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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/23/2006 10:25:06 PM | I have a couple of reasons...
The biggest one is that I have a really awkward schedule with my summer job and I get really focused on school during the year. Really it boils down to 'I don't get out much' and to be honest, I can be shy and meeting new people is not fun for me.
The other reason is I can be a little picky. While what I want isn't Mr. perfect (like that exists!), there are a number of things that are really important to me (such as someone who's fairly intelligent- regardless of whether or not they have an education beyond high school)
For me it's not about how many dates I go on. I realize that's a good way to get to know someone, but I like to know enough to like them before I go out with them. For me that means it has to be someone I can ee myself being friends with, and unfortunately that often lands me in the just friends category long before a date happens. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/23/2006 10:43:56 PM | I haven't met anyone date worthy yet . At 29 a lot of my friends are married with kids , I work with a large majority of older females and although meeting new and fun people is something I'm good at , I just haven't found a guy to start to get to know / date yet.
you can go out on a million crappy first dates - I'm looking for the first date that turns into more dates and hopefully something special.
wow I turn into a little Idealistic pumpkin at 2am!
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 8/9/2006 3:40:01 PM | It is not that we are not dating, but successful dating is difficult; that is, if you define successful dating as dating that develops into a long-term relationship. I think the reason is that both men and women, especially young women have unrealistic expectations. They expect to win who they can't have except for sexual fling.
When is comes to sex, typically women go up and men go down. That is, a nine man will glady have a sexual fling with a seven woman. Let say you are dating a young woman and you are well matched because you are both sevens. All is dandy until she meets and dumps you for some nine male that just wants her for a sexual fling. Now she knows that he has dumped every other girl, but she's IN LOVE. "He will be different with me." As expected, after a short time, he dumps for another conquest. Nevertheless, it is not long before she is rejecting another suitable seven guy to have sexual fling with another nine and telling herself, "This one will be different." Afterwards, even if she wanted to, she can't come back to me because I'm too offended over being dumped. Eventually, after a few years and her desirability is less, she learns and settles for a six when earlier she could have had a seven. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 8/9/2006 8:14:08 PM | I am single (have been for almost 2 years) and only just started dating again
The reason was, I had just come out of a very serious relationship (i was married) and wanted to take time and heal and put the "baggage" away before i started a new relationship.
I was one of those girls who always had a boyfriend, I think from the time I was 16, the longest i didn't have a boyfriend was maybe 3 or 4 weeks. I wanted time to get to know myself and learn about and fix some of those recurring issues that seemed to happen.
I am now in a place, where i am happy being me and even being alone. I have a new healthier attitude and ability to communicate. I am now ready to move on and share myself and my life with someone else! | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 8/9/2006 8:37:59 PM | | freedom to do what i want to do. dont have to call anyone and tell them where im going when ill be back or how much money im going to spend.going places i want to go, when i want to..sounds selfish but after 2 miserable marriages, i a little selfish is ok. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 8/9/2006 9:53:28 PM | Sometimes I just get to the point.....usually after months of bad first dates......where
I can't take it anymore!!! I have to take a break......I've been on a break for
about 8 months now......I think it clears my mind and changes my attitude so I'm
more open to finding the "right" woman.
I must be about ready.....cuz that sounded real sappy! | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 8/9/2006 10:20:55 PM | "1) the girl i ask tells me she wants to stay single, yet goes out with the next guy who asks, who also happens to be more attractive.
2) I do get a date with a girl, but she tells me she just wants to be friends
3) I get a date with a girl, and things good great, call her up, and she tells me she just started to date someone yesterday, when OUR date was the day before that!
4) I get told that she cant see herself dating me, because she cant see herself Fukking me!
5) I am too NICE!!!!!
6) I am too much like one of her Ex's
7) Because I was in the Marines
8) I dont do drugs and get piss azz drunk every nite
9) I am just not her type
10) she is too busy with work or school, but finds time when someone more attractive comes along"
Funny, I get the same lame excuses on this end. Perhaps I should forego dating and just get that Chia Pet I always wanted; simpler | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 8/9/2006 10:24:30 PM | I'm disheartened by the fact that a lot of guys are having a lot of trouble letting go of their past. I have been on a date with 3 guys in the past 6 months and everyone of them has waffled on about their ex. I'm not keen on another date cause i'm just sick and tired of hearing it.....Geez we have all been there, why can't people move forward?
The other problem for me is of course distance, as i don't own a boat, nor a jet plane so wo is me.  | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 8/10/2006 8:25:14 AM | Several reasons really,
1. I really don't have the time or energy to make the effort
2. I constantly meet men who want my life to revolve around them.
3. I usually meet men AFTER some horrible woman has stomped all over their heart and I end up paying for it.
4. Those who are interested in me are usually NOT the same as those I'm interested in.
5. I met ONE person recently who I would have dated and he's currently a basket case.
6. I have kids so men always assume that I"m looking for a father for my kids. I'm not even CLOSE to looking that far ahead. | |
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Cherrr
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Joined: 7/15/2006
Msg: 90 | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 8/10/2006 8:44:05 AM |
avenger_a12 on 8/9/2006 10  55 PM "1) the girl i ask tells me she wants to stay single, yet goes out with the next guy who asks, who also happens to be more attractive. 2) I do get a date with a girl, but she tells me she just wants to be friends 3) I get a date with a girl, and things good great, call her up, and she tells me she just started to date someone yesterday, when OUR date was the day before that! 4) I get told that she cant see herself dating me, because she cant see herself Fukking me! 5) I am too NICE!!!!! 6) I am too much like one of her Ex's 7) Because I was in the Marines 8) I dont do drugs and get piss azz drunk every nite 9) I am just not her type 10) she is too busy with work or school, but finds time when someone more attractive comes along" Funny, I get the same lame excuses on this end. Perhaps I should forego dating and just get that Chia Pet I always wanted; simpler.
LOL Well I have gotten some of those. Seems like when I meet a woman, she turns the relationship into some kind of friendship and then promptly goes out with the next guy who comes along. They never give me a chance..of course they go on about how nice I am and what a good friend I am, and etc etc, ad nauseum... But they never give me a chance. Yeah and the ones who are so busy they dan't date, but when some guy who has GQ looks, a new car (or Harley), a good high paying job, and nice house sure can make her take the time.
Women seem to be so shallow. They never give anyone who might be marginal in looks a chance. I have dated women who many would consider not good looking, and thought they were very attractive. I do not go by looks unless they are VERY "Appearance Challenged" because heaven knows I am no Brat Pitt... So I give any woman who might want to date me a chance... Unlike most women, I do not and will not turn anyone down as dating material, unless there is a very good reason (like the woman on crack I mentioned above)...
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Dru
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Joined: 12/17/2005
Msg: 93 | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 8/10/2006 9:17:34 AM | | You hit on the button for me. Ive been single for 3 years and only on a couple dates. I just didnt want to date and being single has taught me so much about myself. I feel GOOD and thought I would see how this site is and whatever happens, happens. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 8/10/2006 9:29:18 AM | | I am recovering. I was in a long, long, too long relationship and I think part of me got lost somewhere between WE and I . So I have to find myself again. I want to do it right this time. Time, that's another factor. Does anyone have extra 2 h a day I can buy from? I believe the right person will come in time, so I am not too worried about it. I guess the reason, why I haven't dated a lot is that I need to get my life sorted out and figure out my set of evaluating criteria’s for what I want in life and for selecting the next Mr. Right. | |
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Dru
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Joined: 12/17/2005
Msg: 98 | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 8/10/2006 10:49:18 AM | Angelab - you should seriously think about moving somewhere else.. 
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I'm not dating because I don't want to. :) I hang out with friends if I want to go out to town at the weekend. For now I'm waiting for my time to date.. it will come.. 
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