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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 6/11/2007 8:31:09 PM | | In response to Keljo - I think that it is completely understandable to fear rejection. Anyone that has something unique about the way they look or something about them that is "different" will often feel like they are on the outside looking in. It isn't that different for the larger women out there - of which I am one of them. I spent a few years giving excuses to why I wasn't dating. First it was I was taking some time off from dating - really I was just scared of rejection. Then it was I don't want to start dating someone before I go away to University. The real reason was that I just didn't want to bother and then for the last three years, it was the time excuse because I didn't want to let my grades suffer. Currently my excuse for not dating falls in line with what Ravager had to say... They're interested, I'm not. I'm interested, they're not. I could use the excuse and say it's because of my weight but I don't think that's really it - I get emails - I think I may be back to fear of rejection or fear of settling. I guess the message is - you can't have anything good in life without taking risks - the risk of putting yourself out there is a scary one, but a necessary one - even if there is something about yourself that is different then others. One could call you unique. I know I am. Someone said to me once that if I make a big deal about what is different about me, that's all people will notice. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 6/11/2007 9:18:17 PM | I think I'm too picky. There just aren't that many women's profiles I see that spark my interest. Well... Except for those Canadian women! But, they are too far away. Those hotty Canadian women are taking over POF I tell ya!  | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 6/12/2007 7:47:31 PM | its like a nasty roller coaster ride......up and downs and i got off cause it made me sick..  when they figure out what it is they really want, maybe then i will open my options til then...my life goes on to enjoying it. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 6/12/2007 8:23:44 PM | OH MY GAWD.. 21 pages of people on a dating site saying why they don't want to date!!!?????
what the hell.. lets make it one more.
I just moved to a new city 3 provinces away from the one I grew up in. I knew no one here.. left a good job with the City.. (hey.. theres a song in that)
I'm loving my life wayyyyyyy too much right now to mess it up with the complications of a relationship.
Its too pretty here to think about depressing things like... love..
LMAO. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 6/13/2007 4:46:01 PM | | Most women on dating sites have no intention of meeting anyone. Okay, I have met some just not the right one. The women I wanted to meet, the ones with the most compatible profiles had no interest in me? Now, I don't see anyone interesting, mostly the same women are still here. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 6/13/2007 5:41:36 PM | | I hate dating. People lie in their profiles & post old pictures that don't even resemble what they currently look like. I may have to go back to not trusting guys at all anymore. Maybe I'll have to start dating women. JK | |
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Joined: 5/24/2007
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 6/19/2007 10:14:49 PM | | I come from a small town, and apart from a lack of first time date places where the 90% of rellies in town will see you...guys just don't seem to ask people on dates here! You either have a intimate night after the pub and do or do not stay with them long-term, or you become 'mates' with everyone and I dunno, maybe they're not game enough to ask you on a date? The only time I personally have been on a date is with my previous boyfriend, who was from out of town and we were already seeing each other. Any suggestions? I would love to be asked on a good old-fashioned date. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 6/20/2007 1:31:52 AM | | to be quite honest, I feel there are far more important things in life than dating and establishing a relationship. I may change my mind but that's where I am mentally right now and have been for a while now. I am eventually going to go back to school and establish myself as an engineer, and this is going to take quite a bit of time and effort. until I have myself firmly established everything then I won't get myself involved with anybody. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 6/20/2007 4:39:01 AM | I was attracting the wrong type of woman (for me), so I quit dating last August. I thought I had put the ducks in a row just recently and ventured out, only to find out I had attracted a really wrong type for me. So, until --or if-- I ever figure out how to put that right "vibe" out there, dating is not going to happen. ' ' | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 6/20/2007 3:47:40 PM | | Several reasons. So many women my age who are single, the competition is way too fierce. I live in a smaller town and meet few men. I want to get married and many men just want to casually date or have casual sex with whomever they might find. I have a graduate degree, have not been married and am a short, plump, busty, cute woman. All of these things seem to be exactly what men who might interest me do not want. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 6/24/2007 7:28:51 PM | How many bad experiences does it take before you're not bitter, you're just sensible? (note experiences are varied - not attracting the same bad type)
Let's see..
* 'discount Super 8 card guy' who lied and said he had friends near me, so I continued talking to him. We met and he said there were no friends, but he had this card...
* mazzola guy...oh I can't even explain it
* the guy I dated for almost 2 years until I found a condom in his new car and then he beat up his steering wheel
* the guy who had trash from one end of his apartment to another, whose staff member came over and cleaned up every once in a while and did his groceries and laundry (no they weren't sleeping together - really), oh I could go on and on
* the guy who attacked me in the parking lot (I got away)
* the guy who was so paranoid he wouldn't tell me anything about himself (what were we supposed to talk about??)
* the guy who asked my best friend and her husband if they smell each other's butts
* or how about the man I came to love...still do damn him....who told me he loved me, discussed celebrating valentines together...and then dumped me. He said he couldn't figure out why. Then he blocked my email and I had to talk to his friend to get the rest of my stuff back! It was right out of teen-Cosmo! And men think women are confusing!
I mean eventually, it is a waste of my time...my life...to put energy into looking when these are so often the experiences! | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 6/24/2007 7:31:30 PM | I hear you!
I told my gay girlfriend that I wish I could be gay - then I'd have more choice. She cracked up. She laughed so long, so hard that I began to get insulted. I'm sure there is a gay woman somewhere that would find me attractive! :)
Sadly, I'm about has hetero as a person can be | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 6/24/2007 7:36:37 PM | The times I step back and take stock it's because I just got out of a relationship, I believe everyone deserves better than to become that "rebound" relationship. Let's face it, it stinks to get into something and be dumped because someone still has feelings for someone else, so I try to take that into account and not put anyone else into that place.
As for number of dates per year, there have been opportunities I have turned down because I didn't feel the possibility for a connection was there or my instinct went on alert that something wasn't right and I trust my instinct! You have to in order to be safe! That's what it's there for!
other than that, I think men have an issue with a woman working nights and keeping that schedule and dealing with the hours that entails, at least, that's been my experience!!! I'd rather be with someone who cares about me and my inner well being and personality . | |
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