| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 2/18/2007 12:11:41 AM | Never say never. you really never know what tomorrow will bring. It's never too late. Of course, if you think you'll never find it then you never will.
like Henry Ford said, whether you believe you can or can't [or will or won't] either way you are right.
:) Cali | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 2/18/2007 5:33:57 AM | | OP.................. think positive!!!!!!!!!!!!! Heck im 38 as of dec last year and i feel like im just getting started!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! woo hooooooooooo | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 2/19/2007 2:40:55 PM | | 38 and too late? Heck! I am just getting started! This is were it should be good, don't yah think? Maturity factor and all.. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 2/20/2007 6:14:12 PM |
I think that basically at my age if I havent met my soul mate then I never will.Your thoughts
Here I am now my mid 40's and been divorced now for 7 soon to be 8 years, and I have not had a relationship with anyone in this whole time. Yes I could have gone out and had my brains F**K out, but that would be just meaningless sex. I do not know about the rest of you but I can not have sex just for the reason of having it, I need to feel love and be in love and all that stuff. Personaly I see very little hope that I will ever meet someone at this point in my life and that is so sad as I have some much to offer. The females...well the ones around here in my neck of the woods are hopeless they want Mr. Perfect and they look more and how great you look and how much $$$$$$ you have....and not always in that order..
Personaly I think I would be a great catch for any lady. Since starting this dating stuff some 7+ years ago, I have come to one basic truth. And that is most...note I said MOST...not all!! Most ladies that seem to be out there are gold digger or so screwed up that they will take just about anything that has a heart beat. Then there are other ones that think there so perfect and some of them even boldly state in there profiles on here how perfect they are and they will not settle of anything less perfect then they are....well honey may I suggest you take your head outa your A$$ as you are very..very..very..far from perfect..!
The problem as I see it guys is this... The ladies that are worth looking at that are on here are lost in a sea of ROTTEN fish and its so hard to pick out the good ones from all the sick ones that you kinda feel like just giving up on it all. And I bet they have much the same problem weeding through all the horn dogs that just wana get layed and the other game player that they feel like giving up looking for a nice guy. So what is the answer to all this....???? The HELL if I know, but there has to be some way that "WE" good guys can somehow meet and those ladies that are worth meeting and seeing if something might spark interest between the two of you.
If all else fails....there is always one of those inflatable ones for 19.95 down at your local sex shop.... The day I get there...is the day I lose all respect for myself....
I refuse to go out and just get layed for the hell of it...that to would also make me lose all respect for myself as well....have never done that...and do not wana go there. I have always been very much a one women man loyal to the bitter end. I wish I could say that of my EX....and that is why I am here....I refuse to share my bed with another guy...or in her case...other guy(s) Unknown how many there might have been but suspect there are a few just by things I have found out.
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 2/21/2007 2:22:54 AM |
38 and thinking its too late. I think that basically at my age if I haven't met my soul mate then I never will. Your thoughts
I just turned 38 last month, and the thought 'it's too late' refused to cross my mind.
Don't swet it! Never say never... | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 2/21/2007 10:07:27 AM | | I hear of ppl in their 80`s you are finding their soul mates...never too late my friend ...they may not have as many years to enjoy it ,but its the quality ,not quantity that counts... | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 2/21/2007 10:56:02 AM | | from what i can see, especially on a site like this is, ppl seem to be looking for perfection, it doesn't exist, i believe there is someone out there for everyone | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 2/22/2007 5:03:29 AM | | Aaaaah, the soul mate question!!! I thought I met my soulmate TWICE. Both times was wrong, I wonder if it exists for all people? | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 2/22/2007 7:05:28 AM | | i don't think its too late to find that 1 person you want to spend the rest of your life with. as for soul mate i don't think thats just a partner thing, a soul mate can be your best friend. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 2/22/2007 7:12:46 AM | | Well i,m 35 and still looking for my soul mate, but i always believe theres someone out there for all of us... | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 2/22/2007 9:02:15 AM | Better NOT be to late!!
I am 37 and I know he is out there somewhere.
The bad thing is... the longer it takes, the less time we will have together!! | |
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Joined: 2/27/2006
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 2/23/2007 9:16:43 AM | Late 30's for us men women think we are old, bitter, jaded, washed up. Women in their late 30's are just getting started in their life.
I am 38, and I will agree, dating and such is more a headache than anything else. Seems to be the only part of my life that has not and probably will never be good. C'est La Vie | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 2/23/2007 10:52:03 AM | | I'm beginning to think the same way. No one ever quite fits the description of what I want, and I don't want to settle for less than what I deserve. I've done that too often. Now, I can't even get anyone to look at me. And when they do, they are either drunk or mentally challenged. Geez. I'm not ugly. Don't have a barbie doll figure any more, but not ugly. Guess I am just too...smart. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 2/25/2007 10:33:22 AM | Hello everyone... for all those pesimist if you dont start changing your mind about this you will never found someone good enough to share your life.
You attract to your life which your thoughts reflect, good or bad.
I am turning 40 this year and I found a wonderful guy in this site, we met cause of the parties, got marry 2 weeks ago and I can tell you I am really happy and I feel really lucky to find him and sharing my life with him at this point of my life.
As well age is just number,what is really important is the way you feel and the way you project that to others. I dont feel really my age and I think I project that as well, so my age is what less worries me in my life, start taking care more about yourself first and spend your energies to make it work, the rest will be added by its own
NEVER IS LATE TO MAKE WORK YOUR DREAMS
Change your mind about this topic and be more open, forget about how old you are and concetrate in the good things you have and the way you share with others.
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 2/25/2007 2:12:53 PM | | The belief that there is a soul mate may be what's holding you back. Sure there might be. But what seems to make most relationships a success is our ability to come to some sort of mutual understanding with our partner. Even people who are soul mates can argue. So just because you get into an argument with a woman, doesn't mean she isn't your soul mate. Our ability to make up after arguments tells us more about our ability to live with a mate, than living a life with no arguments. So if you see a couple that never argues, you can't just assume they are soul mates either. I believe that one can have someone who is long term and won't part with us, if they have patience to deal with our difference of opinion and lifestyle from their's, and still have an overall happier relationship, than people who consider themselves just soul mates. It is not too late. I'm 35, have met a few women. None who desire to marry me, but that's their loss, not mine. They can't see a person who could be perfect for them. They want someone perfect in every way. I'll just take someone who isn't a player, who likes Classical music, doesn't smoke, and doesn't overspend themselves. Everything else is negotiable, is something that I'm happy to hash out in healthy arguments, and it doesn't matter that it is hard to find someone who is a perfect match. No one really is. And we shouldn't be looking for a perfect match. We should be looking for enough of a match, and small enough differences, that they don't matter. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 2/25/2007 2:27:56 PM | I have decided that my life will begin at 40. It's the new 20 you know 
I spent the last 16 years raising my daughter and ensuring she had my undivided attention because I knew that I had plenty of time to live my life once she developed her own.
Now I am getting out to see what is out there in the world for me.
I am sure that there is still someone left out there not all the good one's are taken yet. I think if you don't look to hard you will find your happiness, don't lose heart don't be so sure that it's over, it has just begun!  | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 2/25/2007 8:19:38 PM | I thought I had met my soulmate...was so sure of it....well and obviously being divorced I was wrong...
Its not easy to believe sometimes but thats why they call it faith and not fact. In my opinion, if you don't believe something is possilble the chances of it happening are not good. Belief is a very powerful thing!! I fully believe I will still find her, but I will enjoy my time with everyone that is not her until then....
So keep the faith brother man and keep on fishing.   | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 2/25/2007 8:54:16 PM | Just out of curiosity, what factors into considering someone your "soul mate"?
ie... what exactly are you looking for and thinking you might be too old to find.. in fact, why do you think age has anything to do with it one way or another? Being able to find them when younger or not being able to find them when older?
Oh, btw.. the only way you will EVER be truly defeated is to stop trying. Otherwise, it's all just an ongoing process. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 2/25/2007 11:36:15 PM | What makes up a soul mate?? Geez...I have never met mine so I couldn't tell you.
I imagine though it involves thinking of them from time to time and just smiling. Still ... I know there is more to it then that.
I say don't give up .... what is the point? | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 3/9/2007 4:13:48 PM | NEVER too late !!!! 38 and beyond is the BEST !!
I'm 39 and looking forward to my 40's.
Maturity patience and confidence are finally starting to bear fruit for me. Thank GOD!!
Like lingafla said up above ....
"I'm just getting started” | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 3/9/2007 6:58:15 PM | In response to waycool...thank you so much for your input. I am 37 and have been on here dating for a year. Every guy I've either gotten involved with seriously or have just dated have all fallen into the "player" category thus making me wonder if my ONE is out there still. It is frustrating having to keep starting over and that in itself was making me question continuing but now I feel that time wasn't necessarily being wasted. It was more of a weeding out process til I find who I was meant to be with. So thanks for your comment "but I will enjoy my time with everyone that is not her until then...." made me feel better about it all.
~~Becca~~ | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 3/11/2007 7:25:40 AM | SOUL MATES ARN'T HATCHED THEY GROW... YOU MAKE A CONECTION, BUILD A RELATIONSHIP AND THEN YOU REALIZE " THIS IS MY SOUL MATE".
just my thoughts..... | |
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