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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 9/22/2008 4:11:21 AM | For me its about the demands I put on myself right now...I've been on POF for about a year now.
I've done a lot of self-reflection over this past year and came to the conclusion that it would take a very very special gentleman to turn my head enough to give me good reason to put most of my energies into developing a relationship and away from what I am focused on right now.
I started out with my profile stating as looking for Friends. Along the way I've changed it to Dating, then Long Term and now it's back to Friends.
Not saying he's not out there or that I'm not keeping my eyes open. It's just not first and foremost on my mind.
So, with a mental and emotional attitude like that I would be setting both of us up to fail in the dating department. I'm not into voluntary failure.
Besides, sometimes the hardest thing to find becomes easiest when you quit looking for it. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 9/22/2008 5:40:17 AM | Some great responses here, and very entertaining (to say the least!)
Boy, I'm not sure why I am not currently dating. It's getting close to two years since I did go out on a date -- in that instance, I went out with the man twice and really did like him, and it seemed as if things were going well. At the end of the second date, he said that infamous line -- "I'll call you." And then, poof (as in gone and disappeared, NOT anything else...!) Never heard from him again.
And that, ladies and gents, was the last time thus far that anyone has asked me out. I don't currently know any man in real life who is single, available, and might be interested (as well as me being interested in him.) It is indeed a bit frustrating because I would love to date, and just see what happens. I also have to be careful because if I think about this situation too much, I begin to feel panicked. Not attractive, and not cool.
So again, I'm not quite sure why I'm in this situation...! | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 9/22/2008 5:58:54 AM | | For the longest time I wanted to date, even believed in love at first site and tried to find the greater good in everybody. I have not dated that many people which could be seen as bad for a 27 year old, however all my relationships were long term ranging from 8 months to 4 years. I also tend to have a habit of staying single for the longest time at least a year after I get out of a relationship. I believe it is important to deal with what happened face anything that might of been your fault and deal with how you feel or have changed because of things the other person might of said or done. That way when you do date again you have no baggage and can do it the right way. I also tend to find someone to old for me. I know being 27 I cannot afford to be to picky but I do have standards and I do not want someone old enough to be my dad and there always has to be attraction. And those close to my age I have been attracted to always just want sex or have girlfriends and still just want sex and I was raised better than that. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 9/22/2008 6:01:23 AM | | I also did get asked out to be his "girlfriend" he is a Marine. I said yes and he fell off the face of the planet. So I believe if it is meant to happen it will and if they really truely like me they will find a way to change my mind. But as of now I do not have any interest in dating period. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 9/22/2008 8:56:00 AM | Hi!
Let me give you my personal view!! I am an attractive 40 something lady here in Denver area! I do date, but i am particular obviously, and most of the really "good guys pool" are either married, or involved. The "single dating pool of men" are either lazy sometimes, either just want "sex" or non committal.., or i just haven't met the right guy for me, due to "timing off" or etc.!! I DO DATE, NOT A LOT CAUSE I AM
PARTICULAR..
It is difficult to meet quality guys 35 and older that are single and are really looking "for any kind of committment or work at a relationship it seems to me". Anything worth having takes a little bit of work "on a mans part", it does take "2 to Tango"..
I don't date randomly if no chemistry on MY part, it is a waste of time, and most guys don't just "want to be my friend", either !!
I do date, but i am particular as well so it seems a waste of my time unless i meet a really "awesome and available guy"..
Where are all the Cool, Nice, Hot guys in Denver?? I am here, still looking and hoping to meet a quality person i can have fun with and maybe more ??
(this is just my take on that).. lol.. take care..  Kimberly (in Denver) | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 9/22/2008 10:38:06 AM | Well damn
I'm kind of picky, I look for more than sexual appeal.
i look for people that are like me, like similar music, ya know?
I'm picky, what can i say, i look for people that are in shape, not huge or buff or fat or a few extra pounds, but Average, Athletic, or thin. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 9/22/2008 2:47:35 PM | As ironic as it may seem for me to be both single and not dating and on a dating site, I think it's because I'm holding out for Mr. Right, instead of Mr. Right Now. It's too often that it seems like men are only after one thing, so I guess I'm taking a passive approach so I can steer clear of it do avoid the drama. 
When it comes down to it though, it's hard for me to find a decent guy that I'd be willing to date, and have it fit into my busy work/school schedule. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 9/22/2008 6:25:22 PM | | I guess I am just too picky. Isn't that what everyone always says about us POFers. I do not email men on POF anymore. There are very few men on POF from the city where I live and noone is interested in getting to know someone who lives far away from them even though I would be willing to travel to meet someone great. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 9/22/2008 7:59:26 PM | I want to get myself back into shape. I can't truely love someone if I don't love myself. (Altho I have been doing a lot of that lately. BOB doesn't mind the extra lbs) Don't get me wrong-I love my personality & my wit, I just hate the fat ass that goes along with it.
I'm dieting and sometimes it makes me snappy. Why put someone else thru that?
I have a new job I am getting settled into, a new schedule, a new life down here. It's not fair to throw a new relationship into the mix.
Plus....I think there is a little unrealistic fantasy I have that he is going to find me whether I am actively dating or not.
[ding ding score one for late night half asleep posting that I will regret in the morning!!] | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 9/22/2008 10:03:16 PM | | I refuse to forget and most men can't handle the fact that I have something that needs to be taken care of and they feel threatened by it. Like I was told by one man- it's all about him and he can't share me with anything else...nor would he understand why this matters to me..and if they can't handle a part of my life at this moment then he won't be able to handle anything else that may require a little patience...so who needs the hassle from anyone that only thinks of themselves? Not me- that's for sure. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 9/22/2008 10:53:26 PM | Let's see tired of the following:
The lying liars
The Pretenders
The "It is all about Me's"
The Wa Wa Wa's aka (want want want) and not much give give give
I dont think this forum is big enough for all the reasons so Iwill stop right here. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 9/23/2008 11:43:41 AM | I'm a licensed lice rancher and am quite busy with the fall "crab drive" where the herd moves from beneath my hat to the warm, moist winter pasture! Can't disrupt their migration!
P.S. Next year, I am hoping to take avantage of the tax break when I have their habitat declared "wetland status."   | |
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