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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 9/24/2008 8:37:27 AM | I hibernate like a bear during the cold weather. The thought of being out with someone I barely know (on a cold night), making small talk, and getting judged on what I wear and how I answer questions makes me cringe.....i'd rather spend the night in close to the heater with a pizza and a dvd.
Another reason is the current state of dating......everyone seems to be so confused, shallow, superficial, not being themselves out of fear of breaking a 'dating rule' or appearing needy, always on the look out for something better......the list goes on and on. I simply don't have the energy to play these games right now so I'd rather wait and hope that someone different comes along. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 9/24/2008 8:53:18 AM | When I was single, it was usually due to the following reasons.
1. Didn't have the time, energy, or money.
2. Didn't find a man that I was compatible with and at least somewhat attracted to. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 9/24/2008 9:11:56 AM | living outside a fairly small town is one reason. The other would be the women situation is very small around here. I don't cruise the bars at night.
Most everyone I meet on a dating site lives some distance from here. And I would have to say I am very picky who I ask out. I know someone will come along one of these days.... | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 9/24/2008 2:44:25 PM | Why I am not dating.....
I have young children at home and do not want them to feel like I am not there for them.
I am self employed and running my own business which takes up alot of time.
I am tired of being let down and figure if I am let down, I am the only one to blame. | |
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zeeba
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Joined: 8/31/2008
Msg: 683 | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 9/25/2008 5:31:33 AM | I've dated once in last 10 years. That lasted 3 months. Just no chemistry. We are still friends though. I did take a pause from even trying for about 6 years. I was focused on raising my son. Sometimes I regret having done that. 10 years ago I was younger and might would have found someone easier. I am also a bit picky. A lot of women I email or see appear to be very picky about me too.
But I am a strong believer that attraction does count. So if a woman doesn't find me good looking, I don't want her to date me. Your eyes see the person your with every day, one should be satisfied with the person they end up with. Not constantly wishing they were different.
A person must find someone they can be with and love for who they are. So I guess I am doomed to dating very few women in my future as well. And when I was really young from age 16 until I got married at 23. I only dated 2 women. And somehow both of them weren't worth a darn. Think at that rate I'd at least find a decent one huh?
::grins:: Hey always good when you can smile about it. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 9/25/2008 5:41:57 AM | | I'm not dating because I have no idea how to reconcile how to meet people with the fact that I don't like being disturbed by others when I'm out and about and don't like being disturbed. Makes it difficult to set up a date when you never say 'hello' to anyone. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 9/25/2008 5:44:51 AM | no reason really,, just don't get out very often now a days, gas prices are so high
it just cost to much to go anywhere.
i have read a couple of posts on here, don't drag your past in when you are trying to
date someone, just use your past as a learning experience and watch out for the
warning sign's. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 9/28/2008 1:33:20 PM | | I just got dumped 2 months ago but I will probably be single for awhile cause I'm too nice. I usually have no trouble pulling guys in but I have a very hard time keeping them hooked and interested. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 9/28/2008 2:20:07 PM | Pfft!! I have a thousand reasons why I'm single and not dating but I'll only list a few..k?
-Don't expect me to maintain my lovely figure when your friggin stomach is so huge your thighs can't even close because of your stomach.
-Don't expect me to maintain my beautiful smile when your halitosis and rotting teeth are so bad a skunk would run for the hills.
-Don't expect me to work 40 hours a week and cook three meals a day when you can't even hold down a job (with all that "free time" you couldn't watch a few episodes of Emiril and pick up a few hints on cooking for me once in awhile, no????)
-Don't expect me to be proud when you and your buddies are goin' fishing for sport..just read my profile on that one and be prepared to leave the country at a moment's notice.
-Don't tell me your passion is the water, yet you can't even swim. You've pretty much tried my patience at that point.
And lastly, don't expect me to have sex with you when your toenails are so long that they're ripping up my 400 count Egyptian sheets..big turn off, dudes. Ya think you could pay a little more attention to your basic hygiene??
And those are just a few of the reasons that I prefer being single and don't even get me started on men that hate cats..oh, man.
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 9/28/2008 2:52:46 PM | ^^^Well, you'll certainly never get the chance to find that out, will ya Einstein?
Not sure of why the attack when I answered the question the OP asked..I don't think I directed my answer at you, but if it makes you feel superior to put me down then be my guest, honey...you poor thing. lol
On topic: There are many reasons why some of us choose to stay single..just look at the classic disrespectful post above me. That post was simply uncalled for and irrelevant to the topic at hand. I've had my fill of pathetic souls that simply want to spread their misery onto others like a disease..so sad, indeed.
Sans...but do have a nice day!!! | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 9/28/2008 3:00:13 PM | Right now I'm working on getting my stuff together. I'm going to school, work, I'm making the effort to eat better and work out more, so I'm not actively looking for someone to date. However, if someone interesting comes along and asks me out then I'm not about to turn them down  | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 9/28/2008 4:27:29 PM | Msg 694^^^^and you obviously aren't "like that" my friend.
I was simply stating why I love being single and why I'm not dating...oohhh..I have more reasons. lol
-I love being single because most men hate cats. I have many, many of them. After I reached the ripe ole' age of 50 I started collecting cats like kids collect baseball cards. Don't ask me why, I just simpy can't answer that question but those cats are all over the damn place! lol....but I love each and every one of them dearly.
-I love being single because most guys can't shut the he!! up long enough about themselves in order to ask one question about you. You can die of a heart attack and go into rigormortis in the restaurant you met at, and the dude will still be going on and on about himself...geesh!! Shut up, already!! I'm dead, hellooooo???? lol
-I love being single because most guys are cheap as crap!! If you can't even buy me a water, then don't friggin' waste my time. God forbid they actually "ask you out" yet expect you to pay for the date. I've had quite enough of that, thank you very much.
-Oh yes..and don't come to my home, park your (usually portly) butt in front of my 55" television and think you're going to watch "the game" and I'm going to be serving you a heineken (or anything else, for that matter) during half-time. It will never, ever (did I say ever?) happen. I hate all sports unless it involves the water so you guys that love football, baseball, hocky, nascar or Dr. Phil are Sh*t outta luck with me. lol
I need to write a book. Oh my...wait!! I hear yet another lost, wayward kitten in the distance...yes, being single has so many advantages.
At least for me. *wink*
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zeeba
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Joined: 8/31/2008
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 9/29/2008 6:59:13 PM | Well, I posted a rather joking response earlier that nobody was asking...! But, I have to chime in again because of the more negative responses that are popping up here.
I like guys -- a lot. I enjoy the differences between men and women, and firmly believe we can learn so much from those very differences. While I do have my own home (and cat to go along with it!), I'm not about to say that's completely satisfying. I'm happy with my own life, family, and friends. And if fate does have in store for me that I'll be alone for the rest of my life (and never go out on another date), I can make that life a good one.
But, I can't come here to this thread and say some of the things that others have stated. No way. I fully realize that a lot of people have been through terrible experiences. So have I. In fact, I'm still getting over a situation that happened over a year ago (let's just say I really got fooled...) However, that hasn't turned me off all men or dating -- not in the least.
So, I keep on being the bait, doing some fishing, and see what is meant to happen -- and I feel confident that something good will indeed do so! | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 10/3/2008 4:19:42 PM | It's amazing, but over the last several years I've become less and less interested in getting involved. Maybe someone will come along to break me out of this lethargy, but to me, POF is nothing more than driving through a used-car lot. Plenty of nice looking previously-owned vehicles that are fun to look at, but have no interest in buying. Is it because of an accumulation of years of bad relationship experiences that has killed desire? Do I value my freedom and the escape from drama too much? I just don't know. And what's worse, I don't care.
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 10/3/2008 4:35:12 PM | I can't say that I haven't really tried. I have. I'm not a bad looking guy, 64 years old, a widower and a lawyer. I have been throught the mill, and look a little older than I am.
I've had 4 dates within the past month, all unsucessvile. Each of the ladies told me, after a cup of coffee that they weren't interested in me, that I wasn't their type. Quite franky I am not aware of what type I was supposed to be. Two of the ladies were my type but not theirs. So what am I to do now? | |
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