| Have any of you guys dated black women and if not why?
Posted: 3/26/2008 9:10:28 PM | Cross tabs for marital status by race and sex were not available. For all we know, you made up that figure
I don't need to manufacture bullshit... I have nothing to prove. Nor, do I have a particular view that needs to be defended by any means possible. But, just to entertain you.......... google.
Maybe focus on befriending those who haven't dated black women as opposed to insulting them. Both you and him may be pleasently surprised (and shocked) at the outcome. | |
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| Have any of you guys dated black women and if not why?
Posted: 3/26/2008 10:53:03 PM | | Why so defensive? If you post data, you should list the source. It is a topic I have researched so I would like to know where you got those figures. The last I checked the data wasn't broken down like that for Canada. | |
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| Have any of you guys dated black women and if not why?
Posted: 3/26/2008 11:52:49 PM |
The absence or presence of a photo has nothing to do with it.
Maybe I am lazy. Or maybe I don't respond to _any_ profile not showing a picture. You will notice that in spite of my slothful, lazy ways I was able to get a picture up. In fact more than one.
And maybe I figure if someone won't want to get to know me based on what I look like, then they can take a hike. What are you hiding from? Or do you just not close your mouth long enough to get a good picture taken? {Now if that doesn't set her off, nothing will. You can find humour in all sorts of places}
Oh, and by the way, thanks for responding to at least part of my post. Do I assume that you reacted to the part that hit the most exposed nerve or did you just forget the first part? {Maybe this will set her off, too.} | |
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| Have any of you guys dated black women and if not why?
Posted: 3/27/2008 12:03:21 PM |
Why so defensive? If you post data, you should list the source. It is a topic I have researched so I would like to know where you got those figures. The last I checked the data wasn't broken down like that for Canada.
I've attempted to reread this thread in order to determine if I was out of line. As a compliment to you, I can sense the passion you have. Out of respect for you, I am trying to appreciate who you are and what you are trying to represent. Your sentiments as stated in message#57 does explain a lot. It reads:
You do have a point, however, when one experiences a lifetime of rejection as a pre-teen, teen and, at the times when you'e single, as an adult, it hurts. Easy to say don't let it get to you if you are in a community where there are tons of other options. When one grows up like I did and like others who have posted did and you are one of the few Black girls in the community and there are no Black boys, trust me, it's hard for it NOT hurt.
We all suffer from feeling insignificant. Believe me... I've been through enough in my life and it hasn't stopped. In fact, I think that is the reason I don't date (I'm not certain about that but it does enter my mind often enough). As a caucasion born and raised in the shadow of Detroit Michigan, I've seen acts of racism and discrimination. I've seen hate.... from both sides as a result from the riots in Detroit (in the 60's). White people were (some still are) afraid of entering Detroit. As well, I was bullied by black guys when I first entered high school (in Canada).
The thing that I refused to do is make others feel they need to be victims with me and/or feel sorry for me. I knew I would lose friends if that was my goal. I also refused to be consumed in feeling like a victim.
I hope we cross paths one day..... we'll share some smiles and some laughs. I'm charming in that respect. | |
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| Have any of you guys dated black women and if not why?
Posted: 3/27/2008 6:31:01 PM | Fishowl stated:
And maybe I figure if someone won't want to get to know me based on what I look like, then they can take a hike. What are you hiding from? Or do you just not close your mouth long enough to get a good picture taken? {Now if that doesn't set her off, nothing will. You can find humour in all sorts of places}
I usually don't flirt or praise people on these boards.
I have seen her pics. In one of them, I remarked that she looked like a Bondgirl.
I love women who speak their mind. | |
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| Have any of you guys dated black women and if not why?
Posted: 3/28/2008 1:34:08 PM | Thank you Steve. FishOwl.... 
My I glad to see you've chilled a bit.  Would still like to know your sources. I am always on the lookout for new sources of data.
Can't remember who suggested that my attention should be spent on trying to convince Caucasian men who discriminate to consider Black women. Was it you My I  Now why would I want to do that? I do have a life and I only believe in investing time, energy or money in places and with people when I think there is a high liklihood of ROI. When someone has been brainwashed to the point that they don't even realize it, I write it off as a lost cause and move on. They are unlikely to change. | |
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| Have any of you guys dated black women and if not why?
Posted: 3/28/2008 3:49:22 PM |
My I glad to see you've chilled a bit
Not to worry... I debate issues with an open mind... not with my temper.... try it sometime.
Can't remember who suggested that my attention should be spent on trying to convince Caucasian men who discriminate to consider Black women. Was it you My I
You should read posts as they are written... not in the way you want them to read. I did suggest you are putting a lot of effort into insulting others as opposed to gaining friends. I said:
Maybe focus on befriending those who haven't dated black women as opposed to insulting them
Nowhere did I suggest you date men who "discriminate"...you added that in, yourself.
All you've done is play victim in this thread. Other women of minorities have it a lot worse than you.
In regards to stats... as I said before... google it. And if you want to debate the issue about it not being in canadian stats? . You said stats canada does not have such information. I've read your references to "North American" white men many times. So, obviously, "North American" stats would have to suffice. "My friends", "They say", "I saw" and "I know"... does not constitute as factual, pertinent sources.
And as for this comment:
So, I have set up a place in introductions where Asian men and Black women can introduce themselves to each other.
You are promoting segregation within the forums (the very thing you despise)... hence, the reason that thread was deleted.
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| Have any of you guys dated black women and if not why?
Posted: 3/28/2008 4:26:57 PM | No one is talking in circles. That discussion was AGES ago. At that time, a lot of White men were indicating that they had no interest in considering Black women and a lot of White women were indicating that they weren't interested in considering Asian men. So it was the White men and the White women who were doing the discriminating and excluding. I don't discriminate on the basis of race PERIOD!! Based on experience, I realize that most Caucasian men who were raised in North America DO!! So I thought that, rather than playing victim, why not empower people to introduce themselves. At that time, I didn't realize that it was against policy to do discussions for specific audiences. No problem man. 
Thank you for clarifying that your stats were USA stats. (By the way, that is all that you had to say in the first place. There was no need for nasty comments. As for the open minded vs temper comment the only person that I have seen displaying temper is YOU. You've chilled a bit and you are starting to show flashes of likeability. That's great. 
I am a hot blooded and passionate West Indian woman  not of the bland, low keyed (boring) Canadian variety. (Despite my years in Canada, I have stayed in touch with that aspect of my roots. ) I speak with passion and conviction....NEVER mistake passion for temper.  Anyway, I digress.
Yes the US Census bureau does break their stats down in a manner that is much more useful than what we do in Canada.
All you've done is play victim in this thread. Other women of minorities have it a lot worse than you.
Wheel and come back. Come again.  Bringing issues out into the open instead of smiling sweetly and pretending they are not here is not playing victim.
Other women of minorities have it a lot worse than you.
Translation please. I haven't got a clue what to what you are referring or what you are trying to say here.
BTW, for the person (don't recall who) who thought the West Indies was in India, you're in good company. Colombus made the same mistake and hence the name West Indies. We're actually south of Florida.
Anyway, got to run  Happy
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| Have any of you guys dated black women and if not why?
Posted: 3/28/2008 5:14:46 PM | Translation please. I haven't got a clue what to what you are referring or what you are trying to say here.
You seem to be so focussed on the fact that black women are being ignored for the most part. However, you should be thankful you can date whomever you want. There are cultures where they brought their discriminatory values onto this continent and literally injure and ostricise their women for dating outside of their ethnicity. in fact, they also practise pre-arranged marriages. These women have no say whatsoever. If divorced and dating other ethnicities, they are known to lose access to their children... the children are hidden from them.
My point is that you should feel blessed you have freedom of choice rather than complaining about others practising their freedom to choose. Fighting for equality and fairness is a redundant battle in many cases because some people will never be pleased.... no matter what they get in life.
Bringing issues out into the open instead of smiling sweetly and pretending they are not here is not playing victim
I'm simply responding to your statement in messgae#53:
I suggest that people stop blaming those that are the victims and focus on an issue that is of concern
As for the open minded vs temper comment the only person that I have seen displaying temper is YOU. You've chilled a bit and you are starting to show flashes of likeability. That's great
I am always chilled... never shaken... rarely stirred. | |
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| Have any of you guys dated black women and if not why?
Posted: 3/29/2008 12:30:17 AM | ^^^^ and his name is bond, james bond. 
As for the open minded vs temper comment the only person that I have seen displaying temper is YOU
^^^^ oh trust me darlin, he doesnt have a temper, he just calls them like he sees them....
OT: i have no interest in dating a woman, so i dont feel i am qualified to comment. | |
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| Have any of you guys dated black women and if not why?
Posted: 3/29/2008 5:55:40 AM |
^^^^ oh trust me darlin, he doesnt have a temper, he just calls them like he sees them....
.....and so do I .......so do I. It's interesting that it's considered to be an admirable quality in a guy. When a woman does it, and heaven forbid a woman from a visible minority group does it it's "temper". | |
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| Have any of you guys dated black women and if not why?
Posted: 6/2/2008 8:47:56 AM | I have dated 2 black women and one who was more like a night stand.
Ok, I might sound a little racist but Im not. The three of them were pretty good looking but one was just amazing beautiful. The whole Beyonce look going on for her, but when it was time to get sexual. A body odor from the three of them were about the same and the smell was YUCK! I couldn't take it.
To be Honest I have only dated White and Black girls. But from my experience I won't be going black again.
Sorry, and again Im not racist. | |
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| Have any of you guys dated black women and if not why?
Posted: 6/7/2008 1:03:23 AM |
Sorry, and again Im not racist.
Yeah, right.
Anyway, I'm struck by the way these type of thread ("Why don't they date us?") are typically started by black men or black women. People, show a little dignity and you'll help your cases a lot more than these "desperation" threads.
...Plus, though interracial dating is fine, you should nurture your own scene rather than appealing for the acceptance of others. Black on black relations are notoriously fractious, so these desperation threads smack of a "rats off a sinking ship" mentality. Not very attractive.
It'll be much easier to find mates of all kinds -- interracial and otherwise -- when our own scene is more robust. It's all about options. Interracial and intercultural options are great, but they can't compare to the prospects and possibilities inherent in having a healthy scene of your own. | |
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| Have any of you guys dated black women and if not why?
Posted: 6/7/2008 6:59:46 AM | Yes I have dated Black Females and would again in a heart beat. The biggest problem I have, is a very lousy work schedule which hurt my ability to travel to do so. In this regard, Leanne made a very valid point about the availability of single Black woman in certain communities.
My difficulty in dating, has nothing to do with the race of the person, but the fact that as a single father of 3 kids, who live with me, and a very demanding job hours wise, is simply time.
I have noticed that American Black females seem to be more open to dating a white guy than those here in Canada though, which arouses my curiousity as to why the difference. | |
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| Have any of you guys dated black women and if not why?
Posted: 6/7/2008 4:36:57 PM | I lived in T-Dot for 5 years, the oppurtunity was very available, coming from wisconsin where "mixing" is still not the most accepted practice, I never got romantically involved with black women, though I did become very close friends with a young black woman and many people assumed we were together. I found out about a year later that she was totally in love with me but too afraid to admit it.
You said that you did not see alot of mixing between black females and other ethnic groups. That is very simple, black women do not go around flaunting their trophies like black boys do. (This is not an attack, don't go calling Al Sharpton) There are just as many black women with white men in larger cities, it's just not made a spectacle of. | |
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| Have any of you guys dated black women and if not why?
Posted: 6/30/2008 7:30:47 PM | | Caleta26 I had a few dates with thoes same beautiful black ladies and the told me about a date they had with a hispanic chap and they ended the date due to your B.O. its not a race thing . | |
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| Have any of you guys dated black women and if not why?
Posted: 6/30/2008 7:54:12 PM |
There are just as many black women with white men in larger cities, it's just not made a spectacle of.
False. I live in Seattle and BF/WM relationships still trail BM/WF relationships significantly. Not necessarily because
black women do not want to date white men but rather because the typical white male is looking for something attributes
that are in shorter supply within black females.
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| Have any of you guys dated black women and if not why?
Posted: 7/1/2008 1:22:55 PM | as a black woman i can speak from exsperience of my own but not quite for all black females
i've learned that
white men only want black women for the "exsperience"
i think it all adds up to just a sex thing of course a "fantasy" just to say "HEY they did that" after hearing all the wild tales an stories it's just another notch in thier belt..something eles to talk about.. there not actually intrested in getting to know you or dating you they just wanna f uck for the "exsperience" it adds up,,there's alotta white guys who have messaged me talking about how they would love to be with a black woman an exsperience "it" because of what they've heard
rolls eyes" yada yada yada, this grows very annoying an tiresome real quick see they don't really want us they just want the exsperience an to for fill a fantasy for them..this of course pisses me off because some think that just becasue they wanna try "it" being with a black woman an want some p ussy they think we just gonna give it away to them cause they asked for it,, last i checked i wasnt no hooker an i anit serving nothing on the menu to these fools.. some men fail to realize that we as women in general have feelings an emotions too,, an that we anit here to just for fill a ridiculous fantasy for them,, maybe i just wanna talk an get to know a guy an just be his friend,, but they anit tryna hear that..
some guys always talk about how much they love something, how they would love to do this or that,, but how can you love something you anit never had before.
an it's always the guys who say O i love black women but yet when asked all an most of them have never dated or even attempted to date outside thier race or be with a black female..
most anit really down an don't want to be they just wanna sample to see what all the fuss is about then to go on about thier business so thay can have another story to tell..an ad to the collection of all the other myths going on.. | |
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| Have any of you guys dated black women and if not why?
Posted: 7/1/2008 1:45:09 PM |
an it's always the guys who say O i love black women but yet when asked all an most of them have never dated or even attempted to date outside thier race or be with a black female..
Exactly and you write to them after the post their platitudes in the forums. I have YET to have one follow through on a date. It always ends up being cancelled and they make no attempt to re-book. | |
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| Have any of you guys dated black women and if not why?
Posted: 7/1/2008 2:24:15 PM | Please don't take offense, almondcookie. I checked your profile out of curiousity, it's one of the most selective and negative I've seen on here.
It's an honest reaction to bad experiences on here but it sure won't attract very many people. I'm sure you it doesn't reflect the true you.
I also haven't had many responses, it's easy to get lost in the vast pond but I certainly won't blame anyone else or make it a racial issue. If you're on a dating site just to troll for this or any other issue, that's kinda sad. | |
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| Have any of you guys dated black women and if not why?
Posted: 7/2/2008 11:45:55 AM |
I have dated 2 black women and one who was more like a night stand.
Ok, I might sound a little racist but Im not. The three of them were pretty good looking but one was just amazing beautiful. The whole Beyonce look going on for her, but when it was time to get sexual. A body odor from the three of them were about the same and the smell was YUCK! I couldn't take it.
To be Honest I have only dated White and Black girls. But from my experience I won't be going black again.
Sorry, and again Im not racist.
I'm sorry but that is hilarious. Maybe you have met women with bad hygiene issues. Just because it looks good on the outside doesn't always mean it's going to be delicious on the inside. Maybe you should stop having one night stands and actually get to know people and not their fishy vagina's. AND please don't say you aren't going to "go black" like you said because of that. There are fishy girls of all races. Maybe it's the type you go for. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2008 3:02:13 PM | | Buick Makane.....I really couldn't care less. I am not looking to attract anyone here. I am strictly here for the forums. When I had the profile that was all sweetness and light it didn't make one bit of difference so WHY BOTHER? No point in wasting my time. Many people are here just for the forums. There's nothing wrong with that. | |
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| Have any of you guys dated black women and if not why?
Posted: 7/2/2008 8:18:38 PM | | If people are going to put their thoughts on the forum, they are going to get responded to in one way or another maybe even contreversial some times. others responses may bother some people and others may LOL but the point of the forum is for feedback on the topics posted. | |
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