the children. It's great to hear you guys pipe up | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 12/28/2006 12:16:08 PM | afraid its quite common
i fell pregnant and was told by the dad to choose him or the baby choose to have the baby and was told i would have no support what so ever.
4 years on not seen or heard of her dad but she is one of the most happiest kids ever and its so rewarding to see. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 12/28/2006 1:18:00 PM | | my sons dad killed himself the day after we'd found out that we were having a boy. It wasnt because of that fact he did it though but i had to go through the next four months or so on my own and all ive ever known is me and my son and hes 16 months now im looking to move on and have a new family if i find the right man on here because ive decided that i deserve to be happy | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 12/28/2006 1:56:50 PM | My ex lives 12 hours away and only has supervised visitation due to his abusive ways. I have sole legal and physical custody.
My help comes from family and friends and that's fine because he's a bad influence that I try to keep to a minimum. It's not easy, but worth it. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 12/28/2006 2:06:13 PM | Ditto to Icequeen's recognition of great single dads! Wouldn't life be easier if all parents would just put their kids first and work with the ex to be an effective and loving co-parent?
For everyone who doesn't have that situation though and is still doing a spectacular job, I say BRAVO! | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 12/28/2006 2:17:37 PM | Around here it seems to be common for the ladies but not the guys.Unless the mom is on drugs.Not judging, or trying to, but I just don't understand how Moms can walk out on their kids, or Dads for that matter!
My heart goes out to you, keep ya head up, the world needs more good Dads to step up to the plate like you have.
I am a single parent but my kids see their Dad and he supports them...for now anyhow. I try not to take it for granted.
5 and 6 for boys is a difficult age to do it 'partly' alone - you raising both by yourself I know how tough it must be! I can't even imagine, so if I had a hat it would definately go off to you! | |
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