| Why Women Prefer Taller Men - The definitive answer
Posted: 8/4/2006 2:12:01 PM | coruja, i could get into a pissing contest with you, but i'll take the high road, golly gee i ain't got anything smart to say about your fixation about my spandex cycling clothes.
the outer beauty of a woman catches my eye, but it's the inner beauty, a lady's personality, that draws me to her. i'd like to hope that many ladies, for example verygreeneyez, can properly "size" up a man correctly.
coruja, you can be attracted to whoever you want for whatever reasons you want. me, sure i can view a woman as a sex object. but i've learned that the sex is better if you use your big head moreso than your small head. try that out sometime, dude.
i believe women who prefer tall guys want to appear small next to their men; in their mind they appear more feminine, i wouldn't call that necessarily an survival instinct, if that is what is needed for a lady to be happy, that's fine and dandy. | |
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| Why Women Prefer Taller Men - The definitive answer
Posted: 8/4/2006 2:27:26 PM | | From a natural selection standpoint, your post makes excellent sense. Simply put modern society is too recent to have more than a minimal effect on our subconscious. Regardless of what views we may otherwise believe and express, our behavior is mostly ruled by our subconscious. | |
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| Why Women Prefer Taller Men - The definitive answer
Posted: 8/4/2006 2:47:54 PM | bikeman. Dude! Fellow cyclist. Cycling brother. You've got to do something about that defensive streak. I AM A CYCLIST. I WEAR SPANDEX SHORTS!
Sorry for shouting there. I sincerely, cross my heart wish I had a photo of me in my shorts with my bike on my profile; since it's something I love. I'm applauding you there, guy! The whole world (well, that local to Vancouver) sees me in Spandex shorts on my commute to work most days. Let them mock - it's only jealousy. Just working a little wry humour in there buddy.
Let's keep this thread on topic though bro.
Though it's probably run its course. Cheers John. As you point out, since it ultimately comes down to belief, there's not a whole lot you can do to change peoples opinions of it. | |
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| Why Women Prefer Taller Men - The definitive answer
Posted: 8/4/2006 5:01:43 PM | No sweat coruja, I thought you were needling me. I've had idiots taunt me here about these profile pics (which are mostly to amuse and not necessarily impress); I got to calm down and let the water roll off my back.
Yeah something that rubs me wrong a bit is when people think they are not in control of their behavior. Or when someone's superficialty crosses into shallowness.
Apologies offered, coruja.
I'll chill out. Back to Plenty of Fishing . . .  | |
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| Why Women Prefer Taller Men - The definitive answer
Posted: 8/4/2006 8:37:59 PM | I have to agree with a lot in the first post. It's funny, because modern society often perpetuates the belief that socialization is the only factor that plays a role in deciding what we find attractive or favorable. i.e. Men only find models beautiful because we are taught from an early age that they are beautiful.
There is this ridiculous idea that if we started teaching that heavy-set, unattractive persons were the ideals of beauty that we would stop finding thin, gorgeous models as beautiful.
This doesn't make sense when viewed in an evolutionary framework.
Of course, one thing I find amusing is how eager women are to openly express how they prefer tall men, when other physical attributes are considered off limits.
I remember a co-worker who once told me in a rather condescending manner that she was a "height snob", and that she only dated tall men. She then said "Sorry." (I had not asked her out nor was I flirting with her. We were simply talking about what kind of people we were attracted to)
I told her that was no big deal as I only dated women with large breasts and a small butt. (she had neither!). She was quite taken aback, and said that I was rude and my comment was inappropriate. I told her I simply stated that we all have certain physical preferences that we find favorable, and she expressed one by revealing her attraction to tall men, and I expressed one by revealing my attraction to large breasted women with small butts.
She didn't see how the two were similar.
However, I have to ask. How many women on here who state in their profiles that they prefer tall men, would find it offensive or tasteless if a guy put in his profile that he preferred women with large breasts and a small butt.
After all, he would only be expressing a physical preference, just the same way a women does when she expresses preference for tall men! | |
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| Why Women Prefer Taller Men - The definitive answer
Posted: 8/4/2006 10:45:37 PM | | I have been following this thread with interest as I am one of those short dudes. My experience has been that I have a much better chance of getting a date when I meet someone face to face that I do on the internet. Face to face the gal has the opportunity to see me as a person, and somehow the height issue dimishes. My ex is 2 inches taller than me, and for the 19 years together height difference was never an issue. | |
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| Why Women Prefer Taller Men - The definitive answer
Posted: 8/4/2006 11:07:21 PM |
Back in the days when we dwelled in caves and dangerous animals roamed freely, not to mention other humans; a women needed protecting, and back then the best way of determining a man’s protection value is by how tall he is.
Bullets dont care how tall you are.
2) Gender Definition – Possibly the most important. This ties-in with point one, as biologically it was the male’s role to be the provider/protector.
I know some very tall and very broke individuals.
3) Social Status – Probably the most recently evolved of all three factors, and although it doesn’t carry as many points as the first two it’s still an important factor and can lead to deal-brakers. Humans much like our primate cousins are social creatures. We care what others think about us, we try to fit in
This one I just found retarded. I dont know what height has to do with social status. I guess Yao Ming will be president in 2007.
a) Men more often than not admit their preferences,
Ummm, yes we do. Big Tits, nice ass, shaved legs, clean poontang.
b) Men are much more flexible than women in this respect.,
No were not. As I said, big tits, nice ass, shaved legs, clean poontang.
c) Women can adjust their weight with diet and exercise;
Ummm.....I dont get this one.
d) Men are far more persecuted when they state their physical preferences
Umm, what was it again....Big tits, nice ass, shaved legs, clean poontang
Well the final mark is that you won’t see beautiful/sought after women with really short men (Don’t think short as in 5’7, think lower)
I doubt very much that Donald trump is good looking but he is tall so I guess as long as a guy has money and height, he can have a mop for a hairdo and still boink some of the prettiest women in the world.
The main three evolutionary reason for women wanting tall men might be traced back to long before Neanderthal times, either way the results are the same. Women are hard wired to go for men who are taller than them.
I do beleive early man or zinjanthropus was not erect. Before homo erectus how exactly did this theory fit in. Was the most sought after man the one who had the smallest crook in the back or the biggest billy club.
I appreciate your zeal and efforts but this article states the obvious. | |
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| Why Women Prefer Taller Men - The definitive answer
Posted: 8/5/2006 7:46:09 PM | from cdnquietguy:
My experience has been that I have a much better chance of getting a date when I meet someone face to face that I do on the internet. Face to face the gal has the opportunity to see me as a person, and somehow the height issue dimishes.
I agree very much with this. Online dating can be a bit of a superfiical meat market (and I'm just as guilty as everyone else on this!). Think how many times profiles get bypassed just because certain physical traits aren't favorable to us.
I'd be lying if I didn't admit that I've bypassed otherwise interesting profiles when I read the dreaded words "A Few Extra Pounds."
I've dated tall women in the past, but I've always met them in the real world.
I've found the odds of women taller than me responding to a message on this site so rare, that I've actually refined my search options to only show women 5'8 or below.
I figure why waste my time messaging someone who almost certainly won't be interested. | |
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| Why Women Prefer Taller Men - The definitive answer
Posted: 8/5/2006 8:12:29 PM | the OP is short. he should just get some lifts and stop whining. THAT is probably the reason he's having no luck.
my current boyfriend is 6'4" and the shortest guy i dated was about 5'9" or so. that's a pretty big difference. i did not fall in love with my boyfriend because he was tall. it was because he's caring, funny, understanding and attractive. if he was a foot shorter, i'd still be in love with him | |
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| Why Women Prefer Taller Men - The definitive answer
Posted: 8/5/2006 8:29:29 PM | I don't see why some people feel it necessary to dump on the guy who wrote the opening post.
What is so wrong with attempting to understand an interesting aspect of human attraction?
I found the OP very interesting, and it backs up a lot of things I've read myself about height and attraction (two good books to check out "The Red Queen" by Matt Ridley, and "Survival of the Prettiest" by Nancy Etcoff).
It's pretty narrow minded to just say "get some lifts and stop whining."
That would be right up there with telling a small breasted women "get a boob job and shut up." | |
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| Why Women Prefer Taller Men - The definitive answer
Posted: 8/5/2006 8:47:22 PM | I didn't read all the posts but..... I prefer to be with a man taller than myself because if I am taller than him, it makes me feel like the dominant one in the relationship..... and I guess I'm just old fashioned in my thinking when I say that I feel that the man should be the more dominant one.
So again.... it is a PREFERENCE ...... just like big boobs and all the other stuff guys like on women is......
JMHO
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| Why Women Prefer Taller Men - The definitive answer
Posted: 8/5/2006 9:55:02 PM | it's even more narrow minded to assume that if people disagree with his opinions, that he mistakenly calls fact, either didn't read or didn't undertsnd his post, or rather his manifesto.
he DOES need to get lifts and stop whining. it's stupid to waste so much thought and energy blaming others for what they don't like about him. he needs to learn to like himself first. whining and getting angry isn't going to make people like him. i guess you could say the same thing about women who obsess about their breasts as well. | |
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| Why Women Prefer Taller Men - The definitive answer
Posted: 8/5/2006 11:30:41 PM |
I remember a co-worker who once told me in a rather condescending manner that she was a "height snob", and that she only dated tall men. She then said "Sorry." (I had not asked her out nor was I flirting with her. We were simply talking about what kind of people we were attracted to)
I told her that was no big deal as I only dated women with large breasts and a small butt. (she had neither!). She was quite taken aback, and said that I was rude and my comment was inappropriate. I told her I simply stated that we all have certain physical preferences that we find favorable, and she expressed one by revealing her attraction to tall men, and I expressed one by revealing my attraction to large breasted women with small butts.
She didn't see how the two were similar.
Absolutely it is the same thing. If stating your preferences could be construed as being rude, she was even more rude by being the first to state her preference. She failed to understand and/or accept logic and fairness. However, it is not just her; it is an unreasonable attitude that is so common in our society. Most women and at least a large percentage of men believe it is okay to criticize and make derogatory statements about men; however, they become unglued when men make similar statements about women or even when their comments are returned tit for tat. | |
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| Why Women Prefer Taller Men - The definitive answer
Posted: 8/5/2006 11:49:28 PM | | Well said John.... Its that old double standard.... Things like that really piss me off... The thing is there are a lot of women out there that will slickly try to turn you down when youre not even really approaching them...... as sort of a pre-emptive strike......and in that case I think it is totally appropriate to turn it back around on them.... and go out of youre way to make them look outright silly... like they just did to you.... | |
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| Why Women Prefer Taller Men - The definitive answer
Posted: 8/6/2006 12:14:30 AM | i'm 5 9 and knocked out guys 6 ft and over in hockey because they are slow and stupid and beside the best looking guys have been shorter than 6 ft hands down,but people don't realize a study had been taken in france awhile ago that the better looking guys produce better babies than the tall idiot who has bad back problems in the end,come on ladies take care of your hubby now!!!more idiotic poundage to handle  | |
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| Why Women Prefer Taller Men - The definitive answer
Posted: 8/6/2006 1:36:27 AM | Height is one factor, but even more important is bilateral body symmetry.
Female animals, from scorpion flies to barn swallows, prefer males with high degrees of bilateral body symmetry, called developmental stability in the parlance of science. Males whose immune systems are strong develop high symmetry, so females who choose symmetrical suitors are securing good genes for their offspring. Typically, women will marry good providers; however, given the opportunity, when they are ovulating they have sneaky sex with tall guys with good symmetry. That is how natural selection works. It gives women both a good provider and superior children that are better able to pass on their genes. | |
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| Why Women Prefer Taller Men - The definitive answer
Posted: 8/6/2006 1:59:56 AM | I used to fret and b1tch about my height when I was young. Then, it occurred to me that what I can't change shouldn't bother me (5’7” isn’t THAT short after all). On the other hand, I was very skinny all my life (I am sure thin people will agree that gaining weight is just as hard as losing weight for overweight people). That did bother me because it was something that I could change. After six month of exercising, I am happy to report that I am a much happier and healthier person then ever before.
It doesn’t make any sense to worry about things that you can’t change (unless you are willing to break your legs to make it grow). Work on things you can change you will be a better person for it! | |
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| Why Women Prefer Taller Men - The definitive answer
Posted: 8/6/2006 2:27:03 AM |
It doesn’t make any sense to worry about things that you can’t change (unless you are willing to break your legs to make it grow).
I would hope no one is foolish enough to injure themself to gain additional height. Of course men several inches below normal height for the U.S. might consider moving any of a number of countries where the average height is less. | |
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Posted: 8/6/2006 2:54:59 AM | | being 6'7" i'd have to agree with the "summarize this shit" response. I didn't realize that women were more interested in us taller guys, i always thought it was a preference thing. NOT a geographical or gender thing. | |
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| Why Women Prefer Taller Men - The definitive answer
Posted: 8/6/2006 3:03:10 AM | | I prefer taller men but then i am 5'11 but my best mate however is 5'10 and she prefers shorter men... but to be completely honest for me its all about personality if i was to meet someone that was smaller than me but we got on reali well then it wouldnt be an issue!!!! | |
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| Why Women Prefer Taller Men - The definitive answer
Posted: 8/6/2006 6:54:21 AM | When I was a teenager not being tall (I'm 5'-8") I think was a disadvantage, but I got stronger.
I had a good friend that was a professional hunter and mountain guide and was as tough as they came, he was'nt scared of anybody and he was 2 inches shorted than me !
He was full of confindence and the women new it, He always had a goregous girlfriend that was taller than him.
What I do has made me larger and a lot stronger and I agree that women like that safe feeling when their with a guy.
Most of my serious relationships have been with taller women 5'-6" - 5'-8" and most of them have had tall husbands but they also tell me that those taller guys could'nt pick them up like I can, they liked that.
So for shorter guys there are ways to level the field with men over 6'
But I still can't picture myself with a woman a lot taller than me as I'm sure most women can't picture themselves with a guy a lot shorter than them, but that's ok. | |
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| Why Women Prefer Taller Men - The definitive answer
Posted: 8/6/2006 7:47:29 AM |
I used to fret and b1tch about my height when I was young. Then, it occurred to me that what I can't change shouldn't bother me (5’7” isn’t THAT short after all). On the other hand, I was very skinny all my life (I am sure thin people will agree that gaining weight is just as hard as losing weight for overweight people). That did bother me because it was something that I could change. After six month of exercising, I am happy to report that I am a much happier and healthier person then ever before.
It doesn’t make any sense to worry about things that you can’t change (unless you are willing to break your legs to make it grow). Work on things you can change you will be a better person for it!
this is one smart, well adjusted, non bitter guy!! ladies, i suggest you catch this fish IMMEDIATELY!!!!
personally, i'm only 5'6" and i'd love to be an inch or so taller, but i'm not going to waste my time hating women who are taller than me.
my ex is 5'10 and my dad is 5"10 as well. neither of them seem less than 6'0" to me. maybe it's just the way you carry yourself | |
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| Why Women Prefer Taller Men - The definitive answer
Posted: 8/6/2006 8:10:37 AM | Our preferences mostly come from instinct. As humans, we can fight instinct and choose things that PERSONALLY appeal to them. On occasion, a tall woman may like a shorter man and vice versa.
Women have a preference for taller men because of (read the original post.)
I don't think anyone actually read the opening post and the few that did are not comprehending it. | |
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| Why Women Prefer Taller Men - The definitive answer
Posted: 8/6/2006 9:05:42 AM | rollergrrl wrote:
it's even more narrow minded to assume that if people disagree with his opinions, that he mistakenly calls fact, either didn't read or didn't undertsnd his post, or rather his manifesto.
I agree that it probably would have been better to not include that little tag at the end of his post. It came across as somewhat condescending.
he DOES need to get lifts and stop whining. it's stupid to waste so much thought and energy blaming others for what they don't like about him. he needs to learn to like himself first. whining and getting angry isn't going to make people like him. i guess you could say the same thing about women who obsess about their breasts as well.
I don't think that the guy who wrote the OP is blaming others from what they don't like about him. He's simply attempting to understand one aspect of human attraction, and to articulate it to the rest of us.
Did you not find anything interesting about his article? Do you not think there are bits of truth in it?
It's easy to just dismiss him as an angry whiner, but in reality, I respect the fact that he is trying to understand the basis for height attraction. Some of us find that kind of thing fascinating and don't perceive it as the work of a "whiner." | |
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| Why Women Prefer Taller Men - The definitive answer
Posted: 8/6/2006 9:20:08 AM |
Absolutely it is the same thing. If stating your preferences could be construed as being rude, she was even more rude by being the first to state her preference. She failed to understand and/or accept logic and fairness. However, it is not just her; it is an unreasonable attitude that is so common in our society. Most women and at least a large percentage of men believe it is okay to criticize and make derogatory statements about men; however, they become unglued when men make similar statements about women or even when their comments are returned tit for tat.
So true.
I'd still like to hear some women's opinions on this. Especially from a women who states in her profile that she wants somebody tall.
Would she be offended or put off by a guy's profile that states a preference for women with large breasts and a small butt?
If so, how is this different from openly stating a preference for tall men? | |
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