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"Does she do this with other guys, too?"
Nope. Never felt it. I guess I'm naive. I just thought I was special.
The funny thing about going to the same pub regularly is what you notice...
I remember one girl who would leave with a different guy almost every weekend...
Another who picked up a guy on the Friday night, and another one the Saturday night... A couple of weeks later, same routine... one the Friday night, another the Saturday... I guess then rinse and repeat...
And it was always the new guys or random walkins that they left with... none of the regulars would touch them... | |
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| Sex on a First Date - Does it Kill a Potential Relationship?
Posted: 5/6/2012 12:20:56 PM | My longest relationship (5 years) came from sex on the first date - however I did get the feeling that even when we were living together and discussing marriage he still judged me a little bit for it (he was brought up religious though and had very strong views about "nice girls"- Bleurgh).
Having said that - sex is very important to me in my relationships, so I would rather sleep with someone early ish in the dating process, so I know whether we're compatible long term. I have no interest in developing feelings for anyone who can't rock my world in the bedroom and if any guy thinks that makes me a slapper then they're obviously not compatible with me. | |
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| Sex on a First Date - Does it Kill a Potential Relationship?
Posted: 5/6/2012 1:03:31 PM | If you can get the milk for free, why buy the cow?
I just feel that no one is really going to want to settle down or develop a relationship with the girl/guy who just gave it up so quickly. How many other first dates did she/he just give it up? I think waiting says a lot about your self worth and respect for not only yourself but the others involved. Of course there are stories where there is some couple that was the "exception" but in my honest experience and from stories Ive heard, sex on the first date makes you the easy person or the booty call. | |
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| Sex on a First Date - Does it Kill a Potential Relationship?
Posted: 5/6/2012 4:04:21 PM | Not something I would recommend.
While nothing is absolute; I agree with most people it decreases your chances greatly of it being anything more than once or having both parties viewing it as more than sex from there on out.
Like others on here; twice I slept with someone on the first "date". One person I knew for a few months, the other person was at a time I wasn't looking for a relationship. The first relationship lasted almost three years; the second, almost two.
I also have done the same thing with two other guys and it didn't turn out the same way. One was technically our "second date" that weekend- and afterwords he made it pretty clear with his lack of follow up there was not much more to be said and done (no pun intended). The other turned into a FWB situation.
There is nothing wrong with sleeping with someone right away. We are all adults and can do as we please. The reality is; (and I think mostly women are at fault for this one), we have to accept that once this action is taken- it can't be taken back and your chances decrease dramatically of it turning into something more. Before sleeping with someone off the bat; make sure with yourself that you're ok with never hearing from them again. If the concept is too much for your ego- don't do it.
I don't recommend sleeping with someone right away when it comes to online dating because you don't know them. Look how many times in your life or even the forums on here, do we think- "wow that date was great, how come its been x days since I heard from them"? or "He said he was going call, why hasn't he"? or "How come they cancelled the second date and never offered a alternative date"? So on and so forth. Don't mix sex into that too.
If you're still not convinced check out how many people are on the forums asking about SO and what to do, yet have a full and active profile declaring themselves as single and looking. | |
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| Sex on a First Date - Does it Kill a Potential Relationship?
Posted: 5/6/2012 10:52:09 PM |
If you can get the milk for free, why buy the cow?
Because I can always rent the cow or even get the milk for free, so I wouldn't buy a cow without knowing it gives milk and how good the milk is. I love bad analogies.
I just feel that no one is really going to want to settle down or develop a relationship with the girl/guy who just gave it up so quickly.
Only if they have nothing else to offer.
I think waiting says a lot about your self worth and respect for not only yourself but the others involved.
I think it says nothing about self respect except possibly that a person has nothing else to respect him/herself for. | |
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| Sex on a First Date - Does it Kill a Potential Relationship?
Posted: 5/6/2012 11:46:56 PM | | I think if the other person really feels something for y ou, whether you have sex on the first date or not isnt going to make a lot of difference. If they like you, but aren't 100% sure then sex too soon will probably lead them to have doubts, that stronger initial feelings would dispel. I have had sex on the first date, and had it turn into a relationship....I have also had it turn out to be just a one night stand. | |
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| Sex on a First Date - Does it Kill a Potential Relationship?
Posted: 5/7/2012 12:51:48 AM |
Because I can always rent the cow or even get the milk for free, so I wouldn't buy a cow without knowing it gives milk and how good the milk is. I love bad analogies.
1... Generally, all cows give milk...
2... Cows give milk after calving...
3... Only older cows no longer give milk...
4... A younger cow that doesn't provide milk, must be bred to produce milk...(See #2 again)
5... Once a cow no longer produces milk, it's still good for the BBQ... Which is still good... Mind you, it implies a much grater degree of committment...
6...I love bad analogies too....
Just funnin with ya..... LOL
Only if they have nothing else to offer.
Which is a very important point. The trick is, to get the other person to stick around long enough to see if you have anything else to offer... and this obviously applies to both males and females... I'm sure a lot of guys get rejected after first date sex as much as do women.. if nothing else is readily apparent after that initial sex, then many people simply move on... figuring it's not going to show up later... | |
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| Sex on a First Date - Does it Kill a Potential Relationship?
Posted: 5/7/2012 12:53:07 AM | | I think so many people expect sex on a first date and I don't because if you so intimate so soon what else is there after that. I hate the morning after too because you spend do much time getting to know someone by chatting then sleep with them I don't think they have any respect for you so no don't do it. | |
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| Sex on a First Date - Does it Kill a Potential Relationship?
Posted: 5/7/2012 12:58:43 AM | I think so many people expect sex on a first date and I don't because if you so intimate so soon what else is there after that.
What else is after that depends on what else you have to offer. Since I think I have a lot more to offer than sex, I still have a lot to offer after having sex, so I was never worried that by having sex on a first or second date that there wouldn't be anything else to keep a woman attracted to me after that. | |
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saveta
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| Sex on a First Date - Does it Kill a Potential Relationship?
Posted: 5/7/2012 5:22:25 AM | | I've had sex on a first date on a few occasions and ended up life long friends with the guys. Enduring and deep loving relationships. Obviously these guys (one of whom died of cancer a few years ago) and I really liked each other, enough to have sex and to continue sharing and caring long after. I doubt if if a quick bonk without genuine friendship would lead to anything significant. | |
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| Sex on a First Date - Does it Kill a Potential Relationship?
Posted: 5/7/2012 1:19:18 PM | sex on a first date is an instant killer! To me that is too serious too fast! I made that mistake before and will NEVER do it again! Most will never call you back or think that they already own you and your life. It is uch too serious too fast. Besides, what do you really know about them on a first date. My belief is that you're sleeping with a total stranger and don't know anything about them and their past sexual encounters. When you sleep with someone, I believe, you are also sleeping with everyone they have ever been with too! Most important watch out for the STD's out there!
Don't do it....Leave a little mystery and take it slow. Be friends first and you will get the respect that you desrve! | |
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