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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 7/8/2007 10:30:07 AM | Oh come on.....when a woman gives herself away too freely and too quickly like that it to me shows she has not self control or self respect. (I'm a woman btw). Being disease free should also be a discussion before sharing a bed.
I was brought up with good morals and wouldn't consider that as an option and any man worth his salt should respect that. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 8/1/2007 9:23:40 AM | yeah i agree with you doxiegirl
But the guy or the girl aren't going to sit there and talk about diseases are they.
there just going to have sex and then that is it for some but the thing is if they have diseases i sure hope they have protection with them like if you were going to have sex with a guy you really liked you wouldn't sit there and talk about disease free it would scare him away and to tell you the truth i have a friend who talked about diseases and now she hasn't had sex in four years because she scared this guy of from talking about it and now she is scared if she opens her mouth she wont have anyone there sorry if i sound rude but it is true no one would sit there and talk about it if they want to have sex it would make them not want it anymore also if it is on the first date | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 8/1/2007 10:45:46 AM | A way to get sex on the first date is to come a crossed like thats the last thing your looking for. I recently had a first date/ first meeting with a young woman and after spending about 7 hours with her, yes very long date, I had sex with her. I asked her how that happened and she said that she didn't know and that she felt comfortable around me, and she didn't get the feeling that was all I was after, and it wasn't. But yeah that was a pretty wild first date. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 8/1/2007 12:38:33 PM | Wow this is an interesting topic. The main poster of this is a complete moron. Selfish, self absorbed and a bit off. I can definitely see you as one dimentional and sad.
You talk like an outside viewer who is watching a game that you vaguely know without enough interest to identify the teams playing.
First of all, there is a lot to take into consideration on a first date. The person sitting across from you is a stranger, you don't really know them, you have no way of predicting how they will act or what they will do, they could be a serial killer, a rapist, an std spreader of the worse kind, or a complete mental case. What part of THEY ARE A STRANGER is so hard to comprehend? The point of having more dates is to see what kind of person they are, how they react, do you have things in common, do you compliment each other on other levels. Is this person someone you could see yourself with other than in bed?
If you are looking for is sex, then why bother with a dating service? Why not just pick up the street whores you can find almost anywhere, pay, play and be on your way?
Of course YOU are satisified, you are the only one you care about anyway. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 8/1/2007 1:37:42 PM | Well if the first date is with someone you've known for a while Its not weird.
But a formal first date is for you to get to know the person because you want a relationship with them. If your just there to get your jollies on then its not a first date. Sex on a first date is an option but its not mandatory. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 8/1/2007 2:09:26 PM | Hasn't this question been answered yet?
No matter. Because I have a better one. Namely, why do women find sex on the last date so weird? I mean, you're heading into a dry spell, so why not pop another cap?
Y'know what I mean, OPie? It's just logical. Bio-logical!
Cheers!
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 8/1/2007 3:10:47 PM | How about sex before the first date. Both women I knew before hand but not well.
One I wanted to date for a while and because of an unusual chain of events ended up being naughty. We spent the next three months together and only split up because of different priorities.
The second I knew through a mutual friend. She came by my place for a package that was waiting for her. We got to talking and one thing led to another… Two years later we went our separate ways.
I never thought any less of them because of how are relationships started and I doubt they did of me. That being said I rarely have sex with a woman before I get to know them, you don’t know what you are jumping into. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 8/1/2007 3:36:08 PM | | It's very simple 9 times out of 10 if we have sex on the first date the guy never calls again. Put 2 & 2 together if you want sex on a first date then don't be a prick and never call. You guys created the situation you complain about. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 8/1/2007 4:59:34 PM | | Pleanty of women will have sex on the first date but MOST enjoy going out, having fun, and being seduced. If you ask for sex up front, then that kills all the seduction. If you are asking for sex, that may be the problem. Never be that crude. They already know that you want sex but are you worthy? That is where your charm comes into play. Get her laughing, talk about the things that gets her involved in the conversation. That first kiss is pretty important too - it's at that point she may or may not entertain the thought of something more. Most women need to feel a connection with a guy before getting involved sexually. That is part sex appeal but also she needs to feel that she can trust you and that you are worthy of her. There are so many strong emotions that come out of a woman during sex so that is why the trust is so important to them. Seems like you are skipping half the fun of dating a woman - looking at how beautiful she is, hearing her sexy voice and joyful laugh, love-lee kisses, showing her off in public, and the million and one other wonderful things about being with a woman. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 8/1/2007 9:30:50 PM | | well first off i disagree with your assessment. woman only think of it as slutty. its the most natural thing on this planet , yet woman want to make it out to be taboo for some reason. hey in case you havent figured it out yet ladies we are adults. i enjoy the ladies bios that state must not be looking for intimate encounters. well isnt intimacy part of the process. i mean my parts are still very functional. if i date a woman it isnt just for the privilage of spending tons of money on them and their companionship. lets face it i can go out with my friends for and it wont cost me anything. oh i do believe woman are sex camels. [ meaning they can get along without imtimacy ] on the other hand us men have a problem with not getting any. give a guy a break ladies lol | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 8/2/2007 2:21:47 PM | It's very simple 9 times out of 10 if we have sex on the first date the guy never calls again. Put 2 & 2 together if you want sex on a first date then don't be a prick and never call. You guys created the situation you complain about.
I am very pro sex on the first date, and I call the lady afterwards. That is how most of my relationships started.
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 8/2/2007 2:25:08 PM | | It's probably been said a billion times over here already but... sex on a first date is a disaster. You'll end up all loved up (or extremely disappointed) and he won't bloody call afterwards lol. The thrill is in the chase, some like to say...and...if the chase is over too quickly... we're left to chase our tails until we get the idea that...he aint gonna call. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 8/2/2007 3:07:25 PM | I wouldn't say it is a matter of being weird or not. Unfortunately many women have been raised to think it is bad or something mainly we have been told that men will think we are too easy. Now I find by waiting a little bit helps build the attraction also lets ones imagination run wild. Also we women are more prone to feed off our emotional side which in turn helps with an orgasm. Then there are those very rare occassions when you meet a man and WOW the chemistry takes over and there is no looking back.    | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 8/2/2007 5:59:22 PM | OP, lots of reasons hon. Some have the notion that they will be called a slut, some know if they do have sex the first time the guy will never call again, some need more time to see if deep feelings develop. Some like the raw animalist spontaneous kind.
Since you talked about a date type situation well that would depend. Have the two been talking on the phone for weeks, or have they chatted online and once on the phone and met very quickly. I would think the ones chatting for quite some time might be quicker to let the sparks fly so to speak.
Myself, I don't have a magical time line for that. Chemistry is where its at, and when it strikes I go with the flow. If I get dumped afterwards, then I made the wrong decision. Yes the chase is good most times and most often the safer way to go, but sometimes you just gotta give in and have some fun.
Now for those of you who think that the ones "doing it" on the first date are sluts and just opening theirselves up for disease. Please, don't judge so harshly. I might do something like that once in a blue moon and when I do I use protection. Now you might take 3 months to jump into bed but aren't you still taking the same chance. Just because its happened on the first date, doesn't mean its a habit or preferred method. It simply means that sometimes I just go with the chemistry and take a chance on being swept away, if even for just one night, into a fun passion filled erotic night. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 8/2/2007 8:04:48 PM | | I suppose it is chemistry. I ask someone out because I like them from what I see /hear so far,and I'm interested in getting to know them better...I really like to talk. If she says yes then she feels as I do. The only thing I expect is to have a good time. Sex very rarely pops up. The times that I have experienced sex on a first date has kept(I feel)a relationship from developing. If you are looking for a fun night out and nothing else,then I can't find fault in this. As I'm looking for a relationship,I will generally avoid sex on a first date..I have no intention of initiating it. Maybe I'm splitting hairs but I've always preferred making love to having sex. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 8/2/2007 9:14:31 PM | | Oh I always get a call back, but I rarely do it on a 1st date. In fact I can only think of 1 time I did not get a call for another go around. And I'm actually glad he did not call. No I dont think of it as sluty or wired. Sometimes you just have to take your chances and go with it. Other times you just know you should wait. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 8/2/2007 9:57:06 PM | I know I will now wait until at least the third date. The reason is because it weeds out the men who just want sex. For a woman, there is nothing worse than having sex with someone, when you think there is potential for a relationship, and then he doesn't call. The chances of this happing if you sleep with someone on the first date are astronomical. Really. Plus I think if you sleep with a guy on the first date he thinks you do that with everyone. Also, I think emotions build in a man if you keep him longing for sex. I do think men like a challenge. They are conditioned to enjoy chasing. It is the way they are wired. Also, women tend to bond with the men they have sex with. Men are completely different...they are much better at looking at sex as something physical.
But, the bottom line why I wait now is because I want to know the person I am sleeping with. You don't know someone's motives until you have had a couple dates.
Anyways, the reasons are too numerous to mention. Honestly, I could probably come up with at least 20...and watch on my next first date....I sleep with him (lol). It does take restraint on a woman's part. But, I have learned my lesson. There is a definate double standard (ahhhh...another reason)
Read some of these threads in the heartbreak section. They are usually posted by women who have slept with a man too soon . Before sleeping with him the guy was calling and e-mailing night and day...suddenly they have sex and he is ignoring her. It is one of the worst feelings. It happened to me once....never again. I think if a guy is truly interested he will understand. As a matter of fact, I think if a guy is really serious he will want to put it off for a while also. Sex too early in a relationship can ruin it. I do think most guys agree. Even if they won't admit it. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 8/2/2007 10:00:39 PM | | ^^^I wrote this prior to reading the above posts, which just confirms....it is not a good idea to have sex with someone on the first date....to say the least. BAD MOVE | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 8/3/2007 6:34:21 AM | | I have heard so many women say that they do not get called again if they get loved up on the first date so I know it's true many times. That's so much more weird then the ladies not wanting to give it up right away. You would think that after the guy has gotten what he wants, that he would be back for more. I know I would. It's jerks like that that mess it up for everyone. It makes no sense to me that a man would take the time to build and light a fire only to throw a bucket of cold water on it once it is going. Funny how things that men find wrong with women get turned around so that the answer is almost always that "men suck." | |
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