| WHAT DO YOU THINK OF SPEED DATING?????
Posted: 10/5/2006 12:12:09 PM | Wow such negativity on this thread...from many that admit they haven't tried it.
First of all, the purpose of the "date" is to see if you'd want to get to the know person more. You're not there to decide if you want to marry them  You might meet someone you wouldn't want to date; but maybe have as a friend or do business with-most companies give you 3 options to "match" on. Believe me 8 minutes with some people feels like hours and with others-goes too quickly. It avoids ever having to sit through a long boring first date!
ADVANTAGES that a speed-dating event offers vs. on-line:
1. You are face-to-face!!!-so it eliminates the whole what do they look like, how do they smell, what do they talk like stuff that you can't figure out from e-mail, on-line chat or phone calls.
2.You get to meet usually a minimum of 6 to 8 people who are serious enough to have taken the time, spent the money and showed up-How many of us have been stood up or cancelled from someone we "met" from any on-line dating website?
3. It's safe-no one will know more than your first name. The only way anyone gets to know more about you is if you both indicate that you'd want to meet each other again-the company then forwards only the contact information you have provided-therefore, you are in total control of what information is disclosed. AND you already know-each has a mutual interest in getting to know the other-NO more did he/she like me?
4.There are an even number of men and women and you can meet and greet anyone there before or after the "dates"-so potentially you could end up meeting as many as 20 people in one night-one guy I dated wasn't one of my "official dates"; but we spoke to each other both before and after the event.
5. IT'S FUN-most companies include appetizers and the establishments that host the events usually do "drink" specials. It's also a great way to network and meet other single people who may be in the same boat (i.e. for people like me-all my friends are married-so I'd love to have a single gal pal to hang out with sometimes)
I did one event about 5 yrs ago and ended up dating someone for a few months, met a couple of people who I ended up doing business with. I've tried recently a few times to get into one of the local events with no luck-it's always been SOLD OUT!!!
For all the naysayers who haven't tried it, what the heck do you have to loose? Nothing Ventured is NOTHING gained.  | |
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| WHAT DO YOU THINK OF SPEED DATING?????
Posted: 10/5/2006 1:06:56 PM | | I'd take you up on that Blueeyedbabe if you lived a little closer than 2000 miles away...heck I might even do it if you lived within a full days journey, because I see the potential for the infamous "c" word (chemistry)....But one can only take this chemistry thing so far ;-). | |
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| WHAT DO YOU THINK OF SPEED DATING?????
Posted: 5/6/2007 4:40:36 PM | | HAHAHA! Great Answer! I have thought about speed dating but haven't tried it yet. Remember baseball in school as a kid? Waiting as each team took turns picking another player......it was gut wrenching. A little afraid speed dating might be similar. \oh well, they usually aren't advertised for over 45.....so guess i'll cross that bridge when I get to it. | |
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| WHAT DO YOU THINK OF SPEED DATING?????
Posted: 5/6/2007 5:20:10 PM | | I don't think I'd ever try speed dating even if it was a free event, lol. What can you possibly learn about a person in 3 - 5 minutes?! Lots of people are nervous enough going on a date and I don't think the rush of a speed meet would make them any less so. Sure, you might meet somebody intriguing, but still, 5 minutes just gives you just a superficial glance into the person and not what they are truly like. Not for me anyways, if I'm going to get grilled and enjoy it, there better be the word BBQ in it somewhere. | |
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| WHAT DO YOU THINK OF SPEED DATING?????
Posted: 5/6/2007 5:26:35 PM | Speed dating at my age ?!? ... You've got to be kidding. The only thing I do speedily these days is nod off in the easy chair after a large meal.
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| WHAT DO YOU THINK OF SPEED DATING?????
Posted: 5/19/2007 12:24:46 PM | I went along to try 'over 30's' speed dating once , and the guy on the door said I couldnt get in because i was too old ffs !!
Its OK though .. he's out of hospital now ... | |
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| WHAT DO YOU THINK OF SPEED DATING?????
Posted: 5/19/2007 4:42:53 PM | I've done speed networking for my company - it's fun and efficient.
But boy do I ever prefer online for meeting someone for the first time!
I wonder how many of us find the anonimity of online dating comforting? I mean, it's easier I think that meeting someone face to face for such a short time. And we can move through the stages - email, IMing, phoning, and kind of work up to a face to face meet. I think that's way easier.
Plus, we get to say either some very personal stuff or some very flip stuff without worrying about being sent to the hospital!
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| WHAT DO YOU THINK OF SPEED DATING?????
Posted: 5/19/2007 5:58:43 PM | Never tried speed dating, so not really too sure what exactly is involved. Seems to me though that on line dating offers the advantage of getting to know a persons personality over a longer period of time, whereas speed dating may be more superficial, in that looks may dominate the meeting. 6 mins does not seem long enough to get to really know someone. On the other hand on line dating means that people can tell as many Porkies(lies) as they like.
I must admit that face to face meetings allow me to see whether the person is telling the truth or not.
New to on-line dating so this post is really only a very uninformed and a rather naive opinion. | |
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| WHAT DO YOU THINK OF SPEED DATING?????
Posted: 5/26/2007 12:44:30 PM | | I am back dating after a 30yr relationship that I did not end. I went to a speed dating event and had a great time. I went on several dates with the ladies that I had met. I would recommend it. There are all kinds of reasons to go or not to go to one. I enjoyed myself and will go again when one for 50ish people is announced in my area. | |
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| WHAT DO YOU THINK OF SPEED DATING?????
Posted: 5/26/2007 11:31:26 PM | well i did the speed dating event in hamilton last year with POF to do the world record ! it was a total blast ! a brutal day we had 3 minutes and were at it for about 3 hours! anything new I go into with the thought of having fun and experiencing something new ... lifes an adventure ! i had one match who i went on 2 dates with , a real nice guy but just too busy witht his life for me! i did make friends with one gal who i still hang out with , so in all was a good time even though in the end we didnt set the world record !
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| WHAT DO YOU THINK OF SPEED DATING?????
Posted: 9/30/2007 4:16:24 PM | geeze, speed dating is made up of 3 rules...
1. find the biggest set of boobs
2. find the youngest blond
3. find the first one who says "yes"
What the heck can you find out about anyone in 3 minutes...and why would you want to? | |
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| WHAT DO YOU THINK OF SPEED DATING?????
Posted: 9/30/2007 5:54:49 PM | I've done speed dating a couple times. It's a lot of fun, but very tiring. And my mouth was sore from smiling so much! I didn't end up meeting anyone to date, but I did have fun meeting lots of guys. One of the events was for sports fans; however, many of the guys weren't aware of that (which also means they can't read).
If you do it, be sure it's one that has 3 or 5-minute dates, not 8-minute dates. 8 minutes is a loooooong time to spend with someone you don't want to be with. If 3 or 5 minutes leaves you wanting more of the person -- this is a GOOD thing.
Would I do it again? Probably not. But I don't regret doing it either time. | |
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Posted: 9/30/2007 6:07:24 PM | | Oh the things we do for friends!! Okay, been there done that, never again. I've done all sorts of versions with different groups and every one of them were awful. Okay, so I'm a gluton for punishment or the ultimate optimist Save yourself some time and money. Go to singles functions instead. | |
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| WHAT DO YOU THINK OF SPEED DATING?????
Posted: 10/1/2007 12:28:59 PM | I ran across the following article some time ago on the topic of "speed dating". Speed dating is becoming increasingly popular these days. It’s a process of finding dates quickly by getting introduced to a number of perspective partners and then deciding which one was the most compatible match. It can be a lot of fun, especially if the club organizing the event specializes in speed dating, but before going for your first speed dating event, you should consider some tips which will come handy once you’re there.
- Appearance counts a lot in speed dating, since you have only limited time available to get to know a person. Make sure you are looking attractive and at an ease with yourself.
- Be confident and never let negative feelings overcome your cheerful nature. First impressions are very important in speed dating.
- Sense of humor is also very critical in any kind of dating. Bring some laughter to the date. Try to make some funny remarks and see your date’s reaction to them. If they don’t respond with pleasure they probably didn’t like your jokes at all. If humor is important to you then move on, this person is not right for you.
- Don't Try Too Hard. People sometimes try too hard to impress the other person. This kind of behavior will only tell them that you are desperately trying to land a date.
- Move Slowly. Don’t tell them straight ahead that how nice you think they are. Let things flow in a natural manner and wait for an appropriate moment to reveal your feelings.
- Be yourself. Don’t try to imitate a star or a celebrity by repeating some
popular dialogues.
- Be Honest. Remember that the biggest mistake you would ever make on a first date is lying to your partner. Be honest about everything. If you deliberately try to improve your status by introducing some small lies, it’s only going to earn you negative points on the spot and embarrassment in future.
- Be positive and practical. Don’t give up even if you were not satisfied with the partners you have had so far. Try to look at the bright side. There will be more and better chances than just landing a date which will not work out properly.
- It's Not A Date. If speed dating has been organized by some online dating service, then don’t consider your first meeting a date. This is a meeting to assess the other person and to decide if you the two of you click.
- If It's Not Working … Move On. If things don’t turn out the way you have planned, don’t think that you are now bound to make it successful. Think about your priorities and needs and before making a decision consider your options carefully.
- Relax & Have Fun. Finally, remember that speed dating is supposed to be fun. So don’t try to make it look like as if you’re meeting your boss. Try to act as relaxed as you can and give the other person an equal chance of getting to know your habits and your true self.
- Take Your Time. Don’t judge them quickly. Take sometime to ponder over the short time the two of you spent together and then decide.
Now, as far as my opinion of "speed dating" ... I've never had the opportunity to experience the process. However, from the way it sounds my gut tells me that I'd probably feel a lot like my son did when he was younger and he was diagnosed with Attention Deficit Disorder. I think I'd be easily distracted and not able to focus during the entire process. But I usually reserve my judgment on something until after I've had the chance to experience it first hand.
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| WHAT DO YOU THINK OF SPEED DATING?????
Posted: 10/1/2007 2:32:56 PM |
Relax & Have Fun. Finally, remember that speed dating is supposed to be fun. So don’t try to make it look like as if you’re meeting your boss. Try to act as relaxed as you can and give the other person an equal chance of getting to know your habits and your true self.
You get to meet usually a minimum of 6 to 8 people who are serious enough to have taken the time, spent the money and showed up-How many of us have been stood up or cancelled from someone we "met" from any on-line dating website?
So many men, so little time...
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| WHAT DO YOU THINK OF SPEED DATING?????
Posted: 10/2/2007 1:29:42 PM | | IliketheconceptofspeeddatingbutitseemslikeIwouldhavetotalkreallyfastlestIfailtomakeagoodfirstimpressionwhichisthewholepointright? | |
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| WHAT DO YOU THINK OF SPEED DATING?????
Posted: 10/2/2007 10:00:38 PM | [quoteIliketheconceptofspeeddatingbutitseemslikeIwouldhavetotalkreallyfastlestIfailtomakeagoodfirstimpressionwhichisthewholepointright?
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