| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 10/27/2006 5:38:40 PM | | I met a girl , had sex on the 2nd and 3rd date, Im still with her, cant get enough of her. Dont think men who are interested in sex aren't into anything else. I like having a conversation and being with her. Hell , she even wants to go fishing with me, how many of you women would do that? | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 10/27/2006 5:42:49 PM | Let's make it a bit simpler. First understand yourself, because at the most basic level, men and women aren't all that different. Then find a man that you're interested in and try to understand just him. Understanding a broad scope of humanity, well libraries are filled with books on the subject, so that's biting off a bit much. Understand your man, take the time, listen to him and be patient and understanding. Give him time and attention and let him know you think he's terrific. He'll be glad to help you figure out what makes him tick.  | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 3/15/2007 6:12:46 PM | Why do men want sex so fast? And if the girl gives them it.. he is turned off! I don't get it.. makes no sense whats-so-ever!
I have more class than that, ......but What does it make him for sleeping with her?  MY PET PEEVE | |
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Smjle
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Joined: 9/19/2006
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 3/15/2007 7:01:45 PM | Why do men want sex so fast? And if the girl gives them it.. he is turned off! I don't get it.. makes no sense whats-so-ever!
Tango-shoes, it is very basic if you can understand natural selection during primitive times. Modern society is too recent to affect our makeup.
You problem is you are choosing to date Alpha males rather than Beta males. In order to get sex, Beta males must be faithful, dependable, and good providers. The very kind of guy you claim you want. However, you will not date them because you would rather have sex with the hot Alpha males.
Women [not all] are very easy for Alpha males. The Alpha male does not need to invest much time or energy for sex. Therefore, their winning strategy, to produce the most descendents, is to impregnate as many females as possible. This is not a conscience decision, it is part of their make up; therefore, birth control and other modern factors do not enter in to their actions.
Once an Alpha male has sex a few times, the female may be pregnant. Again that is not a conscience decision; it's part of their make up. The Alpha male cannot afford to waste valuable sperm on a pregnant woman so he drops her for new women. | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 3/15/2007 9:15:43 PM | Never sleep with enemies or strangers. Until a man you have met feels like a "friend", ie you know him well enough to consider him a friend, I would suggest no sex.
Now having said that, some dating couples manage to reach "friends" status faster than others.
I repeat, never sleep with enemies or "strangers"!
I do not! | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 3/16/2007 12:33:48 PM | Yes OP. There are many who haven' gotten over the fact that they have a penis yet.
Just hissss like a vicious cat when they bring up the sex before you are ready and before you've given any signals.
It will make them go away...
Oh, an especially nice touch is to froth at the mouth concomitantly. They run away even faster.
If that doesn't work, wear fake nails about 1/2 an inch long and gouge their eyes out. | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 3/16/2007 1:20:58 PM | | Thats all men care about...getting it and moving on...Getting it and moving on again....Women take it harder because some are more emotional...or some just believe men too much when they tell you things.....I've learned not to care anymore...Can't get hurt when you don't care | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 3/16/2007 1:43:24 PM | So smjle, you are comparing yourself and other men to canine pack behavior? No wonder men get called dogs!
What's really fun is when an 'alpha male' wannabe runs into a GENUINE alpha
female and leaves the encounter carrying his nuts in a brown paper bag. And guess what? You can't TELL an alpha female by looks. But she's smart enough to choose a so called "beta male", and again it has very little to do with looks.
Apparently smjle is interested in dating a b*tch wolf, not a human woman. I wish him all the best with that.
Cindy O
Smjle, understand I say all this with laughter and affection. Dude, you are SO screwed up, but we love ya anyway. | |
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Sirris
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Joined: 7/21/2006
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 3/16/2007 4:17:43 PM | Dang, I would say this particular thread has more than it's fair share of "bitter with baggage" comments.
First off, ignore everyone who has said anything to the effect of "all men/women are ____" we all know that's just wrong. Otherwise, we'd all be the same!
Second, ignore anyone who says you can't hope to understand the opposite sex. You may not be able to understand them all, but you can learn to understand those who you encounter on a regular basis.
Third, american cowgirl, I hate to say it, but your profile is quite hostile. In short, you come off as very angry and because of that you are scaring away any good "fish" that might be out there. The approach of "you'd better not suck or you're GONE" never got anybody anywhere.
We all have our frustrations and disappointments. Believe me, you are not the only one who has felt cheated, used, lied to, etc. in relationships. But you have to try to learn from your experiences and try to have a more positive outlook. The common denominator in all of our relationships is ultimately ourselves.
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Smjle
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Joined: 9/19/2006
Msg: 90 | |
| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 3/16/2007 5:20:50 PM |
So smjle, you are comparing yourself and other men to canine pack behavior? No wonder men get called dogs!
It is for the Stone Age that our brains seem to be built; the agricultural and industrial revolutions are flashes in the geological pan, far too recent in evolutionary terms to have fundamentally changed the way we experience emotions or sex.
Behavioral ecologists have noted that female animals, from scorpion flies to barn swallows, prefer males with high degrees of bilateral body symmetry, called developmental stability in the parlance of science. Males whose immune systems are strong, and who forage well, develop with high symmetry, so females choose symmetrical suitors to secure good genes for their offspring.
Studies show that symmetrical men have the shortest courtships before having sexual intercourse with the women they date. They invest the least money and time in them. And they cheat on their mates more often than guys with less well-balanced bodies. Women are no more built for monogamy than men are. They are designed to keep their options open. | |
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Sirris
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Joined: 7/21/2006
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 3/16/2007 9:43:45 PM | cowgirl, along the lines of my earlier comments of a hostile profile, you might try posting a picture where you actually smile in it. Just a thought.
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 3/16/2007 10:20:32 PM | Well first off that guy was stupid for saying that he was doing you a favor for sleeping with you because you had "meat on my bones". Because frankly your gorgeous and I know that if you wanted to you could get any guy you wanted in a heart beat. If having sex were any body's favor it would be his...because he sounds like a loser!
Now I know that your curious about understanding men and why all men are just after sex? Well in a short answer we are not. You see many years ago I was wondering why all girls were shallow, insecure, and after the dumb rude guys. And then it hit me...MOST girls AREN'T after that it is just that the ones that are noticed are like that. I would say that 10% of the girls are like that and 10% of the guys are after sex. But a vast majority of people (male and female) are decent, human beings.
You see the problem with dating is that nobody is upfront with what they want and both parties have high expectations of what a relationship should be. I have noticed that the reason a lot of girls are alone on Friday nights is because of their high expectations. Since in this culture men have to make the first move, while women sit around and wait, men have to gather a lot of guts to ask the girl they like on a date. And believe me, when you see the girl you REALLY like smiling and looking AMAZING men choke up. So what happens is that women don't realize that they are being "asked out" or "flirted" and/or they expect men to ask them out on a date in a romantic and witty fashion.
So what happens is that the 10% of guys end up asking out the 90% of girls on a date and ruining the reputation of the other 90% of the guys since the 10% of the guys know how to romantically ask a girl out. So if you want to meet a nice guy here our my suggestions:
1) Change the picture, your giving the wrong message
2) Go to places where nice guys go to. Like my dad said "if you want a bad wife go to a bar. If you want a good wife go to church." not saying that women in bars are bad or that women in church are good...but you got to go where your target audience is at.
3) Have your friends set you up with nice men that meet your requirements.
4) Ask a good friend out. What would be a better date than a friend.
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5) Be patient. If a guy isn't responding to your advances he is either shocked that your into him, excited and doesn't know what to do with him self, or is shy.
PS If you like the way I think and analyze things, feel free to contact me. I am always up for a new friend. | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 3/17/2007 12:06:56 AM | I think everyone who stated that men are more biologically predisposed to spill seed are correct. I think the more important question would be what are the emotional implications of sex. For some sex might be a far more pleasant, interactive, and extenuated form of masturbation, but for others it might signify emotional commitment. If men want something of you and you desire more than pleasure, make sure that they have committed something in turn.
I cannot imaging making love to someone without having begun to fall in love with them. This may sound odd, but my own short-lived experience with a physical relationship left me feeling terribly empty. | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 3/17/2007 4:38:55 AM | | You are right about that !! When i look at other womans profile they show more then they should and what about when they say willing to try new things?? I would think they mean sex with just about anybody.I am not on here for sex and wont lower my self for that. or settle for a man that is into that. I want to find a life time partner not aids. So ladies if you want to find a real guy that wants a real woman clean up your act! As my dad would say lay down with dogs wake up with fleas | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 3/17/2007 8:40:54 AM | | That a man brings up sex early is not a turn off --- what is depends on how he responds to your response to the subject......everyone should exchange their thoughts and then respect each other's position. | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 3/17/2007 8:56:35 AM | | Yes men are jerks, a lot of them. I don't treat them like you have been treated but you must look at your situation. You are quite a bit overweight and not just a little meat on the bones. You smoke often to go along with the extra weight. You are a heart attack waiting to happen! Thats just the bold truth of it. You need to stop smoking and lose some weight and give you heart a change to live a normal day. See some guys look at this and think, she doesn't even care about her person at all so why should I? Well I am telling you this because I do care even though I don't know you. Stop smoking loose 60 or whatever it is and then be happy. You can't be happy like you are. If you are you don't know happy. This will give the guy some more respectable thoughts rather than just trying to use you because your boobs are big. Appearance means a lot a whole big time lot dear. | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 3/17/2007 9:00:30 AM | | i met some guy off here too and sex with him on our first meeting we were both in a r/ship looking for no strings attached fun never heard from him again even tho it should of been me not contacting him again after a pathetic 30 second session | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 3/17/2007 10:16:43 AM | never heard from him again even tho it should of been me not contacting him again after a pathetic 30 second session
But was he a symmetrical Alpha male?
Ok the original question was "Can someone help me understand men?" The answer to that is "No, probably not". But if you take into consideration that society made the mistake of teaching them to READ crap about ecology behavior(and believe it,) You can use that information to seek out men who've ALSO learned to think for themselves instead of believing everything they read about animal behavior and applying it to themselves.
Here's the problem as I see it, internet dating is full of smart, savvy alpha females and men who THINK they are alpha males, when the true situation is that they aren't even beta males. Don't misunderstand me, there ARE alpha and beta males who use internet dating sites, otherwise all the alpha females would have ditched the internet dating concept by now, but they aren't always symmetrical, handsome and possessed of outstanding immune systems. What they ARE possessed of is outstanding BRAINS,but since there are also a lot of false alpha and beta females on the internet, they too have a tough row to hoe here.
For whoever commented about alpha females who like to be spanked, I can only suggest that this person is using the (mistaken) criteria of physical beauty to identify what they THINK is an alpha female. If a male spanked( or attempted to spank) a TRUE alpha female, they would leave the encounter with not only their nuts, but their HEAD as well, in a brown paper bag.
Cindy O
True alpha female and boss mare | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 3/17/2007 11:37:26 AM | easy to understand men...
1) Push button is between thier thighs, thats the engine to rev them up
2) Fuel enters through the mouth in the form of food or booze
3) hands to control said fuel or remote
4) they can always get the hottest or any lady on the planet, just to lazy to do it!
there ya go!! Easy!!!  | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 3/17/2007 11:50:22 AM | Smjle is PoF's Shell Answer man: he knows everything, even the answers to questions nobody has asked! 
Seriously, what's an alpha female? I never heard of the term. | |
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