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| When will actions match words from men?
Posted: 9/13/2008 2:21:36 PM | ( Man this is an old post) You said ..."The man I "thought" I knew, I don't think ever existed. I just think my radar must be totally off because I really thought he was one of the good guys. Why did he go from being such a caring and sensitive man to a complete ass?!?! As a woman, I have had just about enough of all the bullshit. I have so much to offer the right guy and all I attract are losers, ***holes, and **stards!!! "
I feel for you. But the answer is already in your story you said " All I atttract are losers, ***holes and***startds"..
My answer is change what you are attracting. Change what you are focusing on and only focus on what you want be very clear. By now maybe you have already met the man of your dreams this is an old post. But honestly everything we get in life is attraction and we do it by the thoughts we hold in our mind. If we focus on what we don't want we tend to get more of it.
My X- was aterrible influence on myself asteem and my ability to attract good. Her parents raised her by crittisizing her and yelling all the time at her thinking it would motivate her to do better but it seemed she kept finding more trouble to get into.
When we got married after a short three months dating had found us to be pregnant at 19. She did as she was taught. Even to this day. I cannot listen to her critical tounge or she will be right if I focus on it. I seriously have to tune her out.
Now in your case if you are still single or not hopefully you decided eventually to focus on what you want in a real man and then focus on becoming the person that would attract him. Not just physically but it comes about by being clear about what you want.
Have a narrow focus on what you want in a man and in all other areas of your like not a broad focus and don't settle like everyone else. | |
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| When will actions match words from men?
Posted: 9/13/2008 4:25:36 PM | Men totally confuse the hell outta me!!! Not sure why I even bother to keep looking but I know there has to be one true gentleman out there. I was seeing a guy I really loved for six months and after that time took me out to dinner to meet his mom and the very next day he is on POF sending some other woman a rose. Go figure..why bother to say you care if you don't. Talk about sending mixed messages!! | |
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| When will actions match words from men?
Posted: 9/13/2008 4:47:14 PM | Well, no way to know what this particular guy's deal is, but it is, quite frankly, hard to spend a lot of time in a hospital- for *anyone*. He did come to see you a couple of times, and that might be a whole lot more than you think to him. There's no saying that if you were sick at home, he wouldn't be bringing you soup and spending hours a night with you.
I know that for me, personally, I have a disabled sister- which means that, right or wrong, I spent most of my childhood sitting in hospital waiting rooms and waiting endlessly while watching doctors doing incomprehensible things and making me very uncomfortble. I can't even walk into a hospital at this point, and I don't really think that that is a personal failing of mine- just an unfortunate thing that happened. If I have to visit someone, I will- but I don't think I'd even be able to do it for someone I had only met once or twice.
So, maybe cut this guy a little slack- there's a chance he doesn't deserve it, but there's an equally good chance that, like a lot of men, he has a little phobia about hospitals that he's having trouble getting over. If he's still a PITA when you're out, that's the time to cut him loose- but unless you're in the hospital a lot, it seems like a small thing to overlook. Odds are, if things work out for you and you end up bedridden again a year or ten from now, it'll be a different story entirely. Time and affection have a way of making people make exceptions that it's unfair to ask for after only a short time.
And if not, there are plenty of good guys around- take your pick. Unfortunately, Green Bay is a little too far away to set you up with any of the fellas I know, but trust me, they're all over. | |
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| When will actions match words from men?
Posted: 9/13/2008 5:33:27 PM | You're a Christian. You tell us. It's called sin. He thinks the way he thinks is totally normal. It's called selfishness or perhaps self centeredness, but above all,.... pride. Its the way of the world, except those who judge. They judge what is ok and what is not ok, instead of accepting its human behavior when sin entered the world.
The world is upside down, inside out, but thinks it's normal.
Be grateful to Father for allowing you to see his real nature. Obviosly he believes he's a caring person, but you got to see the real truth about him.
Now you know there isn't "the one". That belief system will get you in trouble.
John
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| When will actions match words from men?
Posted: 9/14/2008 5:59:51 AM | | It isn't just men who do the 180. Ihave found in my lenghty life it is typically the females who do the about face. Gads , could I tell you some horror stories. Did you ever think the two hours away part may have something to do with it? Did you give any indication of committment? Would you realistically have done for him what you wanted him to do for you? | |
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