| | Dating outside your race!Page 7 of 8 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8) | | I'm one of those people that people love to yell at- I'm just not attracted to guys of other ethnicities. I was raised in a very openminded household, my background has 17 different countries, and it isn't a 'gee, there's no way I could take him meet my parents problem'. It's more a 'gee, he's really nice, but no spark' problem. That said, if I met a guy of another ethnicity and there was a spark- sure, I'd go for it! | |
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Posted: 10/18/2006 9:54:21 PM | | I have never judged anyone by their race, only by their personality and their values. I have and would date outside of my race. I am french and african and have married an african man.....we have beautiful children and very intelligent. | |
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Posted: 10/18/2006 10:07:46 PM | I had years ago when dating was still going on for romantic interests. The only thing I ever found difficult was cultural differences. That would happen no matter who the person was, so long as they were raised with vastly different life beliefs. Otherwise, the race of the person makes no difference, it's who the person is that matters.
And I still hold to that today when my wife and/or I play. | |
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Posted: 10/18/2006 10:08:06 PM | Funny you say that.. I don't know how many times people have asked me, "so why are you not interested in Chinese girls.."
I have yet to find a chinese girl that I have anything in common with.. maybe I'm just talking to the wrong ones  I've met some very attractive chinese girls, but like you said.. there's no spark.
I'm one of those people that people love to yell at- I'm just not attracted to guys of other ethnicities. I was raised in a very openminded household, my background has 17 different countries, and it isn't a 'gee, there's no way I could take him meet my parents problem'. It's more a 'gee, he's really nice, but no spark' problem. That said, if I met a guy of another ethnicity and there was a spark- sure, I'd go for it! | |
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Posted: 10/18/2006 11:03:36 PM | all of the girls I've dated or went on dates with are non-asian.. I'm all for dating outside my race.. I don't know why but I have a thing for caucasian girls.
it's a natural phenomena specially if you grew up in a society where the majority of the population is white and most of the people that you see around you and in the media is white from when you were young. I was born and raised in the philippines and for a while I was only attracted to filipinas but as I became more acclimatized here.....my taste in women has broaden. I will always be attracted to a filipina but at the same rate i'm also attracted to women of different ethnicities. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2006 8:05:47 AM | | Ive had a long term, live in, relationship with a person outside my race. The only thing I will say is that, if you start to date, and its getting serious enough to be long term, the differences in religion and beliefs is something that you need to have a conversation about and come to an understanding on. It can cause some major complication down the road, if you don't reach an understanding of one another early on. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2006 10:58:28 AM | I think it is fine as long as it is for the right reasons. For example if you are dating someone of a different race because they are attractive, and funny, and sweet, and thoughtful, and treat you well, etc etc - then that is fantastic. However, if you are only dating that person solely because they are that specific race, then that is horrible.
I think we probably all know that white girl who either has been, or really wants to be, with a black man. Not necessarily a nice funny smart black man, just a black man, and just because he is black. If you look through profiles on here you will find a few of those. If you go to the Gas Pump you will see a lot of them lol. The same goes for guys who have a fascination with tiny Asian girls, etc. I don't agree with this at all. Limiting yourself to one race due to curiosity, or myths about genitalia size, or even physical preference, is very narrow minded. There are great people out there from every race - I guess as a society we just have to stop judging the book by its cover. | |
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fi_ona
| | Joined: 3/10/2006
Msg: 158 | |
| Dating outside your race!
Posted: 10/19/2006 11:24:36 AM | | ok wait... there is no such thing as race... the human race is a race... the colour of skin is just a different variety... theoretically we could have been seperate races but because transportation presented itself and humans were able to mingle and mate with eachother we are not seperate races... because an asian person and a caucasion person can have viable offspring we are the same... that's why donkeys and horses are seperate races.. they can reproduce but they have mules... which can't have babies therefore the race ends with one being.... i knew anthropology would do me good in some form one day | |
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Soul
| | Joined: 8/5/2005
Msg: 159 | |
| Dating outside your race!
Posted: 10/19/2006 8:12:28 PM | | There is no such thing as race... they are arbitrary divisions.In each so called "race ", you can find people who have the characteristics of other "races" | |
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Posted: 10/19/2006 8:16:19 PM | I'm with Rodent.... only one race Homo Sapien.. There are different cultures and customs within Homo Sapiens but basically human beings are human beings throughout the world. I remember I was in the remotest part of Africa, nothing but a Coca Cola sign (true story.. bush and bush and bush and a huge cola cola bottle sticking out in the middle of the bush) and there was a small tribe, I was talking to a teenager and typical of teenagers her mannerisms and attitude was exactly the same world over.
For me the question is whether someone is willing to learn and adapt to a new culture.
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Soul
| | Joined: 8/5/2005
Msg: 161 | |
| Dating outside your race!
Posted: 10/19/2006 8:20:21 PM | I see no difference in people and have no problem dating any woman who is a nice PERSON.
Most people on this thread seem to be dancing around the real question..... which seems to be that "would you date a someone of a visible group".
From my experience this is what I have seen:
*Men will date any woman, as long as she is good looking,good person etc ...So, it is no surprise that a Caucasian man goes out with women of "other races"...although he might still dislike the "race" in general(ie.the men of that race). I have seen countless cases of this.
*Non Caucasian men will go out with women of any race as well... and if she is white ,it is even better as this is seen as a bit of an accomplishment and a they feel a sense of being accepted by the majority(white) race.
*Non Caucasian women will go out with Caucasian men for a couple of different reasons:
a)it is easier to go out with Caucasians because their own culture makes it difficult do go out their own (bein in a white majority society, their own "race" of people are even more tightly knit
b)they may have more exposure to whites their own group ...more exposure=more likely to go out; they may see going out with their own as a sign of not being with the "in group"...these type of women don't even give men of their own "race" a chance
c)they may like the Caucasian guy because they actually got to know each other through greater exposure (majority group=>grater exposure)
*Some Caucasian women
a)will go out with non Caucasians because they are genuinely good-hearted people who really see no diifference in people and give each guy an equal
opportunity.
b)will go out with only certain "in" or "cool" "races" . You hear them saying things like "I only go out with_______guys"....who knows why...But I will say this...no one respects women like that , not even the guys they go out with.... thats why you see them referred to as b**** etc.
c)will not go out with anyone but Caucasians...You hear them say things like "I only go out with white guys ...""I just don't find other races attractive"..."I can't help who I'm attracted to"...."everyone has preferences."etc., etc.
The fact is that this type of women only see color...they look at a person as Caucasian and non Caucasian first and then only give Caucasians the chances to get to know them... OR...
they don't associate or hang out with enough with non Caucasians for them to have an opportunity to like them. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2006 8:32:56 PM | Ok, I'm going to have to shoot that last sentence down to the ground. I'm caucasion, yes, in the strictest form of the word. I'm actually a Heinz 57 variety of ethnicities and backgrounds, but both my parents had lighter skin.
That does not mean I "only see colour". That means that I like every other human being have things I'm attracted to and things I'm not. A statment like you made is much like saying a man who prefers brunettes 'only see colour' and are 'colourist' because of it.
I can't change a belief, and that's not what I'm trying to do. But please stop generalizing, because it's a great way to spread ignorance. | |
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Soul
| | Joined: 8/5/2005
Msg: 163 | |
| Dating outside your race!
Posted: 10/19/2006 9:24:40 PM | | Let me put it this way...In all my life, I've known thousands of guys...SOME of them may have an initial first attraction to blonds or brunettes or redheads and may in fact have only dated one or the other ..I have YET to meet a guy that says he will ONLY date brunettes or blonds or whatever. In fact out of the guys who have only dated ...let's say blonds... I have never heard them make comments like "I will NEVER date a brunette".....they may have a preference...but I've never known that preference to totally preclude the other, without even giving them a chance. Yet some somen say things like that ..... I just think its just a bit prejudicial to say that they will NEVER date people from other cultures or that they don't find any of the BILLIONS of guys from other races attractive or are not attracted to them. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2006 9:49:27 PM | | Ok, I'll agree that it takes a special type of idiocy to say that someone will never date someone of another ethnicity, ever, because they just aren't attracted to them. However, it's a whole other ball game for someone to state that they've never been attracted to someone of a different ethnicity but leave it open for someday. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2006 10:01:08 PM | I always date within the human race.
A persons ethnic back ground would not stop me from getting to know someone or to date them. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2006 10:03:12 PM | Hmmm....
In the animal kingdom, it is my understanding that there are different degrees of genetic compatibility.
Whereas the product of a horse and donkey (ie mule) is not fertile, what about the product between a lion and a tiger (=lygra) or the cross between a killer whale and dolphin? At some point in the evolution of a group of animals, it becomes unique and its offspring breed true. But, that result is gradually reached.
Regarding Neanderthals and Cro-Magnon (which we are, basically) it is an open question whether cross breeding ever occurred. I believe reading that humans do not have any mitchondrial DNA from Neanderthals. The significance of that fact is that mitochondrial DNA are inherited from the mother and do not undergo gene-mixing after fertilization. Someone in Germany wants to determine the complete genome of Neanderthal, I think. A biologist might straighten me up on the finer points of this topic..
..but the point is that humans with different genotype groups do not necessarily have to be defined as belonging to exactly the same "race" (whatever that loaded word means) to be cross-compatible. | |
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Soul
| | Joined: 8/5/2005
Msg: 167 | |
| Dating outside your race!
Posted: 10/21/2006 1:13:05 PM | I believe the thread started with "I am curious to know, how many of you would date outside your race"....I have a feeling , though I may be wrong, that this person was not wondering about dating monkeys, donkeys or other animals. I think the genaral idea was "would you date someone who looks visibly different or is ethinicaly different than yourself?"
Bottom line... race is an arbitrary division of people...which, from my sociology class at the U of A was started by imperialistic "white people" to divide people into 'us and them' and define races in such ways that their own race comes out as looking better, or having the 'more desirable' qualities.
In my opinion, as this thread is started by a "Caucasian", this thread is more about "would you date someone who is a visible minority?".
btw ...No offence to "white people" | |
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kimko
| | Joined: 5/7/2006
Msg: 168 | |
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Posted: 10/21/2006 7:20:08 PM | | I dont think there is anything wrong with dating outside of your race as long as you can accept other customs and know that it will mostly likely not be accepted by the family of the other race. It makes things uncomfortable for family socials. It not the race that is the problem, it is the customs associated with the race that I think there is a problem with. | |
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Posted: 10/23/2006 9:54:55 AM | I agree with Kimko, to a point.
I don't think it is the customs associated with the "race" that the problem is with because that implies that the customs inherently are a problem ( they obviously are not a problem for person whose customs they are). I think the problem is in people's inability to accept or tolerate other customs. If other people's customs are different, so what. It should not mean that they are wrong. As a religious example (not "race"), I am not Christian. I don't say that Xmas is wrong. In fact I participate in its celebration with my friends who celebrate it. | |
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lohki
| | Joined: 7/22/2005
Msg: 170 | |
| Dating outside your race!
Posted: 10/24/2006 6:58:44 AM | I think the biggest problem with people who date outside their race is the custom/culture expectation differences.
Many Catholics- depending on if Italian or Irish Catholics ((that I know)) find it difficult to have relationships with "outsiders" because of family expectation.
I have an Indian friend that isn't allowed to -even date a non Indian male.
I suppose it would have a lot to do with what kind of cultures you were exposed to. My demographic currently is mainly white - even though I have a huge appreciation for Latin cultures.. I don't have the opportunity to date within that culture.
.. and the biggest minority if you buy into that profiling-which I don't.. I would say would be a visible minority FEMALE..
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Posted: 10/24/2006 8:15:18 AM | | Good question. I have always dated outside my race - many attractive men out there. Not that I actively seek them out - just happened to be that way. | |
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Posted: 12/20/2006 7:42:22 PM |
...I can't change a belief...
And therin lies some of the world's biggest problem solving technique for a matched and equitable social gathering. When we are so ingrained with our ideals that we do not think a belief is changeable! They are, and for there to be true "Peace on Earth", many nations and their peoples must give up this idea that beliefs are unchangeable.
Whether it be for dating, or anything else, we have to be willing to "give the chance" to another belief so that we can grow and become more acceptable within the outside world of our little domain.
I had a belief that I would be married for the rest of my life, I have had to change that
I had a belief that I could become a member of the RCMP. I have had to change that
I had a belief that I could not go to University, I have had to change that
I had a belief that I would be liked on this site, I have had to change that
There are many other examples in daily life that could be given, but if we start thinking we can change our beliefs, we will be able to, and it will make a better person of us.
What we have to look for outside of our "ethnicity" is a common factor that we like and build from there. All of us are of the "Human Race", and we are all able to be compassionate, it is just that so many out there loose sight of that!
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Posted: 12/20/2006 7:47:27 PM | for once in my lifetime here, I am NOT going to read what everyone had to say.....
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I'm gonna say this: "ITS CALLED PERSONAL PREFERENCE"
and leave it at that. I don't feel that anyone needs to explain themselves AT ALL.
would it not be like a woman saying "only men over 6'0" or men saying "thin women"????
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Posted: 12/20/2006 9:36:09 PM | | Duffy, that was a very well said post! I don't think it could have been worded better. | |
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Posted: 12/20/2006 11:17:53 PM | hey!!! good news, i was looking at a classic, racey car today, think i'll get it ....
then i'll be ready for the whole race/date thingy !!!! | |
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