Onegin
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Joined: 6/15/2007
Msg: 551 | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/16/2007 6:13:13 PM | | MMMMMMMMM! Read my profile and you will see. I seem to have all the wrong qualifications for meeting a romantic soul mate. I'll admit, it does not sound as romantic as it did last time I was on POF; BUT that still kept me in "reclusedom." I now must admit I am selfish for wanting a soul mate to help in my career path. Maybe I should just say: "I want MUMMY!" | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/16/2007 7:02:31 PM | My reason? I'm happy with me right now and don't want the distractions that dates cause.
I don't just "date".... meaning I'm not into the whole "take me to dinner once and then see ya nights". I want to meet the right man and stop the merry go round.
But not now. Now it's all about me, the Summer, my friends and my work.
That and what c_deacon said.... the ones I'd be interested in opening up to and letting my guard down for live way too far away, and moving for me isn't an option right now.
I won't play with a man's heart nor entangle mine in someone that's not available.
I'm spending time not caring right now, so that means not getting into any situation with a person's feelings.... cause it's all about ME ME ME right now and that's OK.
When I'm ready to put my time and energy back into it, I'll get back on the damn ride, but for now I'm looking after numero uno baby....
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/16/2007 7:45:12 PM | | Single Mom.........= no time, not too many men worth the cost of a babysitter, and not too many men like single moms..........so I am pretty much waiting till the kids are grown and out of the house..........in the meantime there could be some guy out there willing to take a chance on a chick like me, hence why I'm here. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/16/2007 7:58:33 PM | | I could begin to put it into words. First dates are excruciating. It's like a job interview for a job I'm probably going to end up not wanting. Next time I think about dating or getting married I'm going to find a woman who hates me and give her a house and two kids. ;-) | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/16/2007 10:08:10 PM | | Friend of mine is single and not dating, her reasoning is it's stressfull, ya know waiting for that phone call, *does* he like - *does* he not..... ah the joys of singlehood hey? | |
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B.Ann
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Joined: 5/23/2006
Msg: 558 | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/17/2007 3:46:13 PM | Reason for not dating?
I kind of like my freedom. Last guy I dated, he wanted to hang out for about 8 hrs every Saturday. When I took a few weekends off for things like my dad being in the hospital, he didn't like it.
Since I'm probably going to be single the rest of my life, I may as well enjoy the half-full glass! | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/26/2007 1:18:15 PM | Well I have had a simular problem. On many occasions I like to IM and just have a friendly chit chat. Very Very Very Seldon does anyone ever reply. And I have sent messages with a friendly hello as well.
I think for the most part people on this site are jaded and really just dont want to be bothered unless you are truely special. I belong to other sites and have lots of chat friends, some women some men. So your not alone.
Sincerely,
Joe | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/26/2007 8:55:36 PM | | k...well i would love to know the ages of the people surveyed and i would guess.....they are strong-willed people in there 30's or 50's who didn't settle for anything less than they were looking for.....most people get trapped in marriage at a very young age....if you're one of the lucky ones who didn't...well, you have a chance at true happiness..... | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/26/2007 10:26:46 PM | Not funny moron. I AM a three-time brain cancer survivor now, almost 6 months post-chemo. Why don't you go to your local hospital and ask for an oversized Temodar pill? Maybe sex with that will make you feel better? You'll be helping both of your brains.  | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/26/2007 11:03:20 PM | Im working a lot right now and just moved to a new town. Unfortunately when I finally get done with my larger workload i go right into a rotating shift work (shift between first, second, and third shifts) which doesnt lend itself to the dating life either! Man sometimes getting a good job is a curse isnt it?  | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/27/2007 10:25:57 PM |
Of people who are single, and are looking for a relationship, about 50% of them go on less than 4 dates per year. Doesn't sound like a great action plan to me. How about some feedback from our faithful P.O.F. members...
Maybe you should concentrate on quality as opposed to quantity.
As for single and not dating, sometimes you need time off to rejeuvenate your spirit. I just ended a LONG break in dating. I had stopped because I was just too tired of the constant games, politics and BS. One straw in particular broke the camel's back, and I was just too angry to deal with anyone at all. I no longer had the giving spirit or compassion necessary for a relationship.
If you put aside your feelings and refuse to "honor your anger" then you just end up being bitter and unbalanced and it completely affects your ability to evaluate people and relationships. You're really not doing anyone (yourself included) any favors by getting back in the game before you are ready.
It is only when you take time to process your feelings fully, evaluate where you have been in terms of relationships - including what you did right and wrong, and where you want to be, you are emotionally ready to date again. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/27/2007 11:57:39 PM | | For me, it's just to much work. I have to work to make money and I certainly don't want to have to pile the work required of dating on top of that. I prefer to keep my life simple and uncomplicated. I am comfortable with my own company and although I am alone I am not lonely. (I love these year old threads.) | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/28/2007 7:36:34 AM | I have pretty much stopped dating because the men in this area seem to only want friends with benefits, or they are married. Either way, those are things I won't have any part of.
The other one is men with kids - alot of them say they don't want to date openly until the kids get out of high school. I know several women that have run into this and I have had this experience twice in the last year or so. Thank goodness I found out in the first date or two.
I DO understand being selective about bringing new people around the kids, but that is a new one on me.
Maybe this is another way of trying to sneak in the FWB thing. It doesn't work, but it is SO dishonest. Shows VERY bad character IMHO.
All I can say is that I hope this trend goes away QUICKLY ...... If it becomes the norm, then I probably won't be dating in the foreseeable future .. 
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/28/2007 7:49:19 AM | Quality over quantity. I don't want to go out on dates just for the sake of it. I want it to be because both myself and the guy are interested in each other.
If you want to talk numbers....I'd guess that 49% of the guys out there arent interested in me...and 49% of the guys out there arent my type.....so I wait for the rare 2% that come along when we are both interested in each other! | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/28/2007 7:52:42 AM | | People will never admit they are single because they are selfish, self obsessed, looking for perfection and too focused on $....so they make up other reasons why they are not dating. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/28/2007 8:05:03 AM | To days Women dont know what to do with a man who wants to love them, Somewone who opens doors, takes there coat, the woman is always first, bring them flowers when you pick them up, And give them a nice gift for there birthday Like a car. "LOL" you know what I meen. Three years I have been single and it is all over being nice, WOW who would thought and sex is not my first thought. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/28/2007 9:21:24 AM | Yes Turbo I know what you mean. I got to the un-nice guy part a few years ago. Bottom line though I am still nice as long as I am allowed to be without be stepped on. But I have a lot of foot prints down my backside.
A number of years ago I dated a nice looking gal for many months. She had a nice face and figure, good job, nice home, etc. We seemed to hit it off great. I don't think I was deluding myself. Then the fall holidays rolled around - she says nothing to me as to what our plans could be. Then in late October, I asked about Thanksgiving and Christmas - she announces that she'll be off to Kansas for both to celebrate with family. No invitation for me - not even for one of the holidays - nothing. She didn't blink an eye - never seemed to notice the effect it had on me - no concern shown what so ever. It was as if I was just an acquaintance - someone from work. I spent a little time with her between holidays and then went looking.
I found a really nice new gal - younger very tall blond. My 'girlfriend' returned near New Years Eve and found me dancing with the new blond at a local dance club. SHE WAS SHOCKED and stormed off - never dated again. Whew! Go figure on that.
This is one of the reasons that being a full time Nice Guy got lost with me. I am still very considerate with women - but I don't over do it - I date very little - and I am VERY WARY of women's actions. I pay a lot closer attention and put up with very little guff. It is called Prove It - don't promise it.
Single and not dating - not much anyway. Then there is this strange interpretation of what communications is that women bandy about these days. I'll save that for another time.
Single and not dating - sure - there is only so much self-centered list making women a guy can take.
Joe | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/28/2007 3:25:32 PM | Im very particular in what I find attractive in a woman
as such in 3.5 years I have met in person ( at my local gym ) only 1 woman I was whole heartadly attracted too. It wasnt reciproctaed ( thats how it goes and is a fair thing )
so this is why I am dateless | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/29/2007 2:38:43 AM | Too much other stuff on my plate right now. Loads of uncertainty. Haven't met the man that's made me want to put forth the effort to rail against the machine........ At least, I haven't met one since the end of last year........ | |
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