| Friend going for your ex
Posted: 8/2/2006 5:52:09 PM | My ex's friend and I have feelings for each other but he still feels really guilty because he was friends with my ex. They don't speak to each other anymore. I ended the relationship with my ex after about a year of being constantly put down and him telling me that he didn't love me but he liked me better than anyone else. After three years and a baby together this wasn't good enough for me. My ex has now moved on and is living with another girl. His friend is a really good guy and still isn't comfortable having a relationship with me because of my ex. While I completely understand it's still extremely frustrating.
Personally, I don't think I could be with any of my friend's exes. Mostly because I love my friends but also because they tend to date guys that are totally not my type. | |
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| Friend going for your ex
Posted: 8/2/2006 6:16:36 PM | | Personally, I'd have to wonder about the friend. I mean how long did she actually have a thing for your ex type thing......I don't think I could do it myself or would like it if a friend of mine dated my ex. I mean if you think about it if she mentions her bf, I'd have to constantly be reminded of him. I think eventually it would get in the way of your friendship. | |
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| Friend going for your ex
Posted: 8/2/2006 6:41:16 PM | I know many of my female friends have a huge thing about a friend dating an ex.
I have never really understood what the big deal is. If its over who cares?
Wouldn't bother me in the least but in my circle of friends I am the minority. | |
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| Friend going for your ex
Posted: 8/2/2006 7:58:58 PM | | I'm going to go give a group hug to all my friends, they would never even entertain the notion of dating one of my ex's , just as I wouldn't do that to them either. | |
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| Friend going for your ex
Posted: 8/2/2006 8:21:58 PM | | It wouldn't bother me at all, a friend dating an ex. After listening to all the sh*t about their men, I wouldn't want to ever date any of them. What I have never liked is when a guy already knows your ex, and wants to get the OK from him first before asking you out. | |
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| Friend going for your ex
Posted: 8/2/2006 9:03:21 PM | | This area is OFF limits to friends. UNLESS, I'm okay with it , which more than likely I won't be. | |
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| Friend going for your ex
Posted: 8/2/2006 10:03:39 PM | | For me I think the big difference is how you feel about your ex NOW. There are a select few I wouldn't want my friends to be with, but any of the others it wouldn't bother me at all. | |
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| Friend going for your ex
Posted: 8/3/2006 1:14:52 AM | i haven't even read the messages in here....i was interested in the title of this topic.
I have never in my life been interested in an ex's man because that feels like incest to me. Ewwww. I would never have an interest in my friends b/f's/husbands whatever.....that to me is like having sex with my own brother *barf* | |
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| Friend going for your ex
Posted: 8/3/2006 2:04:28 AM | I think since I was 5 years old I knew not to date anyone one of my girls liked , let alone dated. I always thought how hard, uncomfortable and kinda mean to make your friend feel sad and hurt , simply because you were, or are with her ex. Like I said...unwritten rule since I was small...way too many fishes out there to have to snag a fish in your own pond YUCK...I don't think a "boyfriend" is worth a friendship...just a thought! | |
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| Friend going for your ex
Posted: 8/3/2006 2:08:04 AM | My friends better stay the f*ck away from my ex's...
unless:
A) they enjoy the taste of penis, in an indirect way
B) they're not true friends | |
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| Friend going for your ex
Posted: 8/3/2006 4:02:25 PM | I would not be happy about it either. When your emotions are involved it can be a dangerous thing. I guess it depends on the person and how sensitive you are, and also how serious you were with the ex. I would say the more serious the relationship, the more hands-off for friends but if it was just maybe a couple of casual dates and no sex, then there is not too much attachment and maybe it would be more appropriate. But even then, I think it's better to stay away!  | |
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| Friend going for your ex
Posted: 8/4/2006 10:02:00 AM | It happened to me....Keep your friends close...keep your enemys closer | |
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| Friend going for your ex
Posted: 8/4/2006 12:24:30 PM | | I am firm believer that my friends are not to date my ex..if they do then that friendship will be over...its that simple..it will leave me wondering when i was with her were you wanting her..i would not to that to my friends..therefore not wanting it done to me... | |
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| Friend going for your ex
Posted: 8/4/2006 12:40:34 PM | | Sounds like you don't want him but you don't want anybody else to have him either. You can't have it both ways. | |
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| Friend going for your ex
Posted: 8/4/2006 12:54:56 PM | Sounds like you don't want him but you don't want anybody else to have him either. You can't have it both ways.
I couldn't agree more, but if its one of those relationships where a part of you will always love the other person, It's just too painful to have it thrown in your face everyday that it didn't work out between the two of you. | |
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| Friend going for your ex
Posted: 8/4/2006 2:13:02 PM | Yeah someone I included as a friend did take the ex. Was before she was the ex. Was I OK with it hmmm no. who would be at first.
Now .... they deserve each other. Any body want a shot ? Take my blessings with you.
As for me , no. Not my thing to step in there before or after my friends were apart. I still stay friends with both since I knew them as friends, whatever differences they had are theirs, not mine. Why make it more complicated then it has to be.
Someone said that dating a widow is more complicated yet. I cant see really how. Unless it is my late brothers widow. She is family. If the widow and her husband were friends of mine who better to consider than a friend to have along to compliment life's journeys. She wants to be happy too. | |
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| Friend going for your ex
Posted: 8/5/2006 12:04:56 PM | | I had this happen to me not to long ago, (someone I thought was my best friend) & my ex started fooling around. of course they both lied to me when I confronted them about it. I left my ex after a ten year relationship & one child. We all knew eachother for many years, & the funny thing is my ex never did like her (or so he said) he always talked bad about her, called her names, didnt like me hanging out with her, then when I broke up with him, she was all over him. Of course I realize now she never was my friend. Best Friends so I thought would not cross that line. It hurt so bad (even though I left him) that she would do that to me. I can not explain the betrail I felt. It is sad to think you know & trust someone, then they betray your friendship and your trust. It is to bad she had to sleep with my ex for me to realize what kind of friend she was. The webs we weave when we set out to deceave. I feel bad for anyone who has been in this situtation. it sucks. | |
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| Friend going for your ex
Posted: 8/5/2006 12:32:15 PM | Personally i think it's tacky & down right border line scumy to do that to anyone.
Why would you want to eat of your friends plate or visa versa?
My defintion of a friend doesn't include doing something like that.
It's happened in my life and it caused trouble.There are so many people in the world why would you want to hurt a "friend" over that.
Go get your own i say
Juliet Julliet you have a good point.
If it's going to happen,everyone should be up front about it.
This would be a time to be adults & not be sneaking around hoping no one found out.
Hey you know what they say though "All is fair in love & war" | |
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| Friend going for your ex
Posted: 8/11/2006 6:24:53 AM | | my ex was having a affair with my best friend for a long time behind my back, it happened 1-1/2 yrs ago it still hurts , i have met many new people that have made me feel good about myself , but i think how could some one do this to other people. | |
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| Friend going for your ex
Posted: 8/11/2006 6:31:36 AM | So called friends will go for your ex's without a care for the consequences.
People simply cannot be trusted anymore these days. | |
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| Friend going for your ex
Posted: 8/11/2006 6:46:06 AM | My EXroom mate/best friend went after my exboyfriend. He moved in with us and the emotional damage that it did to me was awful. I had to leave my own place because I couldn't stay with them. The both of them made a spectacle of themselves on a daily basis and it made me so sick. They just bought a place together.
All I have to say is Karma will getcha. He cheated on me and everyone else he's ever been with so he will be sure to cheat on her too...it's just a matter of time. | |
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