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Posted: 7/23/2006 8:28:35 PM | inneowithgeo-
"""Wish I had a buck for every "Navy Seal" I have met"""" Me too!!!!
Anenigma, This guy seems just too fishy. You seem pretty smart- so please for your own sake, wake up and smell the coffee. It just kills me to see a smart, together woman get taken by a man like that!!!!!!!!!
He may have brought you to a gym, odds are that he doesn't know anyone at the gym, therefore no one can run back to his wife/GF and tell her that he was at the gym with another woman or he could say "I'm just training her", if indeed he is a trainer. If he's as big as you describe no doubt he has a lot of knowledge about working out,,,,that does not make him a PT though.
Military kit in his car???? Military pers do not keep that stuff in their car, my ex bf would never ever leave that stuff in his car, it's too attractive to thieves, and would be too embarassing to tell his boss that "Yeah, I left my kit in my car and it got stolen".
I have been single over two years now, and in my whole life I can not remember meeting anyone who does not have a home phone, except for two men who have tried to pick me up/ date me in the past couple of years.....
Not giving out a home phone number is a dead give away that he's attached.....
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Posted: 7/23/2006 11:04:34 PM | I'm sorry........ having not read entirely thru the thread, "Ranger" tab tattoo left arm= Qualified Ranger,... tabbed tattoo right arm, combat served as with "Ranger" unit. He's just got a tattoo, doesn't make it true or not true. What's the rush? on anything? If you got a doubt,.....(first thing that comes to mind,... that put the doubts there in the first place) wait on it till you know. No,...you don't want to be played. But nobody does. Betcha He doesn't either  So find out, and ask him, eye to eye.
But in the mean time,... You gotta gym membership, so enjoy the workouts meet new people and drop the stress off at the door, and have some fun.
Oh miss,... You gotta help,... hold my attache case, till I come back for it. YEAH RIGHT!!, SURE!!! ( Just triing to make a smile somewhere.) | |
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Posted: 7/24/2006 6:51:13 AM | He's a spook! The signs are there!
he's either a real spook - which is unlikely
he's a spook wannabe - more likely
he's pretending to be a spook so he can hide the fact that he's married - probably | |
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Posted: 7/24/2006 6:56:31 AM | OP
let me make this brief.
I am a vetern of online dating and met plenty of guys...
I want to share this simple truth with you.
NOT SURE= NOT THE RIGHT GUY FOR YOU.
learn to say NEXT and stop wasting your time !!!
You may never know what his deal is... and it may not even be
reasonable... so just say NEXT !!!
and find someone who doesnt confuse you.
Plenty of fish in the sea... and you should better care of
your emotional health... nobody is going to do it for you.
thats it in a nutshell......... good luck  | |
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Posted: 7/24/2006 7:18:29 AM | There seems to be lots of drama with this guy. I'll bet that you'll catch a story or two from him that won't add up. Wow, a guy with big arms and goes to the gym says he's in the military, guess what, he's probably got a line of women waiting for him. If you like injecting excess drama into your relationships, then go ahead explore a relationship with this dude, but my guess is his stories eventually won't add up and he will do the disappearing act again--he's probably doing "In and Out of Love" with the X.
Keep going to the gym, that's a great thing; if you require your men to have big arms and a strong chest, you'll likely to find most of them in there! Maybe some of them might actually be available and dateable. | |
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JWA
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Joined: 5/21/2005
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Posted: 7/24/2006 7:36:38 AM | What ever happened to the guy you were so into? He was a good kisser but was drunk after hanging out with his "buds" one day? Is this the same one or yet another in your long line of guys? Hard to keep up!!
Pretty soon you're going to pass even that multi-colored fishy here who says she'd dated OVER 200 guys before finding the right one!! LOL
You need to assign these guys names or numbers so we can all keep up Ma'am!!! | |
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Posted: 7/24/2006 11:57:32 AM | jwa..I can always count on you for a giggle!
The terrible kisser disappeared into the depths of drunkenness I think...I didn't hear from him again, after I cancelled a night out bowling cuz of my kids/babysitter thing...
And, an update.
This guy, the RANGER/gym rat...well I met up with him last night after work.
During which I posed a question to him to see if I could 'feel him out'
I asked him "What would you say if I told you I had a boyfriend"? and I asked him this thinking if he said "Cool, no problem" or be offended. Well, he was offended and then pissed that I was 'playing games' at which point I told him..."I'm not the one who's playing games"
and "You're the one who 'has no phone I can contact you with'"
Anyhow, of course he tried to get a little action...and today, I chatted with him on IM, and he has decided we can only be 'platonic' because I play games. I reminded him it was HIM who had g/f issues months ago when we met, and I merely asked him that question because I believed his answer would reveal his character....and give me some insight as to whether he was still involved with his so called 'ex' g/f. He must be, because he seemed to project some anger there.....they say projecting is a defense mechanism, and boy did he project THAT I was playing games. No games from me, just a simple question. And I GOT MY ANSWER.
He went on to say I had too much of an expectation, that he takes things one day at a time, blah, blah, blah...to which I responded..."Hmmm, you are offended and say I play games, BUT you would have had NO problem if I took the kiss a couple steps further and we screwed after that"...AND THAT WAS THE END OF THAT!!!!
I now smell a rat. Funny, when we were out, there was a skunk on the road...totally smelled up the car....lol...must've been an omen!
ty all!!!
I will enjoy the gym...sans workout partner, but I will enjoy nonetheless!!!
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Posted: 7/24/2006 12:09:03 PM | | not to be a stick in the mud, two wrongs don't a right make. if you play games to detect if someone else is playing games, how can you get offended if you are accused of being a player? one is a player with an accessable phone, the other is a player that is inaccessable--that's the only difference i see. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2006 5:36:00 PM | ^^^I see your point. However, I owned up to what I was getting at. I had no intention
of being dishonest or whatever..I merely posed a 'what if' situation. I knew the guy was holding out giving the phone no. for some reason.....why? I still have NO reason other than "I just don't have my own cell phone" which I believe is absoluste BS. I mean, come on...how do all his friends/family reach him...by shouting across town?
And I'm not being a 'player' I used a hypthetical situation because I knew the guy wasn't being straight up with me. There's a huge difference. Players don't usually let anyone know their real motives..I did let him know mine. I told him why I said what I said, very soon after I said it.
I usually can sniff out a player when I come across one. I was unsure about him and now I'm not. He can blame it on me, whatever...but I'm content that I stopped the 'game' before I got too involved. And if that means by him blowing me off for something so trite, then he obviously wasn't the one for me...
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Posted: 7/24/2006 7:35:53 PM | i don't think you should pollute your karma, enigma, keep fishing in that gym, those arm curls and lat pulls will help you reel in your prize fish! 
ALWAYS take the high road when you feel someone is playing you! they'll get theirs ( ), and you WILL get yours!  | |
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Posted: 7/24/2006 9:06:13 PM | dum dum...dum!!!! ah huh. Glad you saw thru the camouflage, You'll find him,...when you least expect it. So have fun in the mean time, time will come before you know it. And you deserve better anyway. | |
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JWA
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Joined: 5/21/2005
Msg: 37 | |
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Posted: 7/25/2006 2:10:30 AM | | You poor thing-----you just have the worst luck with these guys you're meeting---I wonder what conspiriacy is in effect that causes this for you? Maybe talk with that rainbow fish chick here---she seems to have this dating thing figured out----after all she did date over 200 guys before finding one who suited her!! Maybe you can reduce that number a bit with her help?!?!?! | |
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Posted: 7/25/2006 2:37:27 AM | harr!
the capn' say's ask him! and listen to the response very carefully but this has to be done via phone to actually hear if he stammers and stutters a bit or if he goes off the deep end chances are he's lying. you'll have to be the judge here. but don't make too much out of the phone issue but i think you have a right to know where in fact he is ACTUALLY LIVING. keeping that a secret ain'to cool.
advice from haggard ol' stinkin' fish
the capn' | |
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Posted: 7/25/2006 3:26:37 AM | Yes, you ARE sure about this guy or you wouldn't have asked,....Yes, he is probably yanking your chain...ask about his graduating classs and to see a pic of him there....as a Lt he should be making enough $$$ to afford his own phone,...come on...you know.......be safe!
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Posted: 7/25/2006 3:38:35 AM | | Hey Underwater girl, There are a few Spec Op units in reserve but...all she has to do is ask to see a pic of him at the Ranger Training Brigade (RTB) at Benning and that'll be that...if theres no class pic with him in it ,...he isn't .... | |
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Posted: 7/25/2006 3:44:22 AM | Sweetheart,...listen up....tattoos are everywhere and the artists don't ask that you've earned the right to wear that patch...another Ranger would have issues with...believe it....also, this duff he keeps in his car? Military equipment is very expensive and we were accountable for everything we were issued...it would be wherever he was going to be deployed from...not in his car....run......faster!!!!
My left arm is a tattoo that doesn't make me a biker.....you know..... | |
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TishaG
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Joined: 11/13/2005
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Posted: 7/25/2006 3:45:57 AM | [You poor thing-----you just have the worst luck with these guys you're meeting]
Nah..I think I have her beat in that department..lol. That's why I've decided to just give up, live my life for me, enjoy the nice people in the forums (and aggravate the nasty ones..lol) and NO MORE INTERNET DATING..for awhile anyways.
OP, I discovered a long time ago.."if it sounds too good to be true..it usually is". That guy just gave too much info about things he's done in his past, for age 28. I once met a guy on my mail route. Was supposed to be a home health aide to an affluent man in a wheelchair who was a customer of mine. I went out on one date with him. He was suave, charming, and almost TOO NICE. Well...we met for drinks/dinner...and in the course of two hours....(now take it he told me his age was 35) proceeded to have been in the marines, gone to college, work on a horse farm, (because he wanted to be a rodeo rider), related to a rich family in the area that owned car dealerships, and a few other things I can't remember. I do remember my gut reaction all of a sudden being so strong I felt like vomitting!! I endured him till dinner was over, saying I had a headache. Couldn't wait to get away. Something about all that info was too bogus for me. We parted and then ten minutes after I left, my cell rang with him asking me if I wanted to do something else. I said thanks but I wasn't feeling well, like I told him at the pub. Next time I saw him..he asked me out again and I said I got back with my old boyfriend. WELL GIRL...week later..turns out he's an ex-con/junkie who answered that man's ad in the paper for a nurse/personal assistant. He gave him a bogus resume, and after hired..proceeded to steal his painkillers, steal money from him, use the man's credit cards, etc, which he was arrested for. The way I found this out? I was one of 14 girl's names and numbers the police found in his possession, and they called me to give a statement. So...always trust your GUT REACTION. And I can see that you did! Good Girl!
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Posted: 7/25/2006 5:11:24 AM | Threads like this should be required reading for anyone wanting to become more attentive to the red flags that are dropped by cheaters, players, charletons and fakers of all kinds... These guys make it extremely difficult for genuine guys with a real life to get a date with girls like you. Good for you anenigma; you figured this out before it was too late.
Good luck to you and to everyone who has helped you see the red flags.
Bright blessings,
Jack
"Success is learning to deal with plan B"--author unknown | |
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Posted: 7/25/2006 5:29:23 AM | And I'm a rocket sceintist, who would like to sell you the Brooklyn Bridge....He's full of s.h.i.t
I can't believe woman still fall for that crap this day and age...He's a window washer or cook at McDonalds....
Let him show you some military ID
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Posted: 7/25/2006 5:41:18 AM | | If a guy won't tell you where his lives or who he is living with, he absolutley has something to hide. RUN, RUN, RUN and don't look back!!!! | |
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Posted: 7/25/2006 6:49:10 AM | Threads like this should be required reading for anyone wanting to become more attentive to the red flags
I agree Jack. Tisha's kinda freaked me out, that was just totally bizarre. Scares me to think that there's uh, Bozo's (being nice  ) out there who think crap like that works, and pisses me off that it gives those of us that really just want to meet a nice woman a tougher job because we have to have a lot of patience to let her be comfortable that... yup, I am who I say. And while I might not give out my home address on the first date, you'd certainly have that and my home phone by the end of date#2 (I would want to wait to see if there's some 'chemistry' there, and a certain amount of trust on my side, before giving that out, having had a bad experience online myself).
... and I've never been in the Special Forces, or the CIA, the only 'black ops' I've ever been involved in have been trying to find the flashlight when the power has gone out at night ... if the stories sound too good to be true, they probably aren't true.
edit: oh, and for underwatergirl, I don't know how Special Forces works. I had a DoD clearance because the company I worked for worked on "military hardware". Yes, there are things I can't talk about, but they'd really be pretty boring anyways unless you're a technical geek. I was only commenting there that, yes, there may be classified things that he might not be able to talk about... however, to the best of my knowledge, your home phone# and address usually don't fall under "classified" information. | |
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TishaG
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Joined: 11/13/2005
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Posted: 7/25/2006 8:04:50 AM | [[agree Jack. Tisha's kinda freaked me out, that was just totally bizarre. Scares me]]
LOL...Scares you? Heh..why do you think some of us women are so cynical/skeptical? Believe me..I hate being like that..and I want to trust someone with all my heart someday....nothing I want more than to have complete trust in a man. But the instinct that drives self-preservation kicks in strongly after someone puts you through something that you think you'll never recover from (long story well in the past).
And yes...bizarre is the correct word for my dating experiences as of late. Gives my friends something to chuckle over when we are out having a few. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2006 6:02:10 PM | Now wait just a minute Tisha... Just because Singleguy agreed with what I wrote doesn't mean that I should be dragged into the disagreement you now have with him.
[[agree Jack. Tisha's kinda freaked me out, that was just totally bizarre. Scares me]]
I know these forums can be a little confusing at times... Please step away from the keyboard and take a closer look at what's happening here... You too singleguy.
Singleguy; please put a little distance between your statement of agreement and your commentary on another post.
Tisha; please read and copy a quote more carefully... so as not to drag an innocent into a disagreement.
For the record... I had no problem with what Tisha wrote... I thought she gave another example of red flags being dropped and I didn't feel freaked out at all.
Blessings,
Jack
BTW Tisha... I would have messaged you off forum, but I fall just outside of your filters :(
Singleguy... put a line between commentary is all I'm saying... sorry you are misunderstanding me... I know that Tisha tends to write with tongue in cheek... sarcastic... read her profile. I was only quoting her quote...
Edit... Touche' Singleguy... got to go now... cya | |
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Posted: 7/25/2006 6:13:42 PM | ^ I'm a bit curious where the disagreement is?
I quoted you, in agreement - yes, this *could* be a good thread for people to read to learn about "red flags".
And Tisha was quoting what I said, and reading what she said, I really don't see how she was disagreeing with *me* at all. Or you. She was simply commenting that she's seen some doozies.
Or were you taking me saying "agree Jack. Tisha's kinda freaked me out", as somehow insinuating that *you* were freaked out? I never said that, I said it freaked *me* out, not "it freaked me out *too*", which would have been insinuating that you were too. Not what I said.
And seeing as there is a limit of "2 of the last 10 posts", its far easier to lump multiple comments into one posting, leaving the option of posting a reply to another message later (such as this) then posting twice.
edit: no offense meant or taken, I telecommute and rely on IM a lot for work, so I'm fully aware of how things can be misinterpreted via the written word. | |
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