| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 12/23/2008 2:25:04 PM | I personally do not think its ever too late to find your soulmate, so hang in there!   | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 12/26/2008 10:18:23 PM | You just NEVER know.
I have felt those same things at times in my life and now at 42 I have met a person who could have been a s/m pretty easily. It won't happen due to other issues, but she came out of nowhere and BAM those same feelings of connection snapped to the forefront of our minds.
Don't expect it, don't search for it, just be you and be OPEN to it.
Cheers. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 12/26/2008 11:27:18 PM | | I think you aren't on anyone's time schedule but your own. If it's supposed to happen it will. May not be when everyone else does it, but it still can. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 12/27/2008 12:04:02 AM | If you believe you've lost, then you've already lost the most important battle --with yourself.
As long as you breathe, you must believe there is hope. I have relatives who have married when they were 48. Year after year, they show up single at all the parties we have, then one day, they just show up with someone at their side and they're the ONE! | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 12/28/2008 6:02:51 PM | Absolutely not. I have seen people meet soulmates from young all the way to older seniors, where they were head over heels in love for years after... many of them finding them when they weren't actively looking.
Keep the hope... | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 12/29/2008 9:39:52 PM | No its not too late, but it is less likely.
However, that doesn't mean that your life can't still be full and rewarding.
Remember, just because one gives up on love,
does not mean that one must give up on life. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 2/4/2009 4:54:36 PM | | There's no such thing big man. The only thing 38 is too late for is for you to be soo naive and I don't mean that personal. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 2/4/2009 7:35:34 PM | 38 is a bit old to be expecting much... You don't have that youthful 20's look any longer, you most likely have put on a couple of pounds and some graying is happening.
Yet, everyone wants Mr. or Ms. perfect... Wake up people. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 2/4/2009 8:05:19 PM | soulmate ...lawl
problem is men and women are not looking for soulmates....if they were truely honest and made a list of qualities they seek and realized the qualities subcounciously they seek ...they would understand why the soulmate is so rare...
typical dating for me goes like this....(as in when i try and seek a partner)
i will casually take out women and i dont tell any of them i am dating others nor do i hide it....i find saying to a girl "ya i want to only date you" to sound creepy and feels creepy if i only just met them....and i also find saying "i am seeking other women and have ther dates lined up this week/month i hope ya dont mind" also sound creepy...i figure as long as i am not involved emotionally or sexually with anyone dinners, clubs, hikes, movies, ect are social dates where i spend tiem to know the person..
so what happens is the dates go well....might date 1-2 girls a week and say a total of 4-8 girls in a month some girls i see more then once depending on how the first date goes....again this is only when i feel i want to be in a relationship ....then i get to the point its 2 maybe 3 girls out of my little venture of finding my next ex:) more then likely these girls are in the same boat as me.....at this point you have to be honest with one of them and hope shes also picking you as well.....then you either get that one or fall back on one of the other 1 or 2....you are now exclusive to the one girl...took ya 2 months of dating say but you fond your new girl....3 or 4 months go by things dont work out you start to loose intrest realize the two of you were both awsum at dating and were able to advertise yourself well but when you really get to the base other then good sex and trophy partner there was no ...well like your first kiss or something that took your breath away.....and so you decide to move on instead of settling...
so now your alone again and that one girl you dated has kept in touch with you entire time because you became friends with her....two things happen ....you maintain the friendship or now you persue her....but the deck is already stacked against you because the relationship you have with her is based on honesty and friendship....and now you want to get a soulmate from a girl you didnt pick right away??
ya good luck with that...
you realize she was the one.....and you regret not taking more intrest in her....but the moment is lost and so you moun a little bit ...dont date for 4-5 months...maybe call up a friend with benifits to fill the gaps...til you feel lonely enough to repeat the whole process...maybe this time you limit yourself to only 4 women in a month...ya thats it:)
oh i know people are going to think this is horrible n such....only the people who are not able to get dates will trash talk it....the rest of the folks who have been in the dating game will probably see how this happens....myself i am not happy with this....if i could magically find my gurl and never have to date again i would....but til i do i will continue to search for her whenever i have the energy:)
so at 39 i keep searching for that girl....i know i get to empty if i try and give everything too many girls ....2-3 girls a year is the most i can do ....i mean christ i got buddies who sleep with 20+ NEW girls a year...and if i didnt feel so bummed out afterwards i would do the same thing (condoms are cheap) ..... i do have "soulmates"....i think those are the "friends with benifits" .....the girls who live too far and because of careers its impossible to take the next step....so we settle for that once a year vacation in some fancy hotel but we dont leave our room for 48 hours:) ...but even those relationships i doubt would last simply cause the high we feel together is the forbidden fruit thing going on....
ya i think the people we seek to be with are succesful people and succesful people enjoy the persuit or the work to get something....cause in this world you need to drive forward to be successful ...settling down or not moving forward can get you in trouble and so i think people are attracted to folks who push forward....that beeing said it might be getting into our realtionships.....the chase or the persuit we do day to day to keep alive might be keeping us from maintaining a relationship with one person....
uhm i aint sorry for the long dribble...i know 99% of folks will not read my post (its length) i am only trying to shed light/share thoughts with a few:) | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 2/4/2009 8:10:21 PM | | It's all about your attitude. I am much older than you and still looking. I know that someday I will find him. Keep a positive attitude. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 2/4/2009 9:02:00 PM | | I'm 38 and have my doubts. All of the good ones were taken long ago. I get the ones on Clearance all the time. These seem to be the rejected men, no one else wants. I give up sometimes. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 2/5/2009 6:47:57 AM | Hi OP,at the ripe old age of 38,lol.
As most people have said you can meet your soulmate at any age but they are very elusive to find at the best of times but never give up,you just never know whats around the corner.best wishes,
TI | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 2/5/2009 10:47:33 AM | | I am 38 and when you consider people often get married divorsed and re married at a much later age than 38 then what makes you think its too late? | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 2/5/2009 10:49:59 AM | Well God I hope not!
Soulmate...do they really exist? I usually go with NO. Re-evaluate your expectations, they may be too high. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 2/11/2009 12:18:10 AM | | I agree. If you find your soulmate you are either incredibly lucky or incredibly average. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 2/11/2009 5:11:48 AM | Often, it's because of your issues which prevent you from forming a happy romantic relationship. Why not go to a counsellor to look at your relationships with women. If there is a pattern in your life which isn't working, you need to look at why and then change this. Often, these are unconscious issues and so, by definition, we're not even aware of what is going wrong.
Judith | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 3/18/2009 10:05:44 AM | | What are you talking about, I'm 38, never married, no kids. I not depressed about it, or should I say sound depressed about it. My friends are jealous of my single life and I am jealous of their family life. That's what makes us all such great friends. But its never to late. I went to college at 32 years old now I have a great career. Never give up dude. One of my best friends got married at 55 and has a wounderful wife. IT'S NEVER TO LATE!!!!!!! | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 3/18/2009 11:58:30 AM | I'm 38 too, and I understand the OP's concern.
But to be honest I'm happier and more at ease with myself these days than I ever was before. So if I'm going to meet a 'soulmate' (if such a thing even exists) it's more likely to happen now than ever.
The future's bright! | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 3/18/2009 1:41:21 PM | | I am 33 and just tired of the search, that doesn't mean that I give up or feel that it is too late. Sometimes, when your not looking or expecting something...that is when you will find it. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 3/18/2009 3:40:39 PM | 38 and then its too late eh?
*snicker*
The way my luck runs, I'm thinking my soulmate got himself killed somehow looooooooong before I could even cross his path.
And, in an even more cruel fate, I shall live a long life.
Oh good lord *shakes head* good thing I have my life and kids keeping me busy.
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keeping humor is key I reckon | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 3/18/2009 8:49:18 PM | | Its not so much my age Im worried about. What worries me when the night is long and my thoughts are dark is this....what if Ive met the one for me already and missed my chance. If that is the case then what should I do now? Should I try to find someone that I can put up with,and someone who can put up with me? I know its hard to believe but Im not perfect..no no..dont argue, its true,really it is. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 3/18/2009 10:01:14 PM | | i'm 48 and it hasn't happened, but i have not always been 'available'- 'ready' etc- either emotionally, mentally, etc. now i am in a very good place in all things and i am more open to the possibilities. it's timing, openness and awareness of who is coming into your life. if you are plugged into all 3 factors (in my book), it's just a matter of time. i'd rather wait and recognize 'the' one if and when it happens. best of luck. | |
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