| Is there love after 44 ?
Posted: 4/16/2008 10:03:51 AM | | OMG, I sure hope so. I am going to be 38 next month, separated a few months later and divorced this year.... I sure hope it is possible!!!! | |
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| Is there love after 44 ?
Posted: 4/17/2008 3:30:52 PM | | I don't know. Just been 44 a little over a month now. I have not found love for a year and a half now. So I'm wondering the same thing. First u have to start with a suitable mate which I find it very hard to find someone like myself. | |
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| Is there love after 44 ?
Posted: 4/17/2008 5:53:59 PM | | Of course there is. I got married again at 45. Now I am older and I doubt there is crazy romantic love for me anymore. I love my cat. It just does not seem to work when you get older. There is respect, companionship, fondness. Real inteense romantic love? I doubt it. | |
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| Is there love after 44 ?
Posted: 4/17/2008 6:02:49 PM | | Yes there is .Met my wife when she was 51 and i was 57.Frist marriage for both.She passed away three years later,and still miss her.Don't give up. | |
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| Is there love after 44 ?
Posted: 4/17/2008 7:48:36 PM | Sure there's love after 44 .
I love cheese cake!
I love the beach!
I love going on vacation!
And, I love answering your question!
Good luck, keep looking, love is out there!  | |
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| Is there love after 44 ?
Posted: 4/17/2008 8:27:40 PM | Im kinda going through the exact same thing right now. Its much harder for me to
actually find someone who hasnt got wads of garbage they are hauling around from
their past. The other thing Im really finding disturbing is the sexual needs of the
older men. Have you run into alot of guys that are 'bent' somehow? Im finding
myself thinking of the guys I knew in school bc they were just sweeter. Not only do most of
them have loads of crapfrom previous relationships, the weird sex hangups, throw
in a little substance abuse and voila, you have the 'new-age man'. Oh yeah, the
lying and cheating are phenomenal. I guess Im going to start a stampede of really
peed off replies here, but I dont give a s**t. I also realize there are many women who
have laid the same on many men. What I want to know is, where the 'h' have all
the people gone that have some integrity, did they all move to outer Patagonia??
Sorry I couldn't come back with a reply like, 'oh dont worry you'll find someone',
but the way I figure it, after a certain age you're luckier than most if you find a good
man to love. To me, it would be like winning the lottery, wish like hell it would happen
but chances are - not. Some just have to go it alone.... | |
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| Is there love after 44 ?
Posted: 5/3/2008 11:08:32 PM | | of course there is.there is never any age for love.u could fall in love at 60 i believe. | |
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| Is there love after 44 ?
Posted: 5/4/2008 10:08:31 PM | OP...
I read an article recently that stated a woman has a 50% chance of meeting someone at the age of 35. Every 5 years after that, it's cut in half.... so at 40 you have a 25% chance.... at the age of 45, a 12% chance.... at 50, a 6% chance, and so on.
Add to that, in my area, there are 2 women for every 1 man, and our chances are not looking good.
Then take a look at the personals. Most men I've talked to were either looking for sex partners, looking for perfection, were possessive before we'd even met, or we just didn't have much in common.
Not likely I'm going to meet someone in a bar, so sometimes I think I'm just chasing my own tail and getting nowhere. lol
So is it possible to find love after 44.... oh God, I sincerely hope so... hope being the operative word here. :)
Sharzi | |
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| Is there love after 44 ?
Posted: 5/4/2008 10:34:27 PM | Yup. And it doesn't have to be the companionship, friendship crap someone else was going on about in a previous post. We can love with passion, physically and emotionally.
It isn't the 17 year old ga ga kind, either. It's way better. It's knowing yourself & what you need, what you can give, being able to laugh at yourself, accepting each other as you each are, and being open to however it happens.
I am right now, at almost 46, deeply in love and wondering why I couldn't love like this 25 years ago. So much time wasted on so much trivial stuff.
Yes, there is love after 44. Lose some expectations, review your deal-breakers, look honestly at yourself and what you have to offer, be open to it. Most importantly, and I can't say this loudly or often enough, stop with the "I refuse to settle" b.s. It doesn't mean anything, it's just a screen to hide behind.
Love is not for cowards, at any age, but especially as we get older. It takes guts and heart, brutal honesty, and a willingness to explore. | |
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| Is there love after 44 ?
Posted: 5/5/2008 9:22:49 PM | | The waiting part to find that someone for you sucks at any age. But, usually the wait is well worth it in the end. Just gotta hang in there... | |
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| Is there love after 44 ?
Posted: 5/5/2008 9:30:55 PM | Yes there is.
Three of my girlfriends got married at 50+, two at 60+ and of their moms at 70+. Times have changed.
I just searched for guys 40 - 65 within 100 miles from my city. There are over 600 and I don't live in a very big city. All looking for women.
Times have changed. These old codgers are not all going to marry younger women. That's nonsense. Just search instead of waiting to be approached and be open.
Good luck. | |
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| Is there love after 44 ?
Posted: 5/5/2008 10:14:20 PM | | Like a matchless pearl, love is endless and bears no age. Yes, there is love after 44. | |
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| Is there love after 44 ?
Posted: 5/6/2008 3:48:25 AM |
Might help if you had a pic on your profile. .....This thread is almost 2 years old OP has since left the pond, thus no pic! | |
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| Is there love after 44 ?
Posted: 5/7/2008 7:47:43 AM |
Is there love after 44 ,im not so sure anymore,believe me i do have patience but its wearing thin,being single at 44 is beginning to suck,life seems to be passing me by
Why would you even begin to imagine that at some age love is out of the question? Why would you think that anything will stop just because you reach a certain age? I am surrounded by love everyday by my friends and my family. I am more prepared now to have a serious relationship than when I was younger; with experience comes wisdom, and improved knowledge of what is important in life. I think you need to take another look, be happy where you are, be happy to live the rest of your life with yourself, if someone comes along to share it great, but if not does that really mean life has passed you by? Life will only pass you by if you sit and ponder about the things you don’t have instead of appreciating the things you do have. | |
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| Is there love after 44 ?
Posted: 5/9/2008 10:13:38 AM | dearest "tinydancer" you are a wonder. I love your forums and find them quite interesting and enlightening.Thank you for being here.
M.V. | |
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| Is there love after 44 ?
Posted: 5/9/2008 1:21:20 PM | | No, there is not. If you dont already have it and are grandfathered in, you are doomed. Thank God I still have another year to find it. | |
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| Is there love after 44 ?
Posted: 5/9/2008 1:32:35 PM | I think it depends how much you have to offer.
Good looks and nice personality go a long way, however bad attitude, being a man hater, having half a dozen kids in tow does put men off. | |
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| Is there love after 44 ?
Posted: 5/9/2008 1:33:49 PM | You have to remember 99% of men your age have been through a bad relationship and a very expensive divorce. This is why so many men are looking for no strings sex.
Do you have what it takes to tempt a man bearing all that in mind ? | |
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| Is there love after 44 ?
Posted: 5/11/2008 6:52:28 AM | harrabyman wrote:
****** You have to remember 99% of men your age have been through a bad relationship and a very expensive divorce. This is why so many men are looking for no strings sex. *******
If that 99% of men would be open and honest and say what they are looking for rather than getting it under the guise of looking for "longterm" or a "relationship", it might be different, but instead there are a whole lot of people out there treating others like it's one big candy shop and they've picked the lock after hours. They're helping themselves to the goodies and then walking away. That should never be the way a human being treats another. It leaves the other person with self doubt, not trusting anyone.
I have an "ex" male friend whose wife left him. He joined the personals....as he put it.... "to get myself some sex from a whole lot of women." My response was, "Those women are not whores you know, they're looking for a relationship." To that he answered, "That's exactly how I'm going to get them. They'll be putty in my hands." He created a whole profile going on and on about how he was looking for "the one"... wanted a longterm relationship and so on. When I talked to him (for the last time) a few months later, he told me he was having sex on a regular basis with many different women who were "stupid enough to buy it." It made me sick to my stomach to think that just because he'd been hurt when his wife left him, that he would leave a whole string of hurt behind him.
If instead he put his cards on the table, he'd most like have gotten women anyway who were looking for the same thing he was, and there wouldn't be as many women left behind who didn't deserve to be treated like that.
Sharzi | |
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| Is there love after 44 ?
Posted: 5/11/2008 7:13:42 AM | | the more u put yourself (bait) out there..the more fish will respond..dont be too picky..dont go for looks they will fade...dont go for money..that comes & goes..go for someone who makes you smile..because a smile will brighten even the dreariest day. | |
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