| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 7/31/2006 8:20:18 PM | | OK.....How long has he been outside of the last person he was with?? Maybe its too short a time span. When you get your head played with, it takes a long time to really have a good perspective on the situation. With me, I can tell you when it is that a person should, for sure believe that thier partner is up to something, but it took me a long while to figure that out. Not responding to your cell on one occasion (or three times on the same occasion) is NOT a cause for concern, or shouldnt be. There are alot of other things that would have to go with that. Also, there is nothing wrong with having a profile here if you are casually dating someone (or bored and foruming like me), but I think that you need to really think about whether you should be worrying that losing this guy will leave you with "nothing". Hey, dont let your life revolve around whether this thing with this guy or that thing with that guy is working out. You will spend your whole life pursuing only that, when there are an awful lot of other things you could be doing. My advice would be to do some things on your own that you like and stop worrying about the guys altogether. | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 7/31/2006 8:26:11 PM | missjenn0583
you come off as 'low rent'
starting a forum about 'not being a cheater' and saying that you are faithful.....blah blah blah
your profile lists................ single
does not add up.................
well actually it does .......low rent
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dido1
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Joined: 12/24/2005
Msg: 54 | |
| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 7/31/2006 8:37:34 PM | | sorry for goin off topic here,but has anybody told you thereal deal that you look like one of the ladies off sex in the city?The character that i am referring to is meranda,you have alot of resemblence.Once again sorry for the interuption | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 7/31/2006 8:43:00 PM | Only one better would be the person who's profile says "married - looking for intimate encounter" -- upset that their spouse is accusing them of cheating.
Actions speak louder than words. | |
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Joined: 7/18/2006
Msg: 56 | |
| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 7/31/2006 8:46:10 PM | Ahh hah Miss Jenna, your busted. You knew about your profile and that it said you were still single. You cant fool POF you know.
You knew it was a matter of time before he found out about Guedo, so you came up with the elaborate scheme about going to your moms pool and forgetting the cell phone. You choose the pool alibi so your boyfriend wouldnt wonder about the smell of chlorine. It was almost perfect, except for the profile and mysterious post in June. This is time for redemption Miss Jenna, just tell us all about Guedo and the pool party and we can move on.  | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 7/31/2006 11:09:50 PM | therealdeal.....you got me there, you are correct i should have read her profile! mmmmmmm.....put a different light on the subject now doesn't it? Bottom line is what everyone else has been saying 'why is she on POF'! I'll have to eat my words now from my pevious post!  | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 7/31/2006 11:19:08 PM | missJenna - let's check the old memory... hmmm... is this the guy who you were cheating with and the guy you were dating at the time wouldn't allow you to take your stuff out of his place? ( That was a great thread... ' he won't let me get my stuff...' )
He may know you better than you know yourself...
Maybe it's not an accusation, but a statement of fact... did he say 'again' afterwards...
Like, " you're cheatin AGAIN..."  | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 7/31/2006 11:25:57 PM | ^^ Glad someone else was payin attn.. I wondered the same thing... last guy wouldn't give back the stuff... this guy is bi-polar and depressed - hmmmm... I think there's only one common denominator here... and it's YOU Miss Jenna! | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 8/1/2006 12:43:15 AM | those that accuse are usually guitly of it themselves or so insecure they need intense therepy to deal with mega past issues an insecurities , therefore your best out of it anyway !!
been there myself , they never answer their mobiles yet you darent not answer their calls because of the accusations , its a control device without you realising it !!!
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 8/1/2006 2:52:17 AM | The one doing the accusing is usually the one doing the wrong. I had a guy who called me 5-10 times a day, just to check up on me, if he was in a bad mood, well, there were some interesting conversations to say the least.
Do not sit and question it, as it makes no sense, just speak the truth, ONCE and then if he persists, say buh bye. It is a power / control thing him....and trust me......that is a ball game you do not want to be in. | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 8/1/2006 4:16:29 AM | | missjenna0583....Your as fake as yer photo, stay on the site you may be lucky and find yer perfect match ....a fake man, there's the odd one or two out there! | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 8/1/2006 4:50:58 AM | I think there's only one common denominator here... and it's YOU
So true KAOS. Classic example of someone who isn't looking at their *OWN* choices, and themselves, its far easier to go blaming someone else all the time!!!
And then she says:
look guys, i stayed on this site because i know hes not the one and i dont feel any real feelings from him
Jenna, if you *KNOW* he's not the one, and you "don't feel any real feelings for him", then what the flying F**K are you doing with him?? Oh, wait, I get it now, you were just *USING* him. And now he won't talk to you, and you're upset... nobody to USE anymore.
"I never really cared for him, it was just convenient. How dare he leave me!" Get Real. | |
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Dru
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Joined: 12/17/2005
Msg: 64 | |
| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 8/1/2006 5:16:57 AM | I'm finding it really interesting that a lot of people are bringing up the point that she is on a dating site. These are also a lot of the same people that said there was nothing wrong with being on a dating site while in a relationship because they are here for the forums and friends.
So what's wrong with the gander if it's okay for the goose?
As for the topic of the thread. Is this something that has been going on for awhile? If so it's not likely to change and you should move on. If it's something new and recent, someone else already said it where he could be projecting his guilt of cheating on you by accusing you of cheating. Or one of his friends might be crushing on you so the friend is trying to sabotage the relationship so he can get in there.
There are a lot of possible reasons for whats going on. If you feel he is worth it, sit him down and talk to him, if not then cut your losses and move on. Just don't prove him right by doing the old new man search while stringing the old man along until you have a new one. Thats just tacky and makes you look like a cheater. | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 8/1/2006 5:22:29 AM | ^ There's nothing wrong with being on a dating site Dru, if you update your profile to say you're in a relationship and change it from "dating" to "friends".
But when you are in a relationship, with a profile that says you are looking to date, and posting messages about your boyfriend that you "don't really care about"... what does that say about you?
As to your question of "has this been going on a while?", uh, I've only been on here since the beginning of June or so, and this is the 2nd guy she's posted about. So I guess that depends on what your definition of "a while" is. | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 8/1/2006 5:26:03 AM | | Maybe it is a combination of things, not just the phone call. Perhaps he does know you are on here with a profile that states you are looking for men to date. It is all guess work as we don't know you or him. To me it looks like you would cheat if you had the chance. Is it wrong to assume that when a person has their line in the lake that they are trying to catch a fish? If I found someone I would delete my profile faster than you could type delete my profile!!! | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 8/1/2006 11:31:14 AM | OMG....LOL
You say you aren't a cheat yet your profile says you are looking for men to date.
Anywho if he is acusing you of cheating for no good reason (you are here seems like a good reason) it is usually because he is looking around as well and intends to cheat. | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 8/1/2006 11:37:24 AM | | Oh so you just "happened" to forget your cell phone huh? A woman never goes anywhere without a phone so that is quite a coincedence isn't it. My opinion, when a guy suspects his woman is cheating then she probably is. Another good point to make is that if you are dating him, then why do you still have a profile up? You women cause most of the problems in relatiosnhips for the lack of common sense you show. | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 8/1/2006 12:22:59 PM | Jenna, if that guy doesnt trust you on that, better to let him go. Trust is important in a relationship and if he doesnt, he will keep doing it over and over, you wil end up hurt .
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 8/1/2006 12:37:57 PM | well jen id stay well away from him he sounds like a right weirdo! plus dont u think he might be a cheater an thats why he's putting it on u coz he cant handle his guilt! dont let him treat u like that get out of it before its to late...theres plenty more fish in the sea hun! | |
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dely
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Joined: 7/26/2006
Msg: 74 | |
| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 8/1/2006 12:38:30 PM | OMG OMG missj: #1 you said you've been dating for a few months now !! #2 BUT your profile says your looking for a man for dating !! #3 your profile says you're single #4 your complete profile sounds like you're still fishing ... to sum this up you are NO DOUBT A CHEATER (based on your profile) ... If you are dating now you really should change your profile to show that you are no longer available .. say you're here only for 'friends to chat' . Wheter your guy knows that you are here fishing or not, i think you should have a clear conscience.  | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 8/2/2006 11:40:50 PM |
i am still trying to figure where her few months goes back to and her being his g/f???
go back 3mths..and her sign up date for here...she was already with him!!
yup..as most say..she screams cheater!!! and her profile backs it.
i would back him up and his thoughts over her.....seeing her other most recent posts....something aint right on her end of things | |
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