| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 8/3/2006 10:14:57 AM | osgoode, has someone burned you recently or something? You just turned MissJenna and here screwed up POF profile/dating problems into a gender war!
You women cause most of the problems in relatiosnhips for the lack of common sense you show.
Face reality hunny, it's not women that cause MOST of the problems. Maybe half, but certainly not most! | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 8/4/2006 6:19:05 PM | Well Missjenna,
it is a tough one when it seems like the world is against you isn't it?
So your question -what do you guys think is going on? and you do not have an idea what to do......
I do not think this is a court of law....so will skip to that part where you say you have no idea what to do.......
Now Missjenna, if you have been true to this man and you love him (no online cheating either)-you could have a great big talk and tell him how much you love him [if you are the forgiving type]....and tell him how much he hurt you by calling you are a cheater. Remember you are the victim and no one has a right to treat you like that. If things don't work out......then carry on young lady.
In the same instance you could just leave it at that and carry on with your life.......
Now Missjenna, if you have not been true to this man......you could leave the man alone accepting what he said and not blowing things up anymore that it is....and carry on ...... or you could apologize for your mistake, come clean.....and carry on.
I have a tendency to believe you in a way because you started this post......others might think differently...
Anyways, you are young and have the opportunity to take many roads.....the high road or the low road....the choice is always ours ....wishing you the best in your future relationships.....
0:)
PS.... both women and men cause problems [ . ]
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 8/8/2006 9:34:21 AM | | my boyfriend is doing the same thing he now goes mad if i talk 2 another lad n eveything kicks off n i would neva cheat on his as i love him 2 much 2 do that so i understand wat ur saying it really f##kin hurts wen they say sh#t like that | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 8/8/2006 9:38:30 AM | | Ofcourse you're not a cheat. Only guys cheat. We are lower than dirt, horrible control freaks, and girls are perfect, angels who would never do such a thing. I believed that too until I started watching Maury. | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 8/9/2006 8:57:31 AM | You've posted on this site...OK...but maybe he has too?
"Cheating"...I often find...is a two-way street...Sometimes the party that accuses the other of cheating is judging from the viewpoint of what THEY THEMSELVES are likely to do/have done....
Anyway...it might be food for thought... | |
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rozz7
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 12/4/2007 10:25:28 AM | WHAT IS THIS? DRAMA!,MOVE ON BOTH OF YOU's. If this is not an indication of things to come in your relationship, I don't know???????????????????????????????
I can't see you being boy/girl FRIENDS
There are Plenty of Fish in the ocean.......................haven't you heard of "catch and release" men have been doing it for years and there is nothing wrong with it, I took it up myself until the right one comes along and all the stars are align properly and I'm at that stage in my life, I still have hope that the window of opportunity exist................but for now FRIENDS and harmony is #1
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 12/4/2007 9:27:30 PM | It is my belief that we should all start a search for the guy or gal that started this whole cheat thing. When we find him or her we would give him a good piece of our minds How many of you are with me. | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 12/4/2007 10:01:26 PM | | This is actually a good thread, though. I did this once. All the 'red flags' were pointing in the direction of him messing around...I called him on it. He got upset (and rightly so!!) and I later found out that I was wrong. I felt shitty about it then and I still do for hurting him the way I did! Thankfully, we were able to work through that mess! Sometimes (not always) those red flags are only false assumptions! | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 12/4/2007 11:14:23 PM | | he's insecure ,you had a lucky escape.if he's demons now.imagine what he'd be like in say 18 months,posessive,smothering,need i go on. | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 12/4/2007 11:24:36 PM | RUN!!!! Seriously, run FAST.
He doesn't own you. He apparently needs you to be instantly reachable at all times whenever he decides to call ... and then is abusive when he can't. There is no fixing this one. | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 12/5/2007 12:00:12 AM | Ususally when this happens he is the one cheating. So he has to break it off with you to stop feeling guilty. (Have you been getting flowers or any other kind of gifts unexpectadly Some times is a good sign of guilt)?So he picks a fight one waay or the other. Mine was a phone call at 3 am. Drink and yelling ovr the phone.
I have had this happen to me twice. I know it isn't any fun sitting there trying to figure out what yu.ou did to cause this. BUT it isn't you, trust me.
He needs to grow up, mature some more before he will be able to commt in a relationship
I wish you all the best life has to offer
But yes, dump him, it will only get worse.. | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 12/5/2007 2:15:49 AM | | What to do is alot like what you do with your trash, girl. Take it out. Don't kill him, just let him off~ He doesn't even have the guts to quit his job. | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 12/5/2007 5:54:27 AM | After reading a single page of idiocy, I figured I'd post.
He's probably accusing you of cheating because you're sending off vibes that he's getting the short end of the stick. Which, given your profile here, is probably the case.
I have become extremely attuned to when I'm being lied to/cheated on, and here's the #1 way to tell: When a girl does nothing but argue with you, OR only comes to you when she's sad/upset/frustrated/etc. with something and needs support. If you never get the good side of her, never get her when she's happy.. then guess what? Someone is. Someone's getting the happy side of her, and you're left with the leftovers.
So, while I'm sure it's been said 100 times already "oh, he MUST be cheating on you" is just completely damn stupid. It's more likely there's another dude in her life, and she's just not being honest. | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 12/5/2007 7:12:51 AM | Not going crazy...someone resurrected it. :)
I have noticed that there are a lot of men (more than I expected) who like to fling accusations of cheating around and the "red flags" they see are only what they've twisted it into.
My friend's husband recently accused her of cheating because she didn't want to go up in church to receive the Eucharist. She had a splitting headache and was just waiting for church to be over. When they got home he said that she must be cheating because the only people who don't are the people who have sinned, so she must have committed adultery.
Another friend's boyfriend accused her of cheating because she went out for the day with her male cousin (to pick up a present for him). He demanded to know where she went and when she wouldn't tell him he accused her of sleeping with him and told her they'd have 2 headed babies.
Yet another friend's boyfriend accused her of sleeping with me because she came to visit and wasn't in the mood for sex when she got home.
I myself was accused of sleeping around on my ex. He denied being the father of our youngest and his reasoning was "I'm not around you all day. How do I know what you're up to when I'm not there?".
Unless there is actual evidence, then such accusations are either products of their (male or female) imagination or tools used to manipulate the other party into doing what they want in order to prevent more ... | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 12/5/2007 12:31:44 PM | | what a control freek....seriously this guy sounds like he has some serious issues....i think if you realy like this guy you need to have some serious talks with him about his jellousy issues....trust is the most important thing in a relationship, and he obviously doesnt trust you, talk this through with him if he still doesnt change then sorry but give him the boot!!!! | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 12/5/2007 1:38:15 PM | The greatest gift you can give yourself is to LET THAT PERSON GO.
Speaking from personal experience, this is a Huge Red Flag and indicator that he is accusing you of the very things he is doing to you. It is manipulation in the WORST possible way as he is attempting to impress upon you his OWN guilt. This is also a very real form of verbal abuse and can often lead to physical abuse.
There are other great and wonderful men who will love you and treat you and themselves with respect. Something this boy is obviously not doing. Set him free and liberate yourself so you can to enjoy the better ones…Tropical | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 12/5/2007 1:46:49 PM |
You are not responsible for other peoples mis-thoughts or wrong thoughts. He is treatened by the fact that you are young and beautiful and can't handle it. Be prepared to move on.
I agree. Sounds like a control freak who is just insecure and stinks of BS. Run from him as far as you can, as Forrest did.... | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 12/5/2007 2:01:42 PM | Have you ever given him the impression that he wasn't the only one?
He sounds insecure. If a couple of missed phone calls can make him suspect the worse, then maybe he IS insecure. | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 12/6/2007 3:31:22 AM | | From my own personal experience of this, when ur SO accuses u of cheatin it more than likely means that he is the one cheatin on u. | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 12/6/2007 10:43:23 AM | Miss Jenna
Run - dont stop running
CONTROL FREAK what you supposed to be waiting for his life to come round to yours, block and delete and put him down to experience and KNOW FOR SURE why that man is single.
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