| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 7/30/2006 7:30:22 AM | bcdream on 7/30/2006 12:52:20 AM
Even in the posts that defend the practise of waiting forever for sex, I see the trappings of the pre Victorian mind.....
All during this discussion I cant help but hear the distant wailing of priests, rabbis, mullahs, monks and other religious fanatics telling us all that suffering is the answer.
Men with long robes and long staves....judging men, difficult to please men, men who kiddy diddle by night and preach abstinence by day.
I just cant help but see this twisted sexuality. Classical suppression.
Like its a massive social script for reproduction.
Maybe its just me.
Very true... seems like most women put sex on this Pedestal and treat it like the holy grail that is the end all of a relationship... They hold it out as a promise or reward to any guy who will wait and jump through the hoops and pass all the tests they throw in the way to test the guy before they will even consider having sex.
The religious nuts have ruined sex and turned it into some dirty thing that only becomes acceptable if marriage is entered into… And even worse so many women have been brainwashed into believing all the lies and propaganda…
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 7/30/2006 8:44:10 AM |
And even worse so many women have been brainwashed into believing all the lies and propaganda…
Yep and if men didn't give us that "well you f*u*c*k*e*d ME on the first date, you prolly do it with everyone else" crap or call as sluts for being sexual, we might be able to get past the old propaganda. We are NOT the only ones suffering the ill effects, so it remains as I said in a prior post: Man has sex on a first date, his buds all tell him what a stud he is; if a woman does it, the same buds say "what a slut she must be".
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 7/30/2006 9:19:09 AM | | It still amazes me how stupid men can be.All this time and they still dont understand the needs of a womens heart. Even saying American women are prudes.Please!!! Do you foolish men actually think typical women feel respect from just being an object to gain sensual pleasure from? Men will copulate with ungulants for that. Women typicaly respect their sexuality and expect that it will be treated with some sense of dignity. When a woman presents her body to a man her heart is usually included with it, she wants to give her mind body and spirit to that person, she wants to be loved respected and honored and feel safe. Sexual expression is about feeling safe, secure, appreciated. Men walking into a womans sexual life like a bull in a china shop is nothing short of emotionaL DESTRUCTION. Men wonder why women are so jaded. Well guys heres the deal, you morons were busy screwing around so much when they were in their 20s you left them as single moms, in an emotional wasteland. The few skanks you managed to bag, left you with the impression that every woman you meet should give into the false charms you use to satisfy the urges you havent managed to control. Like a rutting buck you lose sight of an individual doe and concentrate on a herd. You goofs need to wake up and discover women are more than some thing to gratify that primitive reptilain part of your brain that only knows 3 things food, sex, and aggression. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 7/30/2006 10:30:25 AM | crzrck - I only have one bone to pick with ya...
this line - The few skanks you managed to bag -
Those "skanks" were women also...who also more than likely gave their hearts as well as their bodies.
Other than that....kudos to ya 
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 7/30/2006 11:15:10 AM | Women typicaly respect their sexuality and expect that it will be treated with some sense of dignity
Agreed! And so should men!
I think at least half or more of the change has to come from men. Men who see women as objects are a disgrace. Men who ONLY want sex from a woman are a disgrace. Men who treat women as though they are less intelligent or less capable are **stards. Men who fail to nurture and care for women are idiots. Fortunately I am none of these, and most of us arent. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 7/30/2006 3:11:30 PM | | I believe that alot woman dont have sex on the first date is for two reasons.1 is because she doesnt want to be considered a slut.2. as for myself i want to get to know the guy and see if they are really into me or just a piece of ass, if all they want is a piece they can move on anyone can find that but a true honest guy who actually wants to get to know them and see if they can connect besides the bedroom? who knows maybe im just old fashion but i believe sex should be the last thing on ones mind on the first date. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 7/30/2006 3:44:26 PM | | I see nothing wrong with girls making guys wait...Some of you say, "It's only sex! Just do it!" Yes, it is only sex, and we all like it, but...When you eventually meet someone and fall in love, do you want him or her to have been with 500 people? I mean, kind of takes away the specialness of it...I dunno... | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 7/30/2006 8:43:12 PM | Halfevl333 said:The religious nuts have ruined sex and turned it into some dirty thing that only becomes acceptable if marriage is entered into… And even worse so many women have been brainwashed into believing all the lies and propaganda…
"If the sex isn't dirty, you're doing it wrong" - anon  
??? "women have been brainwashed" ??? Men too | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 7/31/2006 9:33:12 AM | | It takes the whole fun of the chase out of things. Why are people so impatient these days? Sex is as intimate as it gets and it's the anticipation that makes it great. You got to get to know the girl first, otherwise you may be having sex with someone you can't stand and then you have to live with that. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 11/1/2006 5:54:50 PM | Why do guys need to have sex on the 1st date if your looking for a relationship ? For that go to a bar and have a ONS or get a hooker. Guys who push this are mostly A-holes who like to brag.
If I get a kiss on the 1st date im happy, although i have had sex on the 1st date (initiated by the woman, she loved sex).
Hot kissing is exciting and enough for the first couple dates. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 11/1/2006 5:58:27 PM | I find thats the wierdest thing, dont you? I mean, I should be able to have sex with any woman I see at any time. Why cant they understand that. Whats all this "meaning" crap, anyway?  | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 11/1/2006 10:14:35 PM | | If I want to have sex I will have sex....Nothing wierd about it to me. I generally tell the person I won't have sex the first time around because I don't want sex to be that elephant in the room and for the other person to have expectations of me. If I decide to have sex that night then I will but if I don't then at least I had already put it out there and won't feel bad if I say no. Other than that, nope don't find sex wierd just like to be careful when I do indulge and don't want it to be an expectation | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 11/2/2006 4:16:55 AM | I have had sex on the first date more than once. And for a couple that was the last date. The other few were fun relationship that lasted from a few months to a few years. I have positive memories and no baggage from any of them. Each woman is different and has different opinions on sex. I have no hang ups at all about it. I love sex and my imperfect body and because of that I can always enjoy sex. If others think negitive of me for this I really do not care. So the answer to the question is there is no one answer. Each woman is different.  | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 11/2/2006 4:30:07 AM | | Na I disagree about women being weird about it, (some are sure but I'd say 50/50) I think it all depends on the situation, the people and how much alcohol has disappeared down your neck...if you both want it, why the hell wait? Life's too short. If you're not sure, then by all means wait until you are. Rocket science it aint. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 11/2/2006 5:49:39 AM | | Call me " modern " or what, but having sex on the first date is no big deal. In fact, if both parties are mature and understand that what they are doing is for the sheer pleasure of getting together due to an undeniable attraction and sexual chemistry, then why not? But they also have to be mature in the sense that they should have at least protected sex.....I have had sex on first dates before and I have to admit that most of them turned out to be fairly memorable experiences and many have remained either my friends, lovers, bfs in the end. | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 11/2/2006 2:43:28 PM | Well, I don't have sex until I feel like it. And even if I'm very attracted to the guy it takes me until we're in a committed relationship until I feel comfortable. If that's too long for him, then I have no problem with him moving on. It would be sort of pointless for me to have sex with someone if I'm not going to enjoy it, don't you think?
PS: Very few men have felt the need to "move on". | |
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| Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 11/2/2006 4:19:58 PM | cause we don`t want to be labeled as sluts.sometimes we want sex as much as the guys do,but we often worry what they`ll think later.that`s why we wait.and this is you guys fault,if you weren`t so judgemental,you`d get lucky in the first date. | |
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