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 Paulchino II
Joined: 8/16/2005
Msg: 26
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the only thing that matters is your state of mind...if you're worrying about it...you wont get aroused...sometimes it takes more than a look to get me aroused....other times I could damn near bust through my pants....it's all about state of mind....

....word of advice....if it's been a while...might as well wait for someone you have at least some kind of connection with...make sure she's someone who will work to arouse you...in case you need that extra boost...
 andy in kw
Joined: 9/29/2005
Msg: 27
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 7/25/2006 2:43:30 AM
This is probably way outdated....college days were a long time ago and I was asleep for most of them....but we read studies on this very subject. Most concluded that masturbation was normal behaviour and a healthy way to reminisce about past partners as well as future partners. Spanking to a real image might actually help you envision and therefor find your perfect mate. Odd thing was women generally masturbate to faceless entities where as this practice is thought to lead to sexual addiction in males. That idea never left me because I found it to be so hysterically funny at the time.
Stripper lose their mystic very fast so don't be surprised that they don't arouse you anymore this just shows maturity not a need for viagra. I lost all interest in strip clubs at about your age so I wouldn't give alot of thought to the why am I not turned on by naked woman doing the unsexy stripper moves and dances. Probably the only guys turned on by the old spank the butt while tossing hair over shoulders move are guys with no sex lives and closet gays who don't want their buddies to know.
Try to keep in mind that the women in those movies aren't just objects but beautiful objects of your desire and I'm sure you can go another 20 or psst hopefully 30 years without having that embarrassing chat with your doctor
 Jadey83
Joined: 7/19/2006
Msg: 28
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 7/25/2006 9:14:26 AM
thanks for the input so far guys. i was getting a little worried.
 drugstorecowboy
Joined: 4/8/2006
Msg: 29
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 7/25/2006 10:13:30 AM
dont think your nuts mate its ment to be healthy, but it can lead to psycological problems when your doing it alone that means you cant do it when your with your partner because your used to it being private and you feel you may fail when your with someone


its usually all in your head
 Apples
Joined: 7/16/2004
Msg: 30
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 8/22/2006 10:40:21 AM
Hi there!
I am just now replying to this, because I was looking for info. on the net regarding this very subject. I have been in a relationship w/ a guy for the last year (well, it actually ended last night) and he has a problem w/ porn. I "found" his cable bills and he has been paying for the hard core stuff, only when he's not at my house. We did live together and moved into diff places in June. I am 14.5 yrs older than him (he's 22). I am a very attractive woman, with a decent body and I thought we had a good sex life, but it REALLY bothers me that he watches so much porn. WHY does he feel the need, when he has me? It makes me feel like crap about myself and starting to feel a little insecure. Is it his age? When we're having sex, sometimes, his penis will go limp in the middle of the act and he'll have to wack it to get it hard again...is this because of the porn images? I think he is starting to become desensitized to the act of sex, after watching all of the hard core images. I am a beautiful, tall white woman, w/ blond hair and green eyes and get lots of attention and had great self esteem, but after finding that he's watching stuff like "Black/white affair" and "Asian Bang", I'm starting to think "what the hell are you doing w/ me, when I can't arouse you like they can?" I used to not be an insecure person, but it's heading that direction.... Am I stupid to let this crap bother me so much or is it normal to feel like this? He does completely love me and shows me this in every way, but I found out about the porn a week and half ago and then "found" another bill last night and confronted him and he got pissed and told me we're over and I just don't understand.....Please tell me:::: am I stupid? am I insecure? is it normal? Any advice would be greatly appreciated....thank you for listening!
 wifeymaterial35
Joined: 7/29/2006
Msg: 31
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 8/22/2006 10:48:17 AM
hmmm nothing wrong with a little porn
but i do have to say that i had a friend that her partner used to masterbate to porn a couple of times a day and when he used to go see her he couldnt get it up
i think he was using so much of his energy in to the porn that he had nothing left for her.
i think it can become a little obsessive.
maybe lay of it for a little while and try your imagination
and there is nothing wrong with watching some porn with the next female when you meet one
and having a little fun together with it.
if she is comfortable with it that is
 nipoleon
Joined: 12/27/2005
Msg: 32
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can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 8/22/2006 10:51:22 AM
Well Apples :
I think maby your boyfriend has issues which don't involve you.
Personally, my interest in porn decreases proportionatly the more I'm involved with a woman.
He's not desensitized to the act of sex, he's just desensitized to sex with real women.
Perhaps his fantasy world is a lot more interesting to him than the real world is. Which is no big sin and not unusual, but hardly conducive to healthy relationships.
If your as hot a babe as you say you are, maby you could find someone else who can appreciate you more than he can.
 tallboy62
Joined: 4/6/2006
Msg: 33
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 8/28/2006 12:07:24 PM
Sounds like porn addiction. I think it can jade you Jadey. Maybe you should tone your use down. Use porn only if you don't have sex for a while. Cut off any bad relationships you have right now and work on getting down with some real women. BTW you don't need to walk around with a boner all day as proof that you can be turned on in bed. And you're pretty young, you need to deal with school and career too so don't get too involved.
 xzanthius
Joined: 9/28/2004
Msg: 34
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 8/28/2006 2:01:09 PM
It's possible to have a sexual burn-out and need to rebuild sexual energy before being able to fully enjoy sex again. Happened to me a few times both from masturbation/porn and sexual intercourse.

I suggest plenty of sleep, Ginseng, good healthy fresh food (vegetables!), fresh air.

Also, my general rule (which I don't always apply) is that I shouldn't masturbate if I'm not already errect... if I need to make myself stiff to get it on then I probably am not really in the mood and just trying to pass the time.

Also keep in mind men, 7mg of Zinc lost with every ejaculation! Gotta eat those pumpkin seeds!
 johnnyjk
Joined: 1/12/2005
Msg: 35
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 8/28/2006 2:22:10 PM
i can make your partner feel inadiquite if your not careful
 johnnyjk
Joined: 1/12/2005
Msg: 36
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 8/28/2006 2:22:53 PM
it can ruin a good thing
 anotheraviator
Joined: 10/26/2004
Msg: 37
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 8/28/2006 3:12:10 PM
I'm meeeeeeeeeeeeeeelting.....

Actually.. it's like anything... too much work can ruin your sex drive.. too much fast food... to much alcohol... too much baseball....

Moderation and you're fine.. Spank away. :)
 romegaguy36
Joined: 4/21/2006
Msg: 38
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 8/28/2006 10:24:31 PM
Here's a tip
1. When you get the urge to look at porn or masturbate do this. Start to think of your grandmother taking a dump on a toilet. It usually does the trick.
 SexyRedhead_1
Joined: 7/2/2006
Msg: 39
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 8/29/2006 4:58:47 AM
Yea, i'd have to agree with you. I was 'seeing' this guy, who is also younger than me. He told me that he sometimes masterbates up to 5 times a day and watches porn. When it gets down to the actual act, he can't even keep an erection, and also has to wack off to get it up again. How frustrating is that? I often wonder why he even needs a woman. He seems to be able to get himself off without my help. I'm sure it's an addiction, and I know he can't stop! He said he'd try, but I really doubt he ever did. All that porn, it's not reality...men just don't get it! If this guy really loves you, he would make an attempt to put an end to his addiction. Self Esteem...i'm with you 100% on that one! You either let him bring you down, or get rid of him! Find someone who truly apprectiates you!
 Ho7Dog
Joined: 8/9/2006
Msg: 40
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 8/29/2006 5:38:20 AM
one thing though i'd advise is when you do get a women and it goes further ... try not to think of putting too much pressure on yourself to do well by what you have seen in porn films ..... try stay relaxed and have fun ..... easier said as I know do put alot of pressure on our heads by trying to give the lady the best night she ever had!!! .... dont think like that ... let things happen as they do!!!

Mind you easier said then done lol
 shamanancestor
Joined: 8/11/2006
Msg: 41
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 8/29/2006 6:23:28 AM
You'll be fine as long as you remember to treat her like a lady and not a whore when you're having sex again. Best of luck.
 addictedtoblackmen
Joined: 12/20/2005
Msg: 42
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 8/29/2006 7:28:41 AM
I've heard that if a woman uses a vibrator too much,she can lose some sensation to sex with a man.It wont feel as good.She will get used to the vibrating feeling.
 shamanancestor
Joined: 8/11/2006
Msg: 43
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 8/29/2006 7:51:24 AM
I've heard that if a woman uses a vibrator too much,she can lose some sensation to sex with a man.It wont feel as good.She will get used to the vibrating feeling.


I actually heard this discussed on Love Line not too long ago. Dr. Dru explained that excessive use of a vibrator can desensitize the nerve endings in your clitoris. You'll have a pleasurable sexual experience with your partner, as long as you use your vibrator in moderation.
 webwanderer
Joined: 7/9/2004
Msg: 44
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 8/29/2006 2:49:06 PM
Only if you tear off you penis or burn off your clit in a moment of maturbatory over exuberance!
 Paulchino II
Joined: 8/16/2005
Msg: 45
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 8/29/2006 7:27:51 PM
I once heard someone say....

"as long as you're still waking up with morning wood...you're doing fine"

...although...I think that's only loosely related to the topic
 Apples
Joined: 7/16/2004
Msg: 46
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 9/5/2006 4:37:46 PM
Hi Shyred!
Thank you for your input. It's good to know that one is not alone in the world!! I appreciate all of the feedback, but yours especially. Thank you again and best wishes to you!
 bigpapi1976
Joined: 2/10/2006
Msg: 47
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 9/5/2006 4:46:27 PM
If you are with a woman and get "hard" then no problems! I seem to not be able to orgasm with the woman I love and this, for her, is a major thing, but for me, "not so much!" She turns me on and I get to the point of orgasm but can't seem to let it go recently! Luckily, she still loves me, so all is good for now!
 0rgan donor
Joined: 4/18/2006
Msg: 48
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can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 9/5/2006 4:51:57 PM
maybe just for a little while, but it comes back
 webwanderer
Joined: 7/9/2004
Msg: 49
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 9/5/2006 4:54:14 PM
The only thing frequent jerking off has ever done to me interms of sex is make me take longer to cum and I already take a long time so it doesn't really matter lol. As far as diminishing it goes well if it has then its a good thing because now animlas, holes in trees, piles of fruit are safe from me losing it and pouncing on them is a sexual frenzy!
 sparticuss
Joined: 5/9/2006
Msg: 50
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 9/5/2006 6:11:47 PM
Thousands of university studies of porn have been conducted into this.

Although mostly into if porn causes rape.

the one thing that have found of significance is ................. absoloutely nothing.

Their findings are that porn doesn't ccause any loss or gain in sex drive, or infidelity, or rape, or anything else.
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