| Still a virgin!?
Posted: 8/13/2006 7:49:39 PM | After that, I'm not sure how many woman would find that attractive as it's starting to get weird (apologies to any 30+ virgins but it's true).
I don't think it's "weird". Uncommon is more like it. But, in my opinion, it's not that big a deal.
Once you've done it, one time means you are no longer a virgin, but still inexperienced. Some people who would claim to NOT be a virgin may have very little experience with sex... so does that make it a lot different? Not really. But like I said before, this being a virgin or not is not a big deal, and shouldn't be a major turnoff when it comes to dating. But we all have preferences and are entitled to them. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2006 8:02:07 PM | "Ah, a young man with values. How refreshing. Hold onto to your values/beliefs and don't let anyone suggest that there's something wrong with you (there isn't). The "guys" bug you about it because they envy your strength of character."
It had nothing to do with that in my case. I just went to school, minded my own buisness, did my class work and enjoyed my art classes.
I was very unpopular and because I was physically not very strong and couldn't fight I was the target of not just one bully but the entire class. I don't like sounding obsessed with it but it changed me. It ruined me. I was a very calm and happy person but after I went through all of that I couldn't be positive or happy anymore. I ended up doing bad in school and college because I got so debilitated by what I went through that I couldn't stay calm long enough to finish my work. I get burned out and feel like sleeping, become depressed and procrastinate because I was so emotionally and soulfully damaged that I lost what I used to be. Im in a constant state of agitation.
This isn't about just "virginity" or values. It's about the fact that I had so many nervous breakdowns that everything bothers me now. Everything worries me and im always scared that things will become that way again and that I will have to fight somebody just to be left alone. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2006 8:20:23 PM | | Frank, this is really deep man. I can't offer any advice. This is way beyond my knowledge, or most of us here. I don't want to say that "I know what you're going through" BS, but I've been in your similar state before. For me, it didn't last forever, you move on. School is now over, you can choose your friends, or tell them to F OFF. I'm sure if you made some friends who were women, they'd have more respect for you. You could try doing some volunteer type of work, where you can meet people. They are there for the same cause, helping others. I don't know what else to say. | |
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| Still a virgin!?
Posted: 8/13/2006 8:37:51 PM | Fare enough ICECAPS94
But just loosing it actually has a major implication on future occurances...
That old saying, you want most what you can't have has a major effect on most people I've known, until they get it and can begin to relax...
Is the point I was trying to make :) | |
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Posted: 8/13/2006 8:55:07 PM | I think thats great. I had a girlfriend who was still a virgin at 22 and I at first thought it was weird..but the more I got to know her and listened to her views on things, the more I envied her for her morals and convictions.
If someone is giving you a hard time tell them to go to hell. Good for you. I hope that you meet her soon. 21 is young and you have lots of time to be stupid. A lot of guys and gals out there don't have that kind of conviction..I know I sure as hell didn't, good for you! | |
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Posted: 8/13/2006 10:33:03 PM | | 33 here, same boat. Although I've only had 1.25 dates in my life, i've had more than my share of "opportunities", most from girls on the internet who I'd talk to for a while and they seemed nice and then I get a message like "Oh and I'll be in (local town) next weekend if you want to..." can't remember her exact wording but it was unmistakable, and shocking since she had seemed so "normal" (my perception, my opinion). I think the idea of being a virgin shouldn't be the main focus of worry or concern, because I feel the more important thing is that I don't like being a "relationship virgin", to have an intimate and important deep connection - if someone likes you enough to share that with you, then they won't care about your inexperience - and if they do... can't say I'd recommend keeping them. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2006 11:24:11 PM | Nothing wrong with a guy who is still a virgin at that age and not everybody cares about sex or the fact if/if not someones a virgin/not a virgin and i use to think that aswell kind of wish i WOULD have waited my first time was with, a guy who only cared about how many chicks he can get and how much ass he could get from us/others. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2006 11:51:00 PM | ok, i know this is suppost to be "ask a girl", but just wanted to say to the OP, good for you that you are still a virgin..... just turned 27 myself and in the same boat, with the same logic as you. I focused on my education and career. and i can relate to the guy friends who dont understand why you choose this path, for me i just tell them cause i have bigger things to worry bout than that.... plain and simple. that and the fact when i do loose it, it will be towards someone who i have very deep feelings for, so until that happens, im proud to be "pure" in this day and age. in case you are curious to more peoples opinions and thoughts, check out my thread on the subject, its a deceant read.
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts3856364.aspx | |
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Posted: 8/14/2006 4:26:31 AM | well i am 26 and i am still a virgin
i am with theses guys and i have got the same velus what they got
i am looking for the right person i have been temp and ask a lot but i dont want some think meanless then to go wham bam and thank u mama
i am looking for some one i can have a long timereathship with not some think just one night or some think liek that | |
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Posted: 8/14/2006 6:40:24 AM | | I was 23 and thought it was the right time,too bad it was with the wrong girl. | |
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Posted: 8/23/2006 12:29:17 PM | | i was with a girl that told me she was a virgin after haveing sex with her i could tell she was not bleeding or i never broke anything. here is what she said. well tampons can brake them umm and fingering someone can also make it brake. No idea if this is true or not sounds like a pretty stupid lie | |
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Posted: 8/23/2006 12:32:41 PM | | did you not see the 40 year old virgin thread???... you have plenty of time before its embarassing! Nothing is wrong with you. | |
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Posted: 8/23/2006 1:10:53 PM | THere is absolutely, positively NOTHING wrong with it! AT ALL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Dude, you wanna get personal? I had sex for the first time a year ago....and I wouldn't have changed a thing! DO NOT LET SOCIETY pressure you into doing something that you might not want to do, or are ready to do. YOU KNOW YOU. You know when you are ready, and when, eventhough you might really be wanting it, you shouldn't.
Kudos bakodude.... | |
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Posted: 8/23/2006 1:27:59 PM | Actually, it's true that a number of things can break the hymen before a girl or woman has sex. I can't tell you if she was telling you the truth about being a virgin, but perhaps you shouldn't dwell on it and accept what she told you as truth. Even if you don't really believe her, you can't really prove it....it's probably best to assume she was being truthful, so you don't carry any anger. :-)
Sorry, didn't mean to lecture....I just wanted you to know that hymens can break and, in fact, some females are born without them. | |
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Posted: 8/23/2006 1:31:25 PM | | ^^^ Agree 100% Mine broke when I was in gymnastics... | |
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Posted: 8/23/2006 1:52:08 PM | what do we think ????
FRESH MEAT 
but seriously i have nothing but respect for you for not just giving it up like that ; )
f**k what anyone else thinks
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Posted: 8/23/2006 2:07:28 PM | Don't worry about it dude, I only lost mine at the start of this year and I'm just coming up to 23.
It's nothing to be ashamed of. Any woman truly worth her salt won't mind it at all, and might even relish the prospect of being able to teach you exactly what to do :) | |
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Posted: 8/23/2006 2:13:38 PM | | The world is a strange place sometimes I think, all the pressure around sex and relationships. I wish in highschool I listened to myself more then the peer pressure around me. I wish when I was younger instead of going to parties and meeting women, I stayed home read books and practiced my guitar. I think you are on the right path, you will meet a nice women when the time is right. Good things come to those who wait. | |
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Posted: 8/23/2006 2:14:17 PM | Its just sex, take it easy.. yes its special but not that special... once u have sex u will see it worthless waiting for it, it is just sex... yes its fun but for that time u are doing then ..after u be like man I need to go back at it.. u want to wait then wait.. its ur choice its not that big deal...trust me, women don't give a heck about the fact u are a virgin or not, they like u they would **** the shit out of u.. no matter how restraint u are. take care,  | |
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Posted: 8/23/2006 2:32:36 PM | nice to know there are people who do not seem phased by it, i myself am "pure" as some say, i am not ashamed of it, but am proud, if others dont like that fact, its thier problem!!
i have had a number of people suddenly "have to go" and dont wanna talk no more because of this, but thats thier loss!.
like thebigslim said, i am sort of wanting to get a career going so a relationship is in the sidelines, but i wont say no if the right person comes along, i am just not looking as hard as i would be if i wasnt thinking about my working life :)
good on ya for bringing it up!..
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Posted: 8/23/2006 5:36:00 PM | I think it's great in this day and age that any one male or female can stay a virgin til 21. I myself was 19 when I met my ex husband....
i've been with a guy who claimed he was a virgin...i took his word for it...he could have been lying...i thought it was cool that i was his first....he said he wanted an older woman...he was small and embarrassed by it..and figured a girl his own age might be put off by his size....
my daughter dated a drop dead gorgeous guy last year who was a virgin...well for a little while...til she got hold of him....he almost broke up with her after their first time because it stressed him out so bad that he wasn't sure if it had been the right thing to do
so make sure whoever u choose to be your first...it's the right person for u...and no one you'll regret later....someone you trust and care for...and know very well....it will make the first time a pleasure to remember | |
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Posted: 8/23/2006 7:06:52 PM | Stick with what you believe is right for you.  I've rededicated myself to leading a celibate life until I'm married.  | |
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Posted: 8/23/2006 7:13:10 PM | not bleeding or i never broke anything
jaymoses are you for real? Everything from using a tampon to a strenuos work out can break the membrane. As for bleeding doesn't usually occur as the membrane isn't intact. | |
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Posted: 8/23/2006 8:01:23 PM | If it was for religious reasons, I would probably ridicule the guy. But otherwise, I'm a very jealous person, I'd have a lot of satisfaction in being someone's first.
And I wouldn't mind waiting until marriage because I have little interest in sex.
Also there are three main types of virgins:
1)religious - *yawn*, no patience for that crap
2)choosy, careful, selective - why not, I would not think badly of such a case
3)lack of opportunity virgins, way WAY too fixated on sex and his futile pursuit - always feel ill at ease with these individuals. Seems their entire life force is directed toward that one narrow goal
It's pretty easy to tell which is the case when meeting the rare virgin. | |
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Posted: 8/23/2006 8:13:04 PM | well ladies we thank u for understanding us males becaused most woman who we tell that we are a virgin pack up and run or dont want to know u
i am 26 and i am still one i could have lost it ages ago but i did;t
see i am typed of person doest liek one night stand or them shag buddies
so yeah i wish the aussie girls seem understanding as well most girls make fun of us being one and so do mate s
??? is were do we fien theses girls who understand and teach us and all i liek to know becaused i am still fine mine
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