| who would date a SQUADDIE and can u trust em ..( male and female)
Posted: 10/5/2008 3:46:19 AM | I'm an original army brat myself too. I wouldn't not date someone because they are in the forces. It has to go on individual merit not what job title they hold. I have a fair few friends who are in the forces and I guess they like the fact that i don't stereo type them and have a level of understanding of what they're life style involves.
I recently had 3 firemen trying to chat me up on a dating site. I thought it was strange, even more so when I found out they were all from the same station........some kind of wager going on their me thinks 
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| who would date a SQUADDIE and can u trust em ..( male and female)
Posted: 10/5/2008 3:59:44 AM | I really enjoyed the army lifestyle and do miss it to some extent.
Soldiers know how to party! they seem to have a get up and go mentality, more so than some of the civilian men I have dated. Maybe thats to do with the discipline they have ingrained in them, who knows, but they certainly have lots of confidence! | |
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| who would date a SQUADDIE and can u trust em ..( male and female)
Posted: 10/5/2008 7:25:12 AM |
would say yes some squaddies are probably faithful and realtionship material but I would say there is definately a higer percentage of them that would cheat and play around than most people
that would sum up men in general then! most do some dont | |
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| who would date a SQUADDIE and can u trust em ..( male and female)
Posted: 10/5/2008 8:07:04 AM | I think you get good/bad squaddies same as you get good/bad civilians.
Can you trust them? that depends on what sort of relationship youre going to have with them... a weekend shag every now and then? im not sure if you can trust them if thats the sort of relationship youre having. I know some friends who have dated army fellas and had long lasting fulfilling relationships its a gross generalisation to say theyre all after one thing and will cheat. | |
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| who would date a SQUADDIE and can u trust em ..( male and female)
Posted: 10/5/2008 9:50:27 AM | | I dont think its because a Man wears a Uniform that makes him a Cheat .I feel Squaddies get a bad enough Reputation just for going to Iraq & Afghan without Labelling them all Serial Cheats.No matter what He does for a Living be it Police/Fireman/Paramedic/Soldier/RAF/Navy or Just Joe Bloggs from the Corner shop or Local Pub if a Man has it in him to cheat he will no matter what....& For the Record before anyone says I have not Answered the Question Yes I have Dated a Squaddie in fact was Married to one for 23 years ..... | |
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| who would date a SQUADDIE and can u trust em ..( male and female)
Posted: 10/5/2008 1:14:01 PM | I was with a squaddie for 2yrs would have trusted him with my lfe.
great guy it was the going away for 6 mths at a time that split us up (i couldnt stand it i missed him so much i had to let hm go)  , but i knew i could trust him 100%. | |
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| who would date a SQUADDIE and can u trust em ..( male and female)
Posted: 10/9/2008 10:42:05 AM | I just wondered.. I was married to one in the RAF ( I left him ). went out with a guy from the RAF, just didnt work, then kind of saw a "separated" one ( who forgot to mention he was still "married if you see what I mean"...
Its not just forces peeps who cheat.. its all occupations me thinks....
What about doctors and nurses?? x | |
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| who would date a SQUADDIE and can u trust em ..( male and female)
Posted: 10/13/2008 3:06:49 AM | Squaddies arent all that bad, I was one for 5 years, met my now ex wife in Kosovo when she was serving.
I have heard some horror stories, one lad I served with even managed to get in the paper due to his indiscretions, but I know a lot they are happily still together and wouldnt change it for the world.
I miss the life and am just going through all the rigmoral of trying to get back in, only TA this time though :) | |
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| who would date a SQUADDIE and can u trust em ..( male and female)
Posted: 10/13/2008 2:29:18 PM | I have squaddie friends and to be honest in my experience its the lady partners who can't be trusted. When the guys are off on duty the girls have been havin fun as long as the pay check is comin in!!!!
Personally I would date a squaddie. I have a hectic lifestyle as it is and as much as I'd like to be in a relationship I can't be in one where you live in each others pockets. I'm used to doing my own thing so I wouldn't find it difficult having some space when he's off on duty however I'm a great believer in absence makes the heart grow fonder and I'd make sure he'd enjoy his home coming  | |
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| who would date a SQUADDIE and can u trust em ..( male and female)
Posted: 10/13/2008 3:08:13 PM | Just for the record... I really dislike the term squaddie....
Would I date one Yes, have I dated one Yes.. Did I marry one Yes... did I trust him.. Yes...
Doesn't matter if someone is a solider a sailor a what do you call someone from the RAF? any way I digress it doesn't matter if they are a stock broker a bin man a builder a factory worker, getting my point, doesn't matter what profession someone is in, if they are going to cheat they are going to cheat...And just because someone is a solider doesn't make them more likely to cheat than say your factory worker, or your stock broker.. | |
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| who would date a SQUADDIE and can u trust em ..( male and female)
Posted: 10/13/2008 3:51:10 PM | In the long term even a huge amout of army wifes come to exept that there partner plays away.
For anyone wanting to get involved with one then they would be silly to think otherwise..or to just exept it in the first place as a possible part of the package there seeking! | |
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| who would date a SQUADDIE and can u trust em ..( male and female)
Posted: 10/14/2008 10:04:47 AM |
In the long term even a huge amout of army wifes come to exept that there partner plays away.
For anyone wanting to get involved with one then they would be silly to think otherwise..or to just exept it in the first place as a possible part of the package there seeking!
hmmmmm!!! were you an army wife??!!
Not all squaddies cheat! Not all civilian men cheat! you cant generalize or are we all silly to expect a man to be monogamous!
Hats off to army wives, they put up with alot of disruption in their lives to support their husbands career. I was with mine for 16 and half years altogether and I didnt expect him ever to play around. he didnt need to play around, he had me!!!!! | |
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| who would date a SQUADDIE and can u trust em ..( male and female)
Posted: 10/14/2008 11:07:07 AM |
hmmmmm!!! were you an army wife??!!
Not all squaddies cheat! Not all civilian men cheat! you cant generalize or are we all silly to expect a man to be monogamous!
Hats off to army wives, they put up with alot of disruption in their lives to support their husbands career. I was with mine for 16 and half years altogether and I didnt expect him ever to play around. he didnt need to play around, he had me!!!!!
I know a number of army wifes and i can tell you that they all are suspicious at the very least about there men.
Was i an army wife?
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| who would date a SQUADDIE and can u trust em ..( male and female)
Posted: 10/14/2008 2:16:00 PM | I was married to a squaddie (Provo Sgt) for 21yrs...it was nothing to do with him being in the army why we divorced...it was the fact I felt like a squaddie....he was so controlling, myself and the children never knew whether to salute or kiss him....it was like a barrack search every day, he checked to see if all the housework was done to 'his' standards....woe betide me if the skirting boards had any dust on them, he would shout and curse. 
Silly me for putting up with it for so long.
Saying that I know all squaddies aren't the same, my eldest son was in the army for 9yrs, his wife was treated like a princess, he did most of the housework and cooking.
Would I ever date a squaddie....yes I would, you can't tar every service man (woman) with the same brush as you can't say every civvy is the same. | |
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| who would date a SQUADDIE and can u trust em ..( male and female)
Posted: 10/14/2008 3:59:05 PM | it was like a barrack search every day, he checked to see if all the housework was done to 'his' standards....woe betide me if the skirting boards had any dust on them, he would shout and curse.
Silly me for putting up with it for so long.
Saying that I know all squaddies aren't the same, my eldest son was in the army for 9yrs, his wife was treated like a princess, he did most of the housework and cooking.
Would I ever date a squaddie....yes I would, you can't tar every service man (woman) with the same brush as you can't say every civvy is the same.
In an ideal world we wouldnt need the forces.
It is not...Simple.
Being in the forces attracts,dissguards then maintains those who want a life in the forces.
The fundimental draw of the vast majority of those left after this proccess are those wanting that institutionalised lifestyle.
Controlling and being controlled.
Knowing there place and making sure others should know where there place should be with them. | |
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| who would date a SQUADDIE and can u trust em ..( male and female)
Posted: 10/14/2008 11:57:26 PM | In the long term even a huge amout of army wifes come to exept that there partner plays away.
For anyone wanting to get involved with one then they would be silly to think otherwise..or to just exept it in the first place as a possible part of the package there seeking!
Goodness what a huge generalistation. Having been an army wife I had no such expectations and indeed we were both faithful.
Expectations of unfaithfulness no matter what the career choice of the partners involved could become a self fulfilling prophecy.
Yes some men/women in the Army cheat, as some do in civillian jobs, it is probably down to the fact that they have more opportunity should they be inclined to cheat (away from home etc) that it happens perhaps on a more frequent basis than with those in civvy street. The same can also be said for Army Wives/Husbands. The unfaithfullness quota may be higher due simply to the opportunities that arise that would not normally arise with other jobs.
It is the same as with any job that takes a partner away from home, if they are inclined to cheat, they simply have more opportunity to do so. It is not the choice of career that makes someone wish to be unfaithful it is the person & relationship various careers just give the person means and motive to be unfaithful.
A relationship with no trust is no relationship at all. | |
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| who would date a SQUADDIE and can u trust em ..( male and female)
Posted: 10/15/2008 3:33:22 AM | Just to say aswell that when my brother was single in the army he was most definately what you'd term a 'player'. However he met the woman of his dreams 3 years ago and they married 2 years ago. He's definately a changed man. I barely recognise him these days.
Guess this just proves that its not the occupation, or even the type of person, its just finding the right one!!  Which is the same as everyday life. We're all just looking for the 'right one'. | |
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