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sussex
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Joined: 8/26/2006
Msg: 76 | |
| Do you think Men & Women will ever Trust each other,enough to be friends?
Posted: 10/25/2006 3:24:54 PM | Dear Greeneyedlady:
It is a fact that all good relationships of whatever kind must (or should) be based on absolute trust. It takes time to develop and can't by it's very nature be spontaneous. Even a first date relies to some extent on trust, after that, if all goes well, many, or at least several, subsequent dates should show whether or not your potential partner is worthy of your trust as he or she will be judging you. I think one has to take something of a risk in any case, one just hopes for the best. I start out with a certain amount of trust, sometimes to my cost, and have yet to meet a woman who has fulfilled my early expectations, but the risk is worth it. Sooner or later that magical thing, TRUST, will develop. Trust in your luck!
Dave. | |
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sussex
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Joined: 8/26/2006
Msg: 77 | |
| Do you think Men & Women will ever Trust each other,enough to be friends?
Posted: 10/26/2006 5:54:59 AM | I'm awfully sorry, I got caught up in the trust issue and neglected the glaringly obvious. Friendship.
It seems to me axiomatic that friendship MUST come before trust can develop. After all, most of us are looking for a relationship, in my case and my age a VERY long term one. Ones ultimate partner is, or should be, in my opinion, also ones best friend. It seems to me, therefore, that real trust can only follow this friendship, they develop together but friendship has to come before. Without both you have nothing.
Sorry if I sound pedantic, I can only offer the excuse that I'm an Engineer and Physicist.
Dave. | |
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| Do you think Men & Women will ever Trust each other,enough to be friends?
Posted: 11/5/2006 8:56:53 AM | HI.. yes I do think there can and will be a great deal of trust between men and women ... specially when they gather together with like minds and base their chances on happiness with respect and true friendship ahead of the bed... i believe strongly in learning lessons to find ourselves at the right door..eventually...
hang in there... you dont sound like too bad a dude... you just may meet your honest and trusted partner soon...Viv | |
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| Do you think Men & Women will ever Trust each other,enough to be friends?
Posted: 11/21/2006 6:55:27 PM | I'm trying to become friends with a lady on this site who has had a few real bad experiences and it looks like it is going to take time to get to meet her. I'm not in a rush so I'm willing to wait as I can ell she is a really nice person with a great personality and would be real fun to be around.
It's hard for ladies to trust men as I believe most are out for sex and take advantage of any and all situations.
I've never been promiscuious, never had a one night stand and never will.
I'm 54 and have only been with three women sexually.
I've been married twice and both have lied to me about past relationships.
It's kind of hard to trust again. | |
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| Do you think Men & Women will ever Trust each other,enough to be friends?
Posted: 9/26/2009 11:49:54 AM |
Would I trust this person:
to forsake all others?
to do what is best for the children?
to make the right decision if I was unable to do so for myself?
to remember to feed the dog?
to get the oil changed?
to do what they said they would do?
with my checkbook or credit cards?
to tell me if I am being an a$$?
to be completely honest about their feelings?
to keep their promise?
to tell me when I am wrong?
to cover my back?
Geoweb, good list of questions, and just the tip of the iceberg.
I feel friendship is the important foundation of a relationship. For me to venture beyond to the passion, it has to be there. It is easier to find someone to share passion than it is to find someone who will be a true friend.
I read somewhere that a solid relationship is based 88% on friendship, 10% on respect and 2% on passion. Now I won't quibble over the real division among these three factors but I think that friendship should be the biggest part. Relationships based on passion alone seem to fizzle as quickly as they start. Its the difference between building a house on a rock foundation versus sand.
How could I ever hope that someone would learn to love me, if they didn't take the time to get to know me, and like me as a friend, and respect me before wanting to bed me. | |
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| Do you think Men & Women will ever Trust each other,enough to be friends?
Posted: 9/26/2009 3:03:40 PM | I am not reading all the 3 year old post but gosh I am friends with most of the men I have ever been involved with...I see no reason not to be. If you cared about someone once enough to have them in your life then why would you not be their friend later if date don't work?
I have more men friends than I do female...I trust men on a completely different level than most women. Until this last dude no guy has ever betrayed me like my *girlfriends have. | |
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| Do you think Men & Women will ever Trust each other,enough to be friends?
Posted: 9/26/2009 4:55:18 PM | A wise woman will take the time and develop a friendship with a man before allowing a relationship to become sexual. The relationship will last longer if there is a foundation of friendship.
I have some male friends. At this point in my life, most of them are married to one of my girlfriends. Flirtation and sexual thinking never became a part of that interaction.
I have a few male friends from the past who I was never attracted to.
Where things get difficult is where there is physical attraction, and you don't want to act on it. It is hard to be "just friends" with someone you can imagine yourself with sexually. Its better to keep those relationships at arms length unless you both are able to stand strong against the temptation.
When I am romantically involved with someone I don't allow myself to get too close to another man, unless it is very clear that I am not the cheating type, and the line between friendship and sexual attraction will never be crossed. | |
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