| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 3/18/2009 10:04:56 PM | btw, hope is eternal-- i know several friends in their 30's, 40's and beyond who found love. the real deal. hang in there. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 3/18/2009 11:18:58 PM | I was 37 when I left a 20 year marriage. There was no one local I had any interest in dating, so I went on two dating sites. Lots of communication with nice but blah people...went on a few dates, but found myself thinking "He's nice, but I'd rather be watching a movie at home with my son". I was pretty sure that if I was ever with anyone else, it would be someone I just settled for in order not to be lonely. I decided that if that were going to be the case, I might as well just take my profiles down, and focus on spending my time with my son for the time being, as he's getting to that age where he will soon be "leaving the nest". I make good money, have great friends and family, so I wasn't feeling desperate to "fill the void". I still "window shopped" anonymously from time to time, but with very little enthusiasm. (I think it's possible to sort of burn out on the whole internet dating thing) One day I read a profile that for some reason just resonated within me, so I decided to reactivate my account and send an email. Took the guy almost a week to respond back....by then I had already decided that nothing was going to come of it. But I sent a note back anyway, and we started talking on messenger. He was so honest and forthcoming, and he always understood where I was coming from when we talked. Still, I didn't want to get my expectations set too high. I knew I hadn't kissed my share of frogs yet lol. We chatted intermittently for a few weeks then decided to meet. I'm not one to lose my head and jump headfirst into things, and neither is he...but I'm telling you, the moment I laid my eyes on him, I knew he was mine. And he knew it too. There may as well have been an audible ~click~. That was just about two years ago, and I could never have imagined how sweet life could be when you're sharing it with the "right" person. Is he perfect? Nope, far from it (as am I) but he is perfect for me. Sometimes we talk about how crazy it is, being almost 40 and suddenly having everything fall into place. Sometimes we lament that we didn't meet 20 years ago, but then we agree that we weren't who we are today as individuals, and probably wouldn't have connected on the level that we did.
So to answer your question....I think your soulmate is placed in your path when you are truly ready to recieve them. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 3/19/2009 6:36:07 PM | | I don't believe in "soul mates". You will find someone. You may want to look somewhere other than online. I though online would be the fast track since you can instantly communicate if you want but find it is in my opinion frustrating and a lot of the people on dating sites have a significant other and aren't even looking to date. Maybe try a singles get together or even the personal ads in the newspaper. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 3/21/2009 11:22:37 AM | | If you think like that then it will be all over! Maybe you need to think differently! YOU'RE still alive! right? | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 3/21/2009 11:56:26 AM | I agree......
And if you think it is over at 38, you will be more than dismayed at 48 and 58.......
Never say never, and do not ever think it is to late for meeting that one(s) that can enrich your life, and let you enrich theirs......in all the right places and ways.......
Just my opinion.........   | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 3/21/2009 7:34:20 PM | I don't believe in soulmates either. I do believe in love, but I think there is more than one person that is right for each of us.
I'll also turn 38 this year. I've never been married because I knew it just wasn't right with anyone else. The part about not having kids is the only thing that makes me really sad. Real love and great times can happen at any age. Kids can't. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 11/12/2009 1:27:33 AM | twenty years ago they didnt have soulmates, twenty years from now you wont understand your tv remote. There are worse things in the world than being single, foot loose, responsibility free and answering to noone but your own whim, cash, and wanderlust. Its a big wide wet world out there.
Or you could sit at home and make your bucketlist of all the other things that never apperate either....
Lottery winnings
Nobel Prize
Bill Gates' Inheritence
Your own Reality TV Show
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 11/12/2009 7:31:18 AM | I was told when I was in my teens that if you do not find somebody by the time that you turn 30, then it is over
I know from experience that it is true, I never was able to attract any woman before I turned 30, and still even today I stiil can not attract any
SO YES at 38 IT IS TOO LATE
take my word for it | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 11/12/2009 7:53:00 AM | | its never too late i hope oneday to still meet my soulmate there is someone out their for everybody you just have to be patience | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 11/13/2009 11:48:38 AM | What is this thing you call "soulmate" ? 
You people are chasing rainbows ....
All you get in this life is a "mate" and that's if you're lucky.
Keep your expectation low, and your hopes high.... that's the "key" to happiness in this life. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 11/13/2009 12:36:45 PM | If 38 is too late to find a soul mate, then what in the h#ll are we all doing here?
If we lose all hope of finding someone to share our life with because of age, we may as well just walk out to the pasture and take a dirt nap!!
There is no age limit to the enjoyment of life, nor a set time line as to when the fates will align themselves to show us our path.
Only if you take the tour of life, the hills vallies,and rivers, will you be able to see the beauty of it all and know when you have found the soul mate that you seek.
Keep looking, feeling, and enjoying each encounter, for then you will able to sense her arival in your life. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 11/13/2009 6:41:11 PM | There is no such a thing as a "soul mate," and people who wait around for one are likely to end up alone. No two people are perfectly compatible. Every relationship involves compromises. There is no settling down without some settling for.
That said, dating gets damned hard after 30. After 30, that pool of single, available people dries up as folks get married or enter serious LTRs. Not sure what the solution is. I do feel that as hard as it is for men, it is even harder for women. At least you're going to find women in their 30s who want to meet you. Most guys your age are looking for women who are much youger than them--in their 20s. Good luck. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 11/15/2009 8:25:45 AM | | That's what I am starting to believe myself.Sucks the thought of being alone for the rest of your life. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 11/15/2009 1:09:26 PM | | I think when you find your soulmate.. you wont care that he is a slob with a big hairy dog that eats all your food and lays on the couch all day.. you will just love him. JMO.. Kat | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 11/15/2009 5:19:02 PM | Hey guy's,and gal's,
We are all here trying to find someone special, do not give up! he or she may be around the corner.
have faith in yourself . Ask . believe . and receive. She will be there. He will be there. Promise. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 11/15/2009 6:19:10 PM | Hey, I'm 35 and still haven't....too many fish in the sea to give up. :D
And you usually end up hooking one when you least expect it. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 11/21/2009 9:43:32 PM | | maybe a good place to start is by not posting a thread about being '38', when you're actually 41. People do meet their mate at all ages, but NOT by lying!!!! | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 11/23/2009 5:31:54 AM | | If you're waiting for a soul mate, it was too late when you were 12. Soul mates don't exist. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 11/23/2009 10:22:14 AM | | I'm 39 and totally understand how you feel. Sometimes it seems hopeless and I'm not sure that I believe in soul mates anymore. I really hate it when people tell me just wait when your not looking for it he will be there you've probably heard that one too. The people who usually say that have allready found their special someone. | |
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