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| Still a virgin!?
Posted: 8/31/2008 8:22:28 AM | OP, don't listen to your friends. I mean, I'm not going to lie to you...some of the women you date will be turned off by the fact that you're a virgin, especially if THEY aren't (let's face it, there's a double standard there and you're reversing it on them!), but that kind of chick is probably NOT what you're looking for. But the fact that you've committed yourself to this idea of staying a virgin until marriage, despite pressure from your friends and society and whatnot, says a lot about the kind of person you are, and smart women will recognize that.
I know MY first thought when I read your post was, "No risk of STIs! Awesome!" which is a little weird, but it's also a valid point that a lot of women are concerned about. | |
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| Still a virgin!?
Posted: 8/31/2008 9:51:47 AM | | I was a virgin up to the age of 21 and then I had sex with a forty year old divorcee. I sometimes wish that I had waited but interestingly, the most enjoyable aspect wasn't the sex itself, it was the non-sexual intimacy (such as hugging and embracing) I must also thank her as I asked her what she liked (physically) best about me- she replied without hesitation that she loved my smile. This took me aback as I used to hate smiling as I felt that I looked bad. | |
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| Still a virgin!?
Posted: 8/31/2008 9:58:34 AM | | Nothing wrong with a guy being a virgin. It means you have standards or perhaps have some class. Or are scared and adorable. Either way more likely a positive than a negative. | |
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| Still a virgin!?
Posted: 8/31/2008 11:36:53 AM | OP:
Your friends, in this instance at least, are being idiots. Don't listen to them. If you've made the choice to stay a virgin til you've met the right woman, then stick with it. Better to have never had sex and know you stuck to your guns than to have had sex and then have lost a once-only gift that you could have saved for the woman you spend the rest of your life with.
At the age of 35, I'm a virgin by choice. There have been multiple opportunities in my past to have changed that, a couple of which came a lot closer than, in retrospect, I'm comfortable with. At the end of it all, whenever I meet the woman I'll want to spend the rest of my life with, we'll go to our first time with the full knowledge that I held something for her that I thought only she deserved. Once it's gone, you can't go back.
The interesting thing is this: if people would put more effort into remaining virgins until they marry or partner up for life, then one primary excuse so often used for not remaining a virgin ("What if the sex is, like, really bad?!") is completely nullified. If two virgins are together, neither of them are going to know if the sex is "bad", because they have no basis for comparison. Trust me, they're going to both think it was the most mind-blowing sex in the world.  On top of that, they then get to grow together, learning about each others' bodies as their relationship grows stronger, learning how to explore and experiment with each other, and ultimately learning how to be physically intimate in such unbelievably specific ways that are 100% unique and specialized for them that there's very few things that could break such a bond.
Stick with it, man. You're not alone; there are guys who know what you're doing and approve, and damned if you don't have a lot of really gorgeous ladies in this thread telling you that they're impressed.
'Cause trust me, the ones worth impressing aren't easy to impress.  | |
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| Still a virgin!?
Posted: 8/31/2008 10:22:31 PM | | i never had a problem with an individual's sexual choices. what i do have a problem with is "definition". doing all sorts of bizarre sexual things with everyone and everything, BUT still a technical virgin. gotta wonder! sexual energy is sexual energy, no matter how you invest it. if it's part of love, then that is more important to me than a marriage license. i do however, believe in love, monogamy and the commitment to the long term, no matter how it's done on paper. lived too long, to pretend any more. coupling today is a nightmare. people are way too narcisstic or on the other extreme too fearful. as they get older, too pessimistic or too lazy or just too exhausted to work on relationships. where is the Middle Way? where is the Hope? where is the Trust? where is the Wisdom? | |
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| Still a virgin!?
Posted: 8/31/2008 10:37:52 PM | Well, at least you don't have STD's. But if your little buddy doesn't see some action by the time you're 30, you should really get that thing looked at by a pro. As someone reminded us - God likes Virgins.  | |
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| Still a virgin!?
Posted: 9/1/2008 9:43:06 PM | lol this thread is two years old The OP is probably not even a virgin anymore.
I know I'm not  I lost mine only a year ago to a gf in college.
First time I had sex it was just liberating
In regards to my virginity good riddance was all I had to say | |
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| Still a virgin!?
Posted: 9/1/2008 10:15:02 PM | | Damn I haven't lost mine yet. I should work on it but I'm lazy. | |
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