Diva64
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Joined: 2/3/2007
Msg: 276 | |
| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 8/20/2007 8:11:27 PM | LUV..........and anyone else like her..............
WHY ARE YOU HERE THEN???
If you have truly given up hope...........then why the hell are you here?
You sure as hell will not find ANYONE with that attitude..........
AND FOR THE RECORD.......I DO NOT BELIEVE IN SOUL MATES! never heard me say that!........and I don't think the man for you is with someone else. I don't believe that either............I don't do scarcity thinking.........as though someone else's happiness has someone infringed upon mine............YOU CAN NEVER HAVE WHAT IS FOR ME and VICE VERSA! There is an abundance of good men and good housing and good jobs.......etc.....I really believe this.........there is also an abundance of BAD ATTITUDES!
Go ahead..............keep believing how you believe and feeling like you feel, keep doing what you're doing................and being who you are.............
.........and how's that working for you????
LAW OF ATTRACTION BABY!!!
You can say I'm full of shyte...........but I'm not whining...........I'm having a blast!
and maybe you are right............maybe you will NEVER have kids of your own (who knows this?) but I can tell you that at the end of the day...........if you change the way you think...........you can change your life.................and even though it might not be what you had dreamed.........the other possibilities might be greater than you ever imagined!
stop putting limitations on your life! Don't be so dogmatic about how your happiness comes.
THE JOURNEY............we are forgetting the JOURNEY PEOPLE ...... | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 8/21/2007 5:35:30 AM | | I also don't believe in scarcity, I feel that I have met hundreds of great women that I could be married to and everything would be just fine. The modern problem I see is that with the internet people are afraid to settle, they think there will be somebody better next week. I think the chance of finding somebody absolutely perfect has such staggering odds that for most of us even the internet can't help us, but we are spurred on by the stories of the people that do get lucky. Trouble is most of the stories are only predictions of the future written by people head over heals in love, it would be nice to know how they feel 5 years down the road. I certainly have my feelings that 75% of them would change their tune. I also keep saying next week never gets here. You have to settle some. A long life together is worth a lot of settling. Find somebody close enough, activities are not as important as values and goals. So find somebody that wants to go your direction and wants what you want, can enjoy a few of your major activities and go for it, give it 6 months and see where it goes. For god sake give up the stupid age requirements, it's just a damn number, evaluate the person on his health and the activeness of their lifestyle. Also get rid of that 75 mile limit, get rid of most message restrictions, you never know if somebodies relative will turn you on to somebody perfect. If you find that perfect one and they are 200 miles away, I'm sure you find someway to deal with the distance. Sure it would be nice if they lived in town, but is it worth spending another couple years or maybe a lifetime alone just because they don't live in town. Also you might meet a great friend of the same sex that you would not have met if you had restrictions prohibiting it. We all can use another great friend. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 8/21/2007 5:38:31 AM | | I agree but don't forget that women want to feel special, so for that reason, stick to the one-in-a-million thing. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 8/21/2007 5:47:57 AM | too late is when they are harvesting your body for organs... then put you in the ground... until then... its never too late.
long as your healthy and keep care of your body and health... you could be 80...
and still have hope. | |
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Diva64
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Joined: 2/3/2007
Msg: 281 | |
| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 8/21/2007 11:14:27 AM | mlm mlm mlm.......................
WTH...........are you on MEDS?? I have never seen you so optimistically ON before....
LOOK AT YOU.......and all that goodness.....
....I KNEW IT.................I JUST KNEW IT! | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 8/21/2007 5:36:15 PM | | Sometimes I think we look too hard. Yes, I thought I found my soul and after 17 years I guess I wasn't his. 38 is not that old, I have a girlfriend that felt the same way and at the age of 34 met her husband in a grocery store and now they have 2 beautiful kids. Don't give up, but maybe don't look so hard. You never know where you will meet someone and always smile, happy people are attractive to happy people. I wish you all the best. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 8/21/2007 8:21:09 PM | | I understand the feeling it is too late. I married my high school boyfriend, was a loyal partner for 22 years and now suddenly I'm on my own. It is very intimidating to start over now. And I know so many friends my age who are single, so it seems like the numbers say I don't have good odds. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 8/25/2007 11:05:54 AM | 38? too late?
I disagree! I am 40...I was married for 18 years, before deciding to leave him and start my life over.... I have a lot to offer the right man...I'm just patiently waiting til our paths cross...Don't ever give up! Believe in yourself! and go after what you want!
If you give up, you'll never obtain that dream! | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 8/27/2007 11:05:22 PM | 38 ain't too late. At 38, I got back together with someone I'd had problems with at 37. That timne we clicked, and I had more than a decade with my soulmate.
"T.D.D.U.P."
So now I'm trying again at 50. If 38 is supposedly too late, what does that make me? | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 9/21/2007 11:53:35 PM | YOu really shouldn't despair. I'm 38 and I truly believe my better days are still ahead. Never been married but still open to the idea with the RIGHT lady. Cheer up champ. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 9/22/2007 12:49:45 AM | | I'm almost 38 and with my past i'm wondering if i should give up and just make friends or go out and look for one..I have guy friends in Indiana but they dont' show too much interest in me. Maybe I should expand myself and try for a long distance thing. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 9/22/2007 4:35:15 PM | | tmlc. My thoughts exactly. Im 38 yrs now old and havent met anyone. Past all the crap that happens in relationships sometimes. hate ppl who are dishonest. As we get older it does get harder to meet anyone. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 9/22/2007 5:20:21 PM | | As the saying goes"its never to late' But i understand where your coming from. Theres no rush and i do beelive there is someone for everyone. But if you dont like your own company how can you expect others to like your company. theres no rush. sincerly single and happy x | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 9/23/2007 10:07:29 AM | | I don't think 38 is too late. I have my days too where I'll hang out with 20 somethings and think I'm old but I also think they are pathetic. There is always someone that can catch you completely off gaurd and things just click together. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 10/21/2007 5:48:11 PM | | My mother found her soulmate at 60 years old and thats even after a 25 year marriage with my dad. Ive never seen her so happy even now at age 65. Anything is possible in the game of life. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 10/21/2007 7:08:09 PM | | I think it is awesome your mother found a soulmate. I am 39 and it seems that I have a better chance of being hit by lightening. I am very independent and maybe that could be my problem. Do guys even consider women our age? | |
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dadlow
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Joined: 7/26/2007
Msg: 294 | |
| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 10/22/2007 4:24:02 PM | | I recently tuned 38 and I am feeling the same way. If it hasn't happened yet it may never will. I am not having much luck on this sit so far myself. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 10/22/2007 5:23:20 PM | | Never give up hope..... Be optimistic...... pretty sure there is a deserving lady out there thinking the same thing.... | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 10/22/2007 6:39:40 PM | I think that basically at my age if I havent met my soul mate then I never will.Your thoughts?
1. Soulmate is a limiting term in which you overlook life in general trying to find some holy grail, only to find that there isn't such a thing when it's too late for a do-over.
2. Giving up is only for those who MUST have someone else in their lives to feel whole (not a good concept) and for those who are so close to death they don't have time to look (waaaayyy older than 38). Hell, I'm almost 40 and I think I'm still too young to settle down.
I say you're in good shape. You have too much time on your hands, and trust me when you're not single anymore you might miss your single life...so enjoy it while you can. Pick up a couple kegs of beer and call some friends, isn't there a game y'all can watch? | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 10/22/2007 7:25:50 PM | I used to think that 39 was old when I was in my twenties. At 39, I am independent, much smarter about relationships and know what I want. I will find what I'm looking for. I will never give up.
Your insight was just what I needed....Thanks | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 10/24/2007 3:45:47 PM | I agree, 38 is awfully young to give up! One of my uncles never married for the first time until he was 40! My father in law was widowed in his 70's after many years of marraige and met someone and subsequently married her, and this lady has absolutely has become the love of his life!
Never give up!! | |
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