| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 4/24/2007 4:06:45 PM | OP 50% date less than 5 times a year? Once a quarter? Then the other fifty percent are more often? Hey sounds like a lotta action to me.
Interesting post. If I could go through all the posters and put them in my own personal list of "not single/not looking" I could save a lot of time on a dating site looking for a date, now couldn't I? | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 4/24/2007 5:09:13 PM | Because I haven't found the right one yet.
I keep running across the same ones in my area on different dating sites. We are a group of chronic site visitors that seem to never find the "one".
But we keep soldiering on in hope that one day - it will happen.
Tried changing my standards, taking chances on iffy ones- leads to the same place- back here. Sometimes I just take a break and hang out in the forms and save my energy for the next good one. Maybe met a few nice people to hang with in the mean time.
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 4/24/2007 9:55:41 PM | | After a recent (but not *too* recent) relationship, I feel compelled to re-write my profile before sending out new feelers. Yet seem unable to actually follow through. The old profile is still up. Women could contact me. But, of course, they don't. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 4/25/2007 12:10:20 AM | Because I don't want to settle for someone whom I don't honestly think I'll click with. I guess I'm just picky on whom I want to be with, and unless I see a glimmer of that in a girl I won't make the effort.
Friends? Sure. But I have to see certain things in a girl before I'll want to pursue anything past friendship with her. :) | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 4/25/2007 3:12:00 AM | | Widowed for 3 years, scared and stuck with 2 young children. I really have no experience with this dating business. I actually went out with one guy from the internet whom I really really liked. He didn't look anything like his photo. I freaked because he looked different from his photo. He has a medical condition which makes him look a bit odd. So now he thinks I think he's really ugly and doesn't want to have anything to do with me. But I really did want to see him again because I really liked him. My lack of experience didn't help. I kind of had a broken heart after that. Now I'm worried I might get scared if I go on another date. I'm really shy around men, particularly when I'm meeting potentials for the first time. I might end up scaring them all away. I shouldn't be so scared at my age. I guess I'll have to get over this silly fear. I'm also very fussy about the type of men I want to date. I may be shy but I'm not desperate. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 4/30/2007 1:19:57 PM | As a single mother I chose to put dating on the back burner until my daughter was raised.
I felt it was best for me to devote myself to her upbringing and when she was an adult I would still be young and have at least half my life ahead of me.
Today I do not regret the choice I made.
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 4/30/2007 1:38:17 PM | | i lost interest in putting my energy into somethings thats not productive. to many rules and to many do's and dont's...its no wonder i am fudging confused got real tired of the dishonesty by many....and superficial people. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 4/30/2007 1:41:52 PM | Why am I not dating? Well, let's see. There were 3 guys I was nuts about since my divorce in 00. The first was polyamorous, lived in another town, and wasn't at all interested in being serious, defined as "an occasional email to say how are you."
The second was a stoner, who soon got bored with me and preferrred to stay home with a good joint than be with me.
The third... admitted we had great chemistry and that we'd probably be sexual, but he was a strict Vegan, and couldn't imagine a serious relationship with a 'flesh eater". (I'm a 'semi-' vegetarian, I occasionally eat some chicken.)
Then there were the guys who were nuts about me. Um... that's ONE guy, actually. I wasn't physically attracted to him, but we were great friends, we had great walks, and I guess he was nuts about me, because he kept sticking around, and showed up between my abovementioned infatuations.
I finally concluded that this was the guy for me, because was a Nice Guy and HE LIKED ME. So I told him I 'could be persuaded' to get serious.
The next week he told me "an old friend" had showed up. This 'old friend' turned out to be a psycho ex who would stop at nothing to get him back. He had stayed with her for 3 years, and even agreed to get engaged, mostly because it was easier than the alternative: endless tantrums, screaming fits, stuff-smashing, verbal abuse, window breaking, suicide threats and god knows what-all else. He is a Needer. The fact that she loved him enough to call him 20 times a day, was irresistable to a guy with such low self esteem. Classic abuse case, only since he's a guy and not financially dependent or physically overpowered, the hook is purely emotional.
Now she wants him back. She came to his house before he drove up to see me and was there when he got back. He admits he far prefers to spend time with me but doesn't have the b*lls to get rid of her, and admits that "when she behaves herself, she's nice to have around." Yeah, she showers him with gifts and what-all. Borderline personality types can charm the pants off ya.
He acts as if he wishes she'd go away and he could be with me, but he's NOT with me. So am I dumped or not? I can't even really start looking for anyone. That's why I'm spending weekends alone.
As the song says, "Love Stinks". | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 4/30/2007 2:24:21 PM | well life just gets so complicated sometimes! and shocking though this might be, I sometimes lose my courage! But I'm working on it, and actually dated last weekend, and have plans for this weekend.  | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 4/30/2007 4:38:17 PM | hmm... I haven't dated in a while because my energy was directed to other things. Doesn't seem to be much point, other than pure recreation I suppose, if I am not bringing all of me to the table.
Having said that, I can honestly say I've only ever had less than a handful of "bad dates" in a lifetime of dating and really enjoy the experience. OK, before you start pitching rocks at me, let me explain... I start from the premise of does this person interest me, do I want to have a conversation with them. If the answer is yes, it is pretty much guaranteed to be a good experience. People are generally pretty great and it is wildly interesting to learn about who they are and how they have lived their lives. Even if one or both of us decided not to continue, it was still a fun evening for both of us... a success! | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 4/30/2007 5:00:15 PM | | I guess I concentrated on my career and my friends more than anything else, and always thought, aaah I got all the time in the world to date. I don't know maybe it was a lame excuse not to get out there all these years... | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 4/30/2007 7:30:09 PM | Hmmmm - definitely single but currently "involved" with a FWB so that is keeping me from dating.......he is keeping me quite busy these days.
If the FWB amounts to nothing long term (as I suspect it will) I will be back out dating again (if I get asked out - or if someone says yes to me - lol ). | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 4/30/2007 9:06:48 PM | I am super busy pulling the weeds in my yard and drooling over CSI: Miami.
Really though it's probably because I just can't get past that "friend" feeling for a dating relationship. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 4/30/2007 9:39:13 PM | I havent dated much and my reason is I cant seem to find someone that Im that attracted to who is attracted to me.
My family cant understand they think I just cant get dates. I get offers all the time but there is always something about them that causes me to hesistate.
Might be Im too picky. But it seems I attract the worse kind of woman for me.
I cant get the happy medium. I always seem to get the extreme cases. Either women who have been in very bad relationships and have too many emotional scars or women who just want to constantly play the field and want a nice guy around to run crying to when they get hurt. Or the final group those women who are either more than a decade older than I am or very desperate.
I cant understand why I cant meet a nice ordinary woman just the extreme types. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 5/1/2007 5:39:27 PM | Definately a little PICKY myself but i blame that on being older and more in tune with myself and knowing what i want......also my town ( TOLEDO,OHIO) was just rated as the 3rd worst city for hooking up with someone  | |
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