| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 12/6/2007 10:58:41 AM | Listen to me.I am a former minister of the church.It seems to me that your boyfriend is very insecure about your relationship and himself.One thing is that he is probably covering up for cheating on you to make himself feel better,two; he may get very possessive and later on start hitting you,third; is he really worth keeping? | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 12/7/2007 5:20:22 AM | I learned this from experience.......if he is accusing you of cheating then he has something to hide.
I remember being told that and I thought  dumba$$ you just busted yourself and I was right and kicked his keester to the curb.
That's my case.....why some men do that is beyond me but if you know who you are and that you are faithful then ignore it and stay or drop him and leave. Either way that kind of behaviour gets old fast and can become mentally challenging or abusive over time. | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 12/7/2007 5:44:35 AM | "Listen to me.I am a former minister of the church" ?????
What the hell has that got to do with anything?????
You cant tarr people with your own personal experience brushes! Whats wrong with people??? Jeeze!
This boy is obviously VERY insecure... he may of had a bad personal experience himself, like been cheated on?.... It doesnt mean he's guilty or has something to hide...
it just means he's a bit unsure...
He needs to feel like you are there for him and you need to make him feel secure by talking to him about this... - but only if he's worth it of course....
Wish you luck x | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 12/9/2007 4:57:18 AM | bona dea:- how forgiving are you?
NEWS FLASH women are not on this earth to be abused, the man has serious problems, and she should not put up with it, no woman/man should, if she was cheating and he caught her fair enough, but she was out with her mother ffs.
This is not about free psychology this is supposed to be about being a couple give and take support and understanding if he treats her like s**t at the dating stage what is marriage going to be like - A NIGHTMARE nursing his ego.
Run girl run, and dont look back. | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 12/9/2007 5:06:37 AM | | Difficult to say whats going on here, but in my experience, when girlfriend accused me of something that could not have any foundation in truth, I took it as a hint that they were trying to tell me something about themselves...and mostly that seemed to be true. | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 12/9/2007 5:30:49 AM | i believe if the issue was with your profile,he has known you long enough to confront you about this to discuss it..but as everybody else says..you definitely should change your status here.
my ex was a control freak..jealousy was rampant...he used to accuse me also of messin around..so my first thoughts were,he's guilty of something...i did find out after we split that it was he who was screwing around.
you are not married or committed to this guy so don't put up with it..confront him and tell him exactly how you feel..believe me you don't want to end up with a control freak..watch out for other signs of control..having to know where you are all the time,demanding to know who you talked to on the phone, wanting a play by play report as to what you did all day.
there must be an inner bell going off in you telling you something isn't right..pay attention to it..usually gut instincts are right. | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 12/9/2007 5:39:24 AM | If you are asking for what to do, it is this.....RUN...don't walk as far away as you can, as soon as you can. If it's like this now, it will get worse later...GUARANTEED.  | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 12/10/2007 12:17:43 AM | Heaven forebid that anyone should be insecure or unsure about something....
Maybe his insecurity is his baggage? Lots of people take baggage into a new relationship whether its emotional or kids or dodgy past histories...
We arnt perfect.... no one is.
If he genuinely acts like a pshycho - get rid.
If he admits he's insecure, then thats a different matter....
But having looking for a man for dating as your profile status - isnt gonna help matters... | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 1/23/2008 7:32:17 PM | He is controlling and insecure. However, women these days are killing trust from men. If you are in relationships why would you keep your profile on net that says "Single" or "It's Complicated" or "Looking for dating"???? In today's world, a woman is in relationship but eager to create back ups. Thats why men suspect infidelity. If he calls you 3 times and no answer, while still see your profile on net indicating "Single" status, he suspects.
umm forgot your cellphone? Would a woman forget her purse? probably. no sure. | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 1/23/2008 7:38:12 PM |
Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
OP....trust me when I tell you, he's talking through a guilty conscience.
My exboyfriend was always accusing me of the same, which I wasn't it. New Years Day, I found out that he was doing the same, with at least three women from this site that I know of. | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 1/23/2008 10:41:07 PM | Okay, I am not doing this to be mean. But you are on a dating website? Maybe he seen it or something and his mind ran wild?
Or, maybe he is truly insecure and has jealousy issues and has to resolve those issues within himself before he can be in a relationship... | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 1/30/2008 7:56:21 PM | LIfe is tooo short to put up with that bs. If he is doing that now...girl what will he being doing down the road....I would tell him to hit the road jack..and grow up! | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 2/28/2008 1:06:12 PM |
Oh so you just "happened" to forget your cell phone huh? A woman never goes anywhere without a phone so that is quite a coincedence isn't it. My opinion, when a guy suspects his woman is cheating then she probably is. Another good point to make is that if you are dating him, then why do you still have a profile up? You women cause most of the problems in relatiosnhips for the lack of common sense you show.
Oh now, back UP!
With all due respect for your opinions I would like to state, for the record, that I walk out without my cell phone about once a week. I'm not currently in a relationship, but when I was it wasn't a sign I was cheating, it was a sign that I had WAY too much on my plate and was lucky I didn't walk out the door without socks and shoes on. OMG, if my bf had thought I was cheating every time I left my phone in the car or on the kitchen counter we'd have been in big trouble.
There really isn't anything to gain by making these grossly generalized statements. Any time you say "a woman never" or "a woman always" I can promise you you're probably wrong. | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 2/28/2008 1:22:37 PM | | People tend to project. I think he has cheated and believes that you are more than likely doing the same thing. So leave the guy. Why? He is going to get even more and more possessive, to the point that you're not going to be able to breathe. | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 3/1/2008 11:34:38 AM | re posts 102 and 116:
Post 102 argues:
"...I learned this from experience.......if he is accusing you of cheating then he has something to hide...."
Post 116 argues:
"...People tend to project. I think he has cheated and believes that you are more than likely doing the same thing...."
On both rationales above as they relate to the Opost:
What if the shoe was on the other foot? What if it was a woman doing the accusing and the man the Oposter? Would the obsertvations be the same? Are women who are accusing men who do not respond on their cells or only give out a cell as cheaters or married "projecting" or have "something to hide" themselves? | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 3/1/2008 12:06:45 PM | I guess I am a rarity? I doubt it.
I HATE cell phones. I do! I never bother to use mine enough, because I can barley hear the person I am speaking to, unless I am in a quiet place, with not a soul nearby. My funds run out only because I have forgotten to add more funds, so I do not loose my existing funds. It's a stupid chain, but I won't go with a plan. When I take mine with me, it's only in case of emergency.
Anyway, NOT every woman goes around without her cell, that is pure bs. I know plenty of women who do, and it's not because they are cheating or avoiding someone.
Hmm... appears the original poster asked for advice in 2006? Wow, ah well I will leave my advice here in case someone else in a similar situation would like my input.
I have yet to read other peoples feedback, so I am sorry if this has already been said, but wow... from the situation you described, he sounds very controlling. Has he ever talked/texted you in such a demanding manner before??
It sounds to me like he may have relationship issues, and he may either be cheating on you... which would make some sense as to why he is paranoid when you do not answer your phone, or he has had something similar like that happen in the past, and was cheated on.
He may just be seriously overwhelmed with stress and is unfortunately taking it out on you. I would see if he will speak directly to you in person, or at least somewhat over the phone, so he can hear your honest tone, and hopefully see past his assumptions.
However, if this is any sign of what your future with this guy is, I would calmly think to myself, what that may mean. I am not saying end it now, I am saying try to make contact with him, and if he refuses, then you know what? His loss. | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 3/1/2008 5:58:29 PM | what do I think is going on?? he is cheating on you and to deflect the light from him, he is accusing you of exactly what he is doing.
either way, i wouldnt have called him back. if he is going to accuse you of something with absolutely no evidence, he isnt worth your time. the worst thing you can do is condone his behavior by calling him. if he thinks your a cheater, let him think that, and be rid of him. plenty more fish in the sea, and nicer ones than that jerk! | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 3/1/2008 6:24:17 PM | Oh man MissJenna!
I'd kick this one to the curb really fast. Don't wait for a call from him. He's not worth your time of day. If he needs something to control he'd be better off with a dog that he can train in obediance school. A dog will happily perform for doggie treats and a few pats on the head. | |
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| Boyfriend is Accusing me of cheating
Posted: 3/1/2008 6:30:43 PM | sorry that happend. but to tell the truth when my ex started leaveing her phone. we split up and i dont know what happened. still want talk to me. that makes 2 thats done that. and the bad thing is. when i ask her if all was ok. she said yes. dont blame him blame the ones who do that crap. to make us that way.  | |
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