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melrah
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Joined: 12/20/2007
Msg: 702 | |
| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 10/3/2008 4:35:12 PM | I can't say that I haven't really tried. I have. I'm not a bad looking guy, 64 years old, a widower and a lawyer. I have been throught the mill, and look a little older than I am.
I've had 4 dates within the past month, all unsucessvile. Each of the ladies told me, after a cup of coffee that they weren't interested in me, that I wasn't their type. Quite franky I am not aware of what type I was supposed to be. Two of the ladies were my type but not theirs. So what am I to do now? | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 5/25/2009 5:56:50 AM | | That's a very good question. I'm with the lady who said, "I can count on one finger, or something like that, the good guys she's met" There are actually really good guys out there, but it isn't easy to meet one that turns your heart upside down and makes you want to spend the rest of your life, (or even ten minutes) with him. The last guy I met almost physically attacked me at the first meeting, there wasn't a second meeting. Gentlemen, some ladies want that I'm sure, but I don't think most of us do. The slow approach is best in my opinion. I'm old fashioned though so that isn't exactly popular these days. I want something far more lasting, far more meaningful. The sad thing is, the world has changed and people settle for so much less. Yes, I might end up single and lonely for the rest of my life, but the alternatives just don't interest me. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 5/25/2009 8:42:18 AM | | I was active on this site for a few years but I dropped out about 1.5 years ago, probably because it seemed more like a meat market than a meet market. Meeting men online was originally a godsend to me because it is difficult for me to meet men due to being a workaholic and slightly shy. But my experience here has been disappointing due to (what I perceive to be) a lack of sincerity here. I'm trying to force myself to do more things and to go out solo in the hopes of meeting someone in a more natural setting. I'm not dating due to circumstance, not due to preference. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 5/25/2009 8:42:40 AM | | Not many men of interest where I live, I am willing to date someone who lives several hours away, but most seem to want to meet a woman who lives 5 miles away and who will be available to them when they find it convenient. My appearance seems to not be appealing to many, as I am an average looking cute woman who has brunette short hair, a busty, plump body and am 5 feet tall. Top that off with the fact that I have opinions, have had the same job for more than 20 years, have not been married, and have a graduate degree...to quote one man I met "You are every thing that 99% of the men your age find totally unappealing- we like tall, thin, blondes with long hair who have been married at least once, who have children, who are not career women and who have passive/controlling personalities. " The 1% who are remaining seem to live on another planet. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 5/25/2009 10:22:53 AM | Well, I have had three bona fide dates in 5 years, so call me the loser LOL
Most of my setups have been meet and greets, for coffee or a quick stroll down the boardwalk.
Never got to a second date.
First one took me to the movie. We watched the 3rd Star Wars. He was one fine looking man, a bit younger than I, actually quite a bit...but damn , so hot. Anyway, couldn't resist his awesome smile and we were just beeming. Movie went great, didn't even dare grope me...and we got home, he asked if he could kiss me and that was it. Well, I won't share what I did after that, but we sure did like each other just fine physically. But hey, he was way too young...so it was a no go from minute 1 and neither of us was being serious. We had some fun a few times LOL. Most beautiful man I've ever had the privilege of sharing my body with.
Second one, I asked out. I asked him if he'd like to join me for a play at my school. We planned to go see it and then go for drinks and spend some time together. During the play he looked like he was going to fall asleep (it wasn't bad) and as we're driving to go for drinks (or so I thought, he starts to turn toward my home. Reluctantly, I asked him if we were still going for drinks...he said no, that he was tired and wanted to go home, so I asked him if we could go to the drive thru so that I could grab a coffee to take home...he agreed...as I enter the car to get my coffee, he takes off like a shot and I practically wore it! I didn't say a word but I was seething.
The idiot has the nerve to call me the next day and ask me if I had a nice time and if we could do it again. ??? WTF? I'm like, uh no...you were just strange...rather not. He says, "I guess I really screwed up huh?" Yeah...no shit Sherlock. Never did understand the guy. Weird.
The third..nice man, responsible--quiet...had a great time, he took me to a great restaurant, a movie, played pool...the whole treatment...but when it came to dropping me off, we both just went cold on each other. It just felt flat. We never touched base again.
So yeah, that's how busy I've been for the last 5 years LOL give or take a few events I won't share here.
And 4 a year is considered a bad thing? Pffft... | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 5/25/2009 11:39:41 AM | I'm working on it...Unfortunately I live in another country where I don't speak the language (well, speak it well enough to not look stupid) so meeting girls is a little difficult. Walking up to a girl in a bar and asking straight off if she speaks english just does not feel like a good opener to me. Maybe around 1 in 5 might actually speak english, if she says nein then either she really doesn't or she isn't interested.
Of course then there's the military girls...which 99% are:
a) already married
b) in a relationship already
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c) have major issues
Most single girls in the military have issues, which is a good reason why they are single.
The main problem with military girls is the fact that its a 10:1 ratio of guys to girls so they can afford to be VERY picky, for every guy they date there are 9 more that are lined up to get with them. Unless you got Brad Pitt looks with a Jim Carrey personality and/or money coming out the wazoo chances are you'll be passed up.
Someday I'll be back in the good ol US of A where I can be the one that's picky...women everywhere that love military guys. I can't wait! | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 5/25/2009 11:48:01 AM | | I'm not dating because i just haven't met anyone i feel i can really gel with. I'm not the kind of person who will get into a relationship with someone just for the sake of not dating. I'd rather wait for a really great guy to come along and just be single in the meanwhile. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 5/25/2009 5:17:30 PM | Partly because I am been busy with school these days, hoping to get a good career out of it. I've been on POF dates, probably less than 50%, lol. Online dating has been more successful for me than offline.
I don't expect to find the love of my life here, in the meantime. I'm trying to live my life the best that I can be. What's the rush of getting a ring and to the altar? There's no competition for it. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 5/25/2009 5:37:05 PM | I'm single and not dating, because I'm waiting for my best friend to realize he's really in love with me then we'll ride off into the sunset and live happily ever after.
It may be a very very long wait, but hey, I really dont care. I'm having fun while I wait !! | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 5/25/2009 5:47:17 PM | | To be single or not to be single I will go with single to tell the truth everyone wants to be with someone attractive and the funny thing is that who you find attractive does not find you the same way and vise versa so being single right now is pretty much because wanting to date a really hot chick may not happen in the near future! | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 5/25/2009 9:19:25 PM | | I find the dating game fun, but I'm just taking a break from the drama for a while and then I'l l put my heart back out there so some psycho b1tch can tear it to pieces, fun, fun fun. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 5/26/2009 4:38:47 AM | | I am not dating as I am a nurse and work decently long hours. I kind of dont want to either. Theres the money factor. Nowdays most guys expect us to pay, and most of the ones that pay want something in return. Id rather watch paint dry | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 5/26/2009 5:04:24 AM | As a single mom with close friendships and a sometime demanding job, it's a juggle in the beginning to carve out time for myself and meeting new people. With this economy, it's more important to work when it's available for many.
The sad thing is, the world has changed and people settle for so much less. Yes, I might end up single and lonely for the rest of my life, but the alternatives just don't interest me.
This, sadly, I've also found to be true in the 40 age range. Not that it was different 10 years ago, but it does seem more pronounced now that I know what does and doesn't work for me. But I know he's out there! :) | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 5/26/2009 8:19:54 PM | I think I tend to avoid dates because of the few I go on, there's usually a lot of awkwardness--I just want to meet the guy to see if our personalities mesh (and if he really looks/is the age he claims to be), but most every time, the guy's been so intent on me that I've been too nervous to enjoy myself--and therefore can't enjoy the guy. Ideally they'd be on the same page as me in 'hang out as friends first, dates later if we get along' but it never seems to work out that way. Sigh.
Or they turn out absolutely crazy. That's happened a couple of times. o.- | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 5/26/2009 9:00:16 PM | ... cuz I am still looking for someone who is dateable for ME 
... and no I don't date for the sake of dating. Being single is a choice, I would only feel miserable if I was to date just anyone as I am sure the void would then seem even bigger if I did.  | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 5/26/2009 9:01:38 PM | I met someone on POF and dated him for a while. Then his real personality surfaced. His profile claims that he is very much a church person but I found out otherwise. He seemed decent at first, but was into all kinds of sick crap. He would text me naked pics of himself while his child layed in the bed next to him. His idea of dating was watching TV and going to fast food places and the only conversation he was able to have was sexual in nature.
SO LADIES PLEASE BE CAREFUL OF THE GUYS THAT SAY THEY ARE INTO CHURCH!!!!!
AND YOU WONDER WHY PEOPLE GIVE UP ON THE DATING THING. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 5/26/2009 9:05:28 PM |
SO LADIES PLEASE BE CAREFUL OF THE GUYS THAT SAY THEY ARE INTO CHURCH!!!!!
So, because one guy said he was into church and turned out to be a jerk means you can extrapolate that to all men who say they are into church? | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 5/26/2009 9:17:37 PM | I have gone out with some nice men. None that seemed to be "the one" and that could go either direction.
For now I'd say it's due to the time I need to spend with getting my life in order. Sometimes it is just about us.... not another person.. I am a people person in general... but just because someone is nice doesn't make them dating material... altho sometimes the sampling wouldn't sound half bad... lol.. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 5/26/2009 10:40:31 PM | | I don't because I haven't met the right person and I don't want to settle... relationships take up alot of time and energy and money why go into a relationship for the sake of having one. Your time and energy is better spent on other things... | |
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