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Women prefer ***holes
o.k. girls, bash me on this one, but it is true is'nt it? Think of all the jerks you have loved.
You are right to a point!!
However, personally I have grown out of that phase...that's more for girls who are still developing self-respect!! It takes a lot of failed relationships and ***holes to discover what you really want in a guy. I think women suffer from insecurity and the dilusion that we can change a man....it's in our nature. But a strong, confident, mature women know's better and get's tired of the drama. And if they don't then they are clueless and you don't want to bother with them anyways. | |
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go99
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Msg: 52 | |
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| Your so nice., Your so sweet. Your everything a girl wants. then why am I still single?
Posted: 7/25/2006 2:11:48 PM | Use correct spelling and grammar; how old are you anyway?
There's no need to tear someone down like that. He's asking a question, and you're not helping to answer it. Not all women are so repulsed by what you term "a needy wussy half woman". For one, the whole half-woman thing is inferring that there's something wrong with women, which is just bullshit. For another, there's nothing wrong with being sensitive, and it's kind of nice when a guy is. Believe it or not, the whole "macho man" thing gets really old really quick. Or then again, maybe that's because I'm just a "needy wussy woman with no spine".
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I am a great speller, Thank you
The Grammer, I apologize for not using proper punctuation!!!!!!!! Better Boo Hoo Hoo
And Macho Man getting old, no sister, I am sorry, the Meak shall not inherit the earth
And last, The man starts a whoa is me Pitty thread, he deserves some Harsh reality
Yes I could have made it sound much pretier, but then I would just be condonning his "wuss" lifestyle
People, from time to time, need a Shove in the right direction
Not a little line from a tree hugger telling them the world will be all right
And you want to know something lady
IT WONT
He Needs to make it better for himself, get out there, take a chance, Better Himself
NOT write some bull thread about " awwww, Your so Sweet "
Sorry for the delay in Clarifying The Meak for you, was a great long weekend for me | |
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| | Joined: 5/27/2006
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| Your so nice., Your so sweet. Your everything a girl wants. then why am I still single?
Posted: 7/25/2006 5:21:37 PM | | I would like to agree with you about not meeting the right one yet, but it has been years since I met anyone. I am quite busy raising my son and caring for my mom but I do make time occasionally to get out. It seems as if any woman I am attracted to is already married or taken, or in hiding from the past men that treated them poorly. I think you reach a point where your life changes along with your prioities and access to the opposite sex is reduced greatly. Couple all that together with loss of courage, and an acute opposition to rejection and you have the average male. I have written to many women on this site and most do not even return an email to tell you no thanks, even if you are the type they claim to be looking for. I am not God's gift to women but I know how to treat a lady and am realisic enough to know that any relationship takes hard work to be successful. I have to say I have lived the your too nice life for far too long, I just want to know what it is that women really want from a man, it seems that when we give it to you , you don't want it anymore or at least not from me. I think many are in the same situation as me, busy schedule, little interest in the bar scene anymore, that's why we are online. Anyone got an answer for me? | |
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| Your so nice., Your so sweet. Your everything a girl wants. then why am I still single?
Posted: 7/25/2006 9:59:03 PM | I think there is such thing as being too nice. And it is not just a guy thing, I have been told I am too nice.
When someone tells me this it means to me we are not going at the same speed (I personally take it as a sign to get the hell out of the relationship...but it does not always mean this)
I would suggest you slow down and get to know the person better before giving them too much (this can mean gifts, compliments, anything) make sure they are reciprocating at every step of the way. | |
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| Your so nice., Your so sweet. Your everything a girl wants. then why am I still single?
Posted: 7/27/2006 5:14:21 AM |
First, I don't think we've ever talked on msn.. ever. o_O If we did, it certianly wasn't me.. Note me the address I gave you to talk to me on, because I don't ever remember talking to you on MSN. Second, I'm never rude to anyone, including strangers.. It kind of worries me that you seem to think that we've talked on msn. .
I'd love to note you the address (as well as many other things  ) but as I live outside the US, I cant message you on POF.
Change your mail settings if you dare . | |
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| Your so nice., Your so sweet. Your everything a girl wants. then why am I still single?
Posted: 7/28/2006 10:53:25 AM | Look, has anyone considered that women say that to you when they feel you're nice but you don't stir up anything "down below". Being "nice" is easy I've seen total prats be "nice when they have to". Women are intuitive so they know this, they also hate to hurt mens' feelings, so instead of them telling you to get lost they say stuff like "you're nice". Notice how they say, you're everything "A" woman wants (i'e in a cliche or mills and boon) and not everything "I" want. You have to realise that just because you are nice to someone doesn't mean they're gonna throw you down on your fake leopard skin rug and rock your world.
My unsolicited advice to you and ppl like you: Treat women like human beings and not pets. Think about that statement carefully. Be yourselves, nobody likes a kiss-up, life is hard enough without some guy lodged half way up your colon. Treat them like you treat an equal, don't be an a-hole, they appreciate that, and get rid of your egos, trust me. Women are attracted to manly qualities, a-holes happen to have them more that so called "nice guys". (Older women just understand their feelings more and know what to look for, seperating the real men from the jerks, that's all.)
Other than that, become obscenely rich, or a rock star or go through some major bone restructuring surgery to look like Brad Pitt or Tom Cruise or something, that'll get you laid, or maybe you're too nice.... | |
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| Your so nice., Your so sweet. Your everything a girl wants. then why am I still single?
Posted: 7/31/2006 10:53:11 AM | "Believe me... I'm not picky, the first girl I ever made love to weighed more than me (by more than 50 pounds)..."
So what, you did her a favour? Comments like this are extremely insensitive, rude, and derogatory. Not all women are a size 4. That doesn't mean women with more cushion are worth less than those who are slimmer.
BTW, maybe women are saying these things to give you a polite brushoff because they don't want to hurt your feelings or don't have the guts to tell you the truth. | |
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| Your so nice., Your so sweet. Your everything a girl wants. then why am I still single?
Posted: 10/19/2006 9:34:09 PM | this answer is exactly right:
"You just haven't found the right girl, or she hasn't found you."
Thats a Bullsh*t cliche answer
because women are as bad or worse than men.
i keep hearing this, i find someone i like and i get this along with the nice guy speech: "i don't think of you that way," "you are too much like family/brother," etc. i had it again last night.
btw, i've been hearing this for years in diferent parts of the country where i've lived, so it is all over america.
i don't have the energy to put any more effort into this and most has already been sain in this forum i'm sure. | |
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| Your so nice., Your so sweet. Your everything a girl wants. then why am I still single?
Posted: 10/20/2006 9:23:54 AM | I would work on getting a better job and then doing things that I enjoy for myself. (Actually that's what I'm doing now). Until I can't take it anymore I'm done chasing women around, the onus is on them to prove their worth to me, not the other way around. That might sound egotistical, but its just getting tired of hitting one's head against a brick wall, plus the fact that I recently realized all the time and money I've spent chasing after women when I could have used that for paying off my student loans and bettering myself.
Of course that's liable to leave me single longer, but why settle? Personally it wouldn't bother me if a girl was fifty pounds heavier than me, although in my case that wouldn't be that big lol, but if it was a big turnoff, I'd wait for the person that satisfied. I don't buy this make me dizzy or soulmate stuff, but being with someone consciously thinking you're settling can't be good.
When you stop trying to put the round pegs into the square slots you begin to have less stress in your life :) | |
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| Your so nice., Your so sweet. Your everything a girl wants. then why am I still single?
Posted: 10/20/2006 11:22:57 AM | | You wonder why you are single? You tell women in your post that you are not picky? Way to make a girl feel special! You are coming off as desperate or a doormat or both. Check out that ladies who have you on their favs list. And an hour away isn't too far to go for love, unless you are lazy or have a child living at home. | |
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| Your so nice., Your so sweet. Your everything a girl wants. then why am I still single?
Posted: 10/21/2006 5:49:16 AM | You're a nice guy. I'm a nice guy. So here's the deal about women...
They need to feel needed. There's nothing wrong with you. That's why they're not interested in you. They go for guys who are immature, have insecurity problems, emotional problems, financial problems, health problems, etc. etc.
They love a challenge and always want to "figure the guy out". They want to see something wrong with you so that they can fix you to become the guy that you should be. However, because you're already a guy with no problems and already have all the values and standards that women are striving to engineer in you they see you as being "fixed".
So there you have it. I know the feeling exactly because I too have been told that I'm sweet, nice, and everything a girl wants. I've never had a girlfriend because of this.
Do you now understand why? You're single because you've got it together and you don't have emotional problems dragged out from some messed up broken family background. Therefore you don't need help. So therefore women will never be interested in you. | |
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| Your so nice., Your so sweet. Your everything a girl wants. then why am I still single?
Posted: 10/21/2006 12:17:39 PM | Well, for some reason when a guy feels like talking about his problems or bad luck, some of you go straight for an attack...people like you, suck. Just because you're on the internet, doesn't mean you have to be an ass, though I am sure some of you can't help it or know that offline, you would probably end up missing teeth.
Anyway, I only wanted to say that I know how the OP feels, and that while most(not all) women claim to want a nice guy, what they go for says otherwise. What makes a person weak, in my eyes anyway, is bending and twisting for everyone.
Being a nice guy isn't weak, and it isn't easy. Its easy to be an ***hole...just read most of the posts on this thread.
I like to do things for people I care about, and I will put out extra effort for them. Does that make me weak? No.
OP, if the women you have met don't like the fact you're nice, or don't want a relationship with you and run to guys that...well, aren't nice....do you honestly want to be with them? | |
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| Your so nice., Your so sweet. Your everything a girl wants. then why am I still single?
Posted: 10/21/2006 1:07:55 PM | Don't worry Andrew this will change soon enough.. In the end, I'll be marrying a "nice" guy. Before him I was with a jerk for years, in my younger and more naive years. I don't regret it though, because after him, I really appreciate the nice guy my fiance is, and I don't think I would be as great with him now if I didn't experience the a**hole first. Sad to say, but true. I don't like to admit that I had to make the mistakes first, but I did in order to have a successful relationship now.
One thing about many women is that they settle down eventually with the "nice" guys, but sometimes they just don't recognize the good ones from the bad ones before they've hit their head on a brick wall numerous times with a bad one first. I speak from experience about this one, and my situation is pretty typical. So hang in there Andrew, you will find someone sooner than later who will say to you "You're nice, you're sweet, you're everything a girl wants, and I'm so lucky to have you in my life!". | |
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| Your so nice., Your so sweet. Your everything a girl wants. then why am I still single?
Posted: 10/21/2006 1:27:17 PM | Women don't like doormats (AKA wusses); that fact has been well established on every "nice guy" thread ever started in these forums.
But I'm going to take it further; I'm going to say that women, contrary to what they claim, DO like A-holes. They just don't realize it because they want to BELIEVE that the guy(s) that they are interested in actually IS a great guy - even if he demonstrates repeatedly, through his actions, that he is not.
Here's an example. I have a friend (more like an uncle, as he is 20 years older than me) - we'll call him "Dick". He was married for about twenty years to a woman we'll call "Kara". They initially hooked up when they were in their late teens/early twenties. Right from the get-go,****cheated, verbally abused her, and even, on a few occasions, physically assaulted her. He also took off to England to spend a couple of months with an ex-girlfriend (whom he had been with prior to Kara.) Upon his return to eastern Canada, Kara was back on his doorstep right away. He told her he was moving to British Columbia; she ended up following him out there. They eventually got married, had two kids, and settled into what was, on the surface, regular married life. But their marriage was never that strong. He messed around on her on a few occasions...none that she ever found out about, although I am sure she suspected at times (he had a policy: he got to take one week's worth of holidays completely alone each year during the course of their marriage.)
After****and family went online, a shaky foundation started to crumble at an exponential pace. He quickly became adept at surfing the web, eventually discovering chat rooms. Having a way with words, he developed Internet relationships with several women - and to his credit, he always informed them that he was married - many of whom wanted to meet him. He held off until about four months before his actual seperation (in early 2003, if memory sereves correctly) from Kara. She had been aware for years that he had been chatting none-too-innocently with several women (taking a "they may have you online, but I have you in real life" stance), but even when he actually went out and screwed around on her, and she found out and confronted him, she STILL wanted to make things work (even though he gave her no guarantees that it wouldn't happen again.)
To his credit,****could no longer carry on the charade. Even though his goal had been to stick it out until their youngest son finished high school, he moved out about six months before graduation. In the years since, he has been with DOZENS of women. He chats them up, schmoozes with them, plays the game - AND THEY LOVE IT. Even though they are well aware that he is seeing other women, even though he tells them, REPEATEDLY, not to fall in love with him, even though he is a self-professed weekend alcoholic, these women still flock to him.
Why? Because, as loathe as they are to admit it, most women love drama. They love a challenge. They love trying to "fix" men. They want the guy that all the other women want. Call it biology or whatever, that's the way it is.
Note that I said most women. Not all women are like this; many would be gone at the first whiff of playerness. But in my experience, these women are the vast minority.
In the latest episode of****s life, a gal he had been seriously involved with (to the point where she had put her Ontario home up for sale and was prepared to leave her $100, 000 IT job to relocate to BC and be with him) was informed that he didn't feel like living with anyone again and basically wanted to remain single. I wouldn't exactly say he "played" her (there were several occasions prior to this where he told her he was unsure whether or not he wanted to get that serious), he certainly told her a lot of things he knew she wanted to hear during the course of their relationship. Like all the others, she was hoping against hope that she would be the one to "tame" him.
Since he split with her (via phone, sometime within the last two weeks) he has been with at least two other women.
Lest it seem that I am on here badmouthing a friend, let me say that that is not the point of this post. In fact, he has generally been pretty upfront and honest with all the women he has been involved with. The point is that all the indicators were that he was a player...a swinging bachelor...however you want to term it, and quite happy leading that life. In other words, not someone a woman should think of having a long-term, committed relationship with. Yet they all did. Meanwhile, how many non-smooth-talking, "regular" guys have been passed up by these women? | |
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