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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/5/2008 1:40:00 AM | | why am i single? well as far as I know it's because I havent met the right person for me.yes it sounds like a typical cliche but it's true for me. I mean I've dated people, but we just werent a mutual fit, and i'm sure that there were times when I liked osmeone and thought they were right for me, but they didn't think feel the same. So as I said, I just havent met the right one where there is a mutual feeling and we both want to be with each other..so i'm just waiting for that to happen..other than that i can't think of anything else as to why i'm single..maybe it ha sto do with the fact that I work nights and i dont get to socialise a lot?..hmm..I dunno..but then again if i did go out a lot and meet people that is still no guarantee that I would meet the right perosn either, right?..so yeah I just think it's the fact that I haven't met the right person as yet.. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/5/2008 3:35:56 AM | Well I have to say that I 100% believe that the survey has to be correct.
MAIN REASONS for.....why I am single and don't date much? Here goes.....
1.) Almost all of my friends are married. So I really don't get out that often anymore to be able to meet anyone in person (In my opinion...it is not really good for a girl to hang out at places alone).
2.) I don't get asked out that often online (call me old fashioned, but I believe the guys should ask). I mean I have a ton of men that email me...and I respond to over half... but it always ends up that they just want to endlessly email or talk on the phone OR after one or two emails they just disappear...and then on a holiday...they might chime in again and say something like "hi....wanted to wish you a very happy....." (what's the point?) LOL. I believe if you are on a dating site it should be mainly to talk to people you would like to eventually date.....if you only want friendship.....then state that in your profile and make it clear in your first email.
3.) I get emailed by people that live too far away (in different states) and I really do not believe that long distance relationships over 50 miles away can really work..... (just my opinion and from my own past experience.. although there have been exceptions for others..I do know that...it is just not for me).
4.) I get hit on by guys online waaaaay older than me or waaaaay younger and I usually have nothing in common with them...although I have made one or two exceptions.
5.) The guys try to IM and then try to turn it into cyber or phone sex and that is all they seem to want over and over...this happens a lot! Pleeeaase guys.....
6.) I find that the few guys that I do end up meeting and liking are commitment shy bcs of the divorces they have been through and they don't really end up wanting anything "long term" but want to see me on a here and there basis...I even have a guy that still calls me to see him every now and then and I met him over a yr ago......
7.) MOST men I talk to lately (either in person or online) who do hit on me and ask me out I later find out either lied abt their age (meaning they are a LOT older and could be either my father or grandfather) or they say they are single or divorced and end up being MARRIED (not even separated)!
#7 has happened to me a LOT lately especially the guys who end up being married!!!
So...why am I single and not dating? Hmmmmm........GOSH...GO FIGURE? | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/5/2008 1:08:04 PM | nah fun aside . a date it has been a while . maby because it the lack of time or that I am not able to plan anything ahead right now . never the less Im looking, thats for sure . Mabe 1 day I will find a guy that can handle my situation, until then ,I wait , see , make the best of it and go fishing lol | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/5/2008 1:09:09 PM | Somebody resurrected this thread after a year in hibernation?? Well here it is 2 years after I initially posted it. Still single, not dating for anything more than a dinner or movie date, and I don't see it changing anytime soon. "Never say never", but I think I'm too busy (either by accident or by choice) to even attempt to get involved with someone . . . I'll check back in again in another 2 years and let you know how things are going!   | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/5/2008 3:42:26 PM | 1. Got to get out more.
2. Say yes every now and then and take the shocks with the surprizes.
3. Don't say no to all the teenagers who want to meet a mature woman for friendship no I am so kidding on number three, its not going to happen boys. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/5/2008 3:44:23 PM |
but I think I'm too busy (either by accident or by choice) to even attempt to get involved with someone
When you are not meeting people to date, you get busy with life and your friends and don't sit around waiting for him or her to "contact" you. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/7/2008 3:23:42 AM | This question made me rather reflective. Personally, I think I just allowed myself to slip under the radar. I can't speak for all single parents, but I wonder if anyone else has a similar "excuse" (lol).
Career, child rearing, home ownership (fixer upper), aging parents (and losing a parent) became priority. You try to carry the responsibility of living and when you find the "playtime" in your life it revolves around family. You're just not "looking", it may not even be a conscious decision; there are just limitations, time is precious. Well, that's my excuse! Of course now, my life has evolved, the kids are growing up (no quite reaching adulthood, but I can see the light at the end of the tunnel), the career has been established, reality has set in that the house will always need one more repair, I experienced the sorrow (this may sound strange..the sorrow and "yes", the joy) of being able to be with my Dad as he fought and lost the battle with cancer. And now..now, I am "looking" (open to dating, companionship, and hopefully love) as I enter a new phase of my life.
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/7/2008 4:19:44 AM | | I haven't dated in over a year, I have been asked out by many men, but just don't seem to have any intrest in the ones who have asked me out. I have grown use to being by myself and really it is not bad. And I have noticed that after being by your self for a long time the harder it is to allow someone else into your life. But that is not to say that If the right man came along I wouldn't want to date him. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/7/2008 10:30:02 PM | | Because I don't know how to make it work. Until I learn some things about myself, about others, about the process and how to adapt it to my own quirks, any sort of direct approach is a waste. I don't think the outlook is hopeless but the time is not now. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/8/2008 5:59:05 AM | Great question. My reason is that I just don't know anyone right now who is single/divorced/widowed, available, and interested in going out with me. I'd love it if I could indeed meet someone, but right now it's just not happening. No other reason -- I'm definitely available, and would love to go out on a date. Again, I just don't know anyone else who IS available at this point in time. Hate to admit it, but I'm honestly not sure if it will ever happen. Darn this age factor, anyway... | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/8/2008 6:54:07 AM | My reasons:
*Been hurt too many times
*Sick of the games
*Tired of putting in all the effort and giving it my all without any reward
*Can't find anyone that DESERVES me
*Won't settle
Every now and then, after dealing with all the BS, one just needs a break from the whole dating world. One can only put up with so much crap at a time. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/8/2008 9:13:34 AM | I Believe that someone really needs to get their act together on their own before they go out and seek other people. You'll never find what you need in another person before you find what you need in yourself. When you find that your life is manageable, and what you really need is a partner, thats when you start dating.
Never pivot your full happiness on having someone else, pivot your happiness on yourself. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/8/2008 8:03:29 PM | Lack of confidence. When I find myself in conversation with someone I'm attracted to (rare to begin with, I'm shy), I honestly have a hard time believing I can make it work. And you know how it is - your focus determines your reality.
Maybe quoting Star Wars isn't helping either.  | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/8/2008 8:23:06 PM | | I'm open to meeting new people. But I realize that in order to avoid some of the patterns I've observed in previous relationships there are few internal wounds I need to heal first. Most of us are looking for love to complete us, but fail to see how no one can ever measure up to that standard. It is up to us to complete ourselves and then share the best we have to offer.. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/9/2008 11:22:13 AM | I hear the same complaints from all the girls I talked to..
But ftbalfan.. .I have dated older women for one good reason... That I felt that they know more about "reality" than some young girls who are looking for the "perfect partner" MOST of them don't know the meaning of "give and take".. Its always take for them...
Please don't ingnore some of those nice young guys!! But i have to agree 10+ difference is way too much.... | |
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