| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 4/23/2007 8:46:40 AM | | The negative outlook is not justified. It is based on a presumption of soulmates being in shortage, when in fact they are in abundance. They are not always easy to find, though, so diligent effort may be required to locate one. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 4/23/2007 9:08:34 AM | I think the idea of a "soul mate" is a bit unrealistic. Not that we have to compromise, but just do not believe there is only one perfect match.
I think we all our compatible with may people. The difficult part of the equation is meeting them. The internet personals are a possibliity that can work. But we also have to get out and be active, check out other groups such as singles groups, or activity groups such as hiking, bicycling, or hobbies. To interact more with people.
It certainly is more difficult the older we get. But do not give up. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 4/23/2007 1:20:16 PM | Hello i just turned 38 iam single and happy
I think you want to find that right person NOW
So....be picky
And it will take more time and u will find the one you are looking for
The type of woman you like for friends or dating
Could be the same for long term
And some woman may be interested in moving for the right man for long term
There is more than one woman or man out on planet earth for everyone
Good Luck.............. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 4/23/2007 1:38:20 PM | It's never too late.
Never.
No matter what anyone else says, or tells you. Now, you say you are "picky" ... is that your word, or someone else's word? I have come to learn that most people who say "I'm picky", really mean, "People tell me I am picky" ... and nobody has any right to be telling anyone else what is pick and what is not, you know??
Life is short, yes.... but as long as you are ALIVE, it's NEVER TOO LATE!!!! | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 4/29/2007 11:23:23 AM | It is a scientific fact that nobody will find their soulmate until they are 40.
So if you are with someone and you are not 40, they are not your soulmate. 
/me decides to hang out in the 40 forums | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 5/6/2007 8:47:25 PM | No offense... but boy-oh-boy... I hope you are wrong...lol....
I am also 38... I am finally ready for love... ... so he HAD BETTER be out there...lol.....
I continue to think positive even though I want to just give up every time I see ppl holding hands at the mall...having coffee and enjoying eachother's company..... I used to think "I can't wait for that to be me".. and sometimes I get negative and think"ugh..that'll never be me"....
Love has to be out there... there just can be no other option... so let's think positive!!!!
We are in the same boat... that's 2 of us!!!!... so there is bound to be more looking!!!! :)
Kathryn | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 5/6/2007 11:33:26 PM | ok, listen, you are a hot guy....I am 44 and don't plan on giving up anytime soon! I believe what we are here for is to be good to people when we can and to be happy...sometimes it takes a long time to learn to be happy! Even if you don't find that elusive perfect person, find people in general who make your life a better place and always learn from the people you allow into your life...be good to yourself and be the person you want to be, what's not to love in that???? Don't waste your days looking for anyone, live your life as fully and happily as you can, it will all be ok.....and she will show up when you forgot to look | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 5/7/2007 5:50:47 PM | I read of 60-year-olds who met their soul mate.
Stop looking so hard, man.
Just meet people to get to know them.
"Seek, and ye shall find" | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 5/7/2007 6:11:56 PM | | Dude i so oooooooo feel that way sometimes. I think though there must be someone out that for us all. i am 35 and this dating thing sucks finding someone your compatiable with is hard but hang in there she is out there good luck to ya. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 5/7/2007 9:37:09 PM | @tml
it's not too late at 38
i found my first TRUE love at 35
its harder to find someone maybe, but when you do, it is likely to LAST because at this age, we are established and know who we are and what we want....
keep looking hon! | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 5/8/2007 3:06:21 AM | | as we get older, we expect more from a partner, we dont settle for anything less than what we believe in, we dont 'make do' hoping things will turn out ok, we know from the start what we want and what we expect, thats what makes it harder !!! | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 5/9/2007 7:11:39 AM | I am so glad this was "posted" I just turned 38 and was thinking OMG.... but seriously lets go with the theory that its never too late....  | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 5/9/2007 3:44:31 PM | My dear, you think that since you haven't met your soulmate yet, you never will. You don't know that. If you give up, then you DEFINITELY won't!
It all comes down to what you want. If you truly want to be married/ LTR, then perhaps you should get past your 'comfort zone'. It's human nature to stick to a routine or limit yourself to things that you feel comfortable with. Perhaps you should start getting more involved in activities that you normally wouldn't. Everyone has hobbies that they've always wanted to try. Have you considered joining some groups? Join clubs or groups that will expand your social circles. You're bound to meet some great people out there.
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 5/9/2007 7:00:00 PM | | i think we might be setting ourselves up for disappointment with the whole soulmates myth here. I'm a very romantic and spiritual person but i cant believe that there is this perfect predestined soul out there for us to meet. We know a lot of people never find a secure relationship to be in,.. they leave this world single,.. so what happened to their soulmates? A soulmate.... someone who will understand your every motive and love you unconditionally? A person who dovetails with you so perfectly? That would be like dating yourself..God!! Dating myself!! What an horrific thought,..lol.. Now I'm not one to compromise my self to death, just so that i can be with someone.. I suspect a lot of over 30's feel the same, and I am willing to believe that there may be someone out there who i can love, who can love me. But i dont expect it.. I WILL have to compromise my ideals at somepoint,, because we are all different, the challenge at my age is being flexible enough to accomodate some differences,.. and none of us seem to do that so well in practice. maybe we need to throw out the soul mates idea, and then start looking for a match thats still loving.. and romantic even, but ultimately realistic. Thanks and good luck to all, xx | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 5/10/2007 11:18:27 PM | I'm forty one. Still a sandwich shy of a picnic.
As far as finding a soulmate goes...I wonder if they know where we are. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 5/11/2007 7:51:27 AM | I'm 38 and more passionate about life than I ever was. Soulmates are everywhere, you just got to meet them and see where/how they live to find out if you're compatible for relationship or friendship. It was weird for me to hear from alot of single parents that they are using the internet nowadays and finding g/f, b/f so I decided what the hell. CNN interviewed the founders of MySpace and with all the members they have....over half the nation are on there. Yes, I know the same ole bit of "well, I'm doing that but still not finding her" and yet home alone while others have love at night....BE OPEN!
*******I bet you if all the singles (of each city) on POF got together at one time, half (if not more) would find soulmates or good friends to help each other succeed instead of needing the internet anymore. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 5/11/2007 10:51:33 AM | I am not always an optimist on this subject, but good grief!
Not once have I ever really thought that it is impossible to find a soul mate at my own age, in spite of the fact that I am forty and have never been hitched or had kids.
That being said, I will say that it is definitely a lot more difficult to meet single people now, as the pool has shrunk considerably. I know that they are out there, but it seems that single people in their thirties and forties are not as visible as single people in their twenties are.
Even so, it just means I have to have a little more patience.
Besides, I hate self-fulfilling prophecies...
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 5/11/2007 8:13:54 PM | I'm alittle past 38, but I believe it's only too late when you're dead. I know she's out there, but finding your soulmate and staying together are two completely different sides of the issue. A lasting relationship takes work by both parties. I know, I've been there. I had a woman who I could not live without; (a soulmate), and between my indifference and plenty of alcohol, she's gone. To my shame. 30 years later, and I still think about "what if". I trust The Lord will bring me another, if it is His will. Meanwhile, people who are compatible in varying degrees continue to meet. I believe a soulmate is someone who is a dead on match with your own personality, but it still takes a lot of effort to stay together. Especially in my case. It's hard to find anyone like me who isn't institutionalized yet, and the older they get, the more likely they are to have been lobotomized.
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 5/12/2007 5:35:26 PM | | I turn 39 at the end of next month....It does get tougher & tougher to meet someone. With every year I get more so set in my ways, But yes... Hope has not escaped me... | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 5/12/2007 11:22:21 PM | | there is no such thing as hope, only reality. And reality can deal you a terrible hand and you have to accept it | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 5/13/2007 5:05:39 AM | WOW Champ........that makes me sad as hell to read!! Do you REALLY TRULY DEEP DOWN BELIEVE THIS???? Or after one "terrible hand" too many you are just too afraid to hope anymore? I could understand that. But it's still so sad.......
..........Do you want to get back to hoping? | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 5/13/2007 6:52:02 AM | | haven't found mine yet, and I'm 38....We have more than half our life left! I refuse to give up, or settle for less than the perfect man for me. | |
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| 38 and thinking its too late
Posted: 5/13/2007 7:02:15 AM |
WOW Champ........that makes me sad as hell to read!! Do you REALLY TRULY DEEP DOWN BELIEVE THIS???? Or after one "terrible hand" too many you are just too afraid to hope anymore? I could understand that. But it's still so sad.......
..........Do you want to get back to hoping?
We all hope for this and that. Hope that when we do something it will work out. Hope we can have this and that. But no one can make it happen. Things happen for a reason. If we keep striking out, just means we are not good enough. Anyone can still keep trying but reality is, you have to realize you may not be good enough.
Hope and reality are two different things.
I'll always hope but will always accept reality. You have to. | |
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