Smjle
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Joined: 9/19/2006
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 10/2/2006 6:34:13 PM | | I suppose it's the guys you are going out with. Most young guys with little or no experience are going to be too slow for you. I suppose older experienced guys will be more aggressive. But truthfully, if you date guys that think they are doing well instead of the more desirable guys so that you are doing well, you can easily keep them under control and they will keep coming back. | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 10/2/2006 6:36:03 PM | | All guys want sex...but it's the one that will wait until you are ready, no matter how long that is, those are the keepers. And they do exist. | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 10/2/2006 6:42:49 PM | OK.....let me try to put this in more understandable terms.
Let's say, just to make the numbers more manageable, that
there are 100 men and 100 women in your world. It would
be safe to say that at least half of those men would be the
type that are looking for sex quickly in a relationship. Half
of the other group would be involved already, and of course
there would be a few that were gay......let's say 10. That
leaves 50 "players" and 15 "good guys". Each player would
contact as many women as possible looking for as much sex
as possible while the good guys would start with the one woman
they think would be the best match and go from there. SO,
you may be contacted by 40 to 50 players before a few of
those good guys are even able to find you.
I guess my point is.....give it some time!  | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 10/2/2006 6:44:24 PM | lol
msg 28
that is understandable?
If there were 100 men and 100 women
in the world..............
who the heck would care about dating?
LOL | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 10/2/2006 7:00:42 PM | | There is nothing to understand. Every person, whether male or female, is different and want diffferent things out of a date, and we all have the right to say no or yes. Some women go out looking for sex as well as men. I have ran into the same situation you did and I just told the men no if I wasn't interested. It takes a suave Italian to get into these pants...lol | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 10/2/2006 7:15:00 PM | You can call me slightly twisted --- but a good friend of mine helped me think positively about this --- He said don't be upset with a man --- he can't help himself when he's around an attractive woman who he wants. Now I just think of their approach as a wonderful compliment.
Now if I kindly decline --- I expect them to be a gentleman and for the most part they are. And more importantly, if I take them up on their offer, I expect them to be a gentleman about it even more. I'm not sure anyone is "only" about sex --- I like to think we are all hoping to find ourselves overwhelmed with love and lust and life. Call me naive but life's more fun this way. | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 10/2/2006 7:17:43 PM | Some are pigs - absolutely...... And some are not.....
It goes for both male and female....
*shrugs* Sorry I can't help you more than that. | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 10/2/2006 7:18:31 PM | Fishy, Fishy, Fishy!!!! Did you read my whole post?
I said that the 100 of each thing was "just to make the numbers
more manageable"! If that doesn't work for you, do the math to
1 million of each.......or, figure out how many of each are on this
site and do the percentages.......make it as complicated as you like!
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 10/2/2006 7:19:55 PM | Yikes! I think you understood that guy pretty well! I had brothers, and then brother-type friends, always. Get some of those. You can understand some stuff that is what guys have to deal with, as well as what they love about themselves- LOL- but essentially a person's character is judged below (or above?) the level of gender. IMHO.  | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 10/2/2006 10:15:42 PM | | No cowgirl, all men in general are not like that. Unfortunately, I am afraid that you just hit a string of a few bad guys in a row. Hang in there, you'll find a good guy because we do exist! | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 10/2/2006 11:23:29 PM | I dont think all men are merely after just sex and nothing more.Ive found a good way to weed out the ones who are looking for no strings sex,is to get to know men on a platonic frienship level first.Almost all of my dating relationships began with a solid friendship base before turning into something more romantic:).Lets face it...Sex is enjoyable and an integral part of any healthy relationship.I think we all want and desire sex.The thing is, its so much sweeter when you find someone who realizes that love and intimacy make the physical part of a relationship even more amazing..JMHO..Good luck op Kat | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 10/3/2006 12:47:31 AM | listen remember sex is like air its only important when your not getting it . the boys who act like its such a big deal are not getting it AT ALL and want to be rude . you may have meat on your bones but who cares ????? show me one person on this site ( man or woman) that is perfect ( I.E no streach marks , no acne , perfect weight , perfect height ....ETC) its not real ! look that guy is a shithead , F()ck him ! you wil be perfect to someone , cuz your you ( and not just cuz you put out or don't ) men who act like that suck !
T smile: | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 10/3/2006 1:11:12 AM | I can't speak for all men. i have found some women that are the same. i mean it.
there are very few "New Age" women I even care to shake hands with. i'm affraid my fingers will fall off. No moral compass means you are going in some direction, but have no idea how to get back once you get there. This goes for both men and women.
I really hate to hear only men take advantage of the opposite sex. It's just not true!!
Though it does happen more often.
I believe. If you want a man to love you. Start loving yourself. The same goes for men. Love is not a oneway street. Is it? | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 10/4/2006 2:16:16 PM | firstly, most everything a women may be wearing on a date, is to visually stimulate a man or specifically that man. Thats why certain alurring outfit combinations sell as much as they do. After all this wearable enticement for sex is donned, like an old mideval suit of armor along with subtle scents, most assuridly, designed to entice and arouse, the woman is picked up in or drives her own chariot, to battle. The battle is for the man to loose a sense of controll, and fall madly under your sway. And now you complain?
I guarantee you a man just doesn't "all of the sudden" being up the idea of sex, or more specifically the concept of having sex with you. Get real! If you didn't want sex why are you dating? Most of the time, I find, men are being condemmed for the presentations of implied sexual willingness you and other women are presenting them.
It is a well known fact that both men and women seek sex out.
And no where on your profile american cowgirl 1979, do you make any statement about not having sex, or any information on your principals on that matter. And if you and this guy "hit it off" why didn't that progress to "getting it on"?
And now you complain, just because some guy "hit it off" but you decided that a line drive doesn't equal for him a home run. Sounds like a game to me. | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 10/4/2006 2:41:07 PM | | Allow to inject my understanding/opinion. Men and women are very simply wired differently, and attraction/affection are different for both. The problem is that very rarely does the each sex understand the other. Men are wired for physical attraction first. We are stimulated by an attractive woman, and relate affection, connection, and intimacy to physical contact and sex. Period. Then we move on to things such as a woman's personality and intelligence. Women on the other hand are the exact opposite. Women want to be stimulated on a mental and emotional level first. Foreplay for women starts long before physical contact does. It's all about the game of it. The back and forth banter and the communication on the level of using words as well as the body and expression. Women get turned on a by a man who can stimulate their mind, and use their words and presence to stimulate their emotions. Men often fail to understand that fact and often times jump to quickly to trying to get into a woman's pants. Usually long before he even comes close to stimulating a woman on the inside out. Women fail to understand that men need to be stimulated from the outside in. Look sexy. Dress sexy. Do your hair sexy. Carry yourself sexy. These are the things that men are naturally wired for. And I am talking about this on a neural level. Thousands of years of history has allowed us to humans to become programed this way. Men have been programmed to watch for the thing that will kill us, or the thing we have to kill for food. Focused only on that one thing. Women on the other hand have always been part of the home body social group. Their survival has been due to their ability to communicate and juggle the kids, the food, the cleaning, and a thousand other things. I hope this helps some people understand. So men, if you want the sex, learn to stimulate a woman's mind and her emotions, then you can get at what every man knows we really want, which is physical connection. Women, understand that it's not necessarily about the sex. It's the way that men define affection. For us, it's not about the emotions and the mind as much as it is about the physical touch and the tactile appeal. Please our eyes first. Then hopefully there can be an even give and take where the man gets the physical aspect that he needs and he is also able to give a woman the emotional/mental aspect that she needs. | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 10/4/2006 3:03:08 PM | Kinda OT: It's a slow day at work  so I've been trolling the forums.
Does everyone realize that at any given moment, there are at least 3-5 threads in these forums where a woman is BASHING a man for having wronged her in an infinite variety of ways: not calling her/stalking her, wanting sex/not wanting sex, getting her pregnant/not accepting her kids, being a couch potato/always going out, etc...ad nauseum. And that's only the romantic female relationships in our lives! Factor in moms, sisters, daughters, ex-wives, receptionists (my fave) and you start to see how anyone with a Y chromosome is being nagged to death!  | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 10/4/2006 3:40:31 PM | men are all the same,all ***holes and think of only one thing!
Iv found that everytime i get talking to a bloke on here,if you dont talk dirty to them then they dont want to know and you dont hear from them again!
But why the hell should we? | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 10/4/2006 3:49:10 PM |
Can someone help me to understand men?
No.
Because they are not understandable. They are lovable, interesting, sometimes downright amazing, but they are not understandable.
Once you realize that, there will be very little that men can do(short of outright violence)that will upset you enough to ask for help understanding them.
As for guys wanting to sample the goodies ASAP, that kinda goes with the territory. If you don't care to engage in sex on the 2nd date, JUST SAY NO. Or don't date.
as for the dude who strongly implied that he'd be doing YOU a favor? Hon, that's not a man, it's a sorry excuse for one. And if he dates women whose physical attractiveness is unconventional,solely because he thinks they'll be "easy", we offer him this blessing;
"May the fleas of a thousand camels invade your crotch hair, may your d*ck go missing in a fierce sandstorm,may your horse stumble and pitch you into a huge nest of fire ants, you are a poor example of manhood."
Cindy O | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 10/4/2006 4:00:19 PM | | just to awnser the question directly in my own words,, No Trying to understand men, is like men trying to understand women, I just don't think it's sposed to happen lol | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 10/22/2006 6:55:08 PM | men are all the same,all ***holes and think of only one thing!
Iv found that everytime i get talking to a bloke on here,if you dont talk dirty to them then they dont want to know and you dont hear from them again!
But why the hell should we?
Ooh, Kylie, I get all excited when you talk angry like that..
Seriously though, obviously you've never talked to me (you're too young, and across the big pond anyways), but I've been chatting with a woman 3000 miles away from me for months now, and ok, I've cracked a few "dirty" comments jokingly (sparingly), and gotten a laugh, but we have yet to "talk dirty", nor do I care to. And I'm out that way for Xmas (my siblings live out that way, and my parents will be there), so I'm planning time in there to take a trip to see her, spend a couple days (in a hotel) in the area and spend time with her, do dinner, etc. And no, I'm not thinking of that "one thing", I don't expect it at all, what I expect is to meet someone I've been chatting with, in real life, and get to know each other face to face.
If these guys want you to "talk dirty" to them, and then lose interest when you don't, quit complaining! They *obviously* arent the type of man you'd want anyways. If it were me running into that, I'd take a look at myself and why I'm contacting these people in the first place, the signs of that usually happen pretty early on, you blow them off, and continue looking for what it is you want. Complaining about it accomplishes *nothing*.
Heh, and per Missgemini's post:
just to awnser the question directly in my own words,, No Trying to understand men, is like men trying to understand women, I just don't think it's sposed to happen lol
Hey, I don't understand what drives all these "jerks and self-proclaimed nice guys" either, and I had a female friend hook me up with one of her friends, who blew me off without a word (ie, just stopped talking to me, no explanation) after 6 months and telling her how great a guy I was... and rarely talks to her (our mutual friend) anymore either. I don't think its men understanding women, or women understanding men, I think its just anyone *really* understanding anyone else. What really drives people? Everyone is different. I think, *in general* yes, women understand women more than men, and men understand men more than women, but... we're all mysteries in the long run.. LOL | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 10/22/2006 7:18:41 PM | I am confused. I think most men and a lot of women would bring up the idea of sex on the second date. How did you handle it? Did you freak out or just tell him you felt it was too soon?
Honestly I just don't see why this is a problem. I don't think it means he just wanted sex. How long do you want them to wait? I sometimes feel reading these forums we have jumped back to the 40's on sex and dating!!!
In any case you will find one that is willing to go at the same pace you feel good about.
As to the weight issue, never let a man think he is doing you a favor by sleeping you, because as you know they are not. | |
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