| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 6/29/2007 2:10:39 AM | Too many males do not respect a woman if they have sex on the first date. These idiots think that a woman who puts out on the first date have loose morals. That is a sad reality.
In my opinion, these males are the ones with the problem, and the women they reject for marriage are the lucky ones.
For one, there is a huge double standard. If a couple had sex on the first date, both had sex on the first date. Would this not mean that the man has loose morals as well?
Why is the man worthy of marriage (in his eyes) and the woman is not worthy of marriage (in his eyes)?
The answer is simple. The man is a jerk. And she is better without him. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 6/29/2007 2:22:10 AM |  mebby its becaus they have there period about that time ?  or mebby they want to know how much rope you can give them before you jump them ?  i will tell you what to doo ok ?  as i am still on the trot ! send her to mee and i will try her out fer you and iff she is any good at all will keep her myself and send you her mother     . and that is my advise to you take it or leave it k?
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 6/29/2007 6:28:58 AM | My personal experience has been completely the opposite.
Too many males do not respect a woman if they have sex on the first date. These idiots think that a woman who puts out on the first date have loose morals. That is a sad reality.
In my opinion, these males are the ones with the problem, and the women they reject for marriage are the lucky ones.
For one, there is a huge double standard. If a couple had sex on the first date, both had sex on the first date. Would this not mean that the man has loose morals as well?
Why is the man worthy of marriage (in his eyes) and the woman is not worthy of marriage (in his eyes)?
The answer is simple. The man is a jerk. And she is better without him.
god its good to find another male with some common sense
to all men
have you ever had sex on the first date .... if so you are a slut... easy... and are not worthy of anyones respect ...or good enough for anyone .... think ...cause God made you a male doesn't make you any better than the woman ....grow up and have some sensitivity this hypocritical attitude is the reason that men are seen as the enemy by many women.... do not apply a more stringent set of rules for one group of people than another ....its just wrong .....there have been times in my life when the first meeting was so strong that hell or high water could not have kept us from being together ... was she easy Hell no ... did she meet me looking to have sex no again ...sometimes things are meant to be ... chemistry can be explosive...Drink it up.. thats the good stuff... | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 6/29/2007 6:43:25 AM | Can only speak for myself but sex with someone I barely know would not be exciting; I would be nervous and not comfortable speaking up. It's always better with someone you are more familiar with and you've already discussed at least some of each others preferences.  | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 6/29/2007 11:43:01 PM |
god its good to find another male with some common sense
Thank you.
....grow up and have some sensitivity this hypocritical attitude is the reason that men are seen as the enemy by many women.... do not apply a more stringent set of rules for one group of people than another ....its just wrong .....
I enjoyed your whole post. It is refreshing to see a male with your views. You have a good head on your shoulders. And a good heart too, I'd expect. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 6/30/2007 3:25:11 AM | Let me add a new note to this discussion. I think that a mature, responsible man who is wanting to engage in a serious relationship also won't have sex right away when dating someone new. Why? It gives someone a slight attachment to a new person, when you don't even know that person. I don't agree that men have no connection to someone with whom they have sex, just men who are very cut off from their feelings, in my view.
If you want to develop a long-term relationship, you use maturity and discretion and you don't engage in sexual contact until you know someone well. That way, your judgment about compatibility is not skewed by virtue of enjoying the sexual activities. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 6/30/2007 6:41:41 AM | | and if thats your opinion and it works for you then that is what you should do I am not or would never say that you or any of you nice ladies or gentlemen should go out and have sex on the first or fifteenth date if it is your feeling or belief that its wrong for you then by all means wait till its right for you.....but first date sex happens and I am saying that you or any one saying that it was wrong ... well thats wrong ... just like the guy that sleeps with a lady and then puts her down for it ...people lets learn to live and let live ... those of you that say its wrong for you we appreciate your input and advice ...Those that just say its wrong ... well you have no right... | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 6/30/2007 7:02:44 AM | From my experience many women don't find sex on a first date weird...
i think maybe it should be.. why dont women want to have sex with you on the first date...
It's called chemistry, it's called attraction... animal magnetism if you will....
Sometimes everything just feels so right... perfect... where it passions just take over...
Nothing wrong with it... no sin.... as long as there is mutual respect. care and consideration... who cares when anyone chooses to have sex or not...
it is notfor anyone else to judge what others do... do what is right by you...
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 7/5/2007 3:38:50 PM | Do you think that women don't like sex on a first date because they want to present the man they're with a foundation of security? What I mean is that if they see each other a few times and they've not had sex but the fact that they've met a few times says that she likes him otherwise she wouldnt meet him. She could also find him sexually attractive which she may have informed him of or not because that could come later on in the relationship, after sex has occured. Now this could then send a message to the man that even though she finds a man sexually attractive and likes him as a person she will not sleep with him unless she's in a meaningful relationship with him and that in itself will create an abundance of trust which makes him feel secure and might hopefully be reciprocated by his fidelity too. This could be both intentional on the woman's part or an innate subconscious act that she has been predisposed to genetically by her ancestors. Who knows!
I've been in both situations by the way so I don't agree or disagree with it but what I do feel is that if I meet a woman who I really want to settle with, I'd be more than willing to wait until she's ready (although i'm sure it would kill me!!! joke) because it's given us more time to get to know each other and also for the above 'security' reason.
I find this thread quite interesting actually and i'm sure if we were all in a pub one night, the debate would go on until the early hours.
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 7/5/2007 6:24:58 PM | I do not think having sex on the fdirst date is weird.....and last I checked ...umm yeah I am a woman.
It is not a given for me and I doubt it would be for my date....but it is very much in the realm of possible. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 7/5/2007 6:50:21 PM | JAY: Your post on why "women find sex on a first date so weird" was intelligent and understanding, BUT it gave me the impression that you are trying to calm down a "debate". You do not have a profile posted, so it is impossible for the participants/observers in this discussion to know anything about you. I know you are a male because you gave your first name, but I/we don't know your AGE. I think a person's age is VERY relevant to the discussion.
The opinion of a young woman who wants to leave the door open for marriage and children may be the total opposite of an older woman who is MOST concerned about STD's. These are both relevant factors in the discussion .
Sex on a first date CAN be the most wonderful thing in the world for a woman; I know this from personal experience. But a woman especially has to consider what impact on HER life having sex with a man whose background she does not know, would have.
BOTTOM LINE: AGE of parties should be considered as age affects both a person's goals in life and their likelihood of having contracting an STD. You should know and trust the person you are sleeping with. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 7/6/2007 5:01:16 PM | Why is that? Well let me just say that I have recently experienced that very situation, meaning I was told by my date as we were saying "goodnight" that he wanted to go upstairs and fool around.. I was really dissappointed. I was shocked by the idea that we had literally just met and that he would have just gone to my place and gone to bed with me and hardly knew me.
Then I thought well, as he said the next day in a conversation that "I am a guy". I have to tell you, that may be true, but all it did was make me think he is probably a sleaze and is not looking for a relationship with substance. I suppose that there are women that would probably do that.
My point is, read about women, learn what drives them in a relationship. If it is a first date, why would you want to ruin the mystery? I speak for myself and alot of women that I talk to daily, that we want to establish an emotional connection before we sleep with a man. We want to feel secure in the feelings for each other as well. Sleeping with a man on the first date is pretty much a given that it probably will not last. You have already given away what is to me a very personal gift. Why should he bother trying to pursue a "sure thing"? For a woman, security is #1 in the most important things we need in a relationship.
A man needs to understand this or he will continue to find women who might sleep with you on the first date, but will he find a true and meaningful relationship with a woman who has good morals and is secure within herself? Probably not. What he will probably find are women who are "easy" AKA insecure, low self worth, and probably have a long line of bad realtionships. Who knows.. maybe you'll sleep your way into a good relationship? Chances are you have already experienced some of the things that I am talking about.. how's it working for ya? | |
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Joined: 5/16/2007
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 7/6/2007 5:03:46 PM | Depends on the man and how I feel about him. Yeah, I've been a first dater and have married two of those guys. My third husband ws the one who put on the brakes on our first date. I should have heeded the warning. He was always the one who said, not tonight dear I've got a headache.
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 7/6/2007 5:42:47 PM |
How's that working for ya?
The poster said she had tried it both ways, (having sex on the first date and ending up marrying the man and not having sex right away and marrying that man)
Either way she is single so I guess neither way is fool proof! | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 7/6/2007 6:45:38 PM |
Too many males do not respect a woman if they have sex on the first date. These idiots think that a woman who puts out on the first date have loose morals. That is a sad reality.
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For one, there is a huge double standard. If a couple had sex on the first date, both had sex on the first date. Would this not mean that the man has loose morals as well?
so refreshing to hear those words from a man. this type of double standard is incredibly common and makes me absolutely livid! time for some guys to grow up...if you sleep with a girl on the first date and call her a slut, then i've got news for you hunny, cuz you're a slut too! nothing wrong with being a slut, just don't kid yourself about it and act all morally judgemental towards someone of the opposite gender who does the same.
personally, i see nothing wrong with sex on the first date...and if the guy i sleep with judges me for it, well he's not worth my time, worry or tears. i can do better. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 7/6/2007 10:19:59 PM | | Personally, I think it's because of morals, which have been made due to the 'stereotypical' women who sleep with everyone. Women don't like being disrespected, especially from someone they like. So they tend to hold their morals a bit tighter than a man would. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 7/7/2007 10:22:56 AM | | the phrasing of your statement implies a fear of judgement, not a moral aversion to first date sex. morality is based on definitions of right and wrong, virtue and sin...not simply "what will people think if...". the wording and reasoning seems to be that if there were no social stigma or judgements attached to first date sex, then girls would be just as happy to express their sexuality as freely as any man would...therefore it's not morals that hold us back, it's insecurity and allowing our sense of worth to be defined by the opinions held by others. there is a difference. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 7/7/2007 11:31:40 AM | This discussion raises a question that I've pondered for some time. Comments welcome!
Based on the comments posted on these forums, one would assume that
- most women think that most men are just after sex.
- and that having achieved their quest, these men will want to move straight on to their next target because
- they are just shallow cads who think with their penises.
So ladies, if this is what your truly believe, why are you on sites like this? Either you
- just want to have sex with all the shallow men on here or
- you know deep down that most men actually do want more than sex.
So whichever it is, why all the game playing about when to have sex? It doesn't matter either way does it?
Here's the cold hard truth. When a guy has sex with a woman and then doesn't want to see her again it's usually because the sex wasn't very good or he doesn't like her as a person or both. It would be a very rare and stupid man who would walk away from an opportunity for good, regular sex with a woman he gets along with. And the thing is, women do this too! The difference is that when women do this to men, we usually just chalk it up to experience and move on whereas women have to play the blame game. "Oh it couldn't possibly be anything to do with me. I'm perfect! He just must be a typical male b*stard!"
Why is this? | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 7/7/2007 12:24:28 PM | | you forgot another option...he or she simply wasn't looking for a relationship in the first place. the sex may have been good, they may even think you're a cool person, but some people just aren't at a place in their lives where they want a relationship. it's not because they're a bast*rd, just that they have different priorities and would rather walk away than play an ongoing game with another person's head or heart. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 7/7/2007 12:35:56 PM | To crazycurlz, msg 347.
Possibly but, if he wasn't looking for relationship yet he had sex with a woman he knew was, wouldn't that make him a b*stard? It's still messing with that person's head or heart, getting their hopes up. | |
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Deni30
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Joined: 5/29/2007
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 7/7/2007 12:47:20 PM | The women who don't want sex on the first date are women who want more than sex obviously.
They are afraid of being used of course.
Is this seriously a difficult concept to comprehend?
Add to that trust!
There is NO safe sex! The majority of STD's are transmittable even when a condom is used!
Why would anyone want to put themselves at risk for a little release that is nothing more than a pleasurable memory once it's over?
I for one am selective about who and save when for when it feels right! I may occasionally want sex on the first date but I'd never be so foolish as to do it. I have control of my actions regardless of hormones- it's called responsibility. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 7/7/2007 3:28:35 PM | | fair enough RWW, if someone lies about their intentions to get someone in the sack...then ya, they're a bast*rd. but to play the other side of the coin, if no lies are told and expectations of a relationship are based solely on an assumption of intent, then quite frankly the blame is shifted back to the one making the assumptions IMO. | |
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