| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 8/10/2006 10:55:48 AM | | Well I am single and prefer not to approach commitment because of what expectations a lot of women have these days. The true morals of love and commitment are pretty much well out the door in today’s society. I would rather have friends with benefits. I don’t have to be someone I am not that way. I can freely be myself without being judged on a relationship view. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 8/10/2006 10:58:19 AM | I honestly don't know. Maybe, I'm just weird.
I think its a mix of many different reasons.
1. I feel like I should be dating, but from inside I don't want to.
2. I don't meet anyone I like. And even if I do, I don't take the initiative.
3. I feel I'm not ready to date.
4. I don't trust people easily esp not men.
5. I guess I'm veryyyyyyyyyy uptight.
6. I go to a college where there are only women.
7. I don't like it when guys hit on me in public.
8. Whenever I fall for someone, he is either someone out of state
or out of the country.
9. I think I'll only date if someone really forces me to.
10. I don't want to do the one night stand thing and I don't
want to commit either.
11. I am shy and quiet most of the time.
I'm sure there are so many other reasons I'm not aware of.
And I'm on a dating site......
Hell....I'm screwed, aren't I? Yea, I'm weird.  | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 8/10/2006 11:00:38 AM | First time on here...so bear with me!
Read with interest all the comments,my own reason is purely as I don't get asked and haven't got the confidence to do the asking!!Pathetic really eh?
on the plus side being single for so long has turned me back into 'me' so hooray for that!! | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 8/10/2006 11:03:12 AM | 4. I don't trust people easily esp not men.
Sadly this is how most women perceive men in society and than wonder why there are so many males bitter in return. I don’t blame the person who said this or women as a whole, feminism has made women be this way. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 8/10/2006 11:11:18 AM | I LOVE this question.....and because I simply love the absurd (or is that reality), I was going to make this my next profile. I only received a handful of responses from the current one. It was accurate, straight to the point, sincere, and well....me....and aside from the very few women who have said hello, and been nice, some of whom I've had a chance to meet and get my sense of humor, but schedules have been somewhat awkard, there is a reality to this interenet dating thing that makes me shake my head.........SO.....here is my answer to the question......
Apparently Opposites really DO attract:
So with that theory squarely in mind....I'm going to be asking for the following:
- A woman who has written "Are there any good men left?", "Zest for life", "work hard and play hard" "tired of the bar scene", or "glass is half full" anywhere in her profile.
- A woman who believes God is spelled O-P-R-A-H
- A woman who thinks Desperate Housewives and Sex and the City are REALLY GREAT SHOWS
- A woman who gets her best love advice from her divorced or single girlfriends.
- A woman who's convinced her kids they really ARE the center of the universe.
- A woman who can totally outplate me at the Golden Corral buffet!
- A woman who's 'just so swamped' with a thousand other personals emails right now and too busy to answer mine.
- A woman who currently has books called "Are Men Necessary", "He's Just Not That Into You", "THE RULES", "The List", "How To Remodel a Man" or any of the sort currently in her library.
- A woman who actually spent more time reading those than simply asking ME.
- A woman who has a bumper sticker "All Men Are Idiots, and I Married The King" on her vehicle.
- A woman who says 'q.u.a.l.i.t.y. verses q.u.a.n.t.i.t.y.....but meant to spell p.e.r.f.e.c.t.
- A woman who absolutely believes that equal rights didn't include equal accountability.
- A woman who absolutely believes she is too above it all to possibly have to apply for the job as well.
- A woman who just says "I WANT a man to.." and never says "I can give a man...(insert qualities here) in return
- A woman who has had an ad on here, and five other sites too for TWO YEARS, receiving THOUSANDS of responses, and STILL somehow convinced that there just must be something wrong with "EVERYBODY ELSE".
- A woman who's best picture of herself includes a mysterious RIGHT EAR from somebody else - who now apparently answers to Van Gogh - and then says "NO HEAD GAMES" in her profile.
- A woman with a picture of herself and her slovenly drunken friends all holding up beers on 'Girls Just Wanna Have Sex....er Fun' night.
- A woman who hides behind the word 'chemistry'.
- A woman who says 'friends first' in her profile, because somebody already used the word 'chemistry'.
- A woman who's argumentative 'best friend....er...DAUGTHER' is going to be on the next video of "Girl's Gone Wild".... or worse...on CNN's next "Missing In Aruba" story.
- A woman who WATCHES Dr. Phil - but never really thinks he just MIGHT be talking to her.
- A woman who never quite grasped the concept of the word compromise.
- A woman who actually has DURACELL stock in her portfolio.
- A woman who actually tries to impress anybody by bragging ABOUT her portfolio.
- A woman who LOVES the movie 'Sleepless In Seattle', but wants the Empire State Building literally drug to her front door by Superman before she'll get off her duff and away from the computer to go to the top....
- An 'independent, self reliant career woman, also studying for her Ph.D, who belongs to every networking club on the planet, while simultaneously raising four 'lights of her life' who all have ADD, who is five foot two and needs a man five foot eleven or taller to make her feel 'secure' in his arms, who has convinced herself she knows what a 'quality relationship' really is.
- A woman JUST LIKE Paul McCartney's SECOND wife.
- A woman who would find everything I write here hysterically funny as long as I have a picture of Johnny Depp or Matthew McCaughnehey as my profile picture.
I've heard it said, "If you want to see God have a really good laugh, just tell him your plans". I figure if I pray for THESE qualities, he just might finally play the biggest joke yet on me......then again.......Be careful for what you ask for....you just might GET IT. | |
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| Guess my reason is kinda boring
Posted: 8/10/2006 11:24:52 AM | I simply have no idea how to date. Was married 16 years and never once looked at another woman...suddenly two years ago I was on my own with two kids. I guess you have to have been there to understand the feeling but it is so weird being with only one woman for the majority of your adult life then all of a sudden you have to think about being with someone else. Kinda intimidating as I am a pretty shy person. It is funny that lots of people I work with or friends look at me and think think I have this huge flock of woman chasing me But in any event my "how to" date skills have definitely diminished. Also, I have discovered that dating has changed tremendously now...someone mentioned above that people just kinda settle for a person until they meet another person they think is better...then they move on. People nowadays don't realize how a relationship "should" get better with time. Thus they are truly missing out on the best part of a relationship sometimes by given up or throwing in the towel for petty or no apparent reason. I did meet someone on here once that I did like a lot but somehow that did not work out. Well maybe I'll give it a try in 2007 or 2008 
Best of luck to all  | |
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| You have to connect for successful dating
Posted: 8/10/2006 11:29:47 AM | As for me, I am single now, have no financial problems, have no grudges against women because I was hurt in the past, well and fit, mentally stable (Sometimes), have a great sense of humour, dont think I`m handsome or anything special, but not bad looking either and the best of it is that I am living in Thailand where it is easier to get a wife than a good second hand car. No problem getting a date over here, yet I am not going serious with anyone?
OK, will try to explain.
It is because I looking for a girl that I can connect with. Cant stand girls with hang ups, ultra restrictive, having old grudges, not over one or other of their past relationships, extreme mistrusts, must nots and doubtfuls. I avoid victims and prefer winners, get involved with a loser, become a loser.
The perfect date is with one that you can feel a great trust with, warmth, excitment, happy, confident and a closeness. A partner that becomes your other half, your no1 to him/her.
This is my meaning of connect with.
If you are lucky enough to find him/her you are in for a great future.
Sorry but many of the profiles I have seen in here are real put offs, for the reasons I have mentioned above. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 8/10/2006 11:41:31 AM | | Well I am not dating because Well lol i work just about every day ( might get 1 day off ) and funky hours, might be working all night then sleep for a few hours and work all day, It not for lack of trying it just lack of connection with other people lol. ahh well someone might see this and say hey i work the same lets get together for a java !!! | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 8/10/2006 1:42:27 PM | | zeekafire's got a point -- dating is just another part of life that either we do a lot of, or maybe less of, depending on how much we want to (and of course, depending on the availability of someone TO date). There really doesn't have to be a reason (and maybe it's better if there isn't one). Sometimes, I'm real busy with my work (freelance, it comes in waves) and sometimes I'm just working on something that I have a real passion for and so I may not be as motivated to look for someone to go out with (plus I have friends who regularly drag me out of my cave to go out and have fun). | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 8/10/2006 7:01:09 PM | Why I am not dating?
I may have set my standards too high
She must be:
1. intelligent
2. equiped with a sense of humor
3. over 19 yrs old and under 35 yrs old
4. employed/be in school
5. registering a pulse
6. breathing
7. Speak english - or english as asecond language
8. accepting of people in the Army and not spit on them
Thats it...........oh wait one more.
She should look like Audrey Hepburn or Hilary Swank.
I think it may be # 5 and 6 stopping me from going after the girls that don't run away. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 8/10/2006 7:29:13 PM | well..
1. I do not look like a super model
2. I have been married for 15 years, just got divorced and do not know where to begin
3. Apparently people equate Christian with prude
4. Did I mention I am not a supermodel..apparently most men want someone with all the wonderful qualities I have only in a skinny package!  | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 8/11/2006 5:32:55 PM |
If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Maybe because I'm separated.....not single.
Sorry. Couldn't resist.
Seriously, I'm taking my time. I'm exploring something with a great young woman, but she lives out of state. In a way, I think it's great because we're forced to take our time.
Up until the point where I decided to explore this with her, I was not in a hurry because I decided that I wanted to do some casual dating. Basically, a series of first dates and no real premeditated plans for a second one. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 8/11/2006 6:17:04 PM | Hmm, I think for me is that I'm not quite over my ex yet. Even though I broke the relationship off I still think of her and her 2 kids. Her husband died about 8 years ago and I came into the relationship about 7 years ago. At the time when he died they were split up and he actually died at his new girlfriend's house. At first like all relationships we just casually dated and I just saw her kids once in a while. They ended up moving in with me. Well now her oldest which is a boy is now 21 years old and the daughter is 17 years old. The duaghter 2 1/2 years ago said she looks at me like I am her dad. I do feel like her dad because I want her to do well in life. My ex's son and I had a rocky relationship in the beginning. He was 13 when his dad died and didn't want anything to do with me. Even when we all moved in together. Both of them stole alot of personal stuff of mine. But I have fogiven them both. I miss them both and I miss the relationship I use to have with their mom. The relationship I had with my ex was over before I moved out of the house. I was going to move out of the house the Christmas before but didn't because I stayed for the sake of the kids. But eventually it just didn't work out anymore. So I had to leave. Basically I still am emotionally attached to all 3 of them and need to get over that. At this time I probably would get upset if I saw them around the city somewhere although we don't live in the same city anymore but we are close.
These are the reasons I don't want to date at this time. Starting off as E-mail/Talk is my start to a new me. I am actually going to my first POF function this Saturday night. I'm looking forward to it. I think I have been on this site for 3 weeks now and found it has brought me out of my shell somewhat. This is a great site. Eventually I will start dating again. So plz be careful of hurting me. Look at my picture. Don't you think I am a vulnerable person (LOL). | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 8/11/2006 7:18:11 PM | bologins....excellent post. Honesty with yourself is most important. I can't say that I was that honest so soon after my marriage failed. I told myself I was ready, but looking back, I know I wasn't.
Also, although you look to be a little bigger than I am, we're still all human.
Hang in there bud. It all works out. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 8/11/2006 7:25:13 PM | I'm not dating because that's not what I'm looking to do right now. I'm very focused on my nursing degree and my weightloss, have come along way and don't want to add possible stress to the equation with dating. I'm not saying stress is a definite when dating, but I don't like my time wasted so I feel obligated not to waste the time of others. I can't devote the time or the seriousness required right now, so why bother. In my opinion dating often leads to a more serious union and as I have much going on right now I'd rather not indulge. My future is looking very bright and I want to keep my eye on the prize.
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