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Posted: 7/4/2008 10:23:58 AM |
Is anyone here normal????
I can honestly only speak for myself when I say no, I am not.
I can also honestly say I enjoy sex.
It seems so animalistic
Animalistic can be fun at times.
focus on sex
Ok
Now more closely on topic, one girl's pervert could be another girl's assertive, highly sexual and for her, desirable male. Just a thought.
P.S. You know the grinning only encourages me, right?
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Posted: 7/4/2008 10:30:55 AM | Poker....
Sorry boss, you are so wrong...
pervert
noun
a person whose behavior deviates from what is acceptable especially in sexual behavior
In short any unwanted physical contact can deem someone a pervert(also counts as physical assult or sexual assult depending where they are touching) | |
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Posted: 7/4/2008 10:39:58 AM |
pervert
noun
a person whose behavior deviates from what is acceptable especially in sexual behavior
Question is tho, who decides what's deviant? It's not necessarily illegal but rather something that is decided upon by the society the person is in. The moral and behavioral standards which others have deemed acceptable and the environment.
What may appear deviant in one culture would be perfectly acceptable or considered the norm in another.
*Thinks at least one should always play devil's advocate*
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Posted: 7/4/2008 10:51:50 AM | Humm Well lets put it this way...
The GENERAL PUBLIC frown upon unwanted sexual contact.. You cannot walk down a street and randomly grab a woman butt simply because you thought DAMN thats a nice bum!
Now im sure there are clubs/bars that random people can walk up to you and grab whatever, but when entering such places you know what you are getting into and that such behaviour is acceptable there.. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2008 3:16:52 PM | It appears the consensus is that a relationship is about a lot more than sex. Granted sex is great, and that is why some go after just that, and its an important part of a relationship but a relationship needs much more.
Maybe if people take more time to talk they will realize if they are on the same page or not with this issue. Then everyone can proceed from there with all the ones lining up just for sex finding each other. Life is great with everyone getting what they want.
Everyone looking from a meaningful relationship including great sex have to work a little harder at it. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 1:54:54 AM |
treat us like a human being
Human beings are sexual.
To treat you any differently would be demeaning to your humanity.
It depends on your perspective I guess. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 2:01:27 AM | I'm gonna take a slightly silly, and contrary, position here.
You prefer the perverts, and guys know it.
Why?
Well, because given the number of posts here on the forums getting worked up over them... being perverted gets you noticed. Being perverted gets your messages read. Being nice, being respectful... doesn't.
I don't see any threads here going "wow, this place is full of awesome, respectful guys!". You simply don't notice them.
So if you want to meet guys like me, who will in fact treat you like a person, and care about you beyond your bra size... answer our E-mails when we send them to you. If you don't... well, we're not to blame. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 2:58:39 AM | This seems like the kind of thread where half the people posting are naked while doing so.
How epic. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 3:21:24 AM | Because its a sign of what are society has become and to be honest you should expect it on the internet. And to be frank many girls are into the sex and foreplay online.
Its sad that a nice girl gets caught up in this but for every rose, you with find a ton of poison oak. Good luck. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 4:17:30 AM |
Yeah...perverts and guys that only want sex. That's why I don't use this site as a dating tool....I'm telling you...do you have any idea how much you actually put women off of sex because it's ALL you guys ever want to talk about? Or to make matters worse...my profile even says I'm here for the forums...but still..the messages come rolling in stating they're looking for chat...about sex. They want to go on a date..to talk about sex....they want you to come home with them...and have sex...get over it....it's so...desparate.
Why are many women showing off their breasts and stomach? I just don't get it some women will wear clothes will attract the pervs then complain. You want respect, dress respectfully. I bet 3 to 4 out of 10 women show their stomach, breast or having a sex pose. Women are pervs too, I worked with the public I have met my share of pervy women that wanted sex.
If a guy wants sex it's easy to a young 18 year old as long you have the buck you can get it. If a guy wants to sex naked bodies he will go to the strip bar.
In chatroom I have seen plenty of women talking about sex and flirting sexually in a chat room. I even met a woman on yahoo who talked real sexy, talked about sex often etc and then we meet she doesn't even want to get near me. Not I wanted to sex. The woman still talked sex after we met, eventually I told her I didn't want to talk about it anymore. I didn't even start talking sex with her she was the one doing with me. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 9:55:29 AM | | Women can get sex when they want, men can't, hence men want it more and have less control over their behavior. However, I don't think you should feel obliged to do anything you don't want to do, if he sticks around even when being sex starved he might be worth it. But remember that holding back on sex might seem like just being mean in his eyes after a while, so he might give up and move on! | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 10:21:14 AM | Most women would wonder why a man didn't mention sex at all........
That is so not true. Why would a man be talking to me about sex? To tell me what he likes? To warn me that he is going to go for the gold tonight? Because he can't think of anything else to talk about, and so shows ill manners and talks about his primal instincts.
I surely don't have anything against sex. I enjoy it. But it is nota topic of conversation to have with just anyone. It is a private thing. Or should be.
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Posted: 7/11/2008 10:43:34 PM | Hmmmm.....that's funny....I don't recall pictures of me on my profile showing off my breasts and stomach...but hey...very good point about dressing respectfully.....NEXT
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Posted: 7/11/2008 11:21:35 PM |
why is it that when i wanna meet someone or get to know them all the guy wants is either sex or foreplay im not into that stuff i like to get to know a person before i do anything. I come off as a open person but sometimes i think im too nice what can i do to help find that special somene..
Just because a guy is a guy does not mean he is only after sex.
If you meet the right guy for you , why does it matter that he's a guy and he is probably going to want to have sex sooner than later ?
If you meet the right guy , don't you know it right away ?
(I know it right away , when I make a deep connection .)
It's only if he's not for you that this would be a problem . | |
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Posted: 7/12/2008 12:52:12 AM |
Hmmmm.....that's funny....I don't recall pictures of me on my profile showing off my breasts and stomach...but hey...very good point about dressing respectfully.....NEXT
LOL
You still show enough that I wouldn't contact you. In the hot Texas sun you have to dress light. On a POF profile, you can be wearing or not wearing anything you choose out of your entire wardrobe. I choose to only use pictures where I'm wearing a normal cut t-shirt, not a sleevless shirt that shows everything down to the start of my chest. ............NEXT | |
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Posted: 7/13/2008 1:16:24 PM | | I show enough...my shoulders....um........it is summer, I don't have air conditioning and you are attacking me because I'm wearing something cool so I don't sweat to death in plus 40 weather? Ok then. Love the not knowing the facts before running off about how I'm dressed. You don't have a clue- just an opinion. NEXT...... | |
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Posted: 7/13/2008 1:42:00 PM | Shallon, I must say I agree with you....and here is the thing...we women should be able to dress comfortably and dress to feel good about ourselves..if that involves a sleeveless shirt, it should not mean that we are sluts or are looking for sex..it just means we appreciate our femininity and want to dress like women....
Really, do women have to dress like men so that you don't think we are sluts? I know all you boys don't think that way...why are women threatened by other women who dress in a feminine/attractive/(gulp, dare I say the word?) sexy manner?
But I digress...again....
Whether here or out in the "real world" there are men who are out there for just sex and there are men out there who want relationships that lead to a healthy sex life within a committed relationship..none of us should be naive enough to believe that there are not women like that also. (oh, that's right, they are the ones that guys think are sluts..lol) ...we just tend to be more subtle about it at times...that's all....We all have to play in the same sandbox...at the end of the day, just play nice and be respectful
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Posted: 7/13/2008 2:05:43 PM | I usually avoid "real sex talk" until/unless she brings it up... although, I will take the opportunity to toss some 'sexual humor' in there if she leaves it open (on occasion, not all the time)...
ie: (her) "sometimes this online thing, I dunno, its so hard sometimes"
(me) "Hey now, I'm supposed to be the pervert talking about it being hard sometimes. LOL"
But I usually don't get into 'sex talk' - as in asking intimate questions. I figure if it goes somewhere, I'll find that out eventually anyways... let her know you find her attractive, compliment her, and if its going to go anywhere you'll know. My personal experience, most women want to feel attractive, sexy even, but not looked at as "sex objects" - which is what I think the OP is expressing. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2008 12:24:31 AM | I think the trouble is, even men that want to feel sexy end up becoming sex objects. How many women are all up on David Beckham because of his charming personality? Even if they are, I doubt they want to spend much time just chatting with him if he were around.
Men don't complain when they're sex objects, it's usually a lot less frequently the case, if a woman looks good she's probably gonna have many men constantly giving her that attention. It's gonna wear thin.
The OP isn't a slouch in the looks dept. obviously while the attention would be refreshing for me, it's old news for you haha. So I'll never understand really quite what's up with all that. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2008 1:08:49 AM | Nobody here is normal.
None of the men.
None of the women.
Would you even want someone who was the average of all the characteristics of all the men in the world? Probably not.
And, believe it or not, a physician friend of mine who does a lot of counseling, says a major complaint of women over 40 who date is that most men wait too long to bring up sex.
PoF and dating are a filtering process, as Krazy Kanuk has already pointed out.
You are looking for men who are compatible. Some men and women like to bring up sex even before their first email, they put it in their PoF profile. Other men and women don't bring up sex until after marriage.
All you need to do is filter out the men who can't or won't go at your speed.
There are actually men who don't like sex with a woman until we've developed significant feelings of affection for her. I'm like that. I think there are lots of us. Maybe there are some in your age group, but not in the sub-group you are attracting.
And remember, just because some person isn't the right match for you because he moves too fast, doesn't mean you should injure their self-confidence. The guys you label "perv", the women some guys label "desperate", might be perfect for some person whose profile says they're here for "intimate relations". So gently remove the fishing hook and put them back in the water so that someone else can hook them later.
I know it is difficult when you get so many mis-matches. But that is how it is. 3,000,000,000 people on the planet and you are truly compatible with less than 100,000. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2008 2:38:12 PM | O.k. there, shallon1, let's see.
Profile photo caption: "Who says a woman cant look good when she wakes up?".
Heeey, no innuendo there, whatsoever. Can't see ANY suggestive message there.
Not one.
Anyhow, stop being miffed. To the pervert message, you have a very simple answer: "unread, deleted". Brevity as the soul of eloquence.
Whatever, various guys think you are cute and want to sleep with you. I'm crying tears of sympathy. Really. Ask around, I'm sure plenty of women will tell you to enjoy that problem while it lasts.
I do agree that bluzchk is completely right. I frankly like it that women (of whatever age) have and use the freedom to dress "cute", and they *ought* to be entitled to not get labeled, have ridiculous assumptions made or guys engage in construction-worker cat-calling because they choose to do that. Granted, my motivations for this opinion are far from pure. There is something to be said for the virtue of self-control, however. | |
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