| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 5/24/2007 1:53:21 PM | | probably because the majority of men support getting laid anytime however if the girl does she is then considered a sl*t. Plain & simple. You can deny that's the way you think but as far as i've seen about 99% of men think that way. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 5/24/2007 2:01:45 PM | There is nothing wrong with a guy who just wants sex. He just needs to find a girl who just wants sex, and it will work out.
The problem is that we as women have encountered men who say they want a relationship, but honestly they just want sex. As soon as they get sex they stop pretending, and they are gone unless you just want a booty call. When this happens we feel lied to, cheated, and used because the man wasn't honest with us.
As we get older and learn this lesson we learn to be more cautious, and try to avoid being put in that situation. We also learn that if we have sex on the first date it is just sex, and nothing more. There is no way a man could have real feeling for us at that time or we them as we don't even know each other at all.
I have discussed this with women friends, and there are times they just would like sex too, but its all about honesty. One friend told me if she goes on a date, and really likes a guy she will refuse sex because she doesn't want him to think she is a slut, and she would like a relationship with him so holds out for a long as she can. If the guy is hot, and she is attracted, but after spending the evening with him she realizes they just dont mesh, and she really would NOT like a relationship with she just might if she's in the mood. I think women are more empowered these days to be able to make those choices. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 5/25/2007 7:39:49 PM | Women do not like sex on a 1st date not only because they feels slutty afterwards ; but there is also the chance of pregancy. Also, many men do not want to practice safe sex and expect women to have sex without a condom on the 1st dates ! Women are more prone to get STDS then men because the females' sex organ are inside which makes it harder to fight off germs for stds infections verses the males' sexual organ is sticking out and they can fight off the germs for STDS infections better ! Also, it is women who have to go to the gyno and reveal each year during her yearly pap smear of how many partners she has had in her life time ! Also, the more sex partners a woman has in her life time puts her at risk for HPV /cervical cancer and HIV Aids. Maybe the reason why women don't want sex on a first date and wants to wait is because she don't want the guys germs or his kid!Also, women need to be respected and if a guy will wait for sex then he is a true gentleman who likes the woman for herself and not her body. Perhaps, why women think it is weird to have sex on a 1st date is because she does not know the guy very well and maybe she loves herself first and have high self- esteem.
Women can be very picky with her sexual partners because there are plenty of men out there to choose from! | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 5/25/2007 8:34:15 PM | I think there are a lot of reasons and most of them have been posted.
It depends on what you are looking for.
One has to wonder why men need to be validated by having sex on the first date. It speaks volumes of their self-estem. In other words, a man wanting sex on the first date has low self-estem , he must have the sexual acceptance of the female before him to validate him as a man. The game is always to make the woman the weird one out for not having sex on the first date. The better question is, if men thought like women about sex, more woman would have sex on the first date.
Some of my best relationship started with sex on the first date. However, different age different game.
Be content to be and do what makes you happy and remember you are not responsible for anyone elses being and doing. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 5/28/2007 4:45:47 PM | | Love and sex are too complex to be reduced to simple formulas like "first date sex is always meaningless" and "sex in a long term relatisonship is always meaningful." I had first date sex with a woman once that was an incredibly meaningful emotional experience, while I dated another woman for several months and the relationship never even came close to being meaningful. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 5/28/2007 4:49:22 PM | | nothing wrong with sex on the first date but it is just that...sex....if your going to continue to see this person then you have to determine if it's going to be just about sex or if you both want to learn more about each other with the posibility of a relationship developing | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 5/28/2007 6:37:01 PM | | The fact that you say that you "find sex with emotional connection boring" implies to me that no one could EVER explain to you the difference between the two sexual experiences. You have obviously never made love to someone that you felt such a deep connection with that made it make sense ..and for that I am sorry for you because that is a FAR BETTER sexual experience than the initial excitement that you speak of..which by the way fades away. EVERYONE likes the excitement of new sex. Once you reach the physical and emotional connection with someone..well thats better than anything! I hope that you find that someday so that you understand...BTW not all women refrain from sex for fear of being labeled slutty believe it or not some do because they know what they want and if it happens to be more than initial, primitive attraction.... than they are choosing to hold out for MORE!!!...WHEN WILL MEN EVOLVE???? | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 5/28/2007 7:06:44 PM | (quote)I personally find emotional connection boring....then you need a hooker not someone here trying to find a date or looking for something a little more than a lay plus they are easier to find than on a dating site Id think...I think sex for sex sake basically sucks.. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 5/28/2007 7:07:24 PM | Because .... you don't even know that person based on a first date. There is always the risk of regret afterwards. I know there are statistics on what happens when you sleep with a man on a first date and it isn't favorable.
Sleeping with a man on the first date just makes a woman vulnerable because often women bond more during sex where men want to see what else is out there. It is the way we are wired. You can deny it all you want. I am not putting anyone down. It is fact.
If you sleep with a man on the first date and he doesn't call, you get hurt. However, if nothing physical happened on your first date, and you liked him, and he doesn't call you might be a little disappointed, but that is it. If a man does really like you he wouldn't want to put you in that situation. I think most men are aware of this and often wait to make a move if they want something more than sex.
Women who sleep with men on the first date and then the man does not call for a second wind up posting threads in the "BrokenHearts" part of these forums. Saying things like up to that point he called me every day.... now he disappeared. It is not a good idea to sleep with anyone until you know the type of person they are.
I suggest playing it safe. If you don't sleep with him and he likes you, he'll be back. As a matter of fact, it will make it even better when you do wait. He won't be thinking you do that with everyone. Also, there will be a build up, an anticipation, a longing....that will ultimately make any type of relationship even better. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 5/28/2007 7:19:43 PM | Because sex on the first date might be saying "I find you attractive" in a clear and definite way, and most women feel threatened when a man is so bold as to make such a statement in a clear and definite way.
I've had relationships where sex *before* the first date led to a relationship that lasted a couple of years, and I've had sex *well after* the first date that fell apart after a few months. And I've have one that may be ending over the claim that all I want is sex.
Women. Can't live without them, can't shoot them. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 5/28/2007 7:31:59 PM |
Women often comment they want to wait until the 3rd date or longer to have sex
Third Date...Not a chance!
It's not weird...it's just not right...at least not to me...
Time before sex is like having sex...Foreplay then the Lead up and the Climax which is all worth the wait!!!  | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 5/28/2007 7:45:02 PM | | meaningless sex is like a **** buddy. Sex is the object of the game. Their is no intention of ever geting involved in any way. So yes you spread you legs ang let the guy get off. On the other hand the guy sometimes just lays their and the girl does what she has to. Sex, sex, and that is all. | |
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Joined: 12/27/2006
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 5/28/2007 7:57:49 PM | | I think it is cause a lot of women have learned the hard way that once a guy gets into their pants they usually will want nothing to do with them since they got what they wanted. Holding off sex let's them see if the guy is really with them for them as the ones who just want sex will maybe move on. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 5/28/2007 8:06:05 PM | Lmao at the comments up there!
Since you're asking. I can only speak for me, if the man wants outrageous, incredble, unforgettable sex - which most do then I better know that this person I'm sharing that part of myself with respects me. I don't want the man running to his best friend the next day saying wanna know what we did and where we did it. I need trust to be there, I need to see he has a heart and that what we do together stays between us only! I don't need a marriage proposal, just respect and on the first date all men are usually respectful - by the third date you get a pretty good feel for potential. Sex is emotional to me, it's the best sex I've ever had, nothing brings me to a more intense orgasm then emotional closeness. Physical sex is nothing but selfish and egotistic - to me anyway. No way I want to know what I'm getting into, my sexuality is sacred - I wouldn't let strangers walk through my home - that's physical invasion. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 5/30/2007 9:51:47 PM | The 3 LTRs I've had over the course of the last 1 1/2 years started out with sex on the first date. The 4th one constituted a heavy make out session as soon as both of our kids were asleep and then sex and the second date. There was a strong, undeniable connection present and the excitement was insurmountable and incredible.
That said, my last 4 LTRs did not last more than several months a piece. They each were very intense and I suppose that going from 0 to 60 in 1.2 seconds was part of the fun. I still keep in touch with these women as much as I can, but our lives have drifted apart. It probably has something to do with our goals, our age and the fact that we have kids. Nevertheless, the fact remains that the strangeness that these women felt about having sex on the first date disappeared (to the best of my knowledge) when we had sex on our second dates.
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 5/30/2007 10:09:04 PM | | To directly answer your question from my point of view, its instilled in you at a young age that its cliche and unacceptable. So when you let the chemistry and connections and horrimones or what not get involved and it happens you feel guilty. Even tho it may have been something that you wanted. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 5/30/2007 10:26:24 PM | I think first time sex with anyone is always a little awkward, in the sense that you aren't sure what they like, how they like it, etc. So having first time sex with someone you don't know, is never going to be as good as first time sex with someone you have gotten to know and feel comfortable with. Comfortableness, passion and the build up of desire after knowing someone, takes the awkwardness away and by then you just want to rip their clothes off!
Plus first date sex usually involves alcohol........ come on guys, have you ever had sex with a drunk guy? It isn't so good......... | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 5/31/2007 4:55:31 AM | ***I have to spend time with someone a while to feel comfortable enough to give him the gift of my climax.***
The gift of your climax? And women say men have huge egos? What about the gift of HIS climax?
This is the problem right here. Far too many women perceive sex as something they "give" and something the man "takes" from her.
I could have sworn sex was a euphoric experience for both parties. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 5/31/2007 4:58:36 AM | ***I can have sex whenever I want it, so why would I want it from someone who I'm trying to have a relationship with? ***
Shouldn't it be the other way around? Shouldn't you want sex with the man that you want a relationship with?
What if a man said to you, "I can have conversations with my buddies whenever I want. Why should I want to talk to you?" | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 5/31/2007 5:01:28 AM | ***probably because the majority of men support getting laid anytime however if the girl does she is then considered a sl*t. Plain & simple. You can deny that's the way you think but as far as i've seen about 99% of men think that way.***
What if 99% of men thought women shouldn't have careers? Would you just submit to that?
Since when do women build their choices around what men think?
Women that worry about what men think of them need to grow a backbone. I thought the modern woman was independent? I guess not. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 5/31/2007 5:03:17 AM | ***Women do not like sex on a 1st date not only because they feels slutty afterwards ; but there is also the chance of pregancy. Also, many men do not want to practice safe sex and expect women to have sex without a condom on the 1st dates ! Women are more prone to get STDS then men because the females' sex organ are inside which makes it harder to fight off germs for stds infections verses the males' sexual organ is sticking out and they can fight off the germs for STDS infections better ! Also, it is women who have to go to the gyno and reveal each year during her yearly pap smear of how many partners she has had in her life time ! Also, the more sex partners a woman has in her life time puts her at risk for HPV /cervical cancer and HIV Aids. Maybe the reason why women don't want sex on a first date and wants to wait is because she don't want the guys germs or his kid!Also, women need to be respected and if a guy will wait for sex then he is a true gentleman who likes the woman for herself and not her body. Perhaps, why women think it is weird to have sex on a 1st date is because she does not know the guy very well and maybe she loves herself first and have high self- esteem.
Women can be very picky with her sexual partners because there are plenty of men out there to choose from!***
So give the guy a goodnight handjob. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 5/31/2007 6:55:08 AM | | for me , sex means she wants me . sex on a first date ONLY IF she says . sex has too many emotions for me . sex means more then just " one time " IF , I get lucky to ahve sex the first nihgt . I WOULD call her the next day . | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 5/31/2007 6:56:35 AM | | well sex is an important part of the relationship, so i always have sex on the first date, so if hes shit i know to never see him again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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