| | why do men cheat?Page 2 of 3 (1, 2, 3) | | well lets just reverse the question..why do women cheat!!!! if u can answer that then u can answer this too!!! it is all about the ego and who needs to be stroked at that time...if a man is not happy with whats in his pasture then he is gone go get the milk off the farm...same with a woman if she doesn't like her stud and she is getting lots of bull then she is going to go seek out a new pony!!!! | |
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| why do men cheat?
Posted: 8/10/2006 7:50:04 PM | Well the more inportant question you should ask yourself is why would you stay with someone that cheated on you.
Theres a couple of types of cheating, 1 being just the sex thing, a guy or girl is presented with the oportunity to have a no commitment quick sex affair, I would suspect that such a person would be fairly shallow, have very little concern for others and would be just looking to satisfy themselves in whatever fasion that it might be... ego boost, these type of men and women are actually a dime a dozen, are not hard to find and not overly hard to identify... they would have very little interest in anythign serious and would mostly be just looking for a good time (doesnt even have to start with sex).. basically there oportunists and they will stay with you so long as you make it conveinant for them.
The other type would be harder to define as cheating and more like a non-purposefully engaged lack of judgement, and prone to alot of problems, people incure stress in relationships, sometimes they feel useless and maybe not appreciated, these feelings alot of times build up over time... having a baby is a stressful time even for the males.. don't worry I completely know its far worse for the females. So ocasionally a man/women will talk to another opposite/perhaps same sex and develop a bond of somesort, can even start as something totatly innocent, and eventually lines that shouldn't be crossed get crossed.
My definition of cheating is far tighter then just sex.. i view kissing someone (romanticaly not talkign a kiss on the forehead type of thing) or even having a bond of somesort that a person feels guilty about as cheating.
I would also like to add not all cheat, and just cause you cheated once doenst mean you would cheat again.. if you fit the bill for the first type I listed would say that person is not worth the time of day, if something happened closer to the second type, well then you may want to look at what both partners have done in the relationship or not done to place it to the point of one of the partners cheating, and decide if you would want to fix it from there.
Since I seam on the fence.. I personally couldn't see myself cheating on someone I cared for. | |
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| why do men cheat?
Posted: 8/10/2006 9:22:35 PM | LEARN TO THREAD SEARCH.
zomg.
Can this topic ever get enough play?
Why does anyone cheat?
Because they can, there looking to 'better-deal' or,
"The grass is greener..."
Either way, they did it. Either deal with it, or, tell them to get the hell out.
Now, its all up to you.
Do it dammnit.
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| why do men cheat?
Posted: 8/11/2006 8:16:43 AM | Well with past experience from 3 engagement that had failed because of the men who cheated on me, two got married to someone else while living together & set to get married to each other and engaged to me & the third one just didnt want to wait for me anymore so he had a girlfriend on the side while engaged to me still as well- I come to realize that it wasnt me to be blame for all of them failing..... the men that i was involved wanted a different spice in our life with whom they prefer other women to satisfy their urges and needs.
They cheat bec they want a different variety, different experience & most esp a Different type of sex that they have never done with their own partner.
I think Guys need to determine what they truly want before getting involve with someone they have to fully be aware that once they are in a relationship they are committed to that person & willing to compromise with one another through thick & thin. Relationships are quite fragile once u got it all worked out it just go nute....and to be honest Guys Size doesnt matter either its how u use it that matter the most & if u truly love the person u are with make the most of what u have & cherish it while u can bec u may never have the same chance again.... | |
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| why do men cheat?
Posted: 8/11/2006 9:33:49 AM | Men cheat because thier women sleep around much more discreetly....
Why do you think 80% of a man's sperm is designed to block other doners, 10% is hunter killer sperm designed to attack other doners and only 10% actually is trying to impragnate? Of course when you drop a couple of million tadpoles in the bucket, there are still A LOT of the little gaffers headed for the prize....
Seriously, statistics show that cheating is an equal thing. Just that men are promiscuous because women tend to cheat when they are fertile. Kinda means if she says, "wanna cheat?" it improves the odds of his progeny....Funny how nature tries to make that work..lol
But on point....
Don't take a cheater back. Huge mistake.
It damages your self esteem because it makes you less worthy to procreate at the very least. Find someone that can spell fidelity and mean it. You deserve better.
Call this on a bottom feeder, and go get a game fish. | |
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| why do men cheat?
Posted: 8/11/2006 9:49:45 AM | Men cheat cuz they want to------same as women!!!
I have cheated, i did it cuz i was horny!!!!
I cheated another time----cuz my hubby was abusing me and i wanted to feel beautiful and wanted even if it was for a few minutes!!
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Ya that is unhealthy thinking------but at the time theat is what i did---I am not like that now---I grew up and when i am not getting the love i feel i need----I love myself!!!!
cheating is not accidental-----you don;t accidentally fall on a penis and laid---OOPS!!!
no you made a choice!!!!! It is about taking responsibility for your actions!! remember the consequenses and that should be enough to deter you! | |
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Posted: 8/11/2006 12:22:07 PM | ^^^ Crazy.....LMAO
you don;t accidentally fall on a penis and laid
Same with a man.
What's the line from The Last Boy Scout? "Sorry Mr. H. I accidentally slipped and stuck my D!ck in your wife."....
Yeah.
You are killin' me....~wipes tears of laughter from his eyes~ | |
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| why do men cheat?
Posted: 8/11/2006 3:16:34 PM | Women cheat just as much. There is always some person who has been hurt by another. The sad thing about it is that it tends to cause to cause people to generalize their views and opinions.
It is totally wrong to do this as it is un fair to those of us that actually have values and morals.
Just because your boyfriend cheated, doesn't mean that all men will.
I find this totally unfair and I feel that I've been sentenced before the trial. | |
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| why do men cheat?
Posted: 8/11/2006 4:28:55 PM | The question is,,,,,,,,,,,,why did your mate cheat!!! Well if it makes you feel better it has nothing to do with you or his child.!!! he cheated ,,,,becuz some men 55 to 60 percent to be close,,,,want the variety. MEN are dumb. if he was smart he would have been open with you in the first place to save himself the greef.......ya know truth!!! a lot of men hide the fact that they are not attracted to other women after they meet the perfect girl. hence the word perfect. that goes for women too. This can lead to agitation and leave anyone feeling trapped.....if you would just tell the truth in the first place .......there is no surprises.
ps. NO ONE is PERFECT therefore every ONE is. | |
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Posted: 8/11/2006 10:47:54 PM | Now this may sound like a radical new concept but MAYBE men get...um...well...horny.
Testosterone poisoning can make a normally sane man loose his mind, you know.
But it's not just men who go crazy. I've known women who insist that they are not ready to get pregnant but in a moment of temporary insanity and sheer biological drive, have unprotected sex with a guy they don't even know very well at about the time when they are ovulating (!)...and...horny, of course.
Then they live in fear and panic for the rest of the month until their period finally starts. Sound familiar, women?
And yes, men also cheat for all those other same reasons women cheat. Maybe we're not from different planets after all.
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Posted: 8/12/2006 7:39:08 PM | Men and women both cheat. Oftentimes it's because there's something missing in the marriage and the man doesnt want to leave because if he leaves the marriage, he'll have to pay child support and alimony...LOL
Communication in marriages are often nil or non existant. People also get bored. Who knows, there's so many reasons. | |
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| why do men cheat?
Posted: 8/12/2006 7:43:05 PM | | The same reasons Women do. Ask one of your girlfriends and swith the genders around. | |
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Posted: 8/21/2006 5:41:43 PM | well i can say as a woman i dont cheat, why cheat obviously that person is missin something u need so leave em' . but like i said being a woman i have noticed that we put our  into it more than a man would, but if thats the case that the man is scared to pay child support, well why should a woman bust her ass to take care of a kid u walked away from because u couldnt keep it in ur pants, and try to be a man and take care of yours!!!!!!!  | |
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Posted: 8/21/2006 6:12:28 PM | The same reason why women cheat....OMG..yes, women cheat as well.......don't sterotype....
They are bored, no sexually interest...don't find you attractive anymore.....etc...the list goes on......pick one......
Either or.......people..whether you are a male/female...in my eyes are cowards......are not man/women enough to do the right thing and leave before you cheat... | |
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Posted: 8/21/2006 6:33:48 PM | Well I was apparently lead to believe the last guy i dated from POF.... that he liked me & wanting to date me then he had a talk with his ex about me & what he felt towards me...
After that talk he had with her.... he had a change of heart & started to avoid me without any phone calls or answering my emails whatsoever!
He mentioned on his email that he shut himself in the entire world not just avoiding me but the whole world in general yet he was constantly talking about what his ex emotions are & how she felt when she found out that he wanted to date me & now after he had a talk with her he denies everything he tells me over the phone a week before that talk with his ex.
Men should learn one thing here- Women are very fragile when it comes to men lying about their true emotions... you cant say one thing & mean another bec its not a good thing......
Its the same deal when its done to you- you wont like that either... The guy I dated has to learn that I am hurt & devastated that he cant tell a truth from a lie... He tells the ex a different thing & then he tells me a different thing... so he is basically playing the field between me & his ex....... He wants have both cakes & eat it too.....
I am disappointed that he didnt have the audacity to be COMPLETELY HONEST with his ex what has happened between us was his doing & he wanted something to happen that night.... he went too quick & wanted to date me but when she got threatened and got so devastated that he moved on with me.... he wasnt Man enough to admit that he has emotionally moved on or else he wouldn't have slept with me in the first place, insisted to see me in a rush judgement in his part...... Told me he liked me & wanted to date me & that I am the next potential gf after his ex..... he never had the audacity to be truthful to her bec he is afraid to hurt her but he turned around and hurt me instead ,,,,, by avoiding me made him a coward to face the truth of his true feelings towards me that he is denying everything bec he didnt want to hurt his ex.... but he did tell me had strong feelings for me to date me & be his gf..... that is when i returned the emotions back I wasnt feeling the way i did till i was sure he was.... then he denies everything not to hurt his ex..... | |
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Posted: 8/21/2006 8:09:55 PM | | Cheating is in mens blood? What are you talking about? It's as simple as this - Some men cheat and some men don't. Not all men cheat though, give me a break. Wow, spoken from a true cheater...haha. | |
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Posted: 8/21/2006 8:14:52 PM | | People cheat because they are imature. Give me a break, if you cheat you're just too lazy to fix the relationship. It's like, grow some balls or two vagina's and actually try communicating. If you can't do that then you shouldn't be in a relationship in the first place. People just don't want to try anymore and I'm glad that I'm not like that. I may get mad at the person I am seeing but, when we fight we make sure to communicate with eachother, even if our communication skills are a little lacking...we get through it, and we fix the problem or at least try to improve it. This is what real relationships are based on communication, understanding, and a whole lot of trust and loyalty. | |
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| why do men cheat?
Posted: 8/21/2006 9:35:18 PM | Cheating is not in men's blood.
Nor is crudeness, selfishness, destructiveness, rudeness, cruelty or any of these other things.
So why are men jerks and do these ridiculous things? Because what they REALLY want is to love, but they have bought into the counterfeit and have a false sense of what love is.
Why do men cheat, then? Because they're looking for marriage. Sounds contradictory doesn't it? Well that's exactly the problem. Men are by nature more outward, seeking TO love. Women on the other hand are by nature more inward, seeking to BE loved. This does not mean I'm saying one is better than the other, but one completes the other. A man loves a woman, she receives that love and returns it, and the cycle of love reciprocates continuously, that's the idea. Much in the same way we are in our physical bodies even by virtue of our genitals. Men outward, women inward. And if you were to have a man and a woman protect a child, what would they do? The man would face away from the child to take on the attacker, while the woman would hold the child in her arms and turn her back to the attacker to try and protect the child. Of course I'm not saying things ALWAYS happen this way, but it's the general tendency and our fabrication as people. It's totally an awesome thing.
Because a man by nature is more outward, when he is seeking TO love, if he does not understand love, he will inevitably follow a destructive path. Love is a gift.. it's as simple as that. Therefore, a gift is INCAPABLE of taking. If we try to take a gift, it no longer is a gift, but something we grasp at and try to make our own, instead of merely RECEIVING the gift. Therefore when a man tries to love someone but is unwilling to give himself freely, faithfully, totally and fruitfully as a gift, thinking he has to TAKE what he loves, the woman no longer is seen as a person, but an object. This is why men are able to "love" parts of a woman. He may have an affinity with the breasts, or the legs, or lips, etc... He comes to "love" a part and then just takes it for himself. On the most part, women usually quite quickly notice this perversion and feel treated badly... however, in some cases when they don't, and they let men use them as objects, it is because a woman so desperately wants to BE loved, that she thinks that if she gives herself to him, then he might actually love her. Of course, he won't.
But do not dismay... but realise that we must be patient in finding our love, and realise we can never get love faster or even try to get love. How obvious the term, to "get some" must be to show us the desperation to attain love. But love can NEVER EVER be taken, because love is a gift. We can ONLY receive it. This requires patience, endurance, and the willingness to allow oneself to be loved, and to love, faithfully, totally, freely and fruitfully... Translation: marriage. This is why I said that men are ACTUALLY looking for marriage when they cheat but they are confused by love's counterfeit: lust.
For men, we have a very special and phenomenal duty to fulfill our role as men! We are called to serve! To serve the world, and especially to serve the most precious gift of women in this world! We are here to lay down our lives for them, to take care of them, to defend them... What a marvellous duty it is to be a man. And women, you must let us serve you and take care of you and to love you. But do not be fooled by those of us who only pretend to love you. Only the commitment of marriage TRULY says "I love you" and the chivalrous attitude to serve and protect one's bride. | |
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| why do men cheat?
Posted: 9/5/2006 5:42:51 PM | | Yes, to repeat what has already been said. Lets not steriotype. If a man is cheating, unless it is with his right hand, who the hell do you think he is cheating with ! | |
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Posted: 10/24/2006 3:57:20 PM | Did you know that statistics have shown women are more likely to become involved in a relationship that they are not wholy invested in and hence are less attached to their partners than men are???
Anyone? | |
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| why do men cheat?
Posted: 10/24/2006 4:40:24 PM | I think most cheaters are just selfish. They want the loving wife and children and fool around on the side. I think they do it for insecure reasons. Even the most secure looking people can be masking insecurity. They don't feel worthy of the women they want so they settle with someone they can control. Then they cheat to prove to themselves that they till have "it" yet they are so selfish they don't consider the feelings of the people who they Love (?).
My father cheated on my mother twice and as a child I've seen her cry. With 5 children she wouldn't leave him because she couldn't support 5 children on her own. I wish she would have left. Because if this experience I'm disgusted by cheating men and women. No different than animals that hump whatever wanders past them. | |
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| why do men cheat?
Posted: 10/24/2006 5:54:06 PM | | Ancestrial DNA built into the male programs him to have sex with as many women as possible to increase the odds of passing on his genes. In todays day and age some men do not have the ability to control that as hard as they try. As for the men who stay 100% faithful and never cheat on you they will still look at other women and mentally undress her and want to have sex with her, they just won't do anything about it to relieve their primevil urges. | |
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| why do men cheat?
Posted: 10/24/2006 6:06:59 PM | men cheat to prove to themselves they can still pick-up!
or out of revenge!
but most usually we're drunk and think we're with our proper women! | |
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