| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 8/3/2007 9:32:11 AM | Maybe it's because they are looking for more than a one night stand.
Maybe it's because while guys want sex.. a lot of them don't want to settle down with a woman who gives it up too easily. Like on the first date.(?)
Who knows.
If you men were not such a contradiction in your ways of conducting your relationships maybe we women would not have to second guess and 'protect' ourselves from situations where the guy only wants to use the woman as a convenient 'receptacle'.
Not all men are alike and neither are all women.
Maybe if a guy appreciated what a woman gave him.. and showed his appreciation of her giving herself to him then perhaps, just perhaps there would be less game playing all around. ? | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 8/3/2007 11:59:09 AM | | I don't think it's a question of appreciation...everybody's different. When I used to frequent clubs many years ago I'd go with a few friends.When we walked inside,we all separated. Bob would head straight for the bar. He was a little unsure with women,and if a woman liked what she saw,she had to make the first move. Al and I headed straight for the dance floor. But while I was always looking for conversation and a relationship,Al would always find a woman who "put out" . He was only interested in one-night stands. While I always took a phone number,he rarely did-they would take his. If you read a person correctly,walking in with both eyes and ears open,you avoid the games. I like conversation,and will very plainly tell the woman I've met what I'm looking for. This way nobody wastes any time-mine or hers. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 8/3/2007 12:34:33 PM | I was wondering that, too, Prettiest-G. Unappealing, sure, but weird?
My guess is that, in the bar, where he asks her for it in his stuttery way, it's noisy. So, when she says, "Go away you weirdo," he hears her wrong.
BTW, how big a bar is it?
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 8/3/2007 1:41:06 PM | women dont like sex on first date because if A they are genuine and looking for a whole lot more than a quick lay!
B they have self respect
C nothing worse than sex which is an ego boost soon as goodbyes are said you feel like shit!
in pof terms it aint a date its an intimate encounter | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 8/3/2007 3:53:10 PM | I guess to each his own. I have never been one to go out looking for sex with someone I just met but sometimes when the time is right I am not going to argue. Two out of three times it has lead to relationships.
I take exeption to a few comments.
women dont like sex on first date because if A they are genuine and looking for a whole lot more than a quick lay!
B they have self respect
C nothing worse than sex which is an ego boost soon as goodbyes are said you feel like shit!
One of my oldest friends probably had more first date sexual experiences than I had, well to be polite it was in between the number of cars I have owned and the number of beers I have had. She was more genuine than most people I have met. She just liked sex and men.
What has self respect have to do with it. It is other catty women that are the biggest problem. They put a woman down more than the men. I will use my friend as an example again. She never ‘gave it away’ to the guys. She took it and got it from them. She spread a lot of joy around and the guys knew it was on her terms.
Sex can do great things for your disposition but if you need it to boost your ego and feel deflated by a goodbye guys probably smell that need and know it is time to run. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 8/3/2007 5:35:00 PM | HAHAH your a slut if you have sex on the first date, yay for the stupid mentality women have... most anyways.
For gods sake ladies, just give in to your desires if your comfortable and attracted enough. You only live once, why let this stupid societal stigma that women put on other women hold you back? | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 8/3/2007 5:47:27 PM | | Oh, and heaven forbid you MIGHT actually enjoy yourself... Oh no thats just wrong and indecent, something must be wrong with you. First date sex always has to be about him and not you. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 8/3/2007 6:27:55 PM | printer2 - I don't know who you are trying to kid. You take things that people write and twist it around. For example, this statement:
"Sex can do great things for your disposition but if you need it to boost your ego and feel deflated by a goodbye guys probably smell that need and know it is time to run. "
So, are you saying if a woman wants more than just sex on the first day they are are "needy"? Also, other catty women are not the "biggest problem." Don't try to underplay the fact that MOST men will treat a woman like SH*T if she has sex on the first date. I capitalize SH*T because you wouldn't believe the experiences. Or maybe you would and you are just talking out your a$$. THERE IS A DOUBLE STANDARD. There is no denying it. Don't make light of it as if it doesn't exist. It does exist.
Sure, there are exceptions. For example, I had sex on the first date with my second husband. But, we are divorced and having sex with him on the first date certainly didn't help our marriage. Our relationship would have been better if he would have valued me more.
So, I am not some innocent. I have experienced both sides. Believe me you are treated much better if you DON'T HAVE SEX ON THE FIRST DATE.
That is my advice to anyone that will listen.
Get to know the man you are having sex with. Because you just might be unpleasantly surprised if you sleep with someone too soon and later find out who they really are and what they really think of you. If you knew before hand, you probably wouldnt want to sleep with them. Men are great in the beginning when they want something. But, often when they get it...the tables turn. Believe it or not...I am not really bitter. I know this to be fact and I make no judgement of this at all. It is just the way the world works...and that is why I wait. But, it is when people deny this or make light of it....that bothers me. If a woman wants to enjoy sex she should....but, just know there are consequences for doing it too soon. And not from catty women (who are the LEAST of your concerns). | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 8/4/2007 12:58:42 PM | I see my word were twisted. divineadvisor
I am not saying what people should or should not do with themselves here. Personally I will not sleep with a woman until there is some kind of connection that might go somewhere. I never said that a woman who wants more than sex on a first date is needy.
I just commented on the previous post which said a woman who has sex on a first date getting a big boost to their ego after having sex and is then deflated when a guy leaves. As far as I am concerned the meek and mild should not be swapping more than stories on a first date but if they do they should realize that the special moment may actually be just a moment.
I have known women who jump in the sack with guys because ‘this one is really special’ and get let down only to do it again next month. One wanted an affair with me and I hid out for a month till she latched on to someone else. And before I am accused of anything elseI never even shared a kiss with this one.
I have never said there wasn’t a double standard between the sexes on sex. I agree with you that MOST men that you women have sex with on a first date are asses. The are because they can get away with it. They are the cream of the crop, the ones that most women wish would come over and come talk to them. Tall dark and handsome.
On the contrary the ones that don’t get sex on the first date, the other 95% of men would probably treat you with the respect you deserve. They are the one’s that are going to give you a call the next day. They are the one's that will message you and you will judge them nothing special and pass them by.
You may not like my view on women being catty, men are just as bad but I find a women gets hurt more if it comes from another woman.
Men are great in the beginning when they want something. But, often when they get it...the tables turn. Believe it or not...I am not really bitter. I know this to be fact and I make no judgement of this at all. It is just the way the world works...
I am not that cynical yet and I hope I find a woman that isn’t either. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 8/4/2007 5:24:03 PM | | Because some women are seeking a more deep and meaningful relationship than one based on lust. That and some women respect their body and don't want to give in to disease, etc. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 8/5/2007 12:10:28 AM | I am a woman(well was last time I looked) and I totally agree that there is nothing wrong with sex on a first date! I didnt always think this way as I did belive that you had to know a guy respected you ect before you had sex...but hell I was wrong! There are many reasons for sex and the best is carnal animalistic pleasure! Hell why do some women get so upperty about it...even the queen does it! If you meet a guy and are sexually attracted to him just go for it and you never know you might enjoy it!  | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 8/5/2007 9:22:47 AM | ^^^ If you want nothing more than sex then go ahead and f&ck him on the first date. But, if you want more...let him get to know you before sex is in the picture. It is better to let the sexual tension build. He will be fanisizing about you thinking of what you would be like.
Other wise you will end up like the woman who posted the thread "who's the f&*ked up one here" You should read it. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 8/5/2007 9:59:19 AM | Well, maybe the stigma of being a slut stops us from wanting to have sex on a first date...
Maybe the fact that if we like you, we know if we sleep with you....Usually we won't hear from you again....There are many reasons | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 8/5/2007 10:14:10 AM | Shoot, I didn't have sex with one recently and he never called again! Maybe I should have put out?
(just kidding, I've never had anonymous sex and never would. I need to be into someone and they need to get inside my head to find out what makes me tick or else it's as boring as watching paint dry, I'd imagine) | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 8/5/2007 10:36:14 AM | I think women should not "put out" on the first date. Damn if we were to do that how many men would we sleep with by the end of the month?? Guys crack me up sometimes, they say there's nothing wrong with women putting out on the first encounter " we might enjoy it" BUT they are the first ones to say "oh, that chick is a whore"
Why are women called whores for sleeping with someone on the first night but guys are called "somewhat heroes"??? Men are whores just as much as women if not more.
To each their own , I mean if you want to sleep with x amount of people all the best to you but don't sit here and dictate what you think everyone should do with themselves.. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 8/5/2007 10:51:34 AM | | It's interesting that some of the ladies are calling sex on the first date meaningless, as if all they did was just sit there are stare at the walls. Don't know about that, sex on first dates on my experience have been totally the opposite. There was so much attraction and magnetism that we just couldn't keep our clothes on. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 8/5/2007 2:04:34 PM |
I was wondering that, too, Prettiest-G. Unappealing, sure, but weird?
My guess is that, in the bar, where he asks her for it in his stuttery way, it's noisy. So, when she says, "Go away you weirdo," he hears her wrong.
Hmm . . . I vote for unappealing AND weird.
I don't get it how anyone can find it appealing, sharing sexual intimacy with someone you don't know.
I can't even get up the hormones for such an encounter until I feel that there's a real relationship going on.
Different strokes, I guess.
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 8/6/2007 12:03:30 AM | | i think alot of it has to do with it is women are really starting to be able to pick out the players and if your a player or a male whore who knows if your keeping it wrapped in ur so called "meaningless sex" acts im surprised it hasnt fallen off yet for gawd sakes ... and how do you know that the women ur tryn to pick up on are not interested in "meaningless sex" that there just not interested in YOU! there has to be some kind of attraction to have "meaningless sex" and if it aint there it aint gonna happen | |
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