| WHEN?does it stop hurting?
Posted: 2/19/2007 4:14:15 PM | | When Does it stop tahts a hard one maybe never ..... i had a guy i loved him with all my heart and then things happened and he left me i was devestade and all the tyme i wud cry but each day got better and better i wud cry less and i wud only think of it when i wasnt with friends its been 2 years since then now he has a baby gurl and he hates me and i still love him but i have a great bf and im now expecting a baby and i cant wait its never leaves but u can move on with in time juss takes a while | |
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| WHEN?does it stop hurting?
Posted: 2/19/2007 7:02:21 PM | | Becky I know what you're going through. Two weeks after my ex and I broke up I called him and he said he alread had a date planned for the next weekend. Didn't take him long! I've dated several men since the breakup (been 3 months now) but haven't found someone special yet. I've been told over and over by my dear friends that I'll find a great guy ONLY when I stop searching for one. So take time to heal, and whatever you do don't contact him or answer his calls. I've learned from experience that it only makes it harder to move on if you still have communication with him. When will it stop hurting? That really depends on you, and time. Remind yourself of all the things he did wrong, and everything you didn't like about him. That will make you miss him a lot less. | |
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| WHEN?does it stop hurting?
Posted: 2/19/2007 7:18:24 PM | I don't know when it'll stop.
It's been four month now. It only gets worse.
I know it's my problem. But I can't help it.
I have to make a public announcement to stop my pain.
I'll take control and end it here and now.
God, please give the strength and will power to forget the past, concentrate on now. and look forward to my future. Amen. | |
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| WHEN?does it stop hurting?
Posted: 2/22/2007 9:47:37 AM | | I dont think it ever does stop hurting. I lost the love of my life ten years ago and still cant forget her or forgive myself. Worst thing is, it was my fault and I think she was 'that one true soulmate'. She's married now and all I can do is wish her all the love and happiness in the world. | |
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Posted: 2/22/2007 12:32:47 PM | Girl, i feel for you
I had the same situation as yours
Here is few things i did :
1. Start to working on two job plus going to university. ( No time to think about him)
2. Treat myself well. I start to go to gym again and i have more time spending on my friends . It is all about ME TIME
3. Don't be too jealous of seeing him with the girl together. I can tell he always make me jealous when he was hand in hand with the girl in the campus.. I don't even care . It is immature.. I would not hold another guy's hands for revenge.
4. Be strong . I am glad i have few friends to support me that time . it is better to tell someone instead of crying at home
Good luck . I know it is tough . But , by the time, you move on and you will be proud of yourself.  | |
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| WHEN?does it stop hurting?
Posted: 2/22/2007 11:23:21 PM | Here are some remedies that will help but it won't take away the pain completely....only time can do that. And don't ask me how long. It varies.
1. Sleep/Nap it off. When I am depressed like that I just sleep/nap at will so my brain doesn't think. (Only do this for several weeks at most....it should ease the pain)
2. The classic "Out of sight. Out of mind." This does wonders. Avoid eye contact or any contact at all cost. This should help greatly.
3. Get a busier lifestyle. Do more stuff in your life, i.e. exercise, watch some sitcoms and laugh....there are some pretty good ones these days.
4. Cry and feel sad when you feel like it.......it is important to let out the pain/anger. This is a must.
5. This last tip is for the guys. Dudes, explore and meet some NEW girls....it'll take all the pain away.
I hope those tips help. My fav is No.1 but the most effective should be No.2 and always do No.4. | |
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Posted: 2/23/2007 4:18:57 AM | hey....well fact is i dnt think it ever stops hurtin til u learn to let him go.....my ex broke up with almost three weeks ago n moved up north....broke my heart like nothing before we were together afew years n i loved him deeply n still do but i want him to b happy even if its not with me....u need to let him go n everything will get better...i still am hurting abit but im letting him go one day at a time n i do feel better because life is short n these guys are missin out n theres sumone better for u clearly.but if u loved him u always will n thats wat sux the most....wat u need to do is get out n have fun, keep urself busy n any time he puts into ur mind...change that thawt quikly babe and dont torture urself with thawts of him n his new gf....it wont make anything better. sorry to hear bout ur barke up tho...cheer up | |
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| WHEN?does it stop hurting?
Posted: 2/23/2007 2:10:21 PM | | It doesn't stop hurting until you come to peace with your relationship. Use it as a learning experience for your next bf. If he has already moved on to another girl, it will not and cannot last. Believe it or not he is hurting too, people cannot get over strong feelings in two weeks. Go out have fun, find a rebound guy, get laid! | |
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Posted: 2/23/2007 2:44:04 PM | | You have my sympathy. It really take some time and there is nothing constructive you can do to stop the hurting. I ended up going to a shrink and he gave me a drug called Remmeron..you may what to persue that..just a suggestion..I actually "fell in love" with a real player. She would make excuses why she couldn't see me at a patriclar time but was seeing at least a couple of other guys .. she is beautiful just to say the least..I knew it but didn't want to admitt to the reality..I didn't do anything crazy but thought about it...very seriously..I'm better than that and so are you..Hang on! My friend..time heals all wounds..you will be on the other side of this sometime but it will take awhile..sorry I can't give you some magic potion..next time be more cautious..go slow..someting I've learned...I win more by walking away..don't wear your heart on your sleeve..don't ever let anyone know whats in you heart of hearts..and don't reflect it either..if the realationship seems to be going bad..**** it! be the one to walk out. If he or she don't call..don't pick up the phone..move on. I know where your at..God I feel for you..don't make it worse..be the one to pull the plug..Ray | |
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Posted: 2/23/2007 2:50:34 PM | Guys, I did this when I was 20. Broke up with a girl and we didn't end up getting back together like we said we would. I was devastated. The first 6 months I don't even know how I managed to keep breathing. Years after the pain still kept coming back. It even screwed my confidence, royally so having another girl was impossible for years. One day, after getting the run around, yet again.. I said to myself that I'm actually happy being single and decided I would never let another girl hurt me like that again. Since then I've had three relationships. The first, it was her fault that it ended, she left me and wanted me back and I refused. It took me ONE day to get over her and I was just a bit bothered. Next one we decided to be friends, which worked out perfectly. The last one I said I wasn't happy and she just left instead of fixing the problem. Took me a few hours to get over that and it wasn't even that bad.
My whole point is I keep in mind, have fun while you can but nothing lasts forever and may end at any time. So play it loose. I figure, if she's meant to be with me, I'll see it when we are buried next to each other. Until then, anyone can lose interest, go for someone else, just want to be alone at any time. Don't think this is it, I'm now with the last person ever. That's not reality. | |
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Posted: 2/23/2007 3:06:00 PM | I lived with a man for 13 years. When we split, it didn't hurt that much. It took 3 years before I was ready to date.
I met a man from this site. I fell in love with him. It was over a year of a wacky relationship, but I can say, that I do love this man.
He started acting strange almost two months ago. I found out the day before Valentine
s day about "Angela". I met her. There was nothing to dislike about the woman. For OVER two weeks, I have cried my heart out every day. Sometimes, for hours, sometimes for a few minutes. I thought the song by Shania Twain "It only hurts when I breathe" was a crock on nonsense. I am 51 years old, and I hurt over this man, the same as I did over a man I dated in my 20's.
I would like to know when it stops hurting as well. He wants me to be friends with her, because after all, he and I are friends. I call there, and she answers the phone. I die inside. And on here, I am vulnerable emotional wreck. I shouldn't even be on here. Except I know that if I am able to socialize then maybe I will feel better.
Because it only hurts when I breathe, so I hold my breath.
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Posted: 2/23/2007 3:32:56 PM | | hi.i know exactly how u feel!i had the same feelings,plus i couldnt sleep,and i lost my apitite.it took me a good 2 months!now i cant stand the thought of her at all!and when i see her i never talk to her.she dosent desrve the time of day to hurt me like that.it sucks big time but it will get better only with time honey trust me.but it will get better! | |
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Posted: 2/23/2007 5:00:24 PM | Hi Becky!, just wanted you to know that your not alone! The same thing happened to me 4 months ago!. Was with my fella for 2 years when one day he told me he did'nt love me anymore, it ripped my whole world apart! To hear him say them words were awful! I could'nt eat or do anything! the only thing i seemed to do was cry. Every morning i would wake up and for a few seconds the world would seem ok but then it all hits you! I sometimes get that still but not so much now! Over time you do heal never completely but over time you are able to move on! You'll still think about your ex its only normal to!. My ex went with someone else 2 weeks after finishing me, i could'nt understand how he had just moved on like that!. I felt like i ment nothing to him and that the 2 years together were a waste! It hurts to think of him with another women and even more so cus i know her! Il have to admit reading your post i was crying cus it opened up a few pushed down feelings!. Anyways am going on a bit lol!, you will move on bex just give it time. Thats all you can do, you will cry and you will be angry but in time you'll move on and maybe even think thanks you let me go, its your loss and am now free to meet my true soul mate! He was'nt right for you! to do what he did!
Take care Becky
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Posted: 2/23/2007 5:27:43 PM | | From a guy's perspective; it's tough. I was involved with someone for two years and I had actually bought a ring and planned to propose to her on a Carribean vacation I took her on. Before we left I found out that the whole time she was telling me how much she loved me and how her daughter considered me the dad she never had, she was on sites like this checking out other guys. Her excuse "just looking; I love you and it is harmless as I am not meeting anybody". It literally broke my heart; took me a year before I even dated again. Alol I can say is that it DOES pass with time. | |
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Posted: 2/26/2007 6:53:12 AM | | Hi something real66, im not sure weather you ex was doing anything bad! She could of been just looking and talking like she said! Men do this too and far worse! You might of jumped the gun my ending it but i dont know you past relationship so its hard for me to comment! | |
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