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| buying a girl a drink
Posted: 7/30/2006 1:34:29 PM | | ask a girl to dance?...hmmm novel concept maybe I will try it sometime... ha ha ha | |
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| buying a girl a drink
Posted: 7/30/2006 2:02:11 PM | Why would you buy a drink for someone with no intention to be social or no interest in her?
Do you like to throw money away? | |
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| buying a girl a drink
Posted: 7/30/2006 2:36:22 PM | I have a prime exampleof this type of situation! Friday night I went out to a local dance club, and having a good time buying my own drinks. Well in walks a semi-attractive guy, comes next to me and says are u here by yourself? I say no,i'm waiting for my girlfriends to show up of course,( even though I was by myself this particular evening) So he sits down next to me and we start chit-chatting and he offers to buy me my next drink. So what the hell I say, couldnt hurt, right? WRONG. This guy followed me around the club half the night! I finally snuck off to the ladies room, come out and his friend was waiting for me! He grabs my arm and says to me where did u run off to my friend has been looking for u! Well first off u knew damn well where i went cuz ur crazy ass was stalking me outside the ladies room I say to him! Lucky for me I know a few of the staff and the situation didnt escalate any further, but that is the ABSOLUTE last time I accept a drink offer from some random guy!!!!!! Ladies be careful!  | |
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| buying a girl a drink
Posted: 7/30/2006 3:25:43 PM | I don't really go to bars, but I had a guy come up to me at Barnes and Noble once and try to chat me up. He wanted to buy me coffee, but I said no thanks because I got a freaky vibe from him. He was significantly older than I, and he was trying a little too hard. I don't know, I couldn't quite put my finger on it; I guess it felt more like he was trying to coax me into hanging out with him; something about his demeanor was too intense.
I go with my gut on these things, so I excused myself. My mom once told me about a book she read called "The Gift of Fear," by Gavin DeBecker. The idea of it is that when you have a strong feeling that something's wrong, you shouldn't ignore it. Sometimes you might be picking up on clues subconsciously, and you can't put your finger on why you're nervous, but if you are, you shouldn't risk it.
So if a guy in a bar offered me a drink, I would be most likely to say no thanks, but I would leave some room for the possibility of getting a good vibe and giving him a chance.
Who knows - call me paranoid if you will - but I've never been sorry that I missed out on the coffee or the possibly-creepy guy. (All of that said, I think a free drink with truly no strings attached is a lovely compliment! If you try it and get turned down, I hope it won't sour you on treating women so nicely - they could just be like me and be on the nervous end of the spectrum!) | |
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