| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 12/11/2007 10:06:02 PM | For me, it depends on my state of mind. At times, no. I think she's out there. Other times, well.... | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 12/12/2007 1:56:48 AM | First get married or have a GF, you will likely find your soulmate...somewhere else...shortly
and have an affair. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 12/14/2007 12:47:05 AM | | well ive got 3 years on you and i havent.youll have all the extra baggage to go with them aswell. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 12/15/2007 4:21:45 PM | You're probably right OP.
I'm 32, and have never even so much as experienced a woman being attratced to me. I now accept the fact that this is how it will be for the rest of my life. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 12/16/2007 1:47:01 AM | tml2c,
It's never too late...You must exponge this negative thought and replace it with "I will meet my soul mate!!" Well......maybe
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 12/18/2007 5:48:31 PM | | You find the one you are suppose to be with when you are ready to have her. Some people find her at 19, others 25 others at 40 but some at 80. Love know no age. Be open to who she is not who you want her to be. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 12/18/2007 9:32:11 PM | If we are shut off from love at 38 then i am in trouble....just kidding! Love can come at any age- keep an open mind! | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 12/19/2007 2:48:22 AM | My thoughts are that you are better of alone than you would ever be, with the wrong partner.
Not only my thoughts. A hard cold fact. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 12/19/2007 12:32:29 PM | Its quite possible... because most people nearing 40 are jaded
i read a profile on another site where a woman spoke about puppy love... and how just doing nothing together was magical.
My point is... although its never too late.. our experiences definately have left us 'numb' to many sincere things. And may also have cultivated some insincere things. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 12/29/2007 9:53:21 PM | Have faith as if you love yourself and enjoy what you do...make yourself desirable to many..you'll have plenty of opportunities...There's no question it's a number's game...I didn't have the benefit of having a large, extended family or tons of work colleagues or plenty of friends, as I moved around a few times..and now in OC it's even tougher to find someone who is 'real'.
I'm 44, loving life and building friendships, and I know that one day i'll meet that special gal who thinks i'm her prince charming...imperfections and all. Maybe we all set the bar a little too high...and hey, i've never been married so i already have 2 strikes against me it seems, lol.
Keep your head up man...i feel for you..i've been going through the same for 7 of the last 10 years...but there's hope...a friend of mine met his soulmate when he was 48, she was 43 and they were married in six months and now have 5 years of heaven behind them....course he was a multi-millionaire, but we know that women are only interested in what's inside, right.. :)
Have an amazing New Year's everyone...2008 will be MUCH better then 2007..
Happy Hunting.. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 12/30/2007 7:30:58 AM | I'm 38 and never married. It might be too late for me to have my own children and the life I dreamed of but so what?? You can always find the woman that's right for you, you just might have to adjust a lil on what you get out of the relationship.
Besides, there's SO much more to life than just finding that ONE. There's friends, hobbies, volunteering, family, faith, etc.
We live in the best country in the world and are all pretty well off financially. You could be stuck in some nasty 3rd world country. Life is about perspective. You've got it really good. Enjoy it and even if Miss Right doesn't come along there's so much more to be thankful for. It's not that big of a deal. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 12/30/2007 7:52:10 AM | Oh Hell, I'm 42...... I'm in trouble.
Seriously, age has nothing to do with it. Maybe you and your soulmate haven't met yet because you just haven't bumped into each other yet. Alot of people are getting married after 40.... | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 12/30/2007 1:26:40 PM | | Fairmont1 - dont tell me you would have been a bad dad should you just had a kid,,,,your kid would be fine and you know it. but instead, you are a lonely idiot from nebraska. do you talk all that shit in front of your family? you should stop posting because any woman who see how you talk in the forums to women that you dont know would NEVER even talk to you. Maybe you should stop thinking and start doing. Wait, at your age and with your perception on life, you will die alone,,,but at least you had your ego! | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 12/30/2007 2:31:51 PM | I'm in the same position and think maybe I've missed the boat too OP.
Maybe we should start a support group...
oh that'll never work, the minute two people from the group start seeing each other outside the group meetings and subsequently drops out altogether but tell us we can still be friends...
well...
we all know how that turns out <img src=http://www.plentyoffish.com/smiles/icon_201.gif border=0>
Hang In There!! (maybe change your bait or fishing spot!)
 
P.S. Ross PK...This advice goes double for you...You're 32 for gods sake...try a club or bar..at 32 no one thinks you're a parent looking for their daughter who was supposed to be at the library, or "that creepy old guy". At 38...that's the looks you get when you go to the clubs still! See what you have to look forward to...now get out there and live it up!! aMiGo | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 12/31/2007 8:36:53 AM | [Fairmont1 - dont tell me you would have been a bad dad should you just had a kid,,,,your kid would be fine and you know it. but instead, you are a lonely idiot from nebraska.]
So, you're saying because I want a child I should have just knocked someone up, created a broken home, and let the child deal with parttime parents just to satisfy my want for children?!?
Did I read that right?? | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 12/31/2007 12:29:26 PM | | It's not always that complicated,,,,it would be your child, you would make sure it was okay. Not all successful people are raised with both parents around,,,so all this talk about broken homes,,,if your child new its life from the start that both parents didn't live together,,,that would be all it's known and it will grow up accordingly,,,learning all the fine lessons in life,,,with your help. Not all kids from broken homes are unhappy and ruined you silly silly man. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 12/31/2007 12:35:06 PM | Fairmont1 - dont tell me you would have been a bad dad should you just had a kid -
The key word was "should" meaning if you weren't so perfect with sex and actually ended up a parent like a lot of us, you would have managed and your kid could have been just fine,,,but then again,,,
My point is I am not saying go deliberately do it,,,,but if it happened,,,,you could deal and you could very well raise an outstanding citizen,,,,maybe the stigma of broken homes comes from all the trauma a children suffered in homes while couples tried to work things out. Once kids have lived without both parents for a while,,,they adjust and are fine. My kids actually chilled out and were less stressed almost immediately after I left my ex. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 12/31/2007 4:13:34 PM | See Taz this is where many non-married parents show their true selfishness. Here was your ORIGINAL statement-- "Fairmont1 - dont tell me you would have been a bad dad should you just had a kid,,,,your kid would be fine and you know it. but instead, you are a lonely idiot from nebraska."
"...should you just had a kid" denotes either carlessness or wanten desire. Both are terribly selfish. This is what I can't get through to you parents! You go on to state, "...meaning if you weren't so perfect with sex and actually ended up a parent like a lot of us,..."
This shows me what what I've always thought-- Most children born out of wedlock are done so because the adults figure that they'll CHANCE the pregnancy. They know they aren't being as careful as they SHOULD be but since it's commonplace now, and because I wouldn't mind having a child, I'm gonna be careless. I have further evidence because of the other thread in the Single Parents forum titled, "IF YOU COULD DO IT OVER AGAIN...". Nearly everyone in that thread said they would not change a THING and would be a single parent all over again. This CLEARLY shows that you have no regard for the needs of your child. You don't TRULY understand the damage you are doing by having a fractured home and parttime parents. ALL you care about is that YOU have what YOU want and the fact that the kid doesn't have horns coming out of the top of his head means that he's OK. Because if you REALLY understood the hurt and damage you are inflicting you would not wish the same broken-home-fate upon them. OR maybe you do??? Maybe you're THAT sadistic that you only care about yourself??? It makes me wonder.
See, you had people and outside influences all around you telling you not to get married young and/or not to get knocked up with the person you were with, but you CHOSE to ignore that advice, just like you're dismissing me. So, I'm tired of hearing parents on here tell me that "well, if I had known then what I know now .... but I can't change it!". You WOULDN'T change it! And the sader thing is that you're gonna teach your child the SAME thing and they're going to suffer the same fate as you, and so will your grandchildren.
And so continues the cycle of redneck-life.
[My point is I am not saying go deliberately do it,,,,but if it happened,,,,you could deal and you could very well raise an outstanding citizen]
You JUST don't get it. This statement AGAIN comes from the standpoint of "ME". The main point is raising the child in the best atmosphere possible. "You could deal"??? I don't give a rat's a$$ if I could deal! You should be worried about whether your CHILD could deal!! And I can tell you that without a DOUBT that kids don't deal well in a broken home situation. That is a 100% proven FACT. So, WHY would you subject your child to that situation?? There's only ONE answer-- SELFISHNESS--It's too hard to give my baby up for adoption; I WANT a child; ME, ME, ME, ME!!!
[Once kids have lived without both parents for a while,,,they adjust and are fine. My kids actually chilled out and were less stressed almost immediately after I left my ex.]
Why even put them through that in the FIRST place??? I can tell you why. Because you were too selfish to wait and pick the right man to father your children and you were too selfish to give the child up to a stable home.
And how can you TELL that they are "fine"??? They don't have horns coming out of their head??? I'm here to tell ya that they're NOT doing fine and you're choosing to ignore it, just like you chose to ignore common sense and create a broken home. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 12/31/2007 4:37:28 PM | | The OP is a year older now than when he first posted the question. Will he turn into a pumpkin when he turns 40? I'm going to keep an eye on this. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 12/23/2008 12:17:05 PM | When you decide it's too late and give up - you're right. It is. Quitters always suceed in failing.
Don't give up. Don't admit defeat. Visualize in your mind what you want, and make it appear. | |
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